Things you regret

[Raskolnikov 1,709]

You know when you're in therapy and your wise therapist reminds you to let go of what ifs and regrets? Fuck that quack. This is your safe haven to bitch and diminish all the hard earned healing you have done and set yourself back by a few months. Be the mopey, sad, regretful little animal that you are - what better time to be in than the imaginary past where you were unbelievably smarter and did everything right? 

You may be as silly or as serious as you like here. Your regrets over eating too much of that monster pizza and your regrets over your inexcusable, filthy and damning actions in your past relationships are both equally valid. No judgement, we are all damned little sinners

 

I'll start - I wish I had tried harder to keep in touch with people I liked when I was a kid. I missed out on a lot of life experiences and social learning by being stuck in my head.

[Longhaul 8,015]

I regret getting married.  I was young and stupid then, and there were plenty of warning signs that the marriage wasn't going to work, but I ignored them all.  Spent seven years in misery until it was finally over.

I regret not taking better care of myself, but then I never expected to be around this long.

I regret losing touch with many of my old friends.

But mostly, I regret not living the life I should have lived.

[Clawdeen 20,146]

Siri play ICP's F*ck Regret

I've got loads. Whether it be behaviors or action towards other people, people I didn't keep in touch with that I wish I did, people I kept in touch with that I wish I didn't, staying at certain jobs longer than I should have, putting up with certain behaviors and not just quitting and walking away, not doing what I wanted with my life, wasting my money on certain things, places, people, doctors,etc, had a few dates I wish things would have went better on, saying too much and saying not enough, not taking better care of myself, not spending more time with people before they died, regret over being successful in certain situations and not being successful in certain situations and I mean really I can keep going. 

I can hyper focus on my past and make myself miserable or I can be like hey you're only here for who knows how long. Is that really how you want to spend your present moment? 

[Ganondorf8 11,692]

I've got way too many things that I regret which in turn would be impossible for me to list each and every one of them. I will mention my most recent one though albeit briefly.

I shouldn't have gone outside in the middle of the night two nights ago in order to do some cosplaying. I've no idea what my thought-process was though in hindsight I should've ignored it and stayed close to home or remained inside. I walked down the street towards the end of it and took some photos. Turns out, I got caught on camera or something and have been accused of tresspassing by stepping onto someone's property which I actually never did.

Now the neighbours know of what I do and the police might get involved. Even my parents are ashamed of me.

The latter parts of this came to light yesterday on my birthday no less. Now I have to cosplay a little less often.

[Raskolnikov 1,709]

32 minutes ago, Longhaul said:

I regret getting married.  I was young and stupid then, and there were plenty of warning signs that the marriage wasn't going to work, but I ignored them all.  Spent seven years in misery until it was finally over.

I regret not taking better care of myself, but then I never expected to be around this long.

I regret losing touch with many of my old friends.

But mostly, I regret not living the life I should have lived.

I've not had the experience of an unhappy marriage, but I fully sympathise.  I see myself in the rest of your points too - it's still a struggle to make long term decisions when I don't expect to be around for long. A challenge to be sure.

[Snoopy Fan 7,764]

I regret going to day camp during the summer when I was a kid.

[Crypty Scribbles 6,387]

Well... I regret nothing. Not because I'm perfect or something, no. I did many shit, but every mistake I did had a reason. Because I didn't know things I couldn't know, because I had that emotions defined by my personality, because I was who I was. And every failure gave me a lesson which became a part of me and made me who I am now.

I'm a damned sinner and every sin of mine is casted in iron. I'm not proud of them, but I accept and forgive myself as is.

Sorry if I'm breaking the rules of the game, I could just say nothing, but it's kind of important topic for me.

[Raskolnikov 1,709]

4 minutes ago, Crypty Scribbles said:

Well... I regret nothing. Not because I'm perfect or something, no. I did many shit, but every mistake I did had a reason. Because I didn't know things I couldn't know, because I had that emotions defined by my personality, because I was who I was. And every failure gave me a lesson which became a part of me and made me who I am now.

I'm a damned sinner and every sin of mine is casted in iron. I'm not proud of them, but I accept and forgive myself as is.

Sorry if I'm breaking the rules of the game, I could just say nothing, but it's kind of important topic for me.

That's all valid and on-topic in my eyes  The OP was just a dramatically worded joke, the intention here is to air out any regrets or things we feel ashamed about so it's not festering inside us, receive support, etc. It's not *really* for moping and ruining your sanity (unless someone wants it to be HAHA), it's to air things out to hopefully let them go, or share experiences we've since overcome so others can feel less alone etc. :] I considered clarifying but it might have ruined the comedic value of the post! >:o

[IronM17 5,724]

I regret that i started studying on the university. It was not only waste of time, but also of money since I made a lot of debts. I should made a second apprenticeship in some job (like for a merchant or whatever) instead of studying. This was definitive my biggest mistake I ever made. 

[Treeglow Flicker 14,216]

Tons of things. But that just means that I've been living and learning as I go. 

[Clawdeen 20,146]

1 hour ago, Raskolnikov said:

That's all valid and on-topic in my eyes  The OP was just a dramatically worded joke, the intention here is to air out any regrets or things we feel ashamed about so it's not festering inside us, receive support, etc. It's not *really* for moping and ruining your sanity (unless someone wants it to be HAHA), it's to air things out to hopefully let them go, or share experiences we've since overcome so others can feel less alone etc. :] I considered clarifying but it might have ruined the comedic value of the post! >:o

Just wanted to say I for one greatly appreciate the comedic value in the OP for the record.

Damned Sinners unite 

[ComanderZhabikKlavik 4,397]

I thought I would be the only one who would write that he does not regret anything.

I don't regret anything because it's useless. If I regret my mistakes, it won't help me fix them. But if it had helped, then I would regret that I did not go to study programming earlier, but went to study metalworking. Now I realized that I hate it. Every day I wake up hating and go to work at the factory. Now, to correct this mistake of mine in choosing a profession, I need to try very hard, I need to prepare for the Unified State Exam in 1 year and get into university as a programmer. The Unified State Exam is a difficult exam and admission to the university will not be easy either. Because of this mistake, I have lost several years of my life, I will lose another year, and I have lived all these years hating metalworking and my life.The worst thing will be if I do poorly on the Unified State Exam and can't get into university to become a programmer, the next attempt will be only in a year and I will have to spend another year at this damned factory, It would be f****d up.

[ExplosionMare 21,212]

Serious:

• Not reading my story to all the parents in 5th grade, causing everyone else in the class to re-write theirs because mine was the only good one according to the teacher.

• Thinking about running away as a kid. Not sure what age I was.

• Not making any serious friends in high school (Like actually in school. I still met people through other places.)

• Going to college, except for the fact that I met two good friends for life there.

• Putting my time and efforts into people who really weren't worth it.

• Being ridged about my career choice because now I don't know what I want since the plan didn't work out.

Silly:

• Not naming my Deltarune files different things so I could know which one I did Snowgrave on.

• Not buying all the new FNAF plushies I see that aren't in my collection yet.

• Not getting into all my favorite fandoms sooner.

[Misty Shadow 8,194]

I wrote a callout document on a forum I used to frequent seven years ago. It was the biggest mistake I ever made and I'm very happy to have reconciled with the head admin I called out back then now.

[Do svidaniya 2,019]

Oh yeah a good number of these lying around I'm sure, but okay.  Without a lot of these regrets I also wouldn't be where I am now which I think the alternative would be an even worse reality so. 

[SparklingSwirls 21,530]

I guess I regret a couple of the places I’ve lived, but in one circumstance I didn’t have many other options at the time and as for the other, well, I guess I learned something about what I wanted out of life so it wasn’t a total loss. I feel dumb looking back at a couple choices I made… well hindsight is 20/20. I also sorta regret getting involved with certain people just cause of how things turned out, but there were some good memories there too. 

On a lighter note, I regret eating so much for dinner  

Edited July 11 by SparklingSwirls

[Sparklefan1234 179,453]

I regret losing years of friendship because I was too afraid to talk about my feelings because I was afraid of their reaction.

We're great! I just wish I'd said something a lot sooner instead of spending all of the time I wasted worrying. 

Edited July 11 by Sparklefan1234

[DubWolf 18,455]

The major I selected in college, and not exploring more options for getting my instructor certificate. I didn’t need to spend over 4 years on that…. It might have seriously closed some doors having taken that long.

[Iforgotmybrain 6,932]

Not keeping in close contact with two of my childhood friends. Always comes to mind as my biggest regret because a. these were the two people I spent the most time with during my most formative years, and b. because I had the opportunity to connect with them again but kinda wasted the opportunity. All on me.

Just about everything else, it’s whatever. There’s usually so many factors that go into why things don’t work out, or go the way you want, or at the very least you learn something from failing or making the wrong choice, that I don’t really feel regrets towards anything else.

[Envy 6,366]

I regret so much with my ex-girlfriend. But I don't know if I had done things better that things wouldn't have turned out the same. In fact, I'm leaning heavily toward that they would be the same. I can't say that for sure, and I do feel like the mistakes I made were pretty high impact, but I also think that she was becoming a different person and thus it probably would have ended this way. I wish it at least could have ended with us still talking. 

So many things I want to say I regret I just don't know if I can say that for sure. (Not even the above, sure I DO regret the mistakes I made, but are better outcomes [aside from maybe us being friends] really what I want?) Life is very complicated. 

One thing for sure I do regret, though, is long ago freaking out about health things and not taking care of myself. This was a serious mental struggle for me, I thought my life was over and I retreated into a bubble. This caused me to not live for the future, but instead live in the past. I did not have any serious thought of graduating from college and getting a career. I went to college to learn, not with a future in mind. I didn't learn to drive because doing so didn't seem possible with the health issues I thought I had. I never learned to adult.

I snapped out of this gradually over the past five years (pretty much entirely by late 2023). Now I'm in my mid-30s, don't have a career and don't know what in the world my career should even be. I'm living with how not-put-together my life is as a result of this. I'm living with having made a huge move despite that. It's wild let me tell you. I need to put myself together quickly and find a good career and I'm overwhelmed, and I also couldn't put together learning to drive before I moved (too much money to manage when I needed to save for the move), and I can't until I have more money, so I'm walking and taking buses which is absolutely not what I wanted to do. I'm paying the price, worrying about creepy guys and walking in very uncomfortable weather. I can't wait until its winter again. Walking in the summer sucks, so much. 

Even then, can I say I regret my college years? No, I can't! As I said life is complicated. I pursued a passion, a special interest. I would even continue on that road, but I don't think that me as a music history professor is what this world needs. I also have a passion for other things that are more in line with serving people or making my country better. Now I'm trying to figure out how to make a career out of them. It's difficult, but my country is so messed up now a fire has been lit. 

[Do svidaniya 2,019]

I regret eating that brownie as I now feel like someone has stabbed me in the gut. 

[Dreambiscuit 11,129]

Mostly my regrets are matters of not doing things earlier in my life, but since I managed some of the basics at a later age I can’t exactly complain, I just got there late.

But for the sake of bitching, of which I am a huge advocate, let’s drudge up some smelly ones.

I regret:

Not learning a foreign language and a musical instrument when I was young and my brain was more absorbent.

Dropping or delaying certain projects or goals due to the misperception they were creatively, intellectually or logistically pointless.

Not standing my ground when others discouraged me from pursuing life goals. There could have been a middle ground, and I should have fought for that simple balance.  

Going to a worthless travel agent to arrange a trip to Japan. They screwed up and it cost me everything.

Most of all, I regret that I’m not indulging in a s’mores mini bundt cake that’s calling to me from the kitchen right now. But perhaps it’s not too late to rectify this situation.

[Raskolnikov 1,709]

If this sale is agreed I am going to be regretting not turning up in Poland when my granddad was putting belongings into his will because apparently my mum is still a vicious unfeeling snake who cannot be trusted to act morally in any given situation. 

[Avery 217]

I’ve always tried my hardest not to dwell on regret. Guilt has been a constant companion in my life—like a second language I grew up speaking. That inner voice that says, ‘You’re not good enough’ has always been there. But instead of letting it consume me, I’ve learned to use it as fuel—to push myself to make things right, not sit in the past.

[Street Light 626]

old friends and exes. Lots of regrets :3

i try not to live with them. i wish i cherished the things i had while i had them uwu i also wish i had been more proactive with my future ^~^