Making friends on the forums

[Norman 177]

I've been on here a while, and as much as I love being among my fellow bronies on the internet, I haven't really met any friends on here (or e-friends, more like). 

Does anyone else have the same issue, or feel the same way?

[Lunatic Cake 1,618]

I suppose you should try to interact with the community more if you really want to make friends. Among all these people signed up here there are probably a lot of people willing to be friends with you, it's not that difficult. Go to somepony's profile, send them a message, start a conversation and if it works out well, you eventually end up becoming friends, it's not really as difficult as you think.

[Discordian 6,015]

Not everyone is gonna be more than acquaintances so be prepared to wade through a lot of people who just won't be much more than civil towards you but if you find the right people you can find some good friends. Do what Lunatic Cake said and go to profiles. Read them, find out what they like and see if you can start random conversations with them based on that.

 

If you start remembering people's names, keep an eye on their posts and see if they are someone you'd like to talk to. It's perfectly acceptable to have a bunch of acquaintances and no close friends though.

[Lunatic Cake 1,618]

If you start remembering people's names, keep an eye on their posts and see if they are someone you'd like to talk to. It's perfectly acceptable to have a bunch of acquaintances and no close friends though.

That's right, but it would be quite a bit better if you had somebody who you can actually talk to, when you're in trouble or when something is bothering you, it really relieves you.

[Discordian 6,015]

That's right, but it would be quite a bit better if you had somebody who you can actually talk to, when you're in trouble or when something is bothering you, it really relieves you.

Also true but when you come to big forums like this it's a lot harder to find those types of people. You have a lot of people to interact with but the people you would normally like are sometimes hidden in the deep corners of the forum you might not usually visit too.

[Norman 177]

I've been on tons of other forums and usually make  friends in loads by the dozens, but really I find it hard with large forums like this. I do see the same people every little bit but I guess I don't really... interact with them like I've done on other forums.

[Discordian 6,015]

Yeah, I'm also used to smaller forums. It's easier to get acquainted with people when you actually see their posts more often. MLPforums used to be super small but it grew as the show's popularity went up and now it's so big that it's hard to keep track of certain people unless you practically stalk them.

[HunterTSN 1,444]

I found a great way to make friends is in the forum games and roleplay section. The discussion forums tend to be more for stating you opinion and not so much of getting to know people and having a conversation with them. Also, you really need to have a high post count, as unfair as it seems, most people are biased against members who don't have at least a bird badge, even if they don't realize they are.

[Misty Rose 3,216]

Roleplays are a great way to start making friends, forum games too. However the Welcoming Plaza is also a great place to start. By welcoming folks, they may feel grateful and try to start a conversation with you. Try to keep the conversations going. Also, if somebody adds you as a friend, tell them thanks, that's how I met a couple of my friends. I said thanks and then we just started up a conversation. I've gone through 58 pages of messages with one of my friends, and all because I thanked him for friending me Hope I gave you ideas Don't worry you'll make some friends.

By the way I'm always open to meeting new people and making friends, so if you want, go ahead and add me, PM, I'm a good person to talk to.

[Discordian 6,015]

I found a great way to make friends is in the forum games and roleplay section. The discussion forums tend to be more for stating you opinion and not so much of getting to know people and having a conversation with them. Also, you really need to have a high post count, as unfair as it seems, most people are biased against members who don't have at least a bird badge, even if they don't realize they are.

Wut. I've never heard of there being a bias to new members. Maybe I just haven't been around as much as I thought. O_O

 

Maybe you're thinking that because they are new and no one knows them people don't know how to interact with them yet?

[squareyes 153]

Status updates can work for getting friendly as well as such Sub Forums as the Forum Games, quoting others posts can also get a good conversation going (but not always as of the other persons willingness to participate.) With status updates, people here can be as laided back as they would be talking to others IRL and I find posting there pretty useful for befriending. Also, It's quite hard online to tell how many people actually would feel like they are a friend or if people stop to read your post. Just keep taking and you should feel befriended yourself.

[HunterTSN 1,444]

Wut. I've never heard of there being a bias to new members. Maybe I just haven't been around as much as I thought. O_O

 

Maybe you're thinking that because they are new and no one knows them people don't know how to interact with them yet?

Well a lot of them aren't new, I've seen people who have been around for ages and since they were only active in sections that don't raise your post count they aren't taking seriously. Hell I got flak even after I had been around for almost a year simply because I had a butterfly next to my name.

Edited September 12, 2013 by TheSteampunkNinja (TSN)

[Discordian 6,015]

Wow, I don't think I've ever seen that anywhere. Maybe I don't hang out in the right sections. lol

 

This is a totally new thing to me.

[~Silver Essence~ 2,625]

Here's a few tips to help you out buddy.

 

First, try updating your profile to give out a welcome to anybody to be your friend, as well as including any information that others would find nice or try to chat with you.

 

Also, there's nothing wrong with giving a PM to anyone as long as they comply as well like me, give a hi to start it.

 

Hope it helps.

[Freewave 1,145]

I've been on here a while, and as much as I love being among my fellow bronies on the internet, I haven't really met any friends on here (or e-friends, more like). 

Does anyone else have the same issue, or feel the same way?

 

I kind of feel the same way. I mean I met feld0 and Dreamsong and they're both very cool people and I've met quite a lot more aquaintances who seem very nice as well. It really depends on what you mean by friend as to me that means talking outside of just a forum or talking WITH them on the forum (shooting pm's back and forth). I only got that LEVEL of friendship from 2 people here but i blame myself for quite a bit of that. I just seem to have problems going from aquaintance to "friend". TBH i think that people have to be in that same boat but maybe i'm wrong.... 

 

Maybe too they don't know who Picard is and wonder why Xavier is wearing a silly shirt...i dunno

[Moonlight 7,289]

From my experience, all you really have to do is post a lot or post blog entries or status updates. The easiest way to make friends from my point of view is to simply go to their profile and send them a message. It's extremely easier to befriend them if you and they have some of the same interests to talk about back and forth.

 

Most people are probably willing to befriend you if you talk to them through a PM, Skype, Facebook or whatever. 

[ReverseFaller 2,484]

I don't really have any friends on these forums. I have one friend I PM a little bit, but that's about it. However, I don't really reach out to anybody so I'm not going to complain about this.

 

I'd like to think that in a way we're all friends here on this forum. We all get along, and everybody is so nice.

[SkyStorm 334]

I try to be friends with every pony I meet on here! Just find someone on a forum and message and friend them, talk a littler and you'll probably become friends! (That's what I do!)

[DaReaper 1,945]

I love how friendly most people are on here and i have a few friends I chat with, normaly they add me I only added one tgen I'll just randomly send them a PM and hope they answer

[NightOwl 912]

I've made probably 1 good friend. 

 

In my experience here usually a PM works really well just visit someone's profile see if you've got something in common and send them a message . 

[Starbreaker94 1]

I suppose you should try to interact with the community more if you really want to make friends. Among all these people signed up here there are probably a lot of people willing to be friends with you, it's not that difficult. Go to somepony's profile, send them a message, start a conversation and if it works out well, you eventually end up becoming friends, it's not really as difficult as you think.

 

Talking to new people can be scary sometimes, though, if you're shy like me! Occasionally I just dive in when I have the courage. Like, um, working up the will to do something like that takes a long long time but if I have some inspiration or motivation I can do it better sometimes.

[H.P. Lance 138]

I absolutely agree with the habit of sending a PM to someone who has even just a bit in common with you. Pretty much everyone here has a friendly, honest heart...no matter what it's been through. That's part of what makes us such a beautiful community.

 

So don't be shy. Nothing ventured, nothing gained!

[King 5,625]

Im the opposite actually, I've met alot of my best friends via this forum
And I find that as a great thing, but everyone is different in their interactions, so obviously I cant speak for others, only myself.