Dealing with anti-brony bullies?

[Angel Voice 3]

Today I sent a link to the "Spiderjack" video to a girl I know, and she started saying some mean things to me. I'm not mad at her, but my feelings are very hurt. I feel vulnerable and ashamed of liking ponies. I just want everyone who is bullied for any reason to know you're not alone! There are loads of people who know what you're going through! What's important is that you are still loving and tolerating the bullies. Be the bigger pony! Saying mean things back to them will get you nowhere fast, and if you show someone a screenshot or tell someone about what the bully said and you've said mean things, people may not take it seriously.

If you're being bullied, tell someone who can help. A teacher, a parent(this goes without saying, but guardians, foster parents and adoptive parents count too), a relative, or anyone who can give you advice or put a stop to the bullying.

And remember: We all love you!

 

Here's a picture of what the bully said to me. I put it as a spoiler because she used a bad word.

 

 

 

[PonyEcho 1,610]

can i just draw a picture of my OC facehoofing to the point of concision for a moment...... buck I cba

 

honestly that is not bullying that is you being overly offended by someone not liking what you like, people have diffeant tastes deal with it. hell what that person did can't even be considered being an anti-brony.

and you pull that Love and Tolerance shield like a boss.

also she didn't say any bad words you just censored the usernames and you not rely being the biger person in all of that.

 

sorry if i'm being a dick (which i totally am) but this had to be done.

 

also _{^{throws confetti}} WELCOME !!! _{^{throws confetti}}

 

I know this might be a terrible welcome now and everypony else on the forum are 1000 time nicer and less assholeary then me (apart from a small few)

 

 

 

 

Edit- can people stop brohoofing this, this is not bro hoof worthy, this post is me scolding

Edited October 25, 2012 by PonyEcho

[Motion Spark 7,807]

not want to be a dick here, but you could have avoided this situation and you got "bullied" because you wanted, being on the internet (whatever that app was, facebook IDK) you just could hit the unfriend button or just ignore her, I bet she's not talking to you anymore.

Cyber bullying is much worse than this experience you just had, because you're harassed constantly by many many people over the internet and many social networks, to the point where the hate become endless and it can transform into something of real life.

 

don't take this wrong, but the internet is not a place for weaks, from what I read on that image, I could have a good laugh out of that things she said to you, don't take that crap seriously because it's harmless compared to other things we see these days

[♥.:Yulaiyre:.♥ 290]

I would have to agree with Echo here...this is not bullying. While your advice about bullying was sound, this does not seem like a very good example of bullying. I think that whole conversation could have went differently if this happened

 

'Oh, that has ponies, I don't really want to see it'

 

'Fair enough'.

 

Then you could switch the conversation over to something else, instead of throwing up the whole 'love and tolerate' thing, which was basically made to annoy people on 4chan. No other reason, and if you are going to use that defense, at least realise that love and tolerance work both ways, you have to appreciate that they don't like MLP, and wish to have nothing to do with it, which is completely fine. Rather than just assuming they are trying to make you angry.

 

at the end of the day, it's a television show, yes it's cute and has nice characters and good messages, but it's still just a TV show, saying things like

 

"Ponies are the best thing that has ever happened to me" just makes it sound a little like an unhealthy obsession, maybe they did give you happiness, but that's no reason to revolve your life around a show.

 

I'm not trying to attack you personally, but I think you should perhaps review how you deal with social situations before you give advice to others ♥

[Angel Voice 3]

can i just draw a picture of my OC facehoofing to the point of concision for a moment...... buck I cba

 

honestly that is not bullying that is you being overly offended by someone not liking what you like, people have diffeant tastes deal with it. hell what that person did can't even be considered being an anti-brony.

and you pull that Love and Tolerance shield like a boss.

also she didn't say any bad words you just censored the usernames and you not rely being the biger person in all of that.

 

sorry if i'm being a dick (which i totally am) but this had to be done.

 

also _{^{throws confetti}} WELCOME !!! _{^{throws confetti}}

 

I know this might be a terrible welcome now and everypony else on the forum are 1000 time nicer and less assholeary then me (apart from a small few)

 

Looking back on it, it doesn't seem like that big of a deal, but this isn't the first time she's done this. It hurt a lot more when it was going on. She also said a lot more that I didn't have in the picture. Plus this girl was a friend of mine in real life.

And she called me a bastard, which is enough of a bad word for me to put it as a spoiler.

_{Thanks for the "welcome!"}

[FoxyCryptid 4,330]

To me this just looks like someone being a dick rather than bullying. I think you need to look at two factors:

 

A) Is there some other underlying reason for them acting this way? Some people that ain't secure in who they are will react to things that challenge their status quo of what they think world should be this way.

 

B)Are they really your friend?

[ponyvangelist 732]

She is not your friend. Friends don't treat friends badly.

 

Associate with people who treat you properly, and avoid people who don't.

[FoxyCryptid 4,330]

She is not your friend. Friends don't treat friends badly.

 

Associate with people who treat you properly, and avoid people who don't.

 

While that seems like a good idea, it doesn't always work. I have at least one friend that would come off as a total ass at times to people who don't know him and what he's been through.

[Akemi Homura 7,680]

 

I just want everyone who is bullied for any reason to know you're not alone! There are loads of people who know what you're going through! What's important is that you are still loving and tolerating the bullies. Be the bigger pony! Saying mean things back to them will get you nowhere fast

 

There is no substantial power difference between the two of you to properly warrant calling this person a bully, so much as it is a case of your "friend" being an asshat and basing her comments off of her own prejudice. She probably has no presence and her clinging onto outdated ideologies is about as biased as you can get. She isn't worth your time.

 

You did the proper thing by not firing back at her, but here's the thing you need to realize: her statements of you being a childish bastard over something as trivial as you liking My Little Pony are more ridiculous than your own interest in the TV show. There's nothing inherently wrong with firing back at someone if they're bothering you for something that can be considered a nuisance. Since you didn't go through with it though, I'm sure you're aware on how baseless her comment about "normal people" and the plastic toys, for example. If anything, it says a lot more about her character and how childish she is rather than you. She's being a complete tool and isn't worth your time. Don't let this asshole get on your nerves, not even for a fucking second, you hear?

 

 

She is not your friend. Friends don't treat friends badly.

 

Associate with people who treat you properly, and avoid people who don't.

 

Friends also do not distance themselves from each other just because they like something they don't. That's... childish, ironically the same term your "friend" used to describe you. Good thing you brought this up.

[ponyvangelist 732]

While that seems like a good idea, it doesn't always work. I have at least one friend that would come off as a total ass at times to people who don't know him and what he's been through.

If he cares about you, then he won't treat you badly.

 

If he does mistreat you, then he's not your friend, and the relationship you're describing may be one of dysfunction, rather than actual friendship.

 

True friendship never involves the abuse of anyone, at any time, under any circumstances, for any reason.

[Akemi Homura 7,680]

Looking back on it, it doesn't seem like that big of a deal, but this isn't the first time she's done this. It hurt a lot more when it was going on. She also said a lot more that I didn't have in the picture. Plus this girl was a friend of mine in real life.

And she called me a bastard, which is enough of a bad word for me to put it as a spoiler.

_{Thanks for the "welcome!"}

 

Why were you friends with her in the first place? If this wasn't the first time she'd done this, she must not have many redeeming qualities in her. Did you even realize she pulled the "normal person" card on you in a manner that was really foul? I'll weep for her soul if need be, but it sounds like she's one insecure fuck.

[FoxyCryptid 4,330]

If he cares about you, then he won't treat you badly.

 

If he does mistreat you, then he's not your friend, and the relationship you're describing may be one of dysfunction, rather than actual friendship.

 

True friendship never involves the abuse of anyone, at any time, under any circumstances, for any reason.

 

That's the thing, he's not a ass to people close to him. Once he knows he can trust someone he's the best friend you can have. And what he does doesn't come down to abuse, he's just really defensive in a way that can seem like he's being an ass.

[Brave Hooves 113]

I dunno, she doesn't seem like an antibrony...more like a really shallow person. If she didn't wanna see it then fine, you probably should have dropped it then, but man, "normal 18 year old guys want trucks and girls not ponies" comments like that really piss me off and make the person that says it seem really shallow. Meh, the text makes it sound like the 2 of you were never really good friends anyways since you had both contemplated removing each other before, but I don't know the full story. Look on the bright side, one less bitch to have to deal with, less drama and all. This goes beyond ponies.

[FoxyCryptid 4,330]

I dunno, she doesn't seem like an antibrony...more like a really shallow person. If she didn't wanna see it then fine, you probably should have dropped it then, but man, "normal 18 year old guys want trucks and girls not ponies"

 

What's wrong with wanting both? I see no problem wanting the best of both words in this situation? If I want to buy a 4x4 and put pony bumper stickers on it that's my right.

[Brave Hooves 113]

What's wrong with wanting both? I see no problem wanting the best of both words in this situation? If I want to buy a 4x4 and put pony bumper stickers on it that's my right.

 

Nothing wrong with it. I just hate when people use it as a put down because it's not what the average guy would want, and how it seems that even if you want both, the pony cancels the other two out and makes you a faggot somehow. Nothing wrong with the truck or the girl. Or the pony.

[FoxyCryptid 4,330]

Nothing wrong with it. I just hate when people use it as a put down because it's not what the average guy would want, and how it seems that even if you want both, the pony cancels the other two out and makes you a faggot somehow. Nothing wrong with the truck or the girl. Or the pony.

 

i think you missed the humor in my post, that was half-meant to be a joke("half" as in that would probably be something i'd do if I could find a truck.)

[ConfettiBoom 35]

Bullies are bad, I'm sure if this was in real life you would have a very long argument, my method is to make an argument, then ignore them, but it's good that you are not friends with that vile person or can you even call them a person? Well, I think the best thing to do is reply then ignore.

[iLegovideo 152]

Man, I almost never deal with this at school. That's bound to happen soon... but I totally understand. I know what if feels like to be the odd man. Believe me, I was hating myself when I was first a brony, but I learned to accept the truth. I'm glad I am one today. Don't ever forget WHO you are. MLP is WHAT you like but does not define YOU.

[Rockabilly Wingtips 57]

My friends dad called the show girly and pink, but then i said it was MANgenta. then he started calling it MANgina and it was really making me annoyed. but i guess it not as bad as what some people call me at school.

[FoxyCryptid 4,330]

My friends dad called the show girly and pink, but then i said it was MANgenta. then he started calling it MANgina and it was really making me annoyed. but i guess it not as bad as what some people call me at school.

 

Sounds more to me like he's just teasing you, me and my stepdad get into good natured trash talk like that all the time. It's just something older people that have grown out of having shame do.

Edited October 25, 2012 by Shoboni

[Commander Urdnot 2,680]

I think you're being too sensitive, bro. It seems to me that she initially said that she isn't interested in My Little Pony, then you kept on trying to push it on her until she became annoyed. Then you played up the whole "Victim" thing to make it seem like you have the moral high-ground.

 

If you were being bullied, they would be either beating the crap out of you, or sending you hateful emails on a daily basis. I see none of that.

 

As you said, Love and Tolerate. Not everybody loves ponies, but you should still tolerate their opinion even if it differs from yours. If you're going to do the "Love and Tolerate" thing, you better mean it. Because I'm tired of having that labeled on me, and I'm pretty sure I'm not alone.

Edited October 25, 2012 by Urdnot Shepard

[~Asuka <3~ 867]

From personal experience, the best thing you could probably do is simply ignore the situation. Smile, leave, and ignore.

 

I know it's tough, but trust me, it's better than making a scene.

Edited October 25, 2012 by Dash Is Best Pony

[Midnight Seeker 302]

That . . . was not bulling.

 

A bully is someone that taunts, torments and terrorizes you. This was a girl who hated something you sent to her. She responded in a very immature way, but I'm afraid to say that so did you.

 

If you want to learn how to cope with this, your best bet is to grow a thicker skin. None of my friends in real life care for the show at all, and we have a silent agreement that as long as I don't bring it up, they won't take the piss out of me again.

 

People will mock one another all the time, but most of it is friendly and is meant to be a back and forth. The malicious stuff is only used by dicks, trolls and bullies.

 

On an other note, you and her don't even seem to like one another. You would both be better off not dealing with each other at this point in your lives. Doesn't mean you shouldn't be civil though.

 

As for dealing with bullies, considering what they want is the key to beating them.

 

Ask yourself “What do they want?” and you’ll be able to figure out how to beat them.

[Dusty Soul 2,611]

I'm sorry, but you handled it in a pretty bad way. You never reply to those, you just move on. I won't say you overreacted, because you didn't. I will say just ignore her.

[sushicolors 0]

i know what your going through. Everyone at my school is dumb, and cannot except someone elses opinion, like me being a brony. but i've learned love and tolerate them to death, and if a friend can't except my interests and insults them, i think it's time to draw the line and just simply ignore them. real friends will be interested, and try to except your different nterests, not insult them. i have to congratulate you on how you stood up to this person though, i could never do that, i would think of a really good comeback right after the argument lool so you should just forget about whoever she is and try to find friends that will except you for who you really are.

 

-peace out!!!!