Yes the hiding things and cheating aspect is biiiiig on all them apps. I’m not sure with online dating as far as the websites go as the ones in the past I tried years ago were dead in my area. I know some people like the nice/loving things with people they’re starting to date. I personally prefer someone who would keep it real with me. I got all this personality you can banter with and you just wanna tell me I’m cute? Nah. Not for me. I know plenty of people who like that sort of thing but not for me personally. Not a fan on compliments with my appearance in general really.
I’m sorry to hear you’ve had such a rough time with it as well. Don’t beat yourself up over it too much as like I said I’ve went on some dates with some people who were probably very clearly red flags that I missed. It happens and it sucks.