general Bad roommates experiences

[Xe__or 4,377]

Hello everyone; I open this topic because I was curious to hear about your experiences (if any ) with having bad roommates to live, either now or in the past. It's also so I can share my experience with you guys and why not hear some advice to how I should act.

So I finished highschool two years ago and began going to college ; more precisely EPFL, in Switzerland. Because life there is expensive however, and because I had little time to search, I needed to find a place where I can live with a roommate so the rent doesn't kill all the money I recieve monthly from my family. There were people from my highschool I knew for quite a long time, around 6 or 7 years, who were my friends, who were also going to study there; So I naturally told myself: "I'll just ask one of them to live in a shared studio, no biggie; I know these guys very well." So I settled with this guy that I was seeing everyday and I though to myself it was going to be great! One of my best friends living with me is neato, right?

Oh god how wrong was I... he has the worst defaults he could fear with a roommate: NEVER cleaned any part of the studio since we got here, including bathroom, where we cook, etc... sometimes cleans the dishes days after he used them; hugely wasteful person too; I have to take care of everything here, he just doesn't fucking care at all. I did try to talk to him a LOT of times, but he just forgets every fucking time, and does the same annoying stuff barely days after I tell him; and it's really taking over my patience, as I became more and more angry all the time. We barely even talk anymore these days.

I have been thinking of moving out for quite some time now, but the studies take so much time I can't concentrate on that. But next year, I'm  sure I will not stay with him, I'll find a way to move out (without fucking him over either, don't worry I'll warn him). If I had one advice to give to those thinking of having a roommate? Choose carefully, not because they're your friend; find yourself a respectable and clean person, or believe me you're going to explode.

Any of you guys had such bad experiences? 

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I once was forced to room with a guy for like a week for a work training. We were sent to a hotel to attend a week-long seminar. I won't get into specifics to protect the company, but the short version is we were told to treat it as if we were at work. The guy I got roomed with... was... not the wisest of people to put it bluntly.

So when we went to the seminar the FIRST thing we were asked was if anyone was under 21 (I was in the US at the time, where the drinking age is 21). ONE person there raised their hand who was 19. The guy leading the seminar said if he caught any underage drinking or providing it, your boss back at your home location would be notified and you'd be sent home.

So any smart person who was planning on drinking would not have even been NEAR that kid.

Not my roommate. He bought beers and brought them back TO THE HOTEL where the guy leading the seminar was staying as well. They took the beers down to the public pool and sure enough gave them to the kid. Now I can't verify if my roommate gave him beer or not, but if you saw the ONLY person who was underage was drinking, the smart thing to do would be to stay as far away as possible, because naturally... If the head of the seminar KNOWs there is only one person who is underage... He is going to focus his attention on that one person. Sure enough, he ends up walking into the pool and sees the entire event.

My roommate in his infinite wisdom... Decides it's a good idea to try and argue with the seminar leader over it. He tells him to go back to his room and his boss would hear about it in the morning.

He's coming back to the room and saying that it's "not fair" and I point out that this is precisely the reason why I stayed away from that kid. I stayed in my room so I would not get caught up in that mess. I then had to listen to four hours of this guy basically telling me his entire life story about how he grew up in the hood and this job is all he has, etc. And the entire time I am just thinking "if this was so important, why would you risk it by giving a beer to a kid?"

I then was forced to fake sympathy until the guy eventually cried himself to sleep. It was insanely awkward.

[Xe__or 4,377]

1 hour ago, Key Sharkz said:

I once was forced to room with a guy for like a week for a work training. We were sent to a hotel to attend a week-long seminar. I won't get into specifics to protect the company, but the short version is we were told to treat it as if we were at work. The guy I got roomed with... was... not the wisest of people to put it bluntly.

So when we went to the seminar the FIRST thing we were asked was if anyone was under 21 (I was in the US at the time, where the drinking age is 21). ONE person there raised their hand who was 19. The guy leading the seminar said if he caught any underage drinking or providing it, your boss back at your home location would be notified and you'd be sent home.

So any smart person who was planning on drinking would not have even been NEAR that kid.

Not my roommate. He bought beers and brought them back TO THE HOTEL where the guy leading the seminar was staying as well. They took the beers down to the public pool and sure enough gave them to the kid. Now I can't verify if my roommate gave him beer or not, but if you saw the ONLY person who was underage was drinking, the smart thing to do would be to stay as far away as possible, because naturally... If the head of the seminar KNOWs there is only one person who is underage... He is going to focus his attention on that one person. Sure enough, he ends up walking into the pool and sees the entire event.

My roommate in his infinite wisdom... Decides it's a good idea to try and argue with the seminar leader over it. He tells him to go back to his room and his boss would hear about it in the morning.

He's coming back to the room and saying that it's "not fair" and I point out that this is precisely the reason why I stayed away from that kid. I stayed in my room so I would not get caught up in that mess. I then had to listen to four hours of this guy basically telling me his entire life story about how he grew up in the hood and this job is all he has, etc. And the entire time I am just thinking "if this was so important, why would you risk it by giving a beer to a kid?"

I then was forced to fake sympathy until the guy eventually cried himself to sleep. It was insanely awkward.

Oh wow; that guy had some wisdom juice flowing in his body   You're lucky you were with him only one week I suppose  

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3 hours ago, Gachin said:

Oh wow; that guy had some wisdom juice flowing in his body   You're lucky you were with him only one week I suppose  

Definitely. I hope he’s doing better in life though.

[Hardway Bet 96]

Back in high school, I shared an apartment with a couple of guys who had no sense of cleanliness or personal hygiene. They were the sort of people who thought deodorant was an acceptable replacement for showering, and even thought I vacuumed my own room every three or four days, they tracked so much shit in there it ended up on my floor anyway. Honestly, I think that arrangement turned me into the slob I am today.

When I moved out of there after half a semester, their mother had the temerity to approach me and suggest that I stay and we share the cost of hiring a cleaning firm.

Somehow, though, we managed to stay friends for a good while after that.

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17 minutes ago, Hardway Bet said:

Back in high school, I shared an apartment with a couple of guys who had no sense of cleanliness or personal hygiene. They were the sort of people who thought deodorant was an acceptable replacement for showering, and even thought I vacuumed my own room every three or four days, they tracked so much shit in there it ended up on my floor anyway. Honestly, I think that arrangement turned me into the slob I am today.

When I moved out of there after half a semester, their mother had the temerity to approach me and suggest that I stay and we share the cost of hiring a cleaning firm.

Somehow, though, we managed to stay friends for a good while after that.

You knew these people before moving with them?

[Hardway Bet 96]

Yes, but not how they lived.

[TBD 17,254]

I’d never share household with strangers  only because for these extract reasons you guys are dealing with.

[Cash In 22,214]

In Grade 8, I was sharing a room with several guys during a trip. One of them managed to get all of us locked out of our own room at least three separate times. You cannot make this sort of thing up.

Edited October 15, 2020 by Cash In

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I don't have a roommate. Probably never since college (depends what you mean by roommate) will be like regular school. I'll stay at home and go to school.

This is probably a useless answer

[Early Sunsets 2,106]

My roommate sniffles constantly which is annoying, and he doesn't clean anything, but he's really not that bad. My two suitemates, however, are terrible. They stay up past midnight often playing loud noise and almost yelling constantly, no matter what people say to them. The bathroom, which the four of us share, got cleaned once last semester by me before I gave up trying. I'd need a hazmat suit to clean the bathroom now.

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16 hours ago, Hardway Bet said:

Yes, but not how they lived.

Same experience here

10 hours ago, TBD said:

I’d never share household with strangers  only because for these extract reasons you guys are dealing with.

the thing is I knew the guy for 8 years before moving with him ; it makes it worse, as our friendship is compromised now

 

7 hours ago, Zephyr / Karou said:

My roommate sniffles constantly which is annoying, and he doesn't clean anything, but he's really not that bad. My two suitemates, however, are terrible. They stay up past midnight often playing loud noise and almost yelling constantly, no matter what people say to them. The bathroom, which the four of us share, got cleaned once last semester by me before I gave up trying. I'd need a hazmat suit to clean the bathroom now.

oh god i forgot the sniffling; I can't stand it , I really can't either. What do you mean by suitemates?

 

9 hours ago, Blazelicious said:

I don't have a roommate. Probably never since college (depends what you mean by roommate) will be like regular school. I'll stay at home and go to school.

This is probably a useless answer

not useless; I just didn't understand what you meant

[Early Sunsets 2,106]

4 hours ago, Gachin said:

What do you mean by suitemates?

In my dorm, everyone lives in a suite, which is just two shared rooms connected by a bathroom, and my suitemates are the two guys living in the other room. The walls separating rooms in a suite are about half as thick as the rest of the walls in the dorm, so there isn't much in the way of soundproofing.

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3 hours ago, Zephyr / Karou said:

In my dorm, everyone lives in a suite, which is just two shared rooms connected by a bathroom, and my suitemates are the two guys living in the other room. The walls separating rooms in a suite are about half as thick as the rest of the walls in the dorm, so there isn't much in the way of soundproofing.

Oh boi so here goes the intimacy; same here, I have to share the studio with my roomate, no separate rooms, so privacy isn't present either

[Divine plywood 1,239]

My story is basically identical to those listed above: Thought it would be swell idea to move in with my friend, founded out that he's a pig that doesn't have the foggiest clue what the hell vacuum cleaner or dishcloth are, ended up arguing, sulking and eventually ruining our friendship for good...  Easily the most unpleasant and stressful year of my life, so glad that I got out of that madhouse!

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2 minutes ago, Divine plywood said:

My story is basically identical to those listed above: Thought it would be swell idea to move in with my friend, founded out that he's a pig that doesn't have the foggiest clue what the hell vacuum cleaner or dishcloth are, ended up arguing, sulking and eventually ruining our friendship for good...  Easily the most unpleasant and stressful year of my life, so glad that I got out of that madhouse!

I feel you on so many levels dude ; as I said, we basically don't even talk anymore, and I have a lot less patience than I did before. I don't know if I'll be able to move out this year, but next year, I'm out of this shitty situation

[Dreambiscuit 9,577]

Up until November of 2017 I had a roommate that was with me for four years. When I moved to California it was necessary to share the expenses because the cost of living can get pretty extreme. I knew from childhood experiences sharing a room with my sister that I had to be certain of who I was getting stuck with, so I made sure it was someone I knew (a friend of a friend) and that she was at least somewhat quiet and hygienic. She wasn’t exactly the epitome of class and dignity but she kept to her part of the responsibilities and I kept to mine, and we managed to avoid screwing up each others’ lives.

My advice when screening a roommate is to find someone that has clean habits and is willing to mind their own business. Sharing quarters is a matter of financial necessity and doesn’t have to be a social gathering. Keep civil, give each other room to breathe, and make sure you can communicate intelligently in case you need to make adjustments. My roomy was not my best friend but a relatively stable companion for the short haul. She eventually moved out, but it was amiable and she simply had other irons in the fire.

When she moved out I invited my cousin to move in, and she accepted. We are 100% opposites and you’d never think we’d get along, yet somehow we’re a perfect fit. So consider that when you look for a roommate. They don’t have to be your closest friends; in fact it may be better if they’re not, because your friends may take your friendship for granted and let their responsibilities slide a bit. When I got hitched recently, I insisted on letting my cousin live with us. Now we’re a strange motley crew but it works because we respect each other, and that's the most important thing. 

Edited January 29, 2019 by Dreambiscuit

[Lucky Bolt 35,062]

@Cyclone you have any stories to share here? 

[Cyclone 1066 3,619]

36 minutes ago, Lucky Bolt said:

@Cyclone you have any stories to share here? 

Too many. I'll have to post one when I have a keyboard in front of me.

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On 4/22/2019 at 10:06 PM, Cyclone1066 said:

Too many. I'll have to post one when I have a keyboard in front of me.

We're still waiting