What kind of friends do you want in every way?

[liujiadong 776]

Friends are very important in life. They give us comfort when we are sad, share happy things with us and accompany us when we are lonely. So what kind of friends do you want? 

[liujiadong 776]

I want a friend who has a " common language" with me, or a friend who has his own advantages and can complement each other’s advantages

[Clawdeen 24,705]

I’m always down for friends I have stuff in common with to talk about.

I’m also however seeking people I can talk to about myself fully and what I’ve got going on. To counter act the free therapy sessions I seem to be giving with my family and some individuals on my discord list. Before anyone asks, thinks or even tries to witch hunt this individual I’m about to refer to I know from school. I check my discord daily. I got 40 unread ones from her in a row. Last night I had 21 from her. Thats just one of them. Plus in my role at work now I can’t have bad days with people even when I want to. I’ve got an image. Even though on the inside everything could be on fire. I’m known as the person who can handle anything. I had that mentioned to me as recently as last week during a meeting in front of people. How flustered they get when things come up but how calm I am about things. It has me like yeah. That’s because you don’t know what’s going on on the inside right now 💀 

However here’s where the kicker comes in with wanting this though. Which this is 100% on me.Its a me thing. I don’t feel comfortable really letting people get that close to me to know what I’ve got going on. Actually give details. When people start to get that close here’s a wall. Now I’m going to go do mental gymnastics and drive the conversation away from me or walk away from the conversation for a bit.

[liujiadong 776]

19 minutes ago, Clawdeen said:

I’m always down for friends I have stuff in common with to talk about.

I’m also however seeking people I can talk to about myself fully and what I’ve got going on. To counter act the free therapy sessions I seem to be giving with my family and some individuals on my discord list. Before anyone asks, thinks or even tries to witch hunt this individual I’m about to refer to I know from school. I check my discord daily. I got 40 unread ones from her in a row. Last night I had 21 from her. Thats just one of them. Plus in my role at work now I can’t have bad days with people even when I want to. I’ve got an image. Even though on the inside everything could be on fire. I’m known as the person who can handle anything. I had that mentioned to me as recently as last week during a meeting in front of people. How flustered they get when things come up but how calm I am about things. It has me like yeah. That’s because you don’t know what’s going on on the inside right now 💀 

However here’s where the kicker comes in with wanting this though. Which this is 100% on me.Its a me thing. I don’t feel comfortable really letting people get that close to me to know what I’ve got going on. Actually give details. When people start to get that close here’s a wall. Now I’m going to go do mental gymnastics and drive the conversation away from me or walk away from the conversation for a bit.

It sounds like you’re in this tricky spot where you crave genuine connection—whether it’s lighthearted chats with like-minded friends or deeper conversations where you can truly open up about your world. But right now, it feels like you’re stuck in a loop of giving emotional support to others (those 40+ Discord messages? Yikes, that’s a lot to carry!) while holding back your own needs. And on top of that, work expects you to be this unshakable “rock,” which must feel exhausting when you’re juggling so much internally.

 

What’s really interesting is how aware you are of that “wall” you put up—like, you want to let people in, but your brain hits pause and redirects the conversation. That self-awareness is actually a superpower, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now! Maybe part of you is protecting yourself from feeling vulnerable? Or maybe it’s hard to trust that someone will meet you halfway without expecting you to “fix” things, since you’re so used to being the one others lean on.

 

Do you think there’s a small step you could take to test the waters—like sharing a tiny, low-stakes worry with someone you feel slightly safe with? Sometimes breaking down that wall starts with just a single brick.

[Clawdeen 24,705]

28 minutes ago, liujiadong said:

It sounds like you’re in this tricky spot where you crave genuine connection—whether it’s lighthearted chats with like-minded friends or deeper conversations where you can truly open up about your world. But right now, it feels like you’re stuck in a loop of giving emotional support to others (those 40+ Discord messages? Yikes, that’s a lot to carry!) while holding back your own needs. And on top of that, work expects you to be this unshakable “rock,” which must feel exhausting when you’re juggling so much internally.

 

What’s really interesting is how aware you are of that “wall” you put up—like, you want to let people in, but your brain hits pause and redirects the conversation. That self-awareness is actually a superpower, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now! Maybe part of you is protecting yourself from feeling vulnerable? Or maybe it’s hard to trust that someone will meet you halfway without expecting you to “fix” things, since you’re so used to being the one others lean on.

 

Do you think there’s a small step you could take to test the waters—like sharing a tiny, low-stakes worry with someone you feel slightly safe with? Sometimes breaking down that wall starts with just a single brick.

Yeah 40+ messages all from the same person in the same day in a row 💀 I think it could be caused by a few things different things. While I’m not entirely sure on the root cause of my behavior I am aware that I do it. As for sharing something with somebody…maybe I don’t know really 😅 It’s hard when it’s easier and also used to being more vague. Certainly some things for me to reflect on definitely 

[rascalrat 168]

im happy with the friends i have now, theyre beautiful creatures. i do want other friends, but it can be hard when everyone is a cookie cutter of each other. talk the same, look the same, sound the same.. etc. not like pre 2016 when everyone actually had different personalities. i more want intellectual friends, to have long conversations with, to laugh and draw and have fun with. to be themselves. i have big hopes for that will happen someday.

[ExplosionMare 24,932]

I want friends who are comfortable being themselves around me while also being comfortable with letting me be my full self. I need genuine people more than anything because I've dealt with too many fakers. I also need dependable people because I've also fallen into the trap before of carrying most of the weight. At the same time, I know I need to be a little more social since I'm an introvert who tends to pick out like-minded friends.

I suppose the most important thing in a friend to me is that I can actually trust them. What kind of friend would someone be if I couldn't?

[liujiadong 776]

I have a friend ( not very close ) who is very good at football. One day he saw that I played badly, so he came up to teach me. After teaching, I really made progress. Later, someone asked me, are you very close to him? I said no, and then he said, he is very kind to you. He has taught you for 5 hours. After that, I was shocked. I thought about whether to make friends with him or thank him

[Longhaul 9,409]

I'd want friends that were honest about things.  I'd want friends I could talk to about anything, and they'd listen, and not have to have a solution for everything.

[Sparklefan1234 183,300]

I value friends who I can be my silly self with but who I can also be serious with if I need to be. 

[Avery 1,103]

My god.. 

well.. I’m happy what I have now.

 

A friend like @Ice Princess Silky <3 who is both loving and supportive yet truly care enough to be honest, firm, and see things I don’t see in myself. But still standing by my side.

A friend like @Clawdeen who chooses me to be open with fully without me asking. When someone trust me to something important to them it is something I hold dear like an honorary code. 
 

A friend like @Longhaul, who speaks with clarity about his needs and boundaries. I deeply respect this honesty, and I admire it.

 

A Friend like @Emerald Heart who shows deep gratitude and generous kindness towards me.

A friend like @Samurai Equine who I can feel at ease and peace with his presence and of course his genuine giving nature that I felt that isn’t physical but rather through his words. 

Friends like @TheRockARooster and @Dynamo Pad, who have been having me in their thoughts for all livestreams. Even though I couldn’t make it to most of them, I appreciate their thoughtfulness.

Friends like @ExplosionMare and @Sparklefan1234 who gives me joy. The kind of lighthearted moments that reminds me that laughter is best medicine for life. 
 

 

And now, new friends like @StaryStory, and many more as the journey continues. Each one shows me that friendship cannot be pinned down to a single definition. It is not about what I demand from others, but about the unexpected gifts each person reveals — the proof that friendship is alive, and real.

[Emerald Heart 25,249]

10 hours ago, Avery said:

My god.. 

well.. I’m happy what I have now.

 

A friend like @Ice Princess Silky <3 who is both loving and supportive yet truly care enough to be honest, firm, and see things I don’t see in myself. But still standing by my side.

A friend like @Clawdeen who chooses me to be open with fully without me asking. When someone trust me to something important to them it is something I hold dear like an honorary code. 
 

A friend like @Longhaul, who speaks with clarity about his needs and boundaries. I deeply respect this honesty, and I admire it.

 

A Friend like @Emerald Heart who shows deep gratitude and generous kindness towards me.

A friend like @Samurai Equine who I can feel at ease and peace with his presence and of course his genuine giving nature that I felt that isn’t physical but rather through his words. 

Friends like @TheRockARooster and @Dynamo Pad, who have been having me in their thoughts for all livestreams. Even though I couldn’t make it to most of them, I appreciate their thoughtfulness.

Friends like @ExplosionMare and @Sparklefan1234 who gives me joy. The kind of lighthearted moments that reminds me that laughter is best medicine for life. 
 

 

And now, new friends like @StaryStory, and many more as the journey continues. Each one shows me that friendship cannot be pinned down to a single definition. It is not about what I demand from others, but about the unexpected gifts each person reveals — the proof that friendship is alive, and real.

You're so sweet. Thank you for saying those nice things about me. 

You know what? I think I am happy with what I have too. I have made so many friends here and irl. 

I want you to know, Avery, that I love you and am thankful for your friendship. It is truly an honor and I hope we remain friends for a long, long time.

I would tag users myself but honestly there are too many and I am afraid I would forget someone. 

[Dreambiscuit 11,674]

Having someone who speaks the same language in terms of interests, opinion and sense of humor is important because these are people I can be myself with and I can communicate without even speaking out loud. A glance will often suffice to say we’re on the same page. I don’t need a friend to have the exact same interests as me because if they bring something fresh to the conversation I can learn and expand my own mind. Honesty, honor and maturity are important, but I value someone who can discuss potty humor one moment and contemplate the meaning of the universe a moment after that. Everything would be up for grabs. If I can be myself and not have to apologize for my weird sense of humor, or explain my meaning constantly, that’s a big plus. Beyond that, I want to be surprised and wouldn’t want to put down any unnecessary limitations. 

[Dawnshine Wonder 3,655]

In truth I wished we were all friends, in a perfect world it is reasonable to deduce we'd have no enemies, I know that.

My whole reasoning for wishing I could exist as a pegasus in the fictional world of MLP FIM isn't just for the sake of flying or cool powers, it is because I value something the rest of you do here, kindness. In that situation I'd humbly ask for both an upbringing and a predisposition to never do harm, or at least do far less of it as well as own up to mistakes made.

However I have to acknowledge the next best thing, and do what I can to be helpful to others in the real world. Continuing to bring up the flaws of other people is not something I typically like doing, because with the aforementioned wish for world peace, I'd rather people move on from past mistakes and get along. What I look for in friends should be obvious, honesty, loyalty and kindness, however when people fail to live up to those standards, I try to lift them with helpful advice, not put them down. And please do not repeat the mistakes I have made in life. People do foolish or selfish things, but that does not change the fact that love heals even the deepest of wounds. If I am to honor everything the fictional character Fluttershy and what she stands for, I should not let negativity control my life.