Are you ever afraid of saying the wrong thing?

[Snoopy Fan 8,505]

I’m sometimes afraid of saying the wrong thing, both in real life and on the forums, even though nothing I say is with bad intentions, I’m afraid others will view it that way.

[Raskolnikov 1,738]

All the time, and usually for good reason! God nerfed me because if I were not reserved in the shit I say most of the time I would be saying some real garbage without thinking. Happens 9 times out of 10 when I run my mouth 

Edited June 23 by Raskolnikov

[ExplosionMare 21,951]

All the time! I feel like it's way too easy to say the wrong thing even if I really don't mean to. I also struggle with volume control so some people think I'm screaming at them when I really don't mean to.

[Do svidaniya 2,068]

Yeah it happens a lot of the time I think.

[SparklingSwirls 21,598]

Of course, I think everyone is afraid of that to some extent. 

I think it’s important to give others the benefit of the doubt and assume they have the right intentions. Most people don’t want to actively hurt others and probably don’t want to hurt you either. People just have different ways of showing things…

[Sparklefan1234 180,599]

"Are you ever afraid of saying the wrong thing?" Absolutely! I'm afraid of saying the wrong thing all the time. 

[Pandora 38,597]

3 hours ago, Snoopy Fan said:

I’m sometimes afraid of saying the wrong thing, both in real life and on the forums, even though nothing I say is with bad intentions, I’m afraid others will view it that way.

i feel this way all the time, afraid to say something wrong; or where it lands wrong. Intentions are always good but the receiver can see it as bad. I try to add emoji's to my post sometimes to give way to what i meant, though even that can go wrong..+ i also read things wrong sometimes myself as english isn't my native language and i'm hypersensitive, so.. I'm afraid of it but I also need to learn not to think the worst when others write to me? if that makes any sense at all

[Fluttershutter 2,946]

All the time.

All the time.

[feralfilly 161]

I feel that way all the time due to personal issues. It makes me feel like I need to overexplain myself—and when I explain too much it makes me overthink more 

[Felis Amafeles 2,023]

1 hour ago, Pandora said:

i feel this way all the time, afraid to say something wrong; or where it lands wrong. Intentions are always good but the receiver can see it as bad. I try to add emoji's to my post sometimes to give way to what i meant, though even that can go wrong..+ i also read things wrong sometimes myself as english isn't my native language and i'm hypersensitive, so.. I'm afraid of it but I also need to learn not to think the worst when others write to me? if that makes any sense at all

I'm almost the same as you 

[Felis Amafeles 2,023]

36 minutes ago, feralfilly said:

I feel that way all the time due to personal issues. It makes me feel like I need to overexplain myself—and when I explain too much it makes me overthink more

I also tend to overexplain, to the point where people around me find me a right chatterbox......

[Night Sky 880]

I used to be very afraid of saying the wrong thing, but I am entirely over that by now. 

Unfortunately, due to my profession, I often have to say the "wrong" thing.

But really, I would submit that the concept of "right" and "wrong" things to say doesn't set us up for success ahead of time.

Life is tricky and messy, and if you're doing right by people, you're going to have to tell them all kinds of things they don't want to hear.

That doesn't mean you said the "wrong" thing.

Then people come at you with, it's not what you're saying but how you're saying it.

People don't always know you well enough to know how you prefer to be told things. 

And even if they do, they have needs and boundaries of their own. 

They may have a duty to tell you a certain thing, a certain way.

Sometimes the news is good, often it isn't.

It's a careful proceedure, to be sure, talking to people, and it should be.

But it's on everyone, and I mean everyone, no exceptions, to remember that none of us are flawless.

We've got dents and we've got quirks, so the fit ain't factory tolerances...

Edited June 23 by Night Sky

[Longhaul 8,423]

Constantly,  which is why I don't join in on a lot of conversations. 

[lovelyfantasy 44]

It happens all the time TwT…

English isn’t my first language !

[Street Light 745]

mmmmm sometimes :3

i think that's natural though? i dont rlly let it limit or inhibit me, though. i try to say what's on my mind, but if there's a degree of filter required then i'll try to tone it down a little uwu for the most part though, no i try not to hesitate or overthink the things i say ^~^

a caveat to this is it only really applies if i say anything at all >:3c i tend to be a bit more shy, and so generally i don't really say much to feel self conscious about in the first place

Edited June 23 by Street Light

[KPackratt 752]

I'm always afraid of saying the wrong thing, especially at a time where clarity is important for the subject I'm discussing.

[Ganondorf8 11,707]

I've gone and said the wrong thing way too many times to the point where I don't even remember how many times I have done so. At times, I am afraid of doing this because I know that my brain isn't working quite right thanks to my disability. Other times, I just accept the consequences there and then.

[fim y 131]

You shouldn't think that way. People aren't going to criticize everything you say. Sorry if I sound rude saying this. I don't mean it to come off that way.

[Dawnshine Wonder 2,793]

Sometimes, when it comes to misspoken words or difficulty getting the words out you are trying to say, it's on others to give you a chance to clarify or correct yourself instead of rudely interrupting you every time however. Sometimes people may interrupt you out of spite or passive aggressiveness, sometimes not, but I know well enough about you by now Snoopy Fan, that you do not fall into the category of rude or spiteful, you're more polite than most people I know, you even avoid using expletives and slurs which is nice, and is a good measure of considerate behavior toward other people, so I do trust you.

Language and how we use it is important, however as Night Sky said, it is also important to recognize everybody has their flaws.

It is also important to remember context and things like neurodivergence and disorders which can affect people's ability to tell others what they're really thinking. Treating people with compassion is fundamental for a positive outcome, and we should not assume other people have bad intentions just because what they said bothered them.

 

[Treeglow Flicker 14,248]

Pfft! I'm definitely in the all the time club. Worse when I feel like I'm blabbering on about myself. Lacking company for years does that though. 

[Sparklefan1234 180,599]

41 minutes ago, Treeglow Flicker said:

Pfft! I'm definitely in the all the time club. Worse when I feel like I'm blabbering on about myself. Lacking company for years does that though. 

Then I broke you out of that lonliness. 😉

[Dreambiscuit 11,314]

Sure, I used to obsess over it. But now, with so many people desperate to be offended by anything, it seems impossible to say anything at all. So I simply don’t worry about it anymore. 

[Dawnshine Wonder 2,793]

5 hours ago, Dreambiscuit said:

Sure, I used to obsess over it. But now, with so many people desperate to be offended by anything, it seems impossible to say anything at all. So I simply don’t worry about it anymore. 

I know that feeling, I've seen this situation play out many times I distance myself from it. People cannot even make a satire without a group of people getting upset about it enough to demand its censorship anymore. TV show creators are constantly walking on eggshells to baby the general public, and this absurdity even affected My Little Pony Friendship is Magic. The point of entertainment is to have fun, but it is not fun when others kick up a fuss for nothing.

[Iforgotmybrain 7,166]

With people I don’t know very well, yes. Very much a case of not wanting to come off the wrong way or say things that could be interpreted wrong in any context, which tends to lead to more wordy replies vs closer friends and family.