Dating Advice From Lovestruck

[Eloquence 2,076]

Hey, Lovestruck! I've got a new one for you if you want to give it a whirl   

 

I am in quite the perfect relationship currently and very much smothered with love (in a good way!) The only problem is I tend to have a hard time coming up with good ways to reciprocate! 'Typical' date ideas seem to turn out as massive flops. Go to the movies? He falls asleep. Shopping? We both hate it. The Park? We both get bored. Dinner? Meh. He's a simple stallion that would rather eat plain foods than fancy stuff.

 

In short, I'm stumped!  :okiedokielokie: 

 

Any ideas for a less typical date? 

 

I could give you quite a lot of ideas for dates, because much as some might deny it, a date can be anything you want it to be! You say your special somepony is a simple stallion, and if you're also a simple mare then maybe what you need is to just have simple dates. I don't know who started perpetuating the idea that staying in playing videogames and eating delivery pizza can't be a date, but they are a darn liar! A darn liar I say!  

 

If you want to go out for dates, then you just need to find activities that you both like. There are so many things to do, you can go hiking or bowling or run around bookstores leaving sticky-notes with little messages on them in random books (I've tried that one, it's pretty fun). Maybe you and your special somepony should just sit down and make lists of the things you like doing, and then pick out the similarities in those lists to decide what you should do on your dates!

 

I hope you and your special somepony find ways to have lots of fun together!

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Dear Lovestruck,
 
I'm a fucking coward so I rarely tell people I'm interested in them when I am. I almost never get romantically interested in anyone, and the few times I tried to do anything about it it never really worked out.
 
How do I not fuck this shit up?

[Eloquence 2,076]

Dear Lovestruck,

 

I'm a fucking coward so I rarely tell people I'm interested in them when I am. I almost never get romantically interested in anyone, and the few times I tried to do anything about it it never really worked out.

 

How do I not fuck this shit up?

 

This is a rather vague question, but it sounds like you would like advice on not being too shy to make a move

 

It is very hard to be flirty if flirty doesn't come naturally to you, but my suggestion is to always just go at your own pace, and not worry if you've "waited too long" to make your move. If you like someone, then hang out with them, get closer, invite them to do things just the two of you, and see if there's some chemistry there. Everyone moves at their own pace, and there's nothing wrong with that.

 

Romance is a tricky thing, and it can be really scary to show that you like someone. If you want to wade in instead of jumping in, then you can absolutely make that work for you.

[Night Wing 387]

lovestruck, can you help, i,ve never had a date. and im felling very lonely 

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lovestruck, can you help, i,ve never had a date. and im felling very lonely 

 

I'm not sure I can help you with such a broad question. Finding somepony to go on a date with can be difficult for a lot of reasons, and can be a very complicated thing. I wouldn't be giving dating advice if everything about dating could be summed up in one answer. 

 

I'm afraid you'll have to ask a more specific question if you want advice honey.

[FancyHorse 1,209]

Hey there!

 

Back again, hehe.

 

So doing me sleuthing and what not, so my new question comes more again about flirting (flirting is relatable to love advice right? )

So going around and about a good friend knew about a bar/nightclub just within my mileage.

 

So we go there hang around you know?

 

Well new predicament is what exactly to say? Hehe ^^"

 

I don't lack confidence no, but rather what are amicable subjects to bring forth. Like to what extent can the compliments go? Those kinda things.

 

Hehe I feel like I already know the answers and I'm just complicating simplicity!

 

Any advice por favor?

[Eloquence 2,076]

Hey there!

 

Back again, hehe.

 

So doing me sleuthing and what not, so my new question comes more again about flirting (flirting is relatable to love advice right? )

So going around and about a good friend knew about a bar/nightclub just within my mileage.

 

So we go there hang around you know?

 

Well new predicament is what exactly to say? Hehe ^^"

 

I don't lack confidence no, but rather what are amicable subjects to bring forth. Like to what extent can the compliments go? Those kinda things.

 

Hehe I feel like I already know the answers and I'm just complicating simplicity!

 

Any advice por favor?

 

Well, not lacking confidence is a very good start. It helps to be able to put yourself out there!

 

My advice is not to come on too strong. Unless you just happen to be the pony of somepony's dreams, they might not feel comfortable with you starting out by complimenting their appearance or something like that. It also helps if you have a reason to start talking to someone, even if it isn't a very strong reason (for example, you just happen to sit next to them at the bar  )

 

And of course, remember to be courteous. If somepony is talking to their friends, don't interrupt their conversation. If they seem like they don't want to talk, respect that. If everyone's having fun, then it's all good. So go have fun!

[SparklingSwirls 21,606]

Wolfie and I have been dating for around eight months now, but we won't be able to meet up in real life for a couple more years... What are your tips for keeping an online relationship fresh and exciting?

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Wolfie and I have been dating for around eight months now, but we won't be able to meet up in real life for a couple more years... What are your tips for keeping an online relationship fresh and exciting?

 

Communication is key in an online relationship, so my first tip is, well, just to talk to each other. Talking every day is important, and it will keep the other pony involved in everything you're doing with your life. Video-chat is important too, that way even if you don't have anything to talk about you can still "be" together. I know this first one's pretty obvious, but sometimes it's good to start with the obvious.

 

As for keeping things exciting, it might help to find things you can do together online. Find a game you both like to play together, or participate in roleplays together, if you aren't already doing these things.

 

Another great way to keep the relationship up is to take it offline, but in a different way. You can do this with the help of your local post office! Send each other letters, pictures, maybe even presents if you can. It seems like this wouldn't make much of a difference, but having something physical from another person can be really meaningful, and can remove that illogical feeling that because they're online they aren't "real".

 

I wish you and your special somepony lots of luck and love!

[CC_Maud_Pie 6,431]

Here's my approach to this. Are you ready?

 

Ok, in real life (outside the forums), I'm thinking of befriending and creating social connections with some girls in the future (since I somehow feel an inside urge to because I feel it would be a good change in social scenery) and whichever one I feel the most connected to I'll develop feelings and spend more time with. And if she feels the same way, she'll become my mare friend. If not, then I'll try again with another one.

 

What are your thoughts on this approach because to me, it doesn't seem normal in today's society (guys in society are more like "getting a girl")?

Edited February 14, 2015 by CC_Maud_Pie

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Here's my approach to this. Are you ready?

 

Ok, in real life (outside the forums), I'm thinking of befriending and creating social connections with some girls in the future (since I somehow feel an inside urge to because I feel it would be a good change in social scenery) and whichever one I feel the most connected to I'll develop feelings and spend more time with. And if she feels the same way, she'll become my mare friend. If not, then I'll try again with another one.

 

What are your thoughts on this approach because to me, it doesn't seem normal in today's society (guys in society are more like "getting a girl")?

 

I'm not exactly sure what you're getting at, but if I understand you right then that doesn't sound strange to me at all. Dating somepony you're already friends with can be really wonderful, and like they always say, your special somepony should be your best friend! Mares also make great friends, so you should have some friends who are mares!

 

Just so we're all very clear on this though, you should never make friends with somepony just because you want to date them later. You should want to be friends with them whether your friendship stays just like it is or turns into something romantic. Otherwise that's just being dishonest.

[CC_Maud_Pie 6,431]

I'm not exactly sure what you're getting at, but if I understand you right then that doesn't sound strange to me at all. Dating somepony you're already friends with can be really wonderful, and like they always say, your special somepony should be your best friend! Mares also make great friends, so you should have some friends who are mares!

 

Just so we're all very clear on this though, you should never make friends with somepony just because you want to date them later. You should want to be friends with them whether your friendship stays just like it is or turns into something romantic. Otherwise that's just being dishonest.

Thanks! I appreciate your respect for my approach. I said I'll befriend them first and whichever one I feel the most connected to the most I'll become interested in rather than befriending them only for the sake of none other that dating instead of taking my time and getting to know and understand one another. And I wouldn't allow romantic failure to destroy friendship unless if she's been treating me unfriendly. I have an inside urge to befriend some because I haven't really had much social contact with them lately. Like I said, the guys who have the mentality of "getting a girl" are just hurrying love instead of being patient and I'm not thinking of becoming one of them. That's just uncool. Edited February 14, 2015 by CC_Maud_Pie

[Moonbutt 88]

Do you think both genders ages 18-25 are too picky on who they choose for a date or significant other in this generation or has it remained the same?

 

Does loving someone only happen when someone becomes lonely?

 

Do you find most current dates too spontaneous and unplanned or slow and steady?

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Do you think both genders ages 18-25 are too picky on who they choose for a date or significant other in this generation or has it remained the same?

 

Does loving someone only happen when someone becomes lonely?

 

Do you find most current dates too spontaneous and unplanned or slow and steady?

 

Question 1: I don't really think there's such a thing as "too picky". Love is a big deal, and someone should only date someone else if they really want to!

 

Question 2: I don't think so. People who have wonderful friends and family fall in love all the time, and those people aren't lonely.

 

Question 3: I think dates can come in all shapes and sizes, and that a date can turn out wonderful or not-so-fun regardless of whether it was planned or spontaneous.