Wingnut's Coffee House

its a mix really. some folks have underlying problems which they can keep in check but things like the weather, the season, christmas stuff creating a false happy-happy situation and ofc, personal problems that they may be facing.

 

This is nothing new though it does happen alot more than it used to several years ago,

Well, not much to be said but all I can do is hope that they'll all get better soon.

once were though the gloomy weather, a few will be able to get back on there feet again.

Well I'm sorry, but how can I help being so negative if nobody seems to care what I do? I think so deeply on what I want to try, like the MLPF event I'm setting up, and yet nobody notices! 

I am getting married in January.

That is one good thing, yes? I guess...?

There's a shortage of witches to fight, so, therefore, a shortage of grief seeds to go around.

Sadly, times change, and these changes haven't been too well so far.

 

Although, like everything else, eventually a good change will come and until then, I"ll be waiting patiently.

Negative events tend to make much greater impressions than positive ones, so it's only natural people will talk about them more. It's easy to complain about the bad things in life, but you may have to make a conscious effort to recognize and acknowledge all the good.

 

You'll often hear the saying that life isn't always fair. Well, look at it this way: it isn't always unfair, either. Opportunities come and go, but there's usually a learning experience to take away from even the bleakest moments. You do have a better grip on your life's direction than all the negativity in the world may lead you to believe.

Yes there is a lot of bad stuff happening to people and it can be depressing, but sometimes the bad can precede the good. I recently got a work related knee injury which is a bad thing, but it has reduced the crippling amount of stress I have been going through at work that has made my life a living hell of depression and burnout so serious that I have had thoughts of suicide and given me some time to think about how I want to solve my problems. When I do return to work which given the state of my injury should be fairly soon I am going to step down into the position I was before I got promoted which means less pay but it also means less stress and a more flexible schedule which will allow me to for the first time in 6 years to actually have a life and to allow me the proper time and energy to work on my exit strategy.

4 ever a crazy cat lady less complicated by far :S

 

Love you tarded kitty aka Oreo aka Wiskers Von Meowserstien <3

Yall need to stop being sad and be awesome instead.. much more fun

I am getting married in January.

That is one good thing, yes? I guess...?

That's very good news.    But you also just wrote a blog on the anniversary of your first wife's passing.  There is no "good time" to lose a loved one, but December is probably the worst time of year for that to happen.  :/

Part of it could be finals. A lot of students on here are still taking their final exams. Very stressful time.

I think MLP Forums should have done a Christmas charity drive but it's a little late for that now.

I think MLP Forums should have done a Christmas charity drive but it's a little late for that now.

It maybe too later for a Christmas themed charity but it is never too late to lend someone a helping hand. There will always be people in need no matter what time of year it is, there are a lot of people going through hard times and one thing that is good for depression is getting out and helping others. It puts things in perspective by reminding you to count your blessings, it boost self esteem and gives you a sense of belonging and purpose that you are doing something greater than yourself.

I've made the mistake of letting the negatives outweigh the positives numerous times. (Which resulted in both Mods and Men and my rant about the internet nowadays.)

 

Based on some scientific evidence (generally in psychology) it's been found that the reason things like this seem to happen collectively around Christmas and during winter, is because winter can be a very dark and dreary month.

 

This has a pretty big subconscious effect that most people aren't aware of, and can easily cause one to pick out negatives more easily. This often spirals into radical behavior, and we all know how much people (especially teenagers) love to talk about all the shit they're going through.

It sucks, it does, but then again, I am in a very depressive mood also....

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I think it's because, they have been going through a lot lately and sometimes stress or depression can play a role in the events that they go through. But, that's just me. Maybe, there is a way to turn it around.

I know I've shared some pretty rough stuff lately going on in my own life Wingnut, and I know what you're saying about the crap hitting the fan for a lot of members lately, but trust me, for me myself, I'm doing just fine!  Family's doing great, we've got some fun stuff planned for the holidays, and yeah, things aren't perfect, but everything's getting better.  Plus, I'll be releasing some chapters of my fic soon, which'll feel real nice once I do!  I guess I've just been sharing a lot of the bad just because this is a place where I can vent, where I can trust this kind of information with some of my closer friends.  So while I can't speak for everyone here, for me myself, trust me Wingnut, I am doing just fine.  How've you been buddy?

Ironic. I was just pulled out of a deep dark depressive hole today, which is now technically yesterday.

 

Academic success and clear skies for me whilest everyone else is down and dead.

 

Unfortunately, I'm not a prominent member of this community so I might not be much help here. 

 

Anyone who just needs someone to talk to can PM me or hit me up on Skype. I very much prefer the latter, as I personally think it feels more isolated and controlled.