Committing to something?

[Padlock-Keys 57]

There are numerous amounts of things that I want to do. I want to write a fan-fiction and I want to play guitar, I want to play piano/keyboard too.

 

I want to draw as well. I want to sew and I have to loose weight for my heart, but I can't seem to be committed enough to do any of these things.

 

Lately I've been loosing my writing muse, the only thing that I had a muse for DX.

 

So what are the things that you're worried about committing to? And also, if anyone knows how to help me get committed to do something, let me know.

 

With all these things, sewing and drawing and music and writing and weight-loss I need like a trainer or something...

 

I kinda want to be good at a variation of things. Though it's getting rid of my laziness and actually doing it is the problem.

 

I even have problems brushing my teeth because of this.

 

So can someone, who is the same way, help me, or someone who is ready to commit to something just help me? DX

[Lightning Fluttershy 1,844]

Don't even get me started... Take a good look because you're looking at one of the biggest procrastinators ever. I started a vector like 2 months ago and I'm like half way finished because I keep putting it off. XD I have a fiction I'm working on but, yet again, I keep putting it off. So I have no advice for you. I have just as bad a problem as you, XD

[StingeMuffin 244]

I tried writing two mlp fanfics a few months back, one of which I actually had an ending in mind, but I failed to finish either of them. I just stopped writing them one day, telling myself that I would take a small break and then continue a day or two later. I think it was because I didn't have any concrete plan for either fanfic, and was just writing them blindly. However, reading them now, I'm tempted to finish at least one of them and begin a new one, but I don't feel like I have much motivation to do so. Maybe tomorrow I will...

[Gamzee Master of the Faygo 20]

sorry this post was a glitch by my crappy computer Sorry Truely my mistake for this one. Please dont think against me for this glitch

Edited October 16, 2012 by Wild Pumpkin

[Hat988 108]

Procrastination is usually caused by a task seeming really easy and mundane or too challenging and daunting. I find you can complete anything if you break it into enough chunks.

 

What you want to do is not write a story, but to write one paragraph today.

 

Doing this also elucidates specificity. For example, how does one 'lose weight'? It is too vague a statement. It is easier to 'replace chocolate with apples', if you get what I'm saying.

 

Patiently take defined steps towards each of your goals. See them on the strategic (competent drawer), tactical (finished piece), and operational (what you need to do today, colouring for example) levels. If it still looks daunting, do smaller steps.

 

It doesn't matter how small the steps get, if you are worried about making snail's pace progress. The point is you are doing something to achieve them, and that is a better use of your time than probably anything else you can think of (your goals can only be topped by other goals you deem more important).

 

Another piece of advice: I find the hardest part of doing something is starting it. Believe in yourself enough to pull through that tough starting bit where everything you do is amateur despite the effort you put in. Try to think of a better way to spend your time... there is none. Read about the subject you want to invest your time in so you do it properly, then methodically and patiently work your way up. Whatever you do, don't associate the steps to your goals with negative emotions (e.g. stress, worry) as that interferes and brings your progress down

 

I hope that helps.

 

Also, ignore anyone who says you should 'toughen up' and 'just do it'. That's just stupid. You are toughening yourself by telling us your situation and getting advice. You should never have to grit your teeth and do something you don't feel like doing before trying to remove the reluctance first. People become much better at what they do when they enjoy themselves.

Edited October 16, 2012 by Hat988

[I used to be a stranger 7,994]

Committed to one fan-fiction, Jesus, and whoever it is that I'm going to get hitched with. For those things, necessary promises have been made.

[Gamzee Master of the Faygo 20]

There are numerous amounts of things that I want to do. I want to write a fan-fiction and I want to play guitar, I want to play piano/keyboard too.

 

I want to draw as well. I want to sew and I have to loose weight for my heart, but I can't seem to be committed enough to do any of these things.

 

Lately I've been loosing my writing muse, the only thing that I had a muse for DX.

 

So what are the things that you're worried about committing to? And also, if anyone knows how to help me get committed to do something, let me know.

 

With all these things, sewing and drawing and music and writing and weight-loss I need like a trainer or something...

 

I kinda want to be good at a variation of things. Though it's getting rid of my laziness and actually doing it is the problem.

 

I even have problems brushing my teeth because of this.

 

So can someone, who is the same way, help me, or someone who is ready to commit to something just help me? DX

 

If you want to learn to play guitar Contact me Ill run you down some simple chords and things atleast help you in your quest to learn to play guitar

[Evilshy 5,091]

For me , starting isn't that bad. It's continuing. Whenever I get an idea for a new project, I get this burst of productivity that generally lasts maybe a day or two, where I'm all excited about the project and how it will turn out. Then, it wears off and I sometimes won't even work on it until I get another big idea for it, which brings a new burst of productivity.

 

Not saying that starting isn't a big problem, as well. I may have numerous unfinished projects, due to the problem above, but I have plenty of unstarted ones, too.

 

 

Also, for smaller things, I think it IS a good idea to just "grit your teeth and do it", especially for things that NEED to be done, like homework, cleaning the house, laundry, buying groceries, etc. They're all very easy to procrastinate, but sometimes, you do just have to say "fuck it, I'm getting this done right now."

Edited October 17, 2012 by evilshEYE

[Lucky Bolt 35,106]

I worry about committing to basically anything because I have a history with commitment issues. Which is also the reason why I never make promises. 

Commitment in relationships is honestly what I struggle with the most. 

[Rebel the Wolfgirl 5,607]

3 minutes ago, Lucky Bolt said:

Commitment in relationships is honestly what I struggle with the most. 

Eeyup.

[Aqua The pegasus 69]

Commitment for me is almost physiologically impossible suffering from both ADHD and Anxiety If you can even get my attention I would probably give you some half ass answer being terrified of saying something long and well thought out, I however when I am by myself in my own little room still can't focus because I have a XBOX oen right in the corner of my damn eye and so much things to do that it overwhelms me, When I write normally I am just typing away and then I see my huge german shepherd just laying wherever and I'm like "Ooo" And I go pet him then I forgot what the hell I was doing so I close out the word doc then I realize I just closed out the word doc but most of the time I get some stuff done  

Edited July 9, 2019 by Rainbowdasher20per

[Rebel the Wolfgirl 5,607]

OK, so I wanna expand on my problems with committing. I have Aspergers syndrome, and one of the pitfalls of such is the inability/focus on anything due to fleeting interests - it's partly why I'm apprehensive to starting my music career - because while I want to (at the moment) focus on 1950s-style rock and roll/British Invasion-inspired pop, my interests and what I'd want to pursue artistically can and will change on a moment's notice.

And as I was agreeing with @Lucky Bolt on earlier, I have commitment issues when it comes to relationships. It's the core reason I'm polyamorous - because, while I am in a happy (and mostly monogamous) relationship with my girlfriend, I'm a hopeless romantic driven by his lust and fleeting desires. Being poly is the only way I can reconcile that with a want to have someone (or multiple people, rather) that I can call my love(s).

Edited July 10, 2019 by Renegade the Unicorn

[Early Sunsets 2,108]

I've always wanted to make music, but I just can't commit to putting in the time to practice. I'm alright at playing music, it's just the composition part that I have a lot of trouble with. I know it takes years of practice to get good at, but I just don't have the determination to put in that much effort without seeing results or improvement.

As for commitment issues in relationships, I haven't really been in enough of those to know if that's a problem for me or not. Most of my anxiety and stuff didn't come up until after my last relationship, so it might be a problem for me, but I don't know yet and probably never will.

I used to have commitment problems with writing as well, but for some reason I've been able to keep up with that this time. I've written about 125k words since February, which is a huge improvement over how long I've stuck with it in the past. Generally I'd get around 10k words or less and then stop. I like to think I'm a fairly okay writer (in terms of legibility and such), and I've seen massive improvements in the other aspects of my writing over the past few months which makes committing to it a hell of a lot easier.

Edited July 10, 2019 by Booker

[Here No Longer 5,281]

Luckily I've been getting better, but I still have quite serious issues with committing to things. I have scrapped a lot of game projects of mine over the course of several years. Though I usually use these scrapped projects that I abandon as a sort of base for future designs, they are different enough to be their own project of sorts.I also wanted to be a writer, but every time I just abandon it every time I randomly get an idea of a book I may write. I get stuck either at some point in the first chapter or even in brainstorming because I just don't dedicate time to it. But now I've actually committed myself to one project and one man. That is DEFINITELY a LOT of progress, but I still don't have the commitment to go through the project doggedly. And as for the man, well, it seems like he puts forth more of the effort in keeping our relationship afloat than I do and he doesn't resent me for it.

 

I never thought about this, but I hear that people with autism also have issues like these, like many others I have. I've been suspecting since high school that I have Asperger's (now just Higher Functioning Autism since it was removed as a diagnosis earlier this decade), and this just adds yet another thing to a long list of things that makes me suspect that I have this issue. Not really going to go into it now though because it is most definitely off-topic.

Edited July 10, 2019 by ~Angel Dust~

[ExplosionMare 18,106]

I kinda struggle with this too. I always end up playing video games instead of finishing up requests (which I DO finish...eventually) or drafting fanfiction. Honestly, for me, I only commit to stuff based on how motivated I feel that day. If it’s something important I usually just tell myself it’ll be over soon if I get it done quickly enough.

[Cash In 22,724]

I do have trouble committing to things, since I'll either end up changing my mind on it completely or get bored by it and rather be doing something else. Relationships are an exception, since I'm usually pretty committed to those.

Edited October 16, 2020 by Cash In

[Meson Bolt 2,649]

When it comes to something like learning guitar, writing fanfiction, drawing, or working out... I mean, I always have issues with those. Mostly because I don't see any form of payoff at first, and so I just throw my hands up and declare defeat instead of mustering through it.

Which is really sad, because I'd love to do all those things, but I just... I dunno. I just don't. :v

[Fasu 551]

I'd like to create fictional history of planet Mars several million years ago, before it's desolation.

[Dreambiscuit 10,589]

Committing to something isn’t hard for me. I’m committed to writing, art and learning a new language. Finding the time to put that commitment into practice is another matter. Granted, I do procrastinate and get too tired to do certain things even when the opportunities do arise, but I usually try to catch up at one point or another. Romantic commitment is the easy part; committing to that is the natural thing to do.