I really respect the fact that you went to the extent of showing that this isn't for the point of attention and has a clear purpose, even when you’re in a world of hurt. I don't really have anything against most of the poor me threads, but they can mount up on forums and get a bit annoying when it's clearly just for attention. I think you did a great job in showing that you’re genuinely reaching out to the community .
That being said… if she doesn't know yet, then why not take the approach that shadowbolt recommended. Even though you're looking for something more than just the FU, anything negative you say in front of a huge crowd would get the job done. Now I'm not really recommending that you crush someone in public, but if it really meant this much to you, then I see some justice in the situation. Whichever recommendation you take good luck with the future Endeavour