Polyamorous Forumers?

[Eloquence 2,076]

Exactly as the title says: Are there any other forum users who identify as polyamorous? I am genuinely curious, because I only know of three other people on the whole forum who are. One of them is my partner, and the other two specifically came to me to learn about what being poly means.

 

And for those of you who aren't familiar with the term, polyamory is essentially a willingness to pursue multiple romantic relationships at a time with the informed consent of all involved persons (i.e. it's not cheating)

[Ashen Pathfinder 16,162]

Well, it's probably fair to say that I am on the fence. I was really only introduced to such relationships a few months back thanks to a DeviantArt friend who pursued that sort of relationship for a while. Granted it didn't last, but she seemed happy with it for a time, and the two she was involved with were fine with it.

 

So yeah, maybe I can see myself in such a relationship, though having been single since 2007 it's also hard to imagine, so yeah. XD

[Koukatsu 5,899]

I'm not interested in the idea myself, though there was a time, long before ponies, I met a... triple? through another site I was part of. A polygamist triplet. She, and her wife, and their husband were happy together. So, I see nothing wrong with the idea, it simply isn't for me.

[Eloquence 2,076]

I'm not interested in the idea myself, though there was a time, long before ponies, I met a... triple? through another site I was part of. A polygamist triplet. She, and her wife, and their husband were happy together. So, I see nothing wrong with the idea, it simply isn't for me.

 

I've heard 'triad' used to describe such a relationship. I think that's what you're looking for :3

[Cleverclover 1,526]

Not to sound judgmental, but mind if I ask what makes polyamory appealing to you? 

[Eloquence 2,076]

Not to sound judgmental, but mind if I ask what makes polyamory appealing to you? 

 

I don't mind. I'm happy to answer.

 

It's very simple really. Polyamory is appealing to me because love is appealing to me. Just like I wouldn't put a set limit on the number of friends I can have, I see no reason to put a limit on the number of romantic partners I have. My current partner and I learn a lot from each other, and we support and care for each other. We make each others' lives better, and if I can make someone else's life better too then I see no reason not to. My love won't diminish just because I share it with more people.

 

I mean, I don't have to find someone else. Whether I do or don't, I'll be happy. I just don't see a need to close the door to that possibility.

[Cleverclover 1,526]

Okay. I guess I can understand that. 

[Yellow Diamond 7,575]

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[Admiral Regulus 2,769]

Ideologically I'm totally okay with it, and I wouldn't mind being in such a relationship if the situation presented itself.

 

But, finding *one* romantic partner is difficult enough as it is, and most people intrinsically believe they can only love one person at a time. Jealousy comes in and yeah... things get bad thereafter.

Edited April 11, 2015 by Admiral Regulus

[Bird Mom 900]

Nah, not for me. I wouldn't feel at all comfortable in that sort of relationship. But I don't have a problem with it, if that's what you mean. Love is love, and love is awesome, so, there you go. Besides, I can't accurately judge it unless I've done it.

[KraznorG 28]

Well, my partner and I have talked about whether we could open things up and could truly communicate everything with all parties and not get jealous and possessive. I'm torn as to whether I want to pursue anything as it kind of impacted my parent's relationship pretty severely. They'd been married for over 30 years when my Dad started floating the idea around of becoming polyamory and that, combined with growing religious differences, fractured them apart. I really value relationships lasting for a long time so if trying to open up a relationship would destroy it I think I'd shy away from doing so. Bold idea though, and I like it in theory.

[Troblems 5,620]

I have been polyamourous in the past. I felt it took a lot of the strain off the relationship, as it removed a lot of the jealousy between myself and my partner, who while we were seeing other people, he was my main squeeze. While the relationship ended poorly, it wasn't due to the polyamory aspect of the relationship. I felt free at the time to explore and grow, without feeling obligated to only share that acceptance with one person.

 

Polyamoury is not something I still practice. It was a topic that my husband and I discussed, and he felt uncomfortable with it. Considering I ended up marrying the dude, I'm okay with that. That he was willing to have a conversation about it at all was heartening. It could be that our relationship changes in the future, but for now, I'm happy with where I am.

 

I believe that it takes a large degree of trust for polyamory to work. A lot of people also aren't capable of handling such an open relationship. While it seems counter-intuitive, even in a polyamourous relationship, jealousy can take hold. Communication becomes even more important than in a normal relationship so that everyone stays happy and healthy.

[Lunatic Cake 1,618]

Honestly, I really do like the idea of being ponyamorous polyamorous (Seriously, I should not make these kind of typos...). If I were to happen to fall in love with multiple people, I would pursue both relationships but only if everybody involved would be okay with the idea. So yeah, I would be for it but that would consider me falling in love with multiple people at a time first.

[nurd 68]

I'm fairly new to polyamory, having been introduced to the concept by a current partner (we'll call her M) and having then introduced it to my other current partner (H) 

 

M is in other non-attached relationships while M, H, and I all interact with one another. 

[King Hades 18]

the key to a good polyamorous relationship is communication, and comfort, so they're very easy to maintain if you're interested. a lot of people (such as myself) use polyamorous relationships to help with side effects of mental illnesses, and also to express different type of love with different people

[Sceethe 704]

Not to sound judgemental( but i guess that is what i am going to sound like), but to me, that sounds like greed in its purest form.

 

Not that i´d dislike any of you people that do it, but it does sound a bit... horrible to me.

 

Maybe i am missing something here, so: no offense.

[Moonlight 7,288]

Not to sound judgemental( but i guess that is what i am going to sound like), but to me, that sounds like greed in its purest form.

 

Not that i´d dislike any of you people that do it, but it does sound a bit... horrible to me.

 

Maybe i am missing something here, so: no offense.

 

Seeing as how you're sharing your love with more than one person, that sounds like the opposite of greed.

 

It's only horrible if it's unhealthy such as not telling your partner you have more than one partner, or being jealous in a relationship. There's nothing horrible about a healthy relationship just because it happens to have more than two people involved.

 

I'm personally not poly, but you shouldn't sound so judgmental about something that can be healthy, happy, and fulfilling for everyone involved.

[碇 シンジン 27,437]

I love this idea of relationship and I would be happy if i ever got a chance to experience it but for me finding even one partner is a real challenge So i cant really see myself in there but it would be lovely.

[Sceethe 704]

Seeing as how you're sharing your love with more than one person, that sounds like the opposite of greed.

 

It's only horrible if it's unhealthy such as not telling your partner you have more than one partner, or being jealous in a relationship. There's nothing horrible about a healthy relationship just because it happens to have more than two people involved.

 

I'm personally not poly, but you shouldn't sound so judgmental about something that can be healthy, happy, and fulfilling for everyone involved.

And then one person loves the other person a tiny bit more than the other person involved, and wants to get married.Sucks to be them, right? I guess it was just for fun, they just shouldnt have commited to the relationship so much?

 

But love happens, doesn´t it? And sometimes, people start to love each other a bit more than expected.Not that i have any experience with this, but stuff like that happens in "normal" relationships all the time, so i am just gonna assume that it is going to happen here aswell. I can just imagine all the heartbroken faces after that happens.

 

But don´t let my harshly written text fool you, i have no problem with polyamourous relationships.

I am just saying that to me, it sounds like itCOULD have a horrible outcome, and in that case, leave everyone in quite a situation.

DO whatever you want, live and let live or whatever someone would say in that context.

[nurd 68]

And then one person loves the other person a tiny bit more than the other person involved, and wants to get married.Sucks to be them, right? I guess it was just for fun, they just shouldnt have commited to the relationship so much?

 

But love happens, doesn´t it? And sometimes, people start to love each other a bit more than expected.Not that i have any experience with this, but stuff like that happens in "normal" relationships all the time, so i am just gonna assume that it is going to happen here aswell. I can just imagine all the heartbroken faces after that happens.

 

But don´t let my harshly written text fool you, i have no problem with polyamourous relationships.

I am just saying that to me, it sounds like itCOULD have a horrible outcome, and in that case, leave everyone in quite a situation.

DO whatever you want, live and let live or whatever someone would say in that context.

Of course it COULD have a horrible outcome, just as any relationship can. Personally, I know which of my partners I'd wish to enter into a marriage with, and everyone involved knows it, simply because the other partner is not interested in marriage at all. Even with a civil/legal ceremony with only one partner planned though, we all refer to each other as husband/wife/wife when we look into the far future where that would be a possibility

[mars 4,863]

I can't personally see myself as polyamorous, but I have no problem with people who identify that way.

[CheeryFox 23,823]

I have no issues with these sorts of things - as it was said before, being a poly is challenging... 

[Guest]

Going into the military, so it goes without question even if I was interested in such an idea, I would never pursue it because in the military it is a crime to cheat on your spouse, and they do not make any exceptions.

 

I am alright with people that do it so long as it is a REAL and not just their wife saying it's okay because she feels she NEEDS to.

Edited October 26, 2015 by Guest

[Vox 870]

Tried it, it's not my thing, i'd rather find a singular soul mate. But hats off to those who can make it work.

[Eloquence 2,076]

I didn't realize this topic was even still being responded to. I'm glad to see that I'm not alone though, and that even those who decided it isn't for them still understand that it is the right choice for some people