What if your gf/bf didn't want to be intimate?

[daviddaviddavid 776]

1. I'd still want to be with them, of course. I want children someday, though, so I suppose that part of me would be a bit disappointed; but I'd be okay with it if they were willing to consider adoption or something as an alternative. 

2. Perfectly fine, I have no problem with that.

[aoEAF2FBvC0MIo2Q 3,673]

Something I take issue with is the use of the word "intimate". The one OP is referring to is sexual intimacy. There are other kinds of intimacy. Emotional intimacy is being able to confide in them about thoughts and feelings regardless about how uncomfortable they are. You aren't just going to be sharing your dreams with them but your worst nightmares as well. If that sounds difficult then that's because it is. There are other kinds of intimacy whose names elude me but they basically come back to being able to share moments, experiences and ideas with one another -- both the good and the bad.
Another thing to point out is that physical intimacy and sexual intimacy aren't the same thing. The former is about giving affection -- things like hugging, cuddling and everything in between.
If you're in a relationship and there is no intimacy of any kind whatsoever then you may as well be strangers.

With me personally, now that I've put all of the above in context, I think waiting until marriage isn't asking a lot if all the other types of intimacy are being fulfilled to enough extents. I could say the same for no sex at all. It'd be disappointing, yes, but I think I can learn to live with it if all the other types of intimacy are being met.

[Thuja 3,659]

I guess it works out since physical intimacy makes me uncomfortable sometimes.  There're more ways to have a healthy relationship with someone than having sex with them, at least I think so.

[ShadOBabe 19,011]

As long as I get snuggles and occasional smooches, I’d LOVE it!

Sex is a 100% no for me till I’m married (IF I marry), but heck, if they weren’t comfortable with it even after that, I am so down! That’s not what I’d even be marrying for in the first place!

Break out the blankets and some cartoons, it’s cuddle time! 

[Sherem 4,807]

I cannot hold a grudge with my GF for not wanting to be intimate, but sadly I would have to end it because that part is really a decision that involves maturity and that you really see each other in the light of real love, now I'm not saying that we should have sex all the time and every time I want, It means she is not ready for commitments and that she doesn't see me in that light. And if she doesn't see me in that light means the relationship is not going anywhere, everybody gets turned on by somebody in the end. But to repress it can be as unhealthy as being too impulsive.

[Olly 1,011]

wouldn't be much of a relationship then. People are always trying to discredit or play down the importance of physical intimacy- it's not only important but often necessary. 

[Ittoni 538]

I'm asexual and aromantic, so I just don't care when we are having a good time as a platonic sexfree relationship.   in fact, I prefer sex and romance not to be a part of it.

If I get into a relationship where the other is sexual I'll allow it but I'll need my sexfree time too from time to time because I care about the mental and physical health of my significant other so sure, I can stand hearing you talk for hours about something I don't like because I know that you like it, I can stand having sex with them because I know that it makes them happy,  but I would probably end a relationship if it gets to a point where it becomes an everyday hassle where I can't really have space for my own desires to not doing it either so we can do other things like going somewhere for dinner or playing videogames or actually watching a movie without feeling that I must kiss you right before it starts and ends because otherwise you'll feel undesired (well I say every day but it can get too overwhelming if I expect it to be a constant).

Edited November 26, 2019 by Ittoni

[Meson Bolt 2,648]

Honestly, it really depends on the person, but I feel I'd be okay with it. I'd actually be honored a little bit, because a platonic relationship means that we like each other for who we are, not what we've got in our pants, and I feel like that's a deeper relationship anyway. Of course, there's always religious reasons to not want to have sex until marriage, and if that's the kind of person my partner is I shouldn't stomp on her beliefs like that.

Side note, being intimate isn't the same as having sex. Stuff like hugging, cuddling, kissing, holding hands, etc., I'd still probably want at least some physical signs of affection, and I'd definitely want to give some as well.

[碇 シンジン 27,433]

Doesn't matter if they are invested enough on emotional level

[Envy 6,192]

As the years pass by I am more repulsed by physical contact and seeing as I haven't had a relationship in a very long time, I fear I might be one of those people who might not be able to handle intimacy. So finding someone else who didn't want it might not be so bad?

Edited December 4, 2019 by Envy

[Clawdeen 15,448]

The poll refers to intimacy(which would mean all forms and not just sexual intimacy) but the op refers specifically to sex. I’m going to assume sex was what we’re discussing here.

That being said if I have entered a relationship with them than that means I’ve connected with them on an emotional level. I would want to try to make things work to where we are both happy and comfortable with things. 

[The Kaeya Simp 13,989]

if my partner didn't want to be intimate at all that would be quite sad for me, and I don't imagine a relationship like that working for me anyway

though for my religious beliefs, i am expected to stay abstenant until marriage (this will be REALLY difficult for me though)