Has a "friend" betrayed you?

[Crimson storm 1,872]

Yes he betrayed me in high school  he was my best friend in middle school, so I cut all ties with him, luckily I made new friend right off the bat,

Edited December 30, 2019 by Crimson storm

[fare67t 243]

Dunno if I've already posted on this thread or not, but of course.

I have this one online friends that NEVER fulfills his promises, and never acts like a true friend.

Make plans to meet up on a game at 8pm? Comes online at midnight saying "OOPS, WENT TO WALMART / NAPPED", showing he doesn't care about anyone's time other then his own

Bring up a more serious topic such as schooling / jobs and/or parents? He always sides with whatever the problem is and acts as if you're being stupid / way younger then you really are

Go into creative mode on a Minecraft Realms server that YOU paid for, after promising you would do 100% vanilla survival with him, even if its around 10k blocks away? Gets super pissed and yells at you, leaves the server, comes back, and silently TNTs / dumps lava on everything you made.

[Treeglow Flicker 14,550]

Oh yes. Several times both individual and as groups.

I remember when I was still only a child, an older friend took me to a park located in a place that I was unfamiliar with. He then told me to stay there while he went away and promised he'd be right back. He never returned. Luckily I wised up and found my way back, despite being scared and lost. Turned out he did it deliberately. Why I now relate strongly with a certain Steven Universe character thanks to that memory.

Other times were through secondary school. There used to be a group of friends I spent time with. Suddenly one day, they started gossiping and turned malicious towards me. They're nothing to me now.

[Jackleberry 1,926]

Indeed, I guess if you can call it a betrayal, since they clearly weren't my friends to begin with.

Basically I was in this group of like 4 people (me included), at some point I started feeling like I was being ignored and neglected, like I was kinda just 'there' and not actually being included in the conversations and such (and yes I tried joining in and making my presence known), so I tried to talk about it with them, and they all acted like nothing was wrong. One even tried to argue that "it's just how they are", that they "weren't the type to go out of their way to invite people" or some crap, meanwhile they had absolutely no trouble doing it amongst themselves, it was always just me being left out.

Might seem a bit mild but I took it very harshly, and I still haven't gotten over it to this day. All I wanted was to make friends and feel like I was a part of something, and I genuinely thought I'd found that with them...

[Odyssey 5,720]

I have, but I was the one burning bridges with them in the first place. Plus at the time, they were in a personal situation that made their life like hell. We were only 15 at the time, so neither of us knew better. 

[Emerald Heart 25,323]

Yes. I had known her for 10 years. We were best friends.

But, it took me that long to realize that she was emotionally abusing me. 

She would guilt trip me, blame everything on me, force me to do things I didn't want to do. She lied all the time, and never told me half of the stuff going on in her life. I loved her like a sister, but being abused like that... I am so sad that it took me so long to realize it.

 

[Olly 1,016]

well, yeah but they were all women, so I should have seen it coming. 

[Clawdeen 25,793]

Yes I have. It sucks when that happens

[Oblivion 20,283]

Sadly yes, a lot of people have betrayed me, I dont really feel like going into the details. 

[Clawdeen 25,793]

Yeah I have had that happen before in the past. This is how I learned that coworkers aren't your friends. Which is why nowadays when it comes to coworkers I see them more as potential adversaries, keep my distance and play my cards right. 

[Starlight Serenade 3,856]

Yes, but you learn over time who you can really put your faith and trust in.

[Meisterburger 1,613]

Of all my experiences.. repeatedly, I wouldn’t call it “betrayal” because none of it was surprising. I always saw it coming, lack of genuine friendship.. Once you sense it’s not going to work, you stay anyway.. out of respect, out of obligation.. not care. And when that moment finally comes, all you can think is, “Good to know I wasn’t alone in that way.” 

Think of it like two fencer facing off. Except one is a coward who waits until your back is turned to strike. A righteous blow. My only mistake was lowering my sword out of mercy, when I should’ve met them head-on.

I suppose that paints me the bad guy, doesn’t it? My heart may be twisted, but my hands aren’t dirty clasped behind my back.

Edited Monday at 07:07 PM by Meisterburger

[Night Sky 1,433]

I wish I could say that only one friend has done me like that, but it's more than one, let's not get too into how many.

I am the problem. 

I stand by what I feel is right. 

It isn't even that I say what I mean and I mean what I say, I can be plenty diplomatic. 

But there are things that I just cannot be persuaded to do or not do.

And so a lot of people have just left me behind. 

Sometimes that happens gracefully, and sometimes not.

Sometimes people just move on, some people feel the need to make gestures. 

It often didn't mean the same thing to them that it meant to me.

Gets me into harms way all the time. 

It hasn't ruined me, but it has certainly baffled me. 

[Clawdeen 25,793]

When I reflect on past stuff with coworkers, people and such who have done these hurtful things I actually have to say no to this question. These people were never truly my friends. True friends of mine would never have done these actions. These were people who I mistook for friends. My real friends would never intentionally hurt me.

[ExplosionMare 27,682]

I've been betrayed plenty of times and I've been the one to betray, before. I try not to do the latter anymore since it was pretty cowardly of me to flee people due to being scared of confrontation. You should really only flee/ghost someone if you're in danger.