mega thread What is your sexuality ?

[Hansel 1,512]

You are being sarcastic, correct?

No, of course not.

 

 

What I am trying to say is it isnt a Conciuos choice you make but it isnt something you are born with either.

It is like how you form an opinion based on bias that you have based on everything that has happened since you can remember.

 

Whilst it's true that environmental reasons can effect your sexuality, it isn't something you can change in the same way you can change your belief in something. Belief is something you can critically analyse and change based on evidence (or lack of) as well as probability. Sexuality is how you feel. If you become attracted to someone, that isn't something you can help. I mean, yeah, you can repress those feelings all you want, and eventually, those feelings might go away, but it doesn't change the fact that you were attracted to that person to begin with. Saying that, sexuality is something that's fluid, and can shift and change throughout a person's life.

 

You say sexuality isn't a conscious choice, so for arguments sake, let's go with that. If it isn't something you consciously choose, then it's subconscious, meaning that it's something you aren't aware of and cannot control. So... if it isn't a conscious choice and you aren't aware of it or have any control over it... then is really a choice at all?

Furthermore, if you wanted to change your sexuality, you'd have to alter your subconscious desires... which you can't... because it's subconscious.

Edited November 19, 2012 by Hansel

[TheFabulousPony 102]

I am homosexual

What annoys me is that people think I am gay because of ponies... I came out of the closet like.. 6 or so years before I even knew about MLP hahaha

[MeowLord Noraasha 135]

To the subject of choice.

I don't think sexuality is a choice at all.

Is like saying your skin colour is a choice xD

Also I don't think that it's possible to change your sexuality by yourself.

You are what you are and you have to deal with that.

Can't change the way you look for the most part either.

If I had the choice I would not like guys cause then I would have it easier with being accepted and such.

 

You're right but you missed the point. Sexuality is nothing on the outside and it's basicly a very complicated emotion. And you have a power to affect your emotions

 

Whilst it's true that environmental reasons can effect your sexuality, it isn't something you can change in the same way you can change your belief in something. Belief is something you can critically analyse and change based on evidence (or lack of) as well as probability. Sexuality is how you feel. If you become attracted to someone, that isn't something you can help. I mean, yeah, you can repress those feelings all you want, and eventually, those feelings might go away, but it doesn't change the fact that you were attracted to that person to begin with. Saying that, sexuality is something that's fluid, and can shift and change throughout a person's life.

 

You say sexuality isn't a conscious choice, so for arguments sake, let's go with that. If it isn't something you consciously choose, then it's subconscious, meaning that it's something you aren't aware of and cannot control. So... if it isn't a conscious choice and you aren't aware of it or have any control over it... then is really a choice at all?

Furthermore, if you wanted to change your sexuality, you'd have to alter your subconscious desires... which you can't... because it's subconscious.

 

As I said sexuality affect what emotions do you feel towards people. And if you can stop hating someone you can also start loving him/her. I agree it's more of a subconscious thing but if you're aware of it you probably can change something in it. It depends on your will power.

Example: If you're afraid of something and there's no reason for it it's more of a subconscious thing and that you can easily change by yourself or with help of a specialist.

 

Sorry for off topic... if you think I should start a new one to discuss this say so

[Winterbass 763]

im just making a shot in the dark here, i honestly have no idea why some of the gay guys take on a feminine higher pitched voice. i hope i didnt offend, that wasnt my intention.

 

i agree too, dont think too much about anything and just enjoy being you. getting to know yourself is part of the fun of life, so go out and find your cutie mark.

 

They're called camp, they are just a loud minority. I know plenty of people who're gay or bisexual and they are nothing like that, heck, some are even the exact opposite. It's just that camp homosexuals are noticed easier because they dress and behave in such a way that it's very noticable.

 

I implore you to provide some information as to how genetics actually has anything to do with sexuality.

You are not born with a certain way of thinking. Genetics may alter slightly your ability to think and your decision making, but does not implant ideas prematurely.

 

Yes, it is true that even if we are raised up to believe something, find ourselves believeing it, and want to change eventually, we can. Including sexuality.

 

As for the box scenario, yes the person would still have a sex driive I assume, as it is basic instinct to want to have sex. But the person would not know of any other persons and therefore would not be attracted to any specific gender.

 

There is no real evidence out there if sexuality is or is not a factor of genes. The only thing I can tell you that it is probably in your genes, however we should not exclude other factors like your environment, the way you were raised etc.

 

Anyway, 95% of our DNA is not being used, that DNA is more well-known as junk-DNA, this junk-DNA is literally an artifact of our past, people believe this junk-DNA are leftovers from the past and our evolution, DNA that might code for features we had in our past but we do not have anymore because it isn't activated and has become dormant. This junk-DNA mostly consists of long repetitive strands of the same bases. We have 4 bases in our DNA, A C T and G, in our DNA they are put in a certain order, like AGTACATG, imagine if that little piece of code would be pasted a hundred times in a row, that's how junk-DNA looks like. However, and here's the catch. There has been a piece of junk-DNA that has been stable for a long time, a piece of junk-DNA that hardly changes at all. This piece of junk-DNA might still have a use. Many believe it codes for plenty of things we still do not understand, one of them is sexuality. It might or might not code for our sexuality. But like I said, I believe aside from this fact that external factors play a big role in your sexuality. Imagine like walking a path, certain events in your life might make you stray from that path and discover new things. Exactly like how we have found our hobbies, we stumbled upon them, tried them out and enjoyed them. For example, I never gave electronic music a chance, but there was this time a friend of mine listened to it a lot and I got interested, checked it out and loved it! If it weren't for him I would either have never known I would enjoy electronic music so much or would discover it at a later point in my life. I believe this goes the same for ones sexuality.

 

That's it I guess, I hope you can understand what I just said, I'm pretty bad at explaining these kind of things, especially biology.

 

tl;dr -> sexuality might come from your DNA but external factors definitely affect your sexuality too.

Edited November 19, 2012 by Winterbass

[TheBronyHeart 2,641]

They're called camp, they are just a loud minority. I know plenty of people who're gay or bisexual and they are nothing like that, heck, some are even the exact opposite. It's just that camp homosexuals are noticed easier because they dress and behave in such a way that it's very noticable.

 

 

 

There is no real evidence out there if sexuality is or is not a factor of genes. The only thing I can tell you that it is probably in your genes, however we should not exclude other factors like your environment, the way you were raised etc.

 

Anyway, 95% of our DNA is not being used, that DNA is more well-known as junk-DNA, this junk-DNA is literally an artifact of our past, people believe this junk-DNA are leftovers from the past and our evolution, DNA that might code for features we had in our past but we do not have anymore because it isn't activated and has become dormant. This junk-DNA mostly consists of long repetitive stands of the same bases. We have 4 bases in our DNA, A C T and G, in our DNA they are put in a certain order, like AGTACATG, imagine if that little piece of code would be pasted a hundred times in a row, that's how junk-DNA looks like. However, and here's the catch. There has been a piece of junk-DNA that has been stable for a long time, a piece of junk-DNA that hardly changes at all. This piece of junk-DNA might still have a use. Many believe it codes for plenty of things we still do not understand, one of them is sexuality. It might or might not code for our sexuality. But like I said, I believe aside from this fact that external factors play a big role in your sexuality. Imagine like walking a path, certain events in your life might make you stray from that path and discover new things. Exactly like how we have found our hobbies, we stumbled upon them, tried them out and enjoyed them. For example, I never gave electronic music a chance, but there was this time a friend of mine listened to it a lot and I got interested, checked it out and loved it! If it weren't for him I would either have never known I would enjoy electronic music so much or would discover it at a later point in my life. I believe this goes the same for ones sexuality.

 

That's it I guess, I hope you can understand what I just said, I'm pretty bad at explaining these kind of things, especially biology.

 

tl;dr -> sexuality might come from your DNA but external factors definitely affect your sexuality too.

 

Definitely is interesting. The majority of what was said I had recently aquired knowledge of.

 

Now, I don't want to seem shallow or too stubborn in my own beliefs bu, doesnt't it seem just a little silly to think that sexuality comes from our genes? It is true that the arrangement and patterns in our DNA can and will affect how we think and our decisions a lot through out our lives.

 

Just think about it, an infant really does not possess an innate desire for their sexuality. Their genes will play a vital role in how they develope, along with external factors. They both come together , along with personal bias at some point, and form thougghts and conclusions. Many of our thoughts are on a subcouncious level, I believe that sexuality is on this level, therefore it is not exactly a choice, but it is not by your genes either.

[Winterbass 763]

Definitely is interesting. The majority of what was said I had recently aquired knowledge of.

 

Now, I don't want to seem shallow or too stubborn in my own beliefs bu, doesnt't it seem just a little silly to think that sexuality comes from our genes? It is true that the arrangement and patterns in our DNA can and will affect how we think and our decisions a lot through out our lives.

 

Just think about it, an infant really does not possess an innate desire for their sexuality. Their genes will play a vital role in how they develope, along with external factors. They both come together , along with personal bias at some point, and form thougghts and conclusions. Many of our thoughts are on a subcouncious level, I believe that sexuality is on this level, therefore it is not exactly a choice, but it is not by your genes either.

 

Yes, it seems a little bit silly, but genetics are silly. Anyway, I too believe sexuality isn't a choice at all, I should've made that more clear in my previous post. I believe sexuality is something that develops within your subconciousness, the DNA that codes for your sexuality is just a mold, your sexuality doesn't have to be molded into that exact shape, but the essentials are there. Beside this mold you've got external factors like we discussed previously, this is essentially in what way your sexuality will develop into it's final form. I really have no other way to explain it. However, this doesn't mean you cannot become aware of your sexuality or when you develop it, it's just not that noticable. In this thread alone there are plenty of people that are unsure of their own, so it isn't really subconcious, it's just something you don't pay a lot of attention too unless there is some reason to.

[MrDingerFan51 11]

I am a heterosexual, but have no problem with guys who like guys, girls who like girls, guys that like both, or girls that like both. You are who you are, you can't change yourself.

[CloudsdaleCompanion 342]

Sorry for the late response, the huge time difference and school from 8am to 5pm doesn't really help.

 

I have a feeling you're gay. I could be wrong, but I was LITERALLY the exact same way when I was first, well, finding out. =P Anyway, don't let me pressure you into your sexuality lol, this isn't sound reasoning just a hunch.

You were in the exact same position you say? May I ask what you are now?

 

Seems like you like guys in a sexual way but girls in a romantic way.

That's a very good description. But what does it make me?

 

Also what moral do you have that you can't accept being attracted to a guy? ( can't be a good moral imo but I'm not judging)

It's my pure heart telling me not to do it because it would the wrong decision for my life and not my destiny to do so. May sound cheesy but it's 100% the honest truth. It just "feels wrong". It's hard to explain.

Edited November 19, 2012 by CloudsdaleCompanion

[Sky 746]

I guess I should update from my last post. I am definitely a heterosexual. Yea I don't really think I could love guy. Though I have no problem with people that have other sexual orientations.

[Fridge 382]

Well since I work for myself NSFW doesn't really apply lol

 

I'm bisexual, although apparently you can't tell says all my friends.

 

Sorry for the late response, the huge time difference and school from 8am to 5pm doesn't really help.

 

 

 

You were in the exact same position you say? May I ask what you are now?

 

 

 

That's a very good description. But what does it make me?

 

 

 

It's my pure heart telling me not to do it because it would the wrong decision for my life and not my destiny to do so. May sound cheesy but it's 100% the honest truth. It just "feels wrong". It's hard to explain.

 

That makes you bisexual since sexuality is what your sexually attracted to not what you fall in love with. At least that's the dictionary definition.

[~SadisticFluttershy~ 779]

I'm straight, and will only be straight.

 

I don't care if someone is gay or not, everyone is different, but they are still human!(I still treat them with respect, even though its a bit odd)

 

That's all i can really say.

[KhaosSparkz 24]

lol or as I like to say "Being homosexual or Bi (and whatever else there is) is like having a religion, it's their choice" xD which I guess is a fair statement, one reason why I stay away from the BNP, and a really big reason why I stay the hell away from religion xD And also I grew up with it in the family my nan being a lesbian and my Step-grandads brother being gay xD and a sister who's bi-sexual, and a mum who I have no idea what she is xD

 

I'm straight, and will only be straight.I don't care if someone is gay or not, everyone is different, but they are still human!(I still treat them with respect, even though its a bit odd)That's all i can really say.

We all watch my little pony xD Edited November 19, 2012 by KhaosSparkz

[Fizz. 1,078]

Sorry for the late response, the huge time difference and school from 8am to 5pm doesn't really help.

 

 

 

You were in the exact same position you say? May I ask what you are now?

 

I'm gay. =P But really, I was the same way. I desperately wanted to and knew I had to like girls but it just didn't end up the way I wanted it to. Waking up and thinking "I'm gay" doesn't shock or bother me anymore, so I guess I've gotten better.

[Negative 67]

I hope you're not judging people on what sexuality they are! >_<

lol

I am straight, anyway. A straight woman on a mission to find the perfect stallion.

 

I hope you're not judging people on what sexuality they are! >_<

lol

I am straight, anyway. A straight woman on a mission to find the perfect stallion.

[CloudsdaleCompanion 342]

I desperately wanted to and knew I had to like girls

I guess I could agree to this. But you see, I have this idea of how I'm supposed to live my life and what I'm supposed to do. Those "ideas" are chained deep in my mind and I won't ever be able to get rid of them. They are a part of me and my mind needs to be satisfied. I will just call these "ideas" Nigel.

 

Now you have to understand, Nigel ALWAYS wins. No matter what. But now comes the tricky part. As we all know we can't choose our sexuality, it is something you are born with. This is why Nigel is only working in the background and screaming out what I am supposed to do. (like girls, marry a woman later on)

 

There's really like a war going on in me. Nigel is telling me to "do the right thing" while my body is telling me to do the exact opposite. I am so very confused by this.

Edited November 19, 2012 by CloudsdaleCompanion

[Fizz. 1,078]

I guess I could agree to this. But you see, I have this idea of how I'm supposed to live my life and what I'm supposed to do. Those "ideas" are chained deep in my mind and I won't ever be able to get rid of them. They are a part of me and my mind needs to be satisfied. I will just call these "ideas" Nigel.

 

Now you have to understand, Nigel ALWAYS wins. No matter what. But now comes the tricky part. As we all know we can't choose our sexuality, it is something you are born with. This is why Nigel is only working in the background and screaming out what I am supposed to do. (like girls, marry a woman later on)

 

There's really like a war going on in me. Nigel is telling me to "do the right thing" while my body is telling me to to the exact opposite. I am so very confused by this.

 

Yeah, I honestly think you're just denying that youre gay. You really, really want to be straight because it's what the world tells you to be, but your body is saying "uh uh". This is something you need to deal with yourself, but don't live a false life.

[Chaosmagic 12]

Chaosmagic, on 19 November 2012 - 06:08 AM, said:

 

Seems like you like guys in a sexual way but girls in a romantic way.

 

 

That's a very good description. But what does it make me?

Hetero romantic but homo in a sexual way

 

 

Chaosmagic, on 19 November 2012 - 06:08 AM, said:

 

Also what moral do you have that you can't accept being attracted to a guy? ( can't be a good moral imo but I'm not judging)

 

It's my pure heart telling me not to do it because it would the wrong decision for my life and not my destiny to do so. May sound cheesy but it's 100% the honest truth. It just "feels wrong". It's hard to explain.

Haha that reminds me so much of me X3 (you are even as old as I was as I started getting attracted to guys )

At first it felt wrong for me that im attracted to guys and I don't know why either, but then after awhile

I just accepted it and felt better.

You are who you are just accept it.

Also who knows maybe you won't stay like this and it's a phase.

Just go with things as they come.

Edited November 20, 2012 by Chaosmagic

[Agent505 661]

And THIS is why I love bronies, and why im proud to be a part of the herd.

For the sole reason that we just, dont, care.

 

Honestly, you guys name me one other...ANYTHING where people can have a conversation about this kind of thing and not get flamed/hated for it all over the place? Really restores faith in the human race to see there are so many non-judgemental people out there.

[MrDingerFan51 11]

And THIS is why I love bronies, and why im proud to be a part of the herd.

For the sole reason that we just, dont, care.

 

Honestly, you guys name me one other...ANYTHING where people can have a conversation about this kind of thing and not get flamed/hated for it all over the place? Really restores faith in the human race to see there are so many non-judgemental people out there.

 

This times one million. There are very, very, very few Internet forums-heck any place, even in real life- where you can have a conversation about topics like this without it turning into complete madness.

[: Fluttersweet : 60]

I have a boyfriend at the moment, but I have had crushes (and actually currently DO have a crush) on girls, so I know I'm bisexual.

[MustangRacing3 12]

I'm heterosexual although there have been times I've questioned it. When I was younger people called me gay and stuff so that kind of made me question myself and because of being made fun, for a while I wasn't a very accepting of anyone who wasn't heterosexual. But some of my friends helped me get over that and now I accept everyone.

[MrDingerFan51 11]

I'm heterosexual although there have been times I've questioned it. When I was younger people called me gay and stuff so that kind of made me question myself and because of being made fun, for a while I wasn't a very accepting of anyone who wasn't heterosexual. But some of my friends helped me get over that and now I accept everyone.

 

I used to be the same way. I thought I might be gay, because I was a loner from 3rd through 6th and the beginning of 7th grade, and I was always called "gay" and "fag" but I found a strong group of friends, and helped me work through it. After 7th grade, I was never made fun of again.

[Sks_Burns 730]

i think we've all questioned our own sexuality at one point. maybe you like something thats stereotypically gay, and begin to wonder if you might be gay as well. sexuality is one of the harder things to learn about, i mean... how do you know you dont like something till you try it? its one of the more complicated aspects of being human. where do you fit in when it comes to sexual pleasure.

 

im male, i enjoy females, and im pretty sure im straight. not saying i havent been attracted to guys, but ive never acted on it either. its just not my preference. i accept all people and try not to judge, so dont think about it too much and just do what feels right. fuck what people think about it, they dont have to live in your skin.

[EpicMuffinTime 216]

I am straight as a pencil! Maybe even straighter!! Anyway, that don't ,dam I have anything agains't gays. I have a friend irl who's a bit gay. He does act...kind of weird...but all in all, he's a good guy

[Z Star 189]

My boyfriend's name is Chris, so I joke that I am Chrissexual. And he is Zoesexual (pronounced with a long o and silent e, lol) I say that for me, it wouldn't matter what gender you are. I dated a girl in high school.... I had my fun, but I think I have found the guy I wanna spend my life with..... :3 No promises, but we can hope! Always good to hope!