Do you believe this?

[~Sugar Sprinkles~ 638]

I always been told my entire life that if a boy/girl bullies you, then they like you or something. Do you believe that?

 

No, I do not currently have anyone bullying me, for I am not in school and no one really talks to me anymore, but I have some friends who deal with this stuff.

 

I just did not know, for some people can really bully you a little too harsh. I did have guys who bullied me in the past, but I was told that and thought "Nah, there's NO WAY they like me." Not that I cared, because the idiots who bullied me, i'd prefer them to leave the country and leave me alone forever. I just wanted to see what everyone else thinks.

 

Do you believe that? Or is it a bunch of silly willy lies?

[Frostgage 7,975]

I'm no expert on the subject, but if I liked someone that's not how I would go about showing it. I think it's more of a cliche than anything.

[Ribbonfree 2,383]

That's a legitimate thing pre-pubsecence, and to an extent post. When someone is emotionally immature they're normally incapable of properly discerning that they actually like somebody, and thus they channel that like into dislike and verbal teasing. I think the line ends when it becomes physical bullying. In that case that person is just genuinely hating on you. I remember that I was a very catty kid and almost all the girls I'd pick on were actually ones that I, in hindsight, was crushing on hard.

[Scootalove 10,689]

I don't believe it. I can hardly believe that if someone bullies another person, they like them. It's more of something that I never thought about at all, but it sounds interesting.

[Violet 37]

Nope, I do not.

If I like someone I flirt with them/directly tell them/see if they feel the same.

I'm direct...I can't help it. If I need to get my point across, I will.

[Khaoios 1,970]

I don't believe it, tbh.  However, there are some cases where girls bully you in a good way to get your attention, but most of the time, they are bullying you b/c they just got a bug up there asses b/c you are not part of their so-called "clique".  I know, and I've experienced it in my area where its very cliquey.

 

 

Its truly sad to see how much hatred and evil is on this Earth

[Sir Xarthas VI 470]

It doesn't literally mean they'll bully you. People are just too stupid to say the whole sentence, which is: If a person likes you, they'll sometimes treat you differently. Why must people always take things the wrong way? (I'm not saying you are, I'm saying other people are.)

[Guest]

Bullying? No. Teasing? maybe.

 

Teasing, actually, yes. Mainly when you're around 12 and under though. But legit bullying? No, I don't think that's a sign someone likes you.

 

I tease my boyfriend still to this day, because it's cute and funny... but I wouldn't be "harsh" with someone I like.

[Gone for good 1,593]

Nah. As an old bully in middle school and a little bit of high school that's totally not the case. Truth be told, the people who I actually liked I'd leave alone. The thing with bullying is that if you have any opening at all, the bullies will go after you and that opening can be ANYTHING. I don't have to like or hate someone to bully them or hell I don't even have to know who they are to call them gay emo faggots that need to go kill themselves right now for wearing a my chemical romance shirt.

I'm not like that anymore but you get the point.

[Remi 1,309]

This is true, except in grade school cases. Kindergarten through around 3rd-4th grade, the kids do not know how to express their feelings towards one another, and more commonly, liking a girl/boy is viewed as 'gross', thus they seem aggressive/rude towards the opposite sex as to confirm to their colleagues "No, I don't like girls/boys, gross.", but at the same time, obtaining the attention of their admiration, which is the goal.

Later on in life, this loses truth, primarily in high school, the liking and being attracted to [x] is more common, thus more openly expressed. Perhaps some do still use the 'bullying method', but it is normally unsuccessful. In your case, this is most likely not true, and the persons in questions are simply bullying you.

[N.W. 3,619]

Teasing It is true for younger ages not for bullying, such as in elementary school, but anything after that.

Edited March 28, 2014 by Sergei

[Sir Fluffernutter 435]

Let me rephrase that for you, if a boy/girl bullies you, they probably hate you. I don't see why anyone would treat you like shit if they wanted to have a stable relationship with you. Despite this, it may actually be true for the younger crowd(about 3rd grade and younger.) Children sometimes don't know how to express their feelings properly, especially with "liking" someone.

Edited March 28, 2014 by Sir Fluffernutter

[Neon Fire 473]

It's usually only for younger kids, and it's more teasing than it is really bullying.  When I was younger (like 11 or 12), I had this kid who teased me all the time.  He was still nice but would do stupid things like that.  And of course being younger, I was sensitive so it can seem like bullying.  But no, it wasn't bullying.  He did tease me and did actually like me.  So really, no, someone who bullies you does not like you.

[Katana 298]

It's entirely possible that some of the "bullying" I experienced as a kid was actually intended to be "leading-on". Sadly, I always interpreted it as bullying, and became distrustful and afraid of most of the people around me.

 

In some way, I think it's a result of an over-attempt of projecting confidence. Being all demure and shy about approaching someone can make you seem "cute", and maybe even get someone interested in you, but it puts you down a level. While you might boost their esteem ("Wow, this person is REALLY nervous about asking me out! I must be HOT!") chances are it makes you a less preferrable candidate.

So, as a result, people project a mood of "Yeah, it doesn't MATTER to me if you're interested in me or not. You're gonna be around me a lot one way or another though cause everyone else is too lame to hang around with, so at some point you might as well ask how I got this SICK scar on my arm and then we can start bonding."

[Dj-Shadow 0]

Sounds a lot like like tsundere, which I don't believe in, but it's when someone admires or has a crush on you, but can't admit it, so instead they tease or mock you to hide their feelings, just because they're too shy to say otherwise.

[M'aiq the Liar 5,804]

It can happen quite often in a younger, highschool esk area. When expressing intimate feelings can both get you hurt and mocked. And of-course it is a classic sitcom cliche, and all sitcom cliches had at least some basis in reality. But I mean, if some ho jus be raggin on yo shit constantly, gurl aint inta ya, shes just a naggy ho. 

[Moonlight Magician 494]

Sounds kind of far fetched to me. I wouldn't really think someone would bully you because they have special feeling for you. Unless they do it to get your attention of course!

[OptimisticNeighsayer 478]

I can't help but think of an exchange in one of the Pokemon episodes where Ash and Misty fight:

 

Nurse Joy: They say if two people fight, they really care about each other.

 

Ash & Misty:  Me care about her/him?  Hmph!

 

 

Of course, it's imperfect to this situation, but the attitude still applies.  Nope, no one who bullies actually likes the person they are bullying-- that's the whole point.

Edited March 28, 2014 by OptimisticNeighsayer

[Sigma 768]

How I see it: There are people who tease, and people who abuse.

 

Tease:

*Takes binder and hides it somewhere where it's safe.*

Hey, have you seen my binder?

Nope! *Grins.*

*Puts hand on hip.* Did you hide it?

Mmmmaaaayyybeeee.

Give it.

*Gives back binder.*

 

Abuse:

*Takes binder, rips out pages, and drops them in a sink so they'll be soaked beyond repair.*

Dammit! that was all of my notes and homework!

Oh well, suck it up! *Thumps the victim's forehead and walks off.*

 

Do you see the difference?

[Zhortac 1,474]

It's a total load of crap. It was a lame reason, to justify when girls would pick on boys, since boys were not supposed to be mean to girls, so this load of bull was made. It stuck so much, it stayed and went on to be told to girls that got picked on by boys...

[Fender 1,283]

Bullying and casual teasing are two different things. Want the easiest way to know it? Just ask someone if they like you. 

[Rainboom Dash 1,056]

Bullying someone because you like them? That sounds very confusing. Don't believe it.

[~Chaos~ 3,967]

Definitely wouldn't say that bullying would show that the person likes you. I could see it if it was very playful and innocent teasing, but not actual bullying.

[Spartan 433]

If the kids are really young, than yeah it kind of does mean the person likes you.. but later on, no.. it doesnt and they must be dealt with.. somehow

[Diva Pony 345]

I agree with most.  Bullying is pretty severe.  Teasing is a different story although some bullies use teasing to make someone think they like them and then use the victim as a joke with their friends.  Then it becomes bullying.

 

I think that what you need to remember most is to ask yourself what it feels like is happening.  If you think whoever is bullying you means it as bullying then they probably do.  Your own gut feeling is the best judge that you can possibly use.  Always trust your gut feeling.  Don't second guess yourself or think you are wrong about someone because people say you must be.