High School Relationships. Good or Bad?

[Spark_Vision 28]

Well hopefully this is a good enough topic to get people involved.

So basiclly this applies to any relationship that consists of one or 2 people under the legal age for sex. ( this is not all about sex)

Whats your opinion on it? And are u currently in a relationship like this?

[Zygen 6,066]

i've never been in any relationship myself.

 

And i won't get into any relationship of any sexual form until i'm married, its a personal choice of mine so yeah, not discussing that here though.

 

As far as relationships in general, i find they fail alot of times, frankly i'm a bit scared to even bother with one, since they usually fail, sure its required to learn to fail, but the thing is alot of times people hate you after you break up with someone, and i don't like making enemies, especially since alot of people i'd date have friends i don't want to hate me.

 

So frankly i don't know if i'll ever really date anyone in highschool ;/. I'm not really on anyones mind i'm sure anyways, so i don't think anybody's really dieing to go out with me or any crap, therefore i guess it really doesn't matter since nobody would really want to go out with me anyways, besides for pitty reasons maybe.

[Gone Airbourne 21,977]

High school relationships.... I have very mixed feelings towards only due to personal experience. 

 

But I mean I had a lot of friends in high school who dated and things went well for them. So its just different for every person. Personally I dated one girl in high school for a couple of months then I started to notice I was only having my heart get played with while the girl I was dating was constantly flaunting herself to other guys... 

 

Had a similar experience with a girl i was getting to know about a year ago at work... but after that relationships have severely dulled to me. It only takes a little bit of pain to numb someone. 

[MissDashie 275]

I've had a smattering of relationships in high school. This might just be my personal experience, but I found them to be fine. I never thought any guy I dated would be 'the one', but they were fun, nice for a time, and I make a habit of remaining on good terms with my exes, so I've never really had to deal with messy breakups. 

 

So in a blurb, I find them to be fun, harmless, and in most situations, not of much consequence in the grand scheme of life.

[BronyLogic 17]

Well, here's my analogy: God has his plan set out for me and I just have to follow it. If his plan for me is to have a family, so be it. But who's to say that I shouldn't start looking? I should at least try at the very least. Believe me, I'm an egghead who's taking a bunch of advanced classes. I usually don't go out of my way to admit my love or anything...well long story, not gonna discuss it here. I do believe that God does have that plan set out for me, it's just an instinctual feeling.

[Champion RD92 8,658]

Hmm, I wasn't in a relationship in high school...

 

But anyway, I think having relationships in high school is okay, but any younger than that, is maybe a bit too young.

[Guest]

I graduated last year, I was in 3 relationships in High School (one being 2 and a half years long) and other than boys can be immature, they wasn't a problem with the fact I hate a relationship IN High School. I wasn't distracted or anything.... and distraction from grades is the main problem I'd imagine...as long as there's none of that, I don't see a problem.

 

As long as you're happy and able to handle it.

[MelancholicMemory 2,025]

These relationships are natural and happen all of the time. I see them as preparation for real relationships. They're often kind of shallow though. Yes, some high school sweethearts stay together, but most of the time it doesn't work out. These relationships are fine and dandy. Just don't treat your high school relationships too seriously, guys. Have fun with your high school years!

[Rockymoo 2,137]

Don't take them seriously. Nobody in high school is likely to be "the one", but dating in high school was fun while it lasted. When it wasn't drama-filled, at least. It's kind of a double-edged sword.

 

On the plus side, I'm on good terms with a lot of the girls I've dated. We aren't besties or anything, but we say hi to each other when we bump into one another or have the occasional text conversation. Most of them. Not the crazies.

[MLP Moth 224]

Highschool relationships: pointless, nonproductive, stupid, short, overly desired. If you're lucky a highschool relationship may last a year. This is coming from a guy. Girls he may seem to love you(if you are in a relationship) now but once he gets inside your pants he's going to leave. Sorry but that's the case for most of them. Focus on school and ponies. No need for a meaningless relationship at the start of your life.

[Galen 1,354]

On the one hand, I've never had a high school relationship. In fact I've only ever been in one and that didn't even last long due to very peculiar circumstances, and it was relatively recent. Virtually every girl in my class deemed me unsuitable for dating because I wasn't one of the cool kids as I was too much of a geek. It still pisses me off sometimes but meh.

 

On the other, I'd passed on an extremely good opportunity to be with a really wonderful girl at the time and I'm almost certain I'd still be with her now if I'd actually bothered to even try, so I guess it had also been my fault for not actually trying to pursue anyone as opposed to no one actually wanting to date me, possibly because I was too scared to make a commitment even if it would only be temporary.

 

Considering the circumstances I've been through, I'm most inclined to say that high school relationships are actually things you should welcome because it gives you a chance to grow and learn about yourself and other people so that you don't make horrendous mistakes in the future. I had to learn that lesson the hard way. I wouldn't think anyone you date in high school would be the one, but then, that goes even for adults so it's a rather moot point. Not that I'm saying you have to have a high school relationship, but it's not something to shy away from either. We live, we grow, we learn, and we love. Fear of these things is absolutely normal, but overcoming them is how we grow.

Edited November 12, 2013 by ~Chaotic Freedan~

[Moonlight 7,286]

I have never been in a relationship before but from what I've seen, my opinion on High School relationships are pretty low. People assume the one they're dating will be "the one", even though they're not. I have to constantly put up with my friends dating someone and pronouncing their love to the other only to break up with them around a month later, and then I get to put up with their whining. You should be focused more on grades other than which guy/girl is the perfect match for you. If it does work out, great, good for you, just don't expect a whole lot out of it. Personally, I'm getting sick of bitches saying they found the one every single week.

Edited November 12, 2013 by Michael De Santa

[Fluttershyfan94 5,742]

I think they're good as long as you enjoy it and it's not causing you too much distraction. If both partners think it's fun I see nothing bad about it.

 

Personally, I've never been in a relationship so I don't know from personal experience. I think there are many reasons why I've never been in one. Some of it my fault but the other half not. I've just never developed a crush.

[Keezuw 107]

I guess I'm one of the few lucky ones..

Got into a relationship when we were 15. (We were 'accidentally in love'. Neither of us wanted to love or be loved... But we just happened. He didn't ask me out or anything either.) I know, that might be young for relationships, and could be a distraction in school, but somehow my grades and self esteem improved a whole lot. Four years passed now, and we're still together. We've dreamt and planned our future lives together too. No, we've never had any sexual moments. We've talked about having children one day though. Two years ago, I moved back to Asia.. but we didn't want to end it. Long distance, time differences, and busy schedules suck~ D: But our relationship got stronger. We won't be able to be togethertogether until I'm done with school here and move back to the US, and when he feels he's "stable" enough to start a family. :c

[Inactive01 5,299]

I knew of a lot of friends of mine who were involved with high school relationships, and many of them failed miserably. I think it was mostly because they all had to move out to universities at different countries, making it really difficult for them to maintain such a relationship. I have seen high school relationships thrive however. But more of them fail.

[Zekromic 1,054]

it's not that I don't believe that HS relationships can't be meaningful, but those case are rare and far between from my experience. Most of them only want to score how many pants they lower, or to get popularity, etc etc etc. Personally, I don't regret not having a girlfriend so far, none of them were worth it. 

[Candy Blaze 119]

Focus on school and ponies. No need for a meaningless relationship at the start of your life.

Wow! That is exactly what I always say XD

I think that as long as one knows how to handle relationships and their grades, they're fine. I can't even handle my love for ponies and school at the same time But I'm trying my hardest in school. I wouldn't date any one not only because I'm not the prettiest flower in the bunch but because I want to keep being an innocent child who doesn't have to deal with boyfriends or crushes.

[HoopHoof 137]

It's healthy to explore and be in relationship when you're teenager. It let's you know what you want in another person and you get to learn from any mistakes you may have done.

 

I see HS relationships as learning experiences and plus it's great fun *wink* *wink* *nudge* *nudge*

 

But hell, I'm a highschool student, what do I know? 

Edited November 12, 2013 by HoopHoof

[Spark_Vision 28]

Huh... Did not expect the overwelming number of people to be against it. I mean ive been in high school relationships, yeah none of them have lasted but they were still fun while they lasted.

 

I think that they helped me become a better person and figure out what kind of person i really want in life.

[Rough Pathway 157]

I'm only in 9th grade and I'm homeschooled so I don't have any personal experience but I think high school relationships are too much of a distraction. Most high school relationships never last and are very shallow. Most people are very immature in high school, too. I think its more important to focus on getting good grades since how good you do in high school affects the rest of your life. Relationships in high school aren't completely bad, since it helps you gain experience and helps you to know how to deal with future situations, but for me personally, I'm not dating until college, if even then.

[HoopHoof 137]

All in all I don't think it really matters when you should start dating or who you should start dating. People should go at their own pace and shouldn't be forced to go into a relationship because everyone else is doing it or be judged for having one. 

[Spark_Vision 28]

I mean i know alot of people who are in good highschool relationships. there a sense of emptiness that you feel during that age and its a terrible feeling. Personally from my experience, the worst thing you can do is tell someone youll always be there. Because thats a very hard promise to keep.

[Scootalove 10,689]

I've been in a relationship in high school, it went pretty well in my opinion and I would do it again if I wasn't preoccupied with all of the homework that I get in 11th grade. So, high school relationships depend on what you make out of them and how your relationship is as a whole.

[Moved to Elsewhere 11,331]

I'm okay with high school relationships since there is at least a bit of maturity and from looking around my high school they seem to at least last a decent time. It's middle school relationships I don't like. Seriously, from what I remember from seeing couples in middle school is that they would just hold hands, kiss each other good bye before getting on the bus and dance at the 8th grade dance. They usually lasted about a month or 2. Wow good thing I didn't have a relationship in middle school because that sounds boring

[Cygnus 60]

I don't see any problem with it in moderation, since high school is a time when life and interpersonal skills in general are budding. I think they're very good because they're not serious and not likely to last, since that allows teens to test their ideas of what they want and develop some skills for more intimate relationships. When they enter the more serious dating scene of their 20's and 30's people are looking to get married and start families, and many will be looking for someone who knows how to handle themselves in a relationship. A lot of the dumb ideas will pass with age; others with experience.

 

I have mixed attitudes on sex and sexuality in high school, but realize that they're going to be having sex whether I approve of it or not (my friends certainly did) and would be glad for them to have access to information (not hype) about sex and safe sex. The only thing that worries me is that I think teens are feeling pressure to have sex and that it may be getting painted as something to be careless about. I've seen topics online from 14-year-old girls who feel pressured because their friends have already lost their virginity, and that's not something a girl that age (or any age!) should have to worry about.