Views on real life friendship

[Brony Time 54]

how do you view friendship in real life what do you think are important values of friendship say right here on this topic oh and hi

[Fluttershyfan94 5,742]

Well to be honest when it has come to irl friendships I have usually never really gotten close to the person. I would say that good values would be honesty, loyalty and you have to be able trust one another. I can't say I've had a friendship like that in real life, meanwhile on the Internet I form a more trusting friendships. I have a hard time trusting people at times and I'm a bit shy and socially awkward so friendships in real life don't last for me. I don't need friends in real life anyway, have plenty of friends on here and the Internet.

 

My only friend outside of the family is just a guy that's fun to be around at times. So that's what I value, if the person is fun to be around then that person is a possible friend. I've stopped trying to form real friendships irl, I talk with people and try becoming friends with them but I never take it the next level of friendship so I have a lot of acquaintances.

 

Also I don't like this "in real life* Internet friends are real friends too.

Edited November 8, 2013 by Fluttershyfan94

[Brony Time 54]

well I have plenty of friends in real life not only do they have loyalty there kind,fun,trusting,and loyal that is the value of friendship

[Winona the Dog 1,984]

I don't have any friends outside of school. At least not any that I can just come over to their house and hang around with. Though what i value most in a friendship is both honesty and loyalty. Those both seem very important in a friendship to me because without trust, a bond cannot exist.

[Rev 38]

To me friendship is such a fickle and fragile thing. One day you are the best of friends and the next they are stabbing you in the back.

Loyalty and honesty are key, traits that seem very rare these days.
 

[Scootalove 10,689]

I do have some friends from home and school that I get along with, but I'm not allowed to go to their houses. I feel that trust, loyalty, and honesty are three components that can build a friendship.

[Static 27]

Understanding. Lots and lots of patience. Empathy. Unconditional love. The last one is totally idealistic but still...ideals are still worth vying for. 

 

The first three are what I've come to value in my...one or two friends. I don't know how many friends I really have. I take my good nuclear family for granted and I just don't know exactly who I know is a friend of mine and who is just another acquaintance. Probably 90% of the people I know are acquaintances, the rest are family or...friends.

Edited November 8, 2013 by Static

[Sabrinie 392]

I think friendship is one of the most important things in life. I wouldn't be here today if it weren't for some of my friends. They've gotten me through some of my most difficult times. I think the most important aspects of friendship are honesty, understanding, kindness, empathy, loyalty, and communication.

[Gone Airbourne 21,977]

Real life friendships huh....

 

 

Most of the friends I had are mostly gone by now. I really only have kept in touch with my one friend since middle school even unto now.

 

For me though true friendships are really rare. But at the state I have become very numb to things happening from "friends" who stab you in the back... You become cold hearted and numb after a while.

Edited November 8, 2013 by Gone Airbourne

[MelancholicMemory 2,025]

Hmm...I don't really have any friends, irl or otherwise, partly because I'm a pretty mean person, partly because I push people away, and partly because I avoid people like the plague. I'm actually pretty good with people. I'm kind of the opposite of socially awkward, I suppose. I can socialize, but I don't.

 

There are some people I talk to on a regular basis, but for the most part I don't make friends. I make acquaintances.

 

I used to have a lot of friends, but really friendship is overrated.

[Kyoshi Frost Wolf 41,558]

I only have a few friends and I don't see them often at all, except for one. I see friendship as a great but fragile thing. So many things can ruin it as I have learned. I really have no social skills so making new friends offline is nearly impossible for me. Maybe that is a good thing though. I always feel inferior to people so that would amplify it, though I don't feel that way to my current friends. Another thing is if something happens, like they move far away or something. That would only depress me.

 

At the same time, I am more of a loner and I do love my privacy but at the same time, I know how great having friends can be. FiM actually reminded me of this. My mind has a very cruel and ironic way to perceive things.

[ChoroChii 284]

My real life friends are people I like hanging around. People I like joking around with and playing video games with mostly or people I have common interests.

 

That's about it, really. I don't necessarily like all the people I hang out with as people but then they make a joke and I remember why I hang around them. *Shrug* I just like having a good time.

[Koelath 445]

"friendship in real life"...You mean literally every friendship anyone has ever had because they have always existed within the realm of reality? Yeah, those are cool.

[MeowLord Noraasha 135]

I used to have a lot of friends, but really friendship is overrated.

Said person who is in Brony fandom xD

 

It's really hard to get a good friend these days, sure they're funny, sure you're having a great time, but when you have a problem, confession or you're in urgent need, you can't count on many people :/

 

So if there's a person that makes me laugh, I'm having a great time with is intelligent and I can count on, this person has a good chance of becoming my friend Sadly I meet more of those on the webz rather than irl :<

 

PS: Very often slight abnormality about you and you lose 1/2 of friends... That's a society for you

Edited November 8, 2013 by ShadowSong

[Sweet Dreams 1,893]

 

I used to have a lot of friends, but really friendship is overrated.

That's an awkward thing to say on a forum for fans of a show about friendship. xD

Umm, anyway. I have a fair few friends irl, and I can say like a lot of others have that friendship is often a really unpredictable thing. One day it's all hugs and sleepovers, next day it's them talking about you behind your back. (Yep, Girl Style )

To be completely honest though, I've never been in a serious fight with a friend before. We've had small fights, but they last for a few hours. I try to avoid fighting with anyone really, instead if someone is annoying me I'll just find an excuse to stop hanging out with them. Most of my friends and I are too close to be able to hate each other, a lot of them I grew up with and a few I consider more like 'unbiological sisters' than just besties. I prefer to only hang out with a small group, because I feel I get my say more often and I feel more welcome.

[Smarts 1,622]

What the heck is a real life friendship? Never heard of it. Anyway, important values for a real life friendship are honesty, loyalty, and trust. At least that is what I think the values are. Never had one, so I can't say for sure.

[Brony Time 54]

woooow you guys I can't belive how sad I am for you (I mean that in a nice way) we all have had let downs but giving up on friendship is overrated

[ReverseFaller 2,483]

I don't try to make friends in real life anymore. I'm pretty socially awkward, and reserved so that doesn't help either. I have trust issues as it seems like people don't know what it means to be loyal nowadays. I get ditched by friends quite frequently. 

 

Also I hate those on, and off friends who you're not even sure if your friends with or not. 

[Sunlight 357]

Why do so many people on here not have friends in real life? Or even dislike friendship? Aren't we meant to be all about it? We are bronies after all. d:

And, I do have a small friend group in real life. I like just being around a small group of people better than a large one.

[UserNotFound 964]

I have too many friends IRL... Seriously... It's hard to keep track of them!

 

I have my main group... whom I've known since i was a little weenie jelly bean...

 

I have my school friends... 2 girls I've kept in touch with

 

My college friends... all of them!

 

AND all my gap year friends... A LOT of them...

 

Plus any extras I've picked up along the way... so all in all I've got a fair amount of friends... But it took me ages to befriend them all... And most of them I only became friends with because I befriended their friend and was accepted into that friendship group...

[Celtore 2,770]

It's difficult. I don't really make friends anymore so much as associates. High school hurt me pretty badly, someone I thought was a friend was secretly backstabbing me. This has led to some good development in terms of my life philosophies, but I somewhat struggle with putting my trust in people I haven't known for a long period. I would do almost anything though for those very few who've proven themselves to be true.

[Cygnus 60]

If I had to pick one thing (because this could become quite a lengthy post), I would say that empathy is important. Empathy differs from sympathy in that it's more about understanding what the person is feeling and what it's like to be in their position, while sympathy is ackowledging their feelings and possibly feeling sad about their situation.

 

I have friends with different religions, political views, cultures, and personalities because we tend to empathize rather than hone in on the differences. I can recognize that a friend is a fundamentally good, reliable person who's not coming from a place of spite and aggression even if I strongly disagree with their views about marriage and family.

 

 

I have too many friends IRL... Seriously... It's hard to keep track of them!

 

I have my main group... whom I've known since i was a little weenie jelly bean...

 

I have my school friends... 2 girls I've kept in touch with

 

My college friends... all of them!

 

AND all my gap year friends... A LOT of them...

 

Plus any extras I've picked up along the way... so all in all I've got a fair amount of friends... But it took me ages to befriend them all... And most of them I only became friends with because I befriended their friend and was accepted into that friendship group...

 

A jellybean...? That's a cute way of putting it.

[MelancholicMemory 2,025]

 

 

Said person who is in Brony fandom xD

Nope. Try again.

 

 

 

PS: Very often slight abnormality about you and you lose 1/2 of friends... That's a society for you

I lose all of my friends on a regular basis. You'll get used to it.

 

 

 

That's an awkward thing to say on a forum for fans of a show about friendship. xD

A cartoon about horses is not equivalent to a decent argument for the importance of friendship.

[Moss 95]

IRL friendships are absolutely great when you find the right person.

The things I value in my friends are honesty,loyalty,respect (includes not making rude jokes/talking trash about friends/people when they don't deserve it),kindness,etc.But,the thing I value most in a friend is being a good hearted,pleasant person to be around.

@,and other people in the same social situation,you'll eventually find the right people for you,unless you never look for them.Just remember that the world is filled with alot of Dickheads,and that there are people for you,but you will never find them if you never bother to look.

Edited November 9, 2013 by MOSFETv2

[Chivalry Knight 161]

Wow, reading most of these is actually pretty depressing XD.

I have a few irl friends, and I trust them with my life. As a matter of fact, they're the reason I am still alive today. also, two of them are bronies so WOOHOO! Anyway, it's sad seeing how many people are on here that have a hard time making irl friends. I mean don't get me wrong making irl friends isn't... that... easy. Sorry just remembered that I easily made a friend at school recently in like 2 seconds, we became friends because we liked the same stuff XD. I like to keep my friends close to me, because as you know what they say. 

"Friends are the Family you Choose!"