High School Relationships. Good or Bad?

[Troblems 5,617]

High school is for figuring out what you want to do for the next five years, not the rest of your life. So if you want to bone, I say bone away, so long as you use a condom. I've heard if you're old enough to have unprotected sex, you're old enough to raise a child, and anyone under the age of 90 just isn't old enough. Of course by 90, it's a little too late, at least for women. Moral of the story: Use protection.

 

Other than that, having a relationship in high school helps you figure out what and who you want before going out into the big bad world. Screw up early and often, and hopefully you won't make the same mistakes again.

[Dsanders 5,747]

From a lot of my past experiences and from what I've seen, High School relationships can work if done right. Sadly it's due to the typical and demoralized high school mentality that relationships are all in fun and "fair game." A lot of them end because either the relationship was too rushed, or because of the great responsibility that one or both of the parties in the relationship could not handle.

 

Heck, I've known people who got into relationships just for the sake of being in a relationship. Hardly even giving a damn for the girl or guy. That's just one example, outta many more I can list as to why High School relationships fail so miserable these days.

 

It's all but just a game to them. To them, it's all just about getting to say "oh I've been in a relationship so therefore I'm the alpha dog around here now." Popularity, sex, you name it. It's really sad, but that's just how the mentality of most high schoolers work these days.

 

It's not by that very fact that the relationship is taking place in high school that determines its utter demise; rather, it is based on the maturity and mindset of the people involved. If they have the maturity of a 10-13 year old and lack a reasonable sense of responsibility and capability to handle a relationship, then without a doubt, it's not gonna last. 

 

I've seen high school relationships work though. I know couples who got married after high school. If both parties in the relationship have a strong set of virtues and responsibilities, a lot of maturity, and are able to take the relationship seriously and really put in the effort to make it work, then it will.

 

TL;DR: It depends on the individuals, not on the very fact that it's in high school. Sadly most highschoolers don't take relationships seriously and see them as a complete joke. Mature, loyal, and true loving couples in high school can make it work. If only they were more common...*sighs*

 

Overall, it depends. You can't say all high school relationships are a complete and worthless waste of time. It's only a complete and worthless waste of time if the couple treats it as such.

Edited November 13, 2013 by Dsanders

[Spark_Vision 28]

High school is for figuring out what you want to do for the next five years, not the rest of your life. So if you want to bone, I say bone away, so long as you use a condom. I've heard if you're old enough to have unprotected sex, you're old enough to raise a child, and anyone under the age of 90 just isn't old enough. Of course by 90, it's a little too late, at least for women. Moral of the story: Use protection.

 

Other than that, having a relationship in high school helps you figure out what and who you want before going out into the big bad world. Screw up early and often, and hopefully you won't make the same mistakes again

none o us said it was about having sex. that's not why I would get into high school relationships. I would get into them because I felt a strong emotional attachment to someone and I wanted it to be better. but I understand your point

[Renon Strike 67]

I don't think having the message of 'Bone away' is the best message to send to someone in a relationship, I'm not against high school relationship but I'm not sure  that anyone in that age is mature enough to grasp the emotional ramification of having relations before someone is emotionally ready, though most teenagers today know where than what i knew a decade ago.

 

Though there is nothing wrong with going on a date spending time in high school relationship, those relationship is important and can help with personal growth, just like other says just take it in moderation and take advice from wise people.

[Iron Shield 88]

Back in high school finding a relationship was somewhat of a big deal to me, never did get one up to this day. But after I graduated and especially going into college my view has changed to not really a big deal anymore.

 

I don't think relationships in high school are "bad" nor "good", there are different pros and cons for different individuals. I will say that though it bothered me in high school that I was never in a relationship, but today when looking back on it I feel rather silly. On top of that there was a lot of break ups as graduation day got closer.

[squareyes 153]

High School relationships, eh? Well I haven't started dating yet and I'm in the last year of high school so that side of things seems a bit too rushed for me. I'm not so keen on anyone in particular so I'm not sure where to start (except this girl who loves Japanese culture but I'm pretty sure she's taken.)

 

I want to try something by the end of the year as from what I've heard, high school relationships are normally short and can help one discover stuff about themselves and of course there's the appealing love side of things. This making it a good opportunity for a first girlfriend. Though it's a shame I don't know where to start...

 

Still, I'll manage something.

[ChoroChii 284]

I don't see anything wrong with them, some people stay together but it's not likely your high school date will be the person you end up marrying but you never know. I had my first boyfriend when I was 13. I'm currently dating somebody from my high school but I wasn't dating him previously. I only dated one person during high school and it was defiantly one I regret for more reasons than one can imagine but that doesn't make me think it's bad to date during high school, it was just him. 

 

There's nothing wrong with not dating during high school but I think it gives you a good sense of experience before you're ready to commit, I guess. 

[Dddrgn 450]

I feel like they are good for you if they are treated properly, for one, you need to assume that you won't be with this person forever, it's a way to learn about what you like in other people, and in what ways you can improve yourself. Relationships that are treated appropriately during that time period are very healthy, while relationships that take it too seriously, lead to things such as underage sex, etc. can be very negative.

[legionbrony 107]

Well, I never had a relationship in High School, and I myself am glad for it.  So...my personal advice would be not to.  Unless you like drama, of course.  Some people do.  *shrug*

[~Master~ Button Mash 2,307]

Before I say anything, I'm just going to admit that I was a loner in high school, so what I say is out of theory, and not experience.

 

But honestly, I think "light" relationships can be beneficial in high school. Anything heavy is probably too soon in high school, but I think it is good for young people to learn to interact with the opposite/same sex in a romantic way in a rather protected environment like high school (as compared to the outside world).

 

Looking back, I have a lot of regret by not dating in high school (then again, I didn't really have a choice, I didn't choose to be a loner :/). Now that I'm in college I am clueless about how to interact with people romantically. I have no idea how to read flirting/romantic body language, what to say to someone I like, how to get the courage to say it, etc. It is seriously an insecurity of mine, and I don't know how to solve it. The learning curve seems so high now. The learning curve is lower in HS.

 

(That's extremely painful to say, because there's a girl I really like who I met at a rave a while back and I can tell she likes me but I just…don't know…what to do to her back. It's frustrating and painful.)

 

In all honesty I still don't "feel ready" to date, but I'm forcing myself anyway at this point, with an "if not now, then when?" mindset.

Edited November 15, 2013 by ~Master~ Button Mash

[Crystal Skull 53]

I say that high school dating is all right IF you've known the person for a long time. I see people in grade 6 dating and kissing each other (I live across the street from the school) I think that's wrong and that they will have a broken heart and no one will care.

[Doge 34]

If lasting up to three and a half weeks on average  with plenty of drama is good, then yes.

[Dddrgn 450]

If lasting up to three and a half weeks on average  with plenty of drama is good, then yes.

Well, I dated a girl for three years in high school, and it honestly helped improve both of us in a lot of ways, with minimal drama. It totally depends on how you go about it.

[The Pulse 210]

Personally I think trying to have a relationship in high school is ultimately pointless, but not necessarily bad

 

Here's why:

A) Most adolescents have a skewed idea of what being in a relationship means, IE physical attraction rather than liking someone as a person (forgive me if your different) and this just doesn't work if you actually plan to have a good relationship.

 

|3) They don't last, this sort of goes along with the first point. But there is usually something that drives the two apart. And even if it does somehow manage to make it through the drama that high school is, unless your planning on stopping your life after high school and raising a family, the relationship is driven apart by different interests, which lead to different places that they want to go to, leading to a long distance relationship. And those almost never work out.

 

C) I have a general rule of thumb, if I can't see my self being content with them for the rest of my life (divorce is no option) then there is no point in dating them and leading on a relationship that will be fruitless. And quite frankly, I don't think I'm mature enough as a junior in HS to make a decision of that magnitude.

 

If I had to try to find a benefit to dating in high school, the only one I can really see is that the involved parties both gain life experience in facilitating a relationship with another person, even if the reasons aren't the best

 

However, I don't expect any one else to share my view point. I can't really give a solid answer, It's definitely not good, but not totally bad. I might have a predisposition to think of dating in a negative light seeing as I haven't actually had a relationship. Yes, this might be over analyzing the topic, but it is my opinion on the matter nonetheless.

 

TL;DR Just go read it

Edited November 16, 2013 by The Pulse