mega thread How are you feeling?

[Arrlong28 793]

42 minutes ago, Interstellar Sketch said:

Horrible. I don't know if anything will change for me until I'm an adult. I feel like even as an adult, she'll still be rude to me.

Have you tried to speak about your feelings with her?

I know it's very easy to say but maybe it's a good idea to put some "Emotional Distance" with her. 

Have you tried to practice some sport? That will give you some time outside home, energy and health (you can make new friends). 

Send you a big digital hug. 

[ComanderZhabikKlavik 3,099]

Today is better than last time. My parents left on Sunday, so I managed to sleep well last night, but I went to bed later. Today I wanted to go to bed early, but it seems I won't be able to. I accidentally found some interesting fan fiction. That is, it was not by chance that I specifically decided to look for interesting fan fiction. In vain. Now I can't stop reading. I don't know when I'll go to bed. Because of reading, I even forgot to do a workout today.

[Sir Hugsalot 9,348]

Very happy, wishing to make tihs day into another productive one for myself and @Ice Princess Silky

It's been a month of me being in USA already and I am so glad I came here. I feel like our life is finally blossoming <3 Even if for now it is a little busy too 

[Bizarre Wizard 5,013]

I feel good. Tidying up the apartment, it's always a sign of returning to normal functioning of me.

[Arrlong28 793]

I feel melted. 38 Cº... 100,4 Fahrenheit. I only can sleep at day because my AC is so noisy my neighbors don't want me to use it at night. Aside from that, I feel great.

[Treeglow Flicker 13,677]

Sleepy.                              

[Tropical Melody 6,227]

Slightly peeved, waiting for the gardener guy. Come on hurry up!

And soon as I typed that he arrived...

 

Edited July 31, 2024 by Tropical Melody

[Treeglow Flicker 13,677]

6 hours ago, Tropical Melody said:

Slightly peeved, waiting for the gardener guy. Come on hurry up!

And soon as I typed that he arrived...

 

He hath heard the call and hath been summoned!

[ComanderZhabikKlavik 3,099]

I don't know how I feel. Maybe I'm a little sleepy because last night a car got stuck near my house. I woke up because of a loud engine noise. The car was able to get out of the off-road only after 20 minutes. Then I tried to fall asleep for an hour. I don't know when I'll be able to sleep normally!

[ZiggWheelsManning 10,400]

Sleepy, nice to realize sleep is needed for weekend action to be worked on.  

[Starlight Serenade 3,311]

I'm feeling quite upset right now. I did exceptionally well in my last interview for an Operations Manager role. I was excited to be invited to the third round before the second interview ended.

Spoiler

Everything seemed perfect: the job description initially offered a competitive salary, and the location was just ten minutes away from my home. However, things took a turn for the worse at the end of the second interview.

I was informed of the actual salary, which was significantly lower than my previous management job during the training period, and it’s non-negotiable for two years under a contract. This was the first major red flag. They mentioned that I "would have a chance to negotiate for a higher salary" after the training period, but it's hard to believe when they are already lowballing from the start.

To make matters worse, the training location is not the one ten minutes away from me but 500+ miles up north, lasting 2-3 months. The training involves working B2B and traveling 25% of the time to client locations, which are 10-50 miles away from the training site. After completing the training, I would be relocated to either another place hundreds of miles away or a completely different state, with no clear information until the training ends.

When I asked about accommodations, they seemed unprepared and mentioned that no one had ever asked about it before, which I found odd given the significant relocation involved. They eventually offered hotel accommodations but provided no further details. They wanted me to set up the third interview with the district manager nearby within 24 hours, despite the training being 500+ miles away. This felt suspicious and inconsistent.

Normally, I would have suspected a scam right away, but this job was recommended by my graduate program, and I was informed that other alumni worked there. The hiring manager promised more details but has been unresponsive since earlier in the week, despite my follow-ups. I've realized now that these people have wasted my time.

I'm trying to keep my chin up and move forward from this.

 

Edited August 3, 2024 by Starlight Serenade
editing the editing the editing

[ZiggWheelsManning 10,400]

@Starlight Serenade

Sad this happened  Don't worry, an opportunity will gladly arrive.  

[Starlight Serenade 3,311]

2 minutes ago, ZiggWheelsManning said:

@Starlight Serenade

Sad this happened  Don't worry, an opportunity will gladly arrive.  

Thanks buddy.

[Tropical Melody 6,227]

@Starlight Serenade Nah don't like any of that at all! Take a pay cut? WTF?

 

[Starlight Serenade 3,311]

2 hours ago, Tropical Melody said:

@Starlight Serenade Nah don't like any of that at all! Take a pay cut? WTF?

 

Right? This job would have more responsibility than my last job and I would have take a pay cut? Nope. 

[Arrlong28 793]

I feel a bit shocked. It turns out that the new priest of my church (catholic) was a sexual abuser of minors and is now uncovered. I was doing some voluntary service with him and he tried some things I didn't like that he was telling me other people are bad and some manipulative shitand pusshy stuff...  I quit but now I think he was traying to manipulate me, beacuse now I know he was like a Sect Leader and minor sexual Abuser... 3 Years as an Acolyte in the Catholic church and my experience is awful. I tried other religions, but it's the same as all the people who move money.

Before him, there was a Comunist priest that was harassing women, an hypocrite an a egomaniac...

Bye Bye religions. Spirituality yes, religions no.

Edited August 4, 2024 by Arrlong28
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[Arrlong28 793]

Well... I feel less shocked now but I miss prayers, mystical music, art... There's a lot of bad things but also a lot of good. I'm feeling a bit like I miss something. But due to all mi conditions I cannot be a Franciscan Friar, or a monk, or an ermit... I'm a bit disapointed. Praying in nature and helping other people was what I wanted since the Covid pandemic. But buying things, figures and stuff... It's very mundane. It,s like I want to buy a void in my soul. 

[ZiggWheelsManning 10,400]

Feeling high, low and anything words can't describe of the news @Ice Princess Silky  announced.  I worry of tomorrow's feelings  

[Acid 47]

Meh, my summers over so I have to go back to work/classes in an hour :I

[Dreambiscuit 9,814]

I'm doing better today than yesterday. I have a nasty kidney stone doing its little dance in my nethers, and it was causing some real discomfort, including chills, exhaustion and the constant need to visit the water closet. That was yesterday, but today it seems to have settled into a better spot so I can live more normally today, and it feels much better. So I’m a happy camper at the moment.  

[Igloostellar Snow 1,322]

Bad. Very very bad. Today, my mother and I went to the laundromat to, of course, do laundry. She needed help this time because of her recent partial hysterectomy. I didn't mind helping her. What really broke me was her constant yelling at everything I did. I started to move slower because I wanted to make sure I did things right. She yelled at me for moving too slowly and called me a snail. I started rushing because I was scared she would yell at me even more. I'm trying not to cry right now but it's so hard to keep from falling apart. I'm not trying to be a bad daughter, so I'll try not to cry. I help all of the time. I'm always respectful and kind. What did I do wrong?

It's so hard to think positively with the incessant yelling at me. Everything I do is wrong. I'm sure if she saw me crying, she'd say, "stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about." I just want to go back to school. I want summer break to be over already. Yes, I understand that she's been through surgery due to fibroids. I just wish she'd stop getting so mad at me for small things. Obviously, I always forgive her when she apologizes. Now, I just feel like she's apologizing just to do so. No, she didn't apologize this time. I don't know, maybe I'm just overly sensitive. Whoever the user is reading this might be thinking this is no reason to get upset. You're probably right.

[ThePinkestofPones 2,512]

@Interstellar Sketch *Digital hugs* I'm sorry that that happened to you, I hope it gets better

[Rafa Stary 3,109]

7 hours ago, Interstellar Sketch said:

Bad. Very very bad. Today, my mother and I went to the laundromat to, of course, do laundry. She needed help this time because of her recent partial hysterectomy. I didn't mind helping her. What really broke me was her constant yelling at everything I did. I started to move slower because I wanted to make sure I did things right. She yelled at me for moving too slowly and called me a snail. I started rushing because I was scared she would yell at me even more. I'm trying not to cry right now but it's so hard to keep from falling apart. I'm not trying to be a bad daughter, so I'll try not to cry. I help all of the time. I'm always respectful and kind. What did I do wrong?

It's so hard to think positively with the incessant yelling at me. Everything I do is wrong. I'm sure if she saw me crying, she'd say, "stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about." I just want to go back to school. I want summer break to be over already. Yes, I understand that she's been through surgery due to fibroids. I just wish she'd stop getting so mad at me for small things. Obviously, I always forgive her when she apologizes. Now, I just feel like she's apologizing just to do so. No, she didn't apologize this time. I don't know, maybe I'm just overly sensitive. Whoever the user is reading this might be thinking this is no reason to get upset. You're probably right.

That is realy bad, maybe she's very frustrated because she really doesn't to go through this surgery, yet that doesn't justify her having to yell at you everytime when you're just trying to help, I wonder, would she rather have your company or be alone?

I really hope the situation improves for you, I'll pray to the Stary Gods to help you ☆

[ZiggWheelsManning 10,400]

Feeling sad on this first full day without @Ice Princess Silky   

15 hours ago, Dreambiscuit said:

I'm doing better today than yesterday. I have a nasty kidney stone doing its little dance in my nethers, and it was causing some real discomfort, including chills, exhaustion and the constant need to visit the water closet. That was yesterday, but today it seems to have settled into a better spot so I can live more normally today, and it feels much better. So I’m a happy camper at the moment.  

3 and a half years ago, I also had a kidney stone.  Going to the restroom was impossible until IV and medication got to treating it.  Hopes that you have better days @Dreambiscuit  

I wonder how @Rafa Stary is feeling?  

[Starlight Serenade 3,311]

10 hours ago, Interstellar Sketch said:

Bad. Very very bad. Today, my mother and I went to the laundromat to, of course, do laundry. She needed help this time because of her recent partial hysterectomy. I didn't mind helping her. What really broke me was her constant yelling at everything I did. I started to move slower because I wanted to make sure I did things right. She yelled at me for moving too slowly and called me a snail. I started rushing because I was scared she would yell at me even more. I'm trying not to cry right now but it's so hard to keep from falling apart. I'm not trying to be a bad daughter, so I'll try not to cry. I help all of the time. I'm always respectful and kind. What did I do wrong?

It's so hard to think positively with the incessant yelling at me. Everything I do is wrong. I'm sure if she saw me crying, she'd say, "stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about." I just want to go back to school. I want summer break to be over already. Yes, I understand that she's been through surgery due to fibroids. I just wish she'd stop getting so mad at me for small things. Obviously, I always forgive her when she apologizes. Now, I just feel like she's apologizing just to do so. No, she didn't apologize this time. I don't know, maybe I'm just overly sensitive. Whoever the user is reading this might be thinking this is no reason to get upset. You're probably right.

I’m really sorry you had to go through that. I dealt with a similar situation last year with both of my parents being hospitalized. It’s understandable that you’re feeling overwhelmed and hurt by your mother’s reaction, especially when you’re just trying to help and be supportive. You’re doing your best, and it’s not easy to deal with constant criticism when you’re already putting so much effort into helping out.

It's okay to feel upset and to cry—it doesn’t make you a bad daughter or mean that you’re being overly sensitive. Everyone has limits, and it's important to acknowledge your feelings and take care of your own well-being. Your feelings are valid, and it's important to find moments to care for yourself, even when things are difficult at home.

Your mother’s behavior might be influenced by her stress and pain from her surgery, but that doesn’t excuse the hurtful way she’s treating you. You’re showing great strength and empathy by continuing to support her despite the challenging circumstances. Remember that your needs and feelings are important too, and it’s okay to seek support or take a step back when you need to.

If it feels safe and possible, perhaps you could gently express how her words and actions are affecting you. Sometimes, having an open and honest conversation, even in the midst of difficulty, can help both of you understand each other better.

Please be kind to yourself and remember that it’s okay to seek support from friends, counselors, or anyone you trust if you need it. You’re doing a lot, and your feelings matter.