How do you react ?

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Are your reactions based on other peoples actions or reactions? Can you ignore what other people did and not to react that Is that possible?

Is it true that negative reactions and actions spawn more negative reactions and actions?

Is it true that positive reactions and actions spawn more positive reactions and actions?

 

Can you choose how to react?

Is it easier to react defensively or negatively when you feel attacked or insulted?

Is it easier to react positively when you feel praised?

 

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I try to react positively to everything and I try to be constructive. However that is hard when you feel that you are attacked or insulted the first reaction that comes to mind is always to defend or attack back and I don't want to accept those reactions. Sometimes they slip by my guard, but I always apologize if I notice that.

 

I feel that many people show the first reaction that they get and that often leads to that endless vortex of negativity, because when you react negatively it's very likely that other people will react negatively to your negative reaction. So every time you see those negative reactions or actions you should try to react positive way to them. You should be kind and understanding. It is harder to react negatively to a positive reaction, because then the person who reacts must seek for negative aspects in your positive reaction. So that they could counter that reaction with their own.

 

Often when you see the positive reactions they don't create such vortex that the negative ones. I think that because negative reactions tend to be stronger and they impact deeper into you.

 

One option is ignore their reactions and try not to react them. This is hard because the stronger the reaction harder it comes to ignore and if you want to ignore all reactions it may become habit and when you see those kind and positive reactions you just ignore them too. That may be the case but not all times.

 

I think that ignore isn't the best option to fight trolls and haters and negative people. Positiveness is always best choice, but it's the hardest. I try to do it but I fail sometimes, because I'm not perfect.

 

 

What are your reactions based on? How do you react? Why do you think you react that way?

[Arylett Charnoa 4,919]

All reactions are based on thoughts. Every time you react, there is a thought behind it. Some thoughts can happen too quickly to be perceived, but that doesn't mean they're not there. A negative thought at something someone said invokes your reaction. Other people don't control your own reactions. You do.

 

That's not to say though that it's everyone's fault that they react badly. Thoughts are difficult to control and require lots of training and practice to do so. Let me focus now on myself because that is what the topic calls for.

 

My brain is pre-wired since childhood to perceive anything that is not outright positive (whether neutral or negative) in a slanted negative manner. Basically, I am VERY easily offended and hurt. It's difficult for me to control, because these thoughts are constantly running through my mind. I can't ignore what other people have said due to this. Over time though, it's become easier for me to get over it. What I CAN control easier than the thoughts is what comes out of my mouth. I generally don't express my offense because it is typically about things people wouldn't normally get offended about anyway. What I do is I either try to coax myself into not feeling that way with positive thoughts, or I go vent about it somewhere safe until it's gone.

 

Negative actions and reactions DO spawn more negativity. It just causes this big circle of negative that doesn't end. Why do you think flamewars exist on the internet? All it takes is one domino. And many people aren't really all that great at restraining themselves or exercising control of their own thoughts. They're even less great at apologizing and admitting that they did something wrong. It is so easy to create misunderstandings and start fights in this world. That is why, even though we all control our own reactions and thoughts, it makes for a much better world that we all be considerate to everyone's feelings and try to be as positive as possible.

 

But honestly, ignoring (as in, not outwardly reacting. It's all right to feel hurt) a troll is probably the best option in my opinion. I would disagree with being positive towards one. Some people don't react well to positivity. Throwing a smile at someone doesn't always work. Me, for instance. If you say something positive in the middle of me being consumed by negativity, I WILL find a way to turn that around on you. It is SO easy to take a compliment and turn it into something negative. Conversely, it's not as easy to turn a criticism into something positive.

 

Prevention is the best way to deal with negativity. If someone is insistent on being continually negative and there's no reasoning with them, (like a troll) then it is best to cut your losses and move on. No reaction in this case is better than a positive reaction. And being positive before the negativity even starts is also best. Because once it starts, it's hard to stop. Your proof? Humanity has had centuries long feuds about ridiculous things people barely remember and when the original starters of the feuds are long dead. Grudges can live on.

 

It is so easy to be defensive and react negatively when you feel attacked or insulted. What is difficult is trying to be reasonable in a time like that. And even if you do get angry and flip out, it's all right. That just means you're human and you made a mistake. Whilst prevention is important and so is your first reaction, that doesn't mean it isn't irreversible. As long as you have the courage to swallow your pride and admit that you made a mistake and apologize for negative reactions, then you're doing just fine. Though I try to go for prevention, it isn't always possible. A lot of the times, I have to make apologies for losing control of myself.

 

For me, it's difficult to react well at any compliments, but I think it is easy for others to feel good about those. I don't see why you would want to restrain that unless you were being arrogant and excessively narcissistic. 

[Darker 1,351]

It all depends on WHAT you react.

 

However, it's very difficult to surprise me. I've already seen almost everything there is in the Internet. A Little advice, don't ever go very far on the Deep Web, there are lots of disturbing things on the deeper parts of the World Wide Web.

 

Or are you referring to other kind of reactions? Let's see these questions...

 

Are your reactions based on other peoples actions or reactions?

 

Sometimes the actions of some people surprise me, specially if it's something I wouldn't see coming from rational people.

 

Can you ignore what other people did and not to react that Is that possible?

 

Yes, it's possible, and I can.

 

Is it true that negative reactions and actions spawn more negative reactions and actions?

 

Yes, sadly.

 

Is it true that positive reactions and actions spawn more positive reactions and actions?

 

Even in my long life in the internet I have yet to see that. Then again, I don't go in a lot of forums and stay there for long periods of time to see it.

 

Can you choose how to react?

 

No, my reactions are based on instinct.

 

Is it easier to react defensively or negatively when you feel attacked or insulted?

 

Trust me, ignoring irrational hate is the best way to avoid more trouble.

 

Is it easier to react positively when you feel praised?

 

I personally feel flattered when I'm praised, and I tend to not give a response to the one who praises me.

 

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I think that ignore isn't the best option to fight trolls and haters and negative people.

 

I don't think there can't be another option, because trolls and haters sometimes follow you, they are just trolling and hating for no reason, you shouldn't say anything to them.

 

Positiveness is always best choice, but it's the hardest.

 

Being positive to trolls and haters isn't exactly a good choice. Trolls and haters are just there to be against you, and most will not try to understand your thoughts.

 

I try to do it but I fail sometimes, because I'm not perfect.

 

No one is... We all fail. Lots and lots of times. I've failed in the past, this present and I will also fail in the future. You just can't avoid doing something wrong.

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But honestly, ignoring (as in, not outwardly reacting. It's all right to feel hurt) a troll is probably the best option in my opinion. I would disagree with being positive towards one. Some people don't react well to positivity. Throwing a smile at someone doesn't always work. Me, for instance. If you say something positive in the middle of me being consumed by negativity, I WILL find a way to turn that around on you. It is SO easy to take a compliment and turn it into something negative. Conversely, it's not as easy to turn a criticism into something positive.

 

 

 

Being positive to trolls and haters isn't exactly a good choice. Trolls and haters are just there to be against you, and most will not try to understand your thoughts

 

 

Trolls, I don't think that their intention is to being negative by just being negative. Their intention is to get people to react to their negative action. So not reacting is the best choice? It seems so. But I think that the trolls seek for negative reactions. They don't go out and hunt for positiveness. They seek negative comments and reactions. So giving them that what they don't want positive feedback and reactions is what I think is the right choice, because they don't seek that. 

 

They can try to turn your positive argument against you, but I think then you should stop  because you've made your statement and arguing over that ,makes no sense at all.

Edited September 20, 2014 by ooBrony

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My actions and reactions are always my own. If i react badly, its because i choose to for amusement. I dont do that anymore though. I dont know how, but i have full control over my emotions. And even if something does make me angry, i have the power to do the right thing and react positively.

 

I dont slip and make bad reactions because i just couldnt ccontrol myself, i either do it because i dont know it is considered bad by the other person, or i do it for other reasons, like protecting my respect. Although since joining the fandom, i dont recall reacting badly even once.

Trolls, I don't think that their intention is to being negative by just being negative. Their intention is to get people to react to their negative action. So not reacting is the best choice? It seems so. But I think that the trolls seek for negative reactions. They don't go out and hunt for positiveness. They seek negative comments and reactions. So giving them that what they don't want positive feedback and reactions is what I think is the right choice, because they don't seek that. 

 

They can try to turn your positive argument against you, but I think then you should stop  because you've made your statement and arguing over that ,makes no sense at all.

what you said is what everyone should realise. :'D

[The Crimson Cross 7,532]

I neither selected yes, or no in this poll.

Most of the time, the way I react is entirely out of my control. Occasionally I will forcibly control the way I react as to steer clear of anything overly negative or criticising, because well there's really no need for that sometimes!

 

I've definitely seen positive reactions ease the atmosphere of things, I can say I've experienced this myself.

[Handsome Changeling 1,851]

I am usually in control of all my reactions like many people but stuff like laughing is more uncontrollable as it is a very hard thing to control, I mean if everyone could control every reaction many people would just force them out instead of it being an actual one.

 

Horror is one of the few things many people can't handle but I can, I am not squimish or scared of Horror but some people would scream at a jumpscare and I would most likely just gasp for a second and get over it.

 

If I was insulted out of anger then I would likely retaliate with anger towards them but if it is joke like then I will play along.

I never really react based on others reactions but my own as I do not like to follow along.

If I am praised I sometimes can't control it, say if it is a compassionate complement then there is I chance I will blush uncontrollable like, just a bit of praise though and I will react in a modest way usually.

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I am usually in control of all my reactions like many people but stuff like laughing is more uncontrollable as it is a very hard thing to control, I mean if everyone could control every reaction many people would just force them out instead of it being an actual one.

 

 

That is so true. Sometimes when something happens to someone else for example they trip down while walking. It is so hard to try not not to laugh. That has happened me before I saw my friend trip down and I knew I shouldn't laugh, but it was hard. It felt so awkward.

[Invincible 2,091]

It's true that sometimes my reactions are influenced by others but that's all there is to it - influence. I have my own set of ideals and standards, and in the end i'll react based on how my will demands me to react. How can i not? I'm the only me, of course.

 

I try to value everyone's opinions when they're in conflict with mine; it's natural to me to defend my position, not out of pure spite but for the desire to grow and thrive from experience. I can be very hot headed, sure, but i can just as quickly calm and come to rational conclusions. I'll quietly surrender and eat crow when i'm bested, because holding on to a notion that was proven flawed out of pride is asinine. 

 

As a child, i found it easier to seek praise and acknowledgement from your peers and elders. As an adult, i genuinely feel insulted when i'm granted a praise not earned. This is because i measure people by their efforts, their deeds and intentions, and not circumstantial conditions. You should seek praise through success and achievements, not chance. On the other end of the spectrum, I don't look too kindly at insults, but i'm not overtly offended either. Insults and taunts are meaningless to me as they carry no valuable information on which i can thrive. On the contrary, to me, a person throwing insults in my direction is challenging my patience and trying to rob my attention. That person will fail - that's all.

 

As far as how i react to events and situations; i try to take all things in moderation and i value the exchange of knowledge and healthy discourse. I value the opinions of others and their experience from their own reactions, as only a fool would pass up knowledge. I try to comprehend all things - even irrelevant ways of thinking and faulty deductions can lead you to good results. Even things which appear in a negative light to others, i will take to heart as a lesson, bitter as it may seem. It's foolish and pointless to dwell on the woes of ours past, and it's vital that we learn and grow by understanding them. As such, i learned to understand what separates a founded reaction from an unfounded gut feeling. Your reactions can be as trivial as mimicking another when you're in an familiar situation, but sometimes these can save your life. Observation is a tool that must be used frequently.