I wish anti-friendzone was a thing

[Trine 665]

'cause i don't really like friendzone terms. Basically if you like this person but he/she won't be together with you, but just become your friend then (Friendzone... cringe) is used by some. First of all, friends are a good thing. If you don't wanna hang out with a person then just stop hanging out with that person and problem solved, although i do believe its important to still be polite.

 

So i made a term up. Anti-friendzone. Find a person who you want to be friends with, and then she/he wants to be friends with you too, fearing getting in a relationship zone instead of becoming friends. When becoming friends, congratulations now you can hangout and have tons of fun ^^

 

 

 

 

I was sorta getting the idea from this vid. Yeah its weird and all maybe but i think its important. So have you ever,,, found friends and complained if they dont wanna be your friend, but just be together in a relationship with anti-friendzone.. See . Hitting back with another term lol.

 

 

7:42 - 8:02

 

 

 

But either way, just wondering what you think ^^

Edited May 16, 2015 by Trine

[Envy 6,166]

Seeing someone act super-negatively to being "friend-zoned" is kind of the best sign that you made the right decision.

 

If you can't even be friends, how in the world could you possibly be in a lasting relationship?

[Sazama Ichida 2,367]

Indeed. That would be awesome lol.

[Positively Pinkie 109]

Eh.

It's a negativity term used by the depressed young people desperate to find a mate.

 

I don't think it's a negative attack on the person who "friendzones" them as it is just a sigh on life.

[Discordian 6,015]

I think it says something about someone if they can't deal with being friendzoned. It either means they wanted a relationship for possibly the wrong reasons or they don't understand what a relationship is actually like and think it's somehow different from having a really close friend.

[IcyHaze 594]

A friend of mine once bought me tickets to see 30 Seconds to Mars, and was then shocked when I didn't want to date him. I mean... whaaa.... O.o

[I used to be a stranger 7,993]

Also yet to be defined:

 

Nega-friendzone

Recipro-friendzone

inverse friendzone

f"(riendzone)

e^friendzone

sinezone

cosinezone

tanzone

calzone

Edited May 18, 2015 by Blue

[Sugar Pea 2,682]

If somebody is not interested, they aren't interested. End of story. That's how I see it. People who are friend-zoned should be greatful of the fact that the person defines them as a friend at all. I once friend-zoned somebody, and I was once friend-zoned as well. But that's how the cookie crumbles.

Edited May 16, 2015 by Mellifluous

[JonasDarkmane 19,785]

I think if someone can't handle being friendzoned, then they probably wanted more from the person then they should have been asking for. 

 

People who would want anti-friendzone would be those desperate to find love 

[aoEAF2FBvC0MIo2Q 3,673]

Here's something that's important to understand: you don't jump into relationships willy-nilly. It is a highly personal endeavor. I'm probably going to need an extra pair of hands to count the number of people I've encountered who've been chronically hurt because a relationship went bad. Here's a newsflash: it can be just as bad for guys as with girls. Girls seem to be a lot more conscious about this than guys are.

 

When you are friends with someone, you can get to know them by hanging out, by talking, by sharing moments together... and even that has its stages. Both (or either) of you are going to need time to build trust and I cannot fathom a strong, closely-knit relationship without trust. Do I really need to explain this? If someone really can't be bothered to build trust, that's a pretty good indication that the person can't be trusted. I'm pretty sure if a person gets offended from being "friendzoned," whoever did it is going to feel like they dodged a bullet.

 

Anything else needs to be said...?

[Bojo 1,172]

Guess Discord would like this thread    

 

I think that's actually how it's supposed to be... why would you fear being friends with anyone? However, I don't agree on fearing getting in a relationship with a firend Sometimes being in a relationship with a friend can bring beautiful and awesome experiences, Also, who says you should stop being friends with the person you love when you get into a relationship with him/her? I'm in a relationship with one of my best friends, and when we stopped reminding each other that we were not only a couple, but friends too, it began to have its flaws...

 

(Holy crap, didn't notice that until now... thanks for making this thread!  ) 

Also yet to be defined:

 

Nega-friendzone

Recipro-friendzone

inverse friendzone

f"(riendzone)

e^friendzone

sinezone

coszone

tanzone

calzone

Can I integrate these too?

[I used to be a stranger 7,993]

(Holy crap, didn't notice that until now... thanks for making this thread!  ) 

Can I integrate these too?

 

Nope. They're like e^x.

 

(e^friendzone)' = e^friendzone

[NotoriousSMALL 1,984]

what people mean by friendzone is they begin talking to a guy/girl who isnt romantically attracted to them and they fail to spark any chemistry and yet continually try all whilst to scared too actually make a move or give the guy/girl any hints theyre interested in her/him.

 

And people complain about it because they don't want to be friends, they put in the "effort" because they want to be in a romantic relationship with them, not desiring a regular, platonic friendship.

[Trine 665]

Its more of a mystery. Why does friendzone exist, i mean the term. I mean i will admit i was surprised when i found out that atheism existed. Which before i just used the term "People who don't believe in god", 'cause i honestly couldn't believe why people want to bother taking so much time on this kind of thing in general that serves no purpose, that was back in 2010 or something when i spent more time on the net on Q/A in order to help people that i felt to do just because i wanted too, although i won't compare that to this term.

 

Since this term feels more like it has an agenda to it. Its more like "If someone doesn't want to be with you, ok" boom, the end. And if you have friends you like to hang out with, then they are your friends. I just think Friendzone is more or less.... just sorta a cringe worthy term to my ears. Thats all i really have to say.

Edited May 16, 2015 by Trine

[Shanks 10,816]

Its more of a mystery. Why does friendzone exist, i mean the term.

The term exists because a lot of single people often find themselves frustrated at getting continually rejected by people they are interested in. It is not the fault of the people "friend zoning" them but I can understand their frustration even if it often devolves into its ugly cousin being the "forever alone" mentality which can come off as desperate which can come off as creepy to some. I have been on both sides of this, I have been both "friend zoned" and have "friend zoned" and can say it is not a pleasant experience either way. As for me I see no point in having a relationship with someone if I can't be a friend to them as well because I want to be able to be myself and feel comfortable around anyone I would date.

Edited May 17, 2015 by Darth Bane

[gone~ 614]

I think that both "friendzone" and "anti-friendzone" are not very useful words, at least for me. I don't think I'd really end up using either one ^^;

 

I think it says something about someone if they can't deal with being friendzoned. It either means they wanted a relationship for possibly the wrong reasons or they don't understand what a relationship is actually like and think it's somehow different from having a really close friend.

 

What is a relationship like and how is it the same (or different) from having a really close friend? (Edit: I'm asking because I've never had close friends or romantic relationships before)

 

I mean i will admit i was surprised when i found out that atheism existed. Which before i just used the term "People who don't believe in god", 'cause i honestly couldn't believe why people want to bother taking so much time on this kind of thing in general that serves no purpose

 

Well, isn't "atheist" much faster and easier to say than "person who doesn't believe in god"? ^^

Edited May 17, 2015 by Drasamo

[Steel Accord 6,660]

@@Trine,

 

I think the term is sort of redundant. "Anti-friendzone" you mean the same zone one would put enemies? Or your proposed scenario that "you become friends with someone you fear getting into a relationship with and then you don't now you have fun!" Isn't that pretty much platonic friendship?

 

Why the need for this term, it just seems reactionary is all. 

Edited May 17, 2015 by Steel Accord

[Trine 665]

The term exists because a lot of single people often find themselves frustrated at getting continually rejected by people they are interested in. It is not the fault of the people "friend zoning" them but I can understand their frustration even if it often devolves into its ugly cousin being the "forever alone" mentality which can come off as desperate which can come off as creepy to some. I have been on both sides of this, I have been both "friend zoned" and have "friend zoned" and can say it is not a pleasant experience either way. As for me I see no point in having a relationship with someone if I can't be a friend to them as well because I want to be able to be myself and feel comfortable around anyone I would date.

 

Well HIV and Aids isn't that much to brag about so i don't see much the deal if one have their own taste and interests. Thats just natural . Although i have seen some jokes on the terms friendzone. Tips fedora is a meme that i've seen some of it go through.

 

Well, isn't "atheist" much faster and easier to say than "person who doesn't believe in god"? ^^

It makes me think of United Kingdom, Sweden and socialism for some reason when i think of atheism. But yeah its faster to say i guess.

Edited May 17, 2015 by Trine

[Sintanan 151]

 

 

sinezone

 

I lay claim to this term.  I'll come up with a definition later...

[Princess_Universe 25]

There's going to be people who like you, whether in a romantic way, or not.  Here's an example of my own experience. One of my friends ended up liking me, but I didn't like him. Why? I knew we were compatible as friends, but as in a relationship it wouldn't work out. But here's the thing. WE TALKED ABOUT IT. I beat any awkwardness he had for me. He told me a lot of things. I think if someone likes a friend but it isn't reciprocated, they should just TALK about it. If they just bury it in the sand, or he/she feels "Friendzone" and leaves them, then that's not a good trait on their character. Otherwise, how else would you do a romantic relationship if you can't even keep a good friendship; one that could be saved?

 

Just my two cents

[Guest]

Just because you start to like someone than more than a friend. That doesn't mean they like you like that. That choice should be up to the other person. I've been friend zoned many a time and all was good. If anything most likely that other person may even appreciate the effort you even made by asking.

 

But it is just that sometimes risk equals reward. But just because someone friendzones does not mean anything. Stay good friends with that person and try your chances with someone else if your wanting to be in a relationship.

[Trickilee 139]

This sounds a bit like the AT-field thing from NGE. Raise your hoof if you know what that means.

[Sintanan 151]

This sounds a bit like the AT-field thing from NGE. Raise your hoof if you know what that means.

Absolute Territory Field.  Also, people orange juice.

[Invincible 2,091]

I have heard of two expressions of the term "friendzone".

 

Basically, you describe "option A":

 

 

Basically if you like this person but he/she won't be together with you, but just become your friend then (Friendzone... cringe) is used by some. First of all, friends are a good thing. If you don't wanna hang out with a person then just stop hanging out with that person and problem solved, although i do believe its important to still be polite

 

I see no argument there, and i agree with you. You shouldn't blame other people for their choice in partners or tastes in their potential love interests, and you shouldn't hold that against them.

 

What iv'e seen some describe as "option B" would be another giving you a hint at a possible relationship with them (some would say exploiting your affection towards them) in order to enjoy themselves to your wealth and/or resources (physical, emotional or whatever).

 

Now, i won't pretend; i was rejected before. It hurt, i felt some pain and anger towards the person who hurt me. In retrospect, it's easier to blame the other person in that situation. As for "option B", i shudder to think of people who use others like this, i never crossed one before, but i can at least imagine that they exist.

 

What do you think of that? Would you see where people experiencing the latter coming from? Just a thought.

[Admiral Regulus 2,769]

So, basically...

 

Friendzone = Friendship - Romance

 

Antifriendzone = Romance - Friendship

 

And so...

 

Antifriendzone = - Friendzone

 

This is a bit unnecessary and redundant.