Would you ever date someone who isn't a 10/10

[The Grobien 58]

What the heck is a 10/10?

[Narcissus 355]

I wouldn't base my interest in another person on their looks. Physical attractiveness is just the outer shell. The real person is who's inside it. I don't avoid people I'd consider a physical 10/10 but I don't go out of my way to pursue them either. If someone displays an aspect of their personality that I respond to, that's what draws me in. I'm not going to pretend that I'm immune to attractiveness, but it's a nice little bonus and nothing more. Attractive people may seem by some standards as unattainable, but that's all in the mind of the beholder. We're all just human beings, and beautiful humans have the same basic needs as anyone else. I would happily date anyone who is 10/10 or not 10/10. Simple as that. It's not the deciding factor. If they're approachable and enjoyable to interact with, those are the biggest things I care about.

[Rhythm Red 6,484]

I don’t like to ‘rate’ people. I like people because of who they are, not some number that other people think describes them.  

[SparklingSquirrels 21,348]

Well of course I would. No one is perfect, after all. Everyone has their strengths and their weaknesses.

[Lucky Bolt 35,070]

I would date someone who I think is a 10/10, but maybe he wouldn't be a 10/10 to someone else. I don't like "rating/ranking" people anyway. Just someone who has a great personality and maybe a bonus of good looks is ok with me. If I had to rate my boyfriend, I'd put him on a scale of 100/10, but you know, that's just me. 

[Guest]

I don't know how personality ties in to the shallow way people like to rate other people as OP seems to be implying. My husband was certainly very aggressive when we first met, but I like that in a guy. He's an outgoing person- protective and jealous with a little ego on the outside but a lovable goofball who would do anything for the people he loves on the inside. In terms of looks? Eh... I dunno, average? I fell in love with his personality and learned to love his flaws over time. Even if he is hopelessly stupid sometimes. He's certainly not perfect (and I certainly am not either), but I still married him.

[Ashen Pathfinder 16,161]

Attraction means SO much more than what a number ranking can hope to project. No one is perfect, and over time people generally learn to either get over their own flaws and/or live with the flaws of their partner. Relationships are just a tad too complicated to assign a ranking like that.

[Bo-setsu 26]

I've never dated anyone, so my expectations might be fantastical. But i'd want to find someone considerate and kind, and willing to talk if there's ever a need for it. Someone generous and honest and can make me happy, as well as accept when i'd want to help them be happy, too. I'd want someone to be my partner and my friend above anything else. Everyone has flaws, and we should both be mature and look past them.

Maybe i'm just looking for a friend, first. Friends sound nicer. And without as much pressure.

[Forest 35]

Just my opinion, but trying to rate human beings with numbers is immature, and honestly simplifies things to a pointless degree. No one is perfect, absolutely no one. When you do pick someone to spend your life with, it should be because you love their sense of humor, or the way they do little nice things for you every day, or because they always take naps with you. It should be their personality, their aura, their brain, whatever makes them unique and special and just as meaningful as every other human being. The idea of "beta" and "alpha" is silly, because humans are infinitely more complicated.

Edited March 26, 2018 by forest

[CypherHoof 26,483]

10 minutes ago, forest said:

Just my opinion, but trying to rate human beings with numbers is immature, and honestly simplifies things to a pointless degree. No one is perfect, absolutely no one. When you do pick someone to spend your life with, it should be because you love their sense of humor, or the way they do little nice things for you every day, or because they always take naps with you. It should be their personality, their aura, their brain, whatever makes them unique and special and just as meaningful as every other human being. The idea of "beta" and "alpha" is silly, because humans are infinitely more complicated.

I do think love is supposed to equip you with rose-tinted glasses - the person you love is clearly the best in the world, and nobody else's opinion of them matters

[iceestarz 5,765]

I don’t think I’ve ever really rated someone on a scale like that lol. Or thrown myself on a scale similar to that. 

My fiancé certainly isn’t a 10/10, but neither am I. I don’t think anyone could ever really be a 10/10. Everyone has their quirks and flaws and in turn will never be the definition of perfect. Like although I love my fiancé with all of my heart there are flaws and things about him I don’t like and vice versa.

 

[SharpWit 2,697]

I think that I come off as harsher than most people when it comes to rating systems, and that applies to more than just people's appearances. By my standards, I can barely look at someone who is a 9 or 10/10 because they transcend above everyone else in the vicinity, it almost physically hurts. They are the embodiment of beauty and perfection, the only person worthy to portray the figure of a deity. I couldn't even begin to describe what this sort of person would look like because it's beyond my own imagination. Luckily they are extremely far and in between.

Personally, I wouldn't consider dating someone below what I consider a 5 in my book, but most people fall under a 6 I think thanks to modern means and standards.

Everyone has their own scale, and something to keep in mind is that with some effort or lack of, most people can increase or decrease by a few points. We have the means to change our appearance more than anyone previously could. We should just hope that those who find themselves attracted to us, grow to be appreciative enough of who we really are, even on our bad days, rather than only be satisfied by a façade or temporary improvement, and vice versa.

[Here No Longer 5,276]

Yes, and in fact the only people I have ever dated have been far from 10/10.

I would really only expect at least a ~3/10 to be honest, that is of course it were actually sensible to rate somebody by a number.

 

Edited March 26, 2018 by Whomst'd've

[Pony Flutters 535]

Considering that 6-9 out of 10s are options, I can easily say yes. Although personality is just as important if not more so than appearance. 

Ranking systems are kind of pointless anyway, and a number system is subjective to different people. It's just like a pain ranking system, it's not easy to pinpoint an exact number. 

In fact, I'd be fortunate to get into any kind of relationship at all. 

Edited March 26, 2018 by Pony Flutters

[Forest 35]

2 hours ago, CypherHoof said:

I do think love is supposed to equip you with rose-tinted glasses - the person you love is clearly the best in the world, and nobody else's opinion of them matters

I agree! But once you've lived/been with someone for awhile you see all the good and bad LOL.

[CypherHoof 26,483]

1 minute ago, forest said:

I agree! But once you've lived/been with someone for awhile you see all the good and bad LOL.

Many charming little quirks become irritating habits once the glow wears off, yes

[The Grobien 58]

What the fu? Nobody answered my question?

[Guest]

11 hours ago, Frosty Flames said:

What the fu? Nobody answered my question?

It's a rating. Ten out of ten. 

[Dreambiscuit 9,990]

Whether or not someone is a 10/10 is irrelevant. There really isn't such a thing as perfection. We're human, that means we're inherently flawed. Living with those flaws is what it's all about. Sometimes it's the flaws that are the most attractive thing about someone. Some people are drawn to what I call the 'easy appeal' of others to the exclusion of the really important stuff. I've known guys who hit on pretty girls just because they're pretty, and girls who like certain guys just because they're rich. These aren't the things that matter, they're simply bonuses that are nice but ultimately unnecessary. Unfortunately some people get caught up in such things and overlook what really matters. I wouldn't discount someone because they're intelligent, attractive or wealthy; it obviously doesn't make them bad people. It's simply that these are not the deciding factors. What makes a person a 10/10 is what makes them click with someone else, for whatever reason.

Edited April 3, 2018 by Dreambiscuit

[碇 シンジン 27,432]

I don't really know what is the point of dating if you have no intention of being together. What I see as 10/10 is that the person accepts me for who I am and I don't think 9/10 acceptance is good enough

[Patty Thundersnow 4,174]

Rating people on their looks is WRONG. I could care less about looks. It's personality and smarts that count in my book.

[Guest]

I strongly dislike this "rating people based on their looks" thing in the first place.  I don't really care about looks, though if I'm dating a person, they become the most beautiful being in my eyes.

[Guest]

I can't stand "nice guys".

[Earl Grey Ghost 446]

17 hours ago, Manaka Hitomi said:

I don't really know what is the point of dating if you have no intention of being together. What I see as 10/10 is that the person accepts me for who I am and I don't think 9/10 acceptance is good enough

I agree yet disagree at the same time. Dating at least to me constitutes this:
"Hey, I'm interested in seeing what this person is like" so you hang out a bit, as friends, get to know each other and then if perhaps you start feeling attraction and some romantic intrest, you express your feelings and if it's returned then you date and sort of give your compatibility a test run. If it works out, you either choose to just be together or get married. Your choice.
Dating to me is a trial run. Because trust me, I can speak from experience, just because you make good friends does not mean you make a good couple. ^^;;

Edited May 24, 2018 by Memento Mori

[The Recherche 29,968]

Like many others have stated here; rating a person's worth on a numerical scale is simply outrageous, if you ask me.  While I can certainly say that some folks are more attractive than others, that's not an ultimate judge of their character. Someone's character alone can make someone attractive, if you ask me.