Please be gentle with yourself. I know it can seem personal, but Mods simply adhere to the Guidelines and offer a re-direction - not a public callout to humiliate or slander but usually a DM to inform and sometimes a warning if the DMs are not working. Even a warning is not a bad thing, however, I know it can feel pretty unpleasant but it is more to inform than to judge.
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As for myself, I am feeling pretty negative about the fact that I may have accidentally hurt my friend's feelings by bringing something up in passing that he did not want to remember. Even though I brought it up in passing to something relevant happening today, I think I could have done better in being more aware of his feelings and trying to be an overall better friend.