Have you ever had this moment?

[~Sugar Sprinkles~ 638]

I was just wondering if you have ever had this happen to you.

 

I had a friend who I was pretty close to and were friends, but not best friends. I mean, we hung out sometimes and we were a lot alike (Which im surprised we weren't best friends). Well, since 3rd grade up til this year I have known her. Then, this year she like...started hating me o.O like for NOOO reason. I even had my friend ask her and she said that she doesn't like me anymore because im annoying now? Like I have always been the same person, infact, more annoying in the past. I am more mature and sweet and kind now. Im not really mad, Im just a little annoyed how some people can just...HATE you for like..NOOO reason.

 

So, tell me if this has happened to you and what did you do about it?

[Zygen 6,066]

Well I've had some friends come and go I guess. Not that they necessarily hate me I guess. Sometimes people just overreact alot of people I've heard complain that when people get to highschool they "Change" which apparently means they're no longer a good friend. alot of friendships end in the transition really it seems.

 

I myself don't necessarily have any long term friends who just suddenly have hated me, I was homeschooled most of my life though, so I don't have any of my long term friends really anyways, since we moved and I'm in public school now anyways.

 

I did have one of the girls I use to sit with last year who seems a little more.. Idk she seems to ignore me more now, not sure why, she talks to me sometimes, but she seems to sometimes just ignore me. I don't think she hates me though.

 

But yeah, I normally lose my friends after like 2-3 years or so, I think 2-3 is my max, not sure which one. My friendships don't last terribly long so far. I feel kinda left out not having a "BFF" from like 1-3 grade who i still know. Seriously It seems like everyone does, especially the girls.

 

Anyways I'm straying off topic, to answer the question, not exactly, sorta but on a smaller scale I guess, and not really hate per say.

[Betez 1,734]

Once or twice actually. I think people just get bored if the same old thing after a while. I've know this one guy who I've never really considered my friend, but for a while he'll like me, then it's like he'll try to bully me (which he fails miserably at.), then, he'll like me again. It's weird.

[Twister The Twisted 92]

Yeah, ive had this moment, basically almost the exact same other then we were best friends, felt like a stab in the back but i got over it so eh

[Stary Dreams 87]

This happened to me in elementary, and I just left the girl who I thought was my "friend" then never spoke to her again. They don't deserve your pity if they suddenly hate you after all those years of friendship. I got over it after I found actual people who I liked and they liked me back, the people who are loyal and trust you no matter what, and laugh when you fall, or help you out. Those are the true types of friends.

 

Though in my opinion, friendship is as blind as love.

[Virulence 254]

Yes this has happened to me. It is rather annoying but I learned to stand past it. People will be people, and immature. If they don't want you in their life, then that's their problem and their loss on someone sweet and kind.

[Rainblow H. Ash 5,091]

Never had that happen to me, but perhaps your friend thinks that you're acting or doing something that they don't like. I know that I've unintentionally ignored or gotten on people's nerves before, but I always try to sort it out before it gets too bad.

 

Is it bad enough that you can't talk to your friend anymore and find out why you're supposedly "annoying"?

[~Sugar Sprinkles~ 638]

Yeah, ive had this moment, basically almost the exact same other then we were best friends, felt like a stab in the back but i got over it so eh

 

Yeah, Im not really affected by it, its just weird and makes me wonder what I did o.O I never got upset, since we weren't the best of friends, but it was just weird and annoying

 

Never had that happen to me, but perhaps your friend thinks that you're acting or doing something that they don't like. I know that I've unintentionally ignored or gotten on people's nerves before, but I always try to sort it out before it gets too bad.

 

Is it bad enough that you can't talk to your friend anymore and find out why you're supposedly "annoying"?

 

Yeah maybe. I am not really affected by it, but it is rather annoying. Like I didn't make a HUGE deal out of it. I was a little annoyed at first when I found out that she doesn't like me because I am annoying. I am sorry to say to her, but she has been rather annoying because she tries too hard to fit in and on facebook, she CONSTANTELY posts stuff like EVERY 5 minutes and bitches and complains. Oh well, meh!

[Rainblow H. Ash 5,091]

Yeah maybe. I am not really affected by it, but it is rather annoying. Like I didn't make a HUGE deal out of it. I was a little annoyed at first when I found out that she doesn't like me because I am annoying. I am sorry to say to her, but she has been rather annoying because she tries too hard to fit in and on facebook, she CONSTANTELY posts stuff like EVERY 5 minutes and bitches and complains. Oh well, meh!

 

Sorry to hear that. I suppose that perhaps your current personalities are just not meshing well; if she's annoying to you, perhaps it's a two way street?

 

I'm not sure. But I can sympathize with being annoyed at people who sit on Facebook and complain all day. Gotta lot of those people on my friend's list.

[simba86 1,541]

you just described both sides of my family besides my parents, my parents are great but my other relatives  suddeny hated me and my parents for no reason and they have snobbed us for the last 15 years

[Tank the tortoise 262]

I find that these often sudden changes are more an aspect of them rather than you.  Basically they have encountered a crossroads in their life that leads them away from you.  This is not your fault.  The fact remains that in all likelihood sudden shifts in how they perceive you are based around something that is going on with them that may have little to nothing to do with you.

 

My suggestion in situations like this is try to forgive and forget and continue to offer your friendship.  If in the end you decide that this is not going to work out and you can no longer agree with one another then part ways.  Never hold grudges over something like this.  Who knows maybe a few years down the line your paths will cross again and you can return to the way things were.

[lincolnshirepony 527]

I've lost a close friend before for whatever reason. I can't figure it out exactly why. She just started acting insanely rude around a year ago and it got harder and harder to be her friend when she kept snubbing me. Eventually she just stopped talking me and I stopped trying to talk to her, because it was too much to keep trying to be her friend when she was going to treat me like dirt. Part of me wonders if I should try to talk to her again just see what went wrong or set the record straight for both us. But I'm not sure how productive that would be or if she would even be willing to talk to me. 

When it comes to people like that, sometimes the friendship can't be salvaged. It sucks to let a close friend go, but when they're just going to be mean, well... better off without them. 

[Avatar tag: shipping 299]

I know that feel, when I was in high school my best friend just up and started hating me. When I tried to talk to him, he would ignore me. We were practically brothers, we were friends since elementary school. When we stopped being friends, it felt like my heart had been ripped out of my chest. After a while I realized it was kind of a blessing in disguise, I had spent so much time with him that I had ignoring my other friends and it allowed me to get to know them more. Recently, he has been acting like nothing happened. Like we were still friends. At first I was bitter about it and wanted nothing to do with him. But now, possibly with help from MLP, the bitterness has turned to indifference. If he wants to be friends again, we can start over. If not, great I don't need him.

 

Short version: Is someone like that really worth your time? I moved on and found many more true friends.

[Harmonic Revelations 8,835]

I distance myself from people often so that I can avoid this exact situation. I suppose since people change, it should come as no surprise that people will eventually move on.

[d-_-b BassPony 11]

Yeah, it happened to me freshman year, but I only knew him during freshman year. So I guess I don't really have much to say about it

[Flutterdash. 52]

Yep, I pretty much experienced this. I don't really like to talk about it though. I'm sure everyone else has too. It's normal for this to happen since your interests and hobbies change as time passes, as well as your friendships. Sad, really.

 

Just remember this quote: "True Friendship isn't about whom you've known the longest. It's who came and never left your side."

[Greyeye 10]

You may have at some point come off as intenser. It could be as simple as forgetting plans you had with that person or a lack of interest in the things they find important. Even if you apologize some thing like that remands all ways gnawing at the back of there mind when ever taking to you.

The worst part of this scenario is they may never tell anyone how they feel about it.

[Lunas Husband 2,777]

It's happened to me once, for some reason a good friend of mine just stopped wanting to be around me. Drove me crazy as to why she didn't want to hang out. but I guess some ponies change who they are and change who they wish to call their "friends" sucks but ahh its life.

[The Mane-iac 1,648]

Can't say I've ever had someone I considered a friend just start hating me. I've never had many friends growing up, always kind of been the odd one out until senior year of high school when I moved to a different school. All my friends from school have moved on though, and I'm not really the openly social type IRL so... well let's just say I don't have to worry about this happening to me anytime soon.

 

I suppose this sort of happened with my ex and is why we ultimately split. I wouldn't say she actually started hating me, but the shift in attitude and way she acted towards me was somewhat sudden and not like the her I knew. With what all was going on that I found out about, I'm pretty sure it had more to do with what was going on in her life away from me then something I did. Which goes along with what Tank said up above, something I completely agree with. It's usually them, not you. Just don't think too much about it and put them out of your mind, they will either seek forgiveness someday or won't.

 

Although, the logical conclusion about your friend is that she has been discorded. 

[DragonKing235 198]

Yes all my friends got mad at me for something that i did not do because some a hole told them that I was saying mean things behind there back so i found that person and kicked his but so did my friends lol

Edited January 24, 2014 by DragonKing235

[Onylex 2,837]

Lol it sounds like teenage girl drama! XD

[Neon Fire 473]

I've had a friend get mad at me for no reason and go to the point of insulting me and removing me from Skype. He was a good friend but after the most recent thing, I don't want to talk to him after the rude things he said to my best friend.

[Smarts 1,622]

Every friendship I ever had turned out like that, except for one and only one. We would be friends and not even a week later, they would hate me and pretend I never existed. I grew used to it and just accepted that's how I'm meant to be treated. Only one friend has stuck with me for three years and he still calls me a friend. I'm surprised, but won't complain. If he still wants to be my friend, that's fine with me.

[SS Patches 138]

i'm not really much of a person with IRL friends but i do have a friend who i think is starting to not like me anymore and they know that i know the reason behind it but we're still friends though conversation gets weird and i just don't like it but meh that's life i suppose.if you don't feel like your friends are being the friends they used to be just don't even bother trying to make things be as they were between the both of you most of the time it's futile and just a waste of time, breath and energy.

(Hopefully that last part didn't make me seem like a prick)

[Tigerpop198 696]

Yes it's happened to me before. Lots of people are only friends for a while, then it fades. When it happens to me, I don't really get mad, because it doesn't bother me.