Friendship is Magic - What about in your real life?

[Rayna 44]

Not sure if there was a thread like this before but I'll just take the chance. xD;;

 

So here in this thread we will discuss our friendships in real life. Stuff like, about your best friends and how long you've known them for... the ups and downs... also things like if this show helped you out in any way to be a better friend, what kind of friend you need etc. Anything

 

Here's a "brief" back story in the area of friendships for me.

 

Honestly, I'm really terrible at keeping friends. Sometimes I think I'm better off. But the truth is though is that I really really want good friends, like in MLP D: Growing up, I liked getting to know different people but every time I got close to someone we got into dumb arguments and I always wondered why we always had to argue about such dumb things, and why we couldn't just talk it out casually. Usually, my friends would be the ones angry at me; give me silent treatment and isolate me etc. I hated it so much. So eventually I kept friends at a distance. 

 

Even now, at an adult age of 20, I've still had to deal with "friends" that I couldn't stand and "friends" that I realise I don't actually want to hang out with but don't have the heart to tell them that. They want to hang out with me... but I don't want to because I feel so awkward around them and I feel we don't really "connect". I need friends who are understanding and honest and I can be myself around them and we can talk about anything. That's all I need but apparently they're so hard to find! For me, a true and really good friend is someone I will genuinely miss. 

 

On a good note, I've managed to find a couple of friends like that; my boyfriend and a friend from work. I appreciate them so much. My friend from work though, we may not meet up as much, but every time we do, I just feel so happy around her and we can talk and at the same time, say nothing at all, but still have a good time. At the same time, I realised my own family members are such good friends to me.

 

Sometimes though, I wish I could have more of that "magical" but fictional friendships you get in stories and in MLP...

 

Anything you guys wanna share about your friendships?

[DaReaper 1,945]

well i have had a few freinds that stuck with me no matter what, my friend steve has been there with me for god knows how many years, his cousin mike juts as long if not longer. There has been a few friends i lost along the way mostly due to drug use, it hurts me but when people start stealing from their families to support a drug habbit and wouldn't take any help i had to cut them loose and 1 to suicide. Of course i got work works friends and other but Steve and Mike been there for me for the long run and i know would do anything for me a I would for them, they are some of the few people that know i'm a brony and they could care less cause they know that doesnt change me at all. Not anything magical but still good friends

[Shanks 10,816]

Friendship is indeed a lot more complicated in real life than it is in MLP, but I still think it has a sort of magic to it even in real life. I have some people I thought were my friends stab me in the back and I have drifted away from some others, but I have had a few really good friends in my life some of them I have known since well into my early childhood that I still count as my friends. One of the best friends I ever had I didn't really know that long and he introduced me to ponies, I got him to make an account on here but he mostly lurks in part because he dosen't agree with the character minimum.

[Galen 1,354]

One problem that I've had throughout my life with regards to making friends is that I've moved all over the world. As a result, I was never really able to make lasting friendships with others, and I've falled out of touch with people I used to know as medium Freedan junior living in Italy. This is due to the fact I have not actually lived there since I was 12, only going back there for between a week to a month at a time during the holidays. I still miss those days where I had 3 months off without having to worry about anything while now I'd be lucky to get close to one month off, but that's besides the point.

 

What came out of the experience is that I've never actually learned how to uphold strong friendships with others. There's really only one person in this world that I can count as a true friend who I've known since my days in Saudi and we still regularly keep in touch. He's my bff for starters, and really the only friend I can say that I have who's stuck with me through thick and thin, even after a brief but really dark time for me and my family at the end of 2011 that I won't get into now. I'd love to have other friends that I can trust to the same or almost the same extent, but it's difficult in a place like London where meeting people and making friends usually involves getting drunk to the point of losing consciousness and doing things you'd rather not want people to know. Not to mention the unspoken tradition that workmates are not friends to hang out with on weekends.

 

One person I ment (online) recently really pissed me off tho. She tries too hard to be that good friend to whoever she meets because that's how friends should normally be. On the surface that sounds absolutely brilliant, and we got off really well at first and we told each other things we (or at least I) wouldn't just tell anyone. But I later found out that really has no meaning for her because it's normal to just be that open with people, making me have this false impression we were actually close friends when in fact, I was just anyone to her. That or despite what she kept saying, couldn't bring herself to tell her I'm weird and wants me gone, but if it is indeed the former case, I tend to think this person has a rather skewed belief of what friendship is considering she placed no weight on rather very emotional subjects for people because it's normal. Way to show a lack of consideration for other people's feelings while preaching spreading love to all those she speaks to.

Edited August 8, 2013 by Freedan

[Kyoshi Frost Wolf 41,823]

Personally, I actually do think friendship is magic, a bit of the time at least. I recently learned this. Through most of my life, I have been a loner and I have been pretty happy with that. I hardly had any friends through my childhood, one or maybe two here or there. I have tons of social problems and personality quirks so making friends has always been difficult. I was still happy though regardless. Sure, I felt lonely at times, but I had my own mind and thoughts to keep me company. Yeah, that sounds insane but I am partially crazy anyways.

 

Over the past couple of years though, it is starting to get to me. I have been dealing with depression for a good while now and this is only making it worse. I only have a few real friends and I hardly see any of them. I have no social skills and extreme social anxiety, so I am not sure what to do there.

 

The biggest thing though, is that I feel inferior to most people. Self hatred problems ahoy. I have this constant inferiority complex in comparison to most other people, so I feel that even if I did meet someone, I am not good enough anyways, good enough to be their friend that is. Plus, I cannot travel much, thanks to the fact that I cannot drive. So, I am basically stuck. I have a decent amount of friends online, so that is nice I suppose, but the inferiority complex that I mentioned is in full force even then. I also feel that if I ever do make a friend, they will eventually move on. I think most people have far more important things to worry about than me, since I am just not very memorable or worthwhile. It is kinda like how many on here have said I am a good friend, I don't agree with them. Maybe it is true, maybe it isn't. My mind automatically goes for it not being true.

 

Despite that negativity, I really do wish I had more friends, I just don't think it is going to happen any time soon.

Edited August 8, 2013 by Kyoshi

[Galen 1,354]

The biggest thing though, is that I feel inferior to most people. Self hatred problems ahoy. I have this constant inferiority complex in comparison to most other people, so I feel that even if I did meet someone, I am good enough anyways, good enough to be their friend that is. Plus, I cannot travel much, thanks to the fact that I cannot drive. So, I am basically stuck. I have a decent amount of friends online, so that is nice I suppose, but the inferiority complex that I mentioned is in full force even then. I also feel that if I ever do make a friend, they will eventually move on. I think most people have far more important things to worry about than me, since I am just not very memorable or worthwhile. It is kinda like how many on here have said I am good friend, I don't agree with them. Maybe it is true, maybe it isn't. My mind automatically goes for it not being true.

 

I know exactly how that feels and I couldn't help but think exactly like that with the girl I mentioned in my previous post. Despite opening up to her about something really emotional and important to me, she made it abundantly clear in her own way how I'm just a friend to her and no more close to her than anyone she just met yesterday. It was insulting and made me feel terribly unwanted and unimportant, that I could be forgotten easily within a short time. There are those people who're just so socially awkward but it's a lot worse when some people are socially uncaring or inconsiderate and make others feel like they don't matter in the slightest.

Edited August 8, 2013 by Freedan

[XrosOver 613]

After I started watxhin the show I was somehow even more of a shut-in than before. That changed once I used one of my crafty friends to scout for another brony. The guy I found turned out to be a friend from the past but due to conflicting scheduling we were disconnected. After refinding him I met all of his other friends and became the leader ofa twenty person group. 

[Zygen 6,066]

Well, before i actually watched the show, i was kinda isolated to an extent, not super isolated, but i wasn't the most open person ever. And i had alot of times where i was depressed and lonely and didn't really like anyone, i had kinda lost my faith that there was good people out there, and that there was a such thing as a lasting friendship.

 

However after watching the show and meeting some good people here, i've had my faith that theres good people out there restored to a degree. Also i'm not really introverted anymore frankly, just kinda shy, and not the most amazing social person.

 

Now despite this IRL i don't have alot, well any like close friends, i have some friends who are people I talk to in school, or at other things there at i go to, but other then that i never really hang out with them much.

 

So i guess i just need to find someone I feel i can trust as a close friend, problem is after having my best friend leave me and other things i'm not the most easily trusting person ever, especially if i don't feel the person is a truly caring and loving person who could become good friends with me.

 

So i do want friendships, its just hard to find someone who fits my thoughts of a good friend enough to actually become friends with, call me picky, but theres some people i just don't think i could become true friends with.

 

I do long for friendships more after watching MLP for sure, and I kinda wish I could have friendships like in MLP, but sometimes i just kinda lose hope.

 

Luckily, i have the friends i have here on the forums to perk me up a bit , so i get over it eventually, even if being kinda moody that kinda happens alot .

 

But I love the friends i have here, and still do want to get closer to someone or several people IRL, its just a matter of if I can trust them.

[Freewave 1,145]

It's tough i've always had a difficuclt time with friendships. I guess i was never looped in on how important they were or how to make them early on so i stumbled through some early on but not close ones. Was with some people who really didn't appreciate me in high school and that all blowed up during a party one night and runied the rest of my senior year. I found much closer friendships in my 20's that i still have today through nightclubs rather than work or college. I only have a few friendship that are partiuclarly close in the brony community and one bff but those feel just as real to me. A lot of the time i feel a part of a community which i really like but also pretty detatched from it at the same time. On one hand everyone is really friendly but on the other hand it feels very much people really don't always know each other well or keep in touch. I think this community attracts people who have had problems making friendships but also those issues remain once we're here. It's no fix all but its a start in the right direction i guess.

[Untitled Goose Q 5,137]

I have never made friends easily, however I have always had one or two really good friends who stick with me no matter what, although I have, unfortunately, lost contact with most of them. I do believe that Friendship is Magic, because in my experience nothing is stronger than a true friendship. 

 

I have never been worried about not making friends, because quite honestly, I do not care if I make them or not. I do not feel I need friends to achieve my goals, although it certainly makes it easier.

Edited August 8, 2013 by Questioner

[NightOwl 912]

I made pretty good friends in school and had a great time with them but I don't really talk with them any more though. I have a BFF who lives in the States though which I regularly talk with through steam and teamspeak known him for a few years now . 

Edited August 8, 2013 by NightOwl

[lincolnshirepony 527]

Well, I do believe in the magic of friendship. I have trouble making friends, but when I do, they're really good ones. I value deep relationships over shallow ones, which lessens the quantity and heightens the quality. Friends are important in life. I daresay friendship is one of the most valuable things one can have in life. 

 

Anyway, let me talk about these wonderful people. My best friend and I have been chumming it up for over a decade. We grew up together, and have been through thick and thin. She's the best friend a person could ask for and I love her to pieces. We're almost opposite in interests in personality, but we have enough in common that it somehow works. We're quite the dynamic duo. I can always count on her to be there for me and to tell it like it is.

 

My boyfriend is fantastic, as a boyfriend and a friend. We have tons in common, and never run out of stuff to talk about. I know I can always go to him if I'm feeling down, and he knows just how to cheer me up. I love spending time with him, and I really love him. Plus he likes MLP, so we can watch that together.

 

Then I have a handful of other friends who are just great to talk to or hang out with. I love them all dearly, and they're wonderful people. 

[TailsIsNotAlone 3,695]

I've had a few good friends in life, but generally "friendship is magic" applies to other people and not me. It makes them happy, but it stresses me out. I prefer to keep people at a distance.

[Jackie 57]

I used to have a lot of friends my junior year, but since I've graduated now no one really talks to me and I don't really hang out with anyone except my boyfriend, and my good friends Bella, and Brianna. My ex bestfriend had been my friend for 11 years, but we stopped being friends the end of my senior year. I think Its hard to be friends with someone for so long without them changing for the worst. On a brighter note, I've known Brianna since 3rd grade but we've never really been too good of friends. But ever since she invited me with her to a convention we've gotten closer, and she's the one who got me into MLP. And Bella and I have so much in common and we talk a lot so she's pretty much taken the title of my new bestfriend.

[Blue Bay 1,027]

I never really felt like having the one best friend. Still the friendship between me and my friends is pretty sturdy, so I don't think we'll end it in... I don't know how many years. But who does? Life is full of coincidences and twists, so how could I know when the time comes that my friends and I aren't sharing the same interests anymore. Everyone goes through changes during their lives. So one day maybe the day will come we'll go different ways. But why should I think about that day, if I could enjoy the time with my friends, as long as we're able to have fun together instead? Throughout your life you'll lose some frinds, but you'll get to know new ones. Even best friends will split apart sometimes, but who am I to tell you this? After all this incoherent drivel I came to the conclusion: In the end friendship is magic. Whether you have one best friends or a few close friends, as long as those friendships maintain and make your time enjoyable, you should roll with it and don't question their potential as longtime-friendships.

[Scootalove 10,689]

I have a lot of friends in life, and I'm pretty happy that I'm getting more friends every day. I still talk to my old friends that I used to hang out with when I was young, and it just brings back so many happy memories. Luckily, I've made more friends when I'm about to start 11th grade in high school next month. I could compare the show to how I feel when it comes to me and my friends.

[MichaelxXxTrixie 433]

I've always have had trouble staying with one group of friends, not because I'm a bad person or anything but I can lose interest in them after a while. I'd say my thoughts on things and my personality is a bit unique and is something that isn't seen too much where I live. I have my family as friends I can always hang out with but I have one friend that I like a lot.

 

He usually comes over to my house every week and we have the same interests. Sure he's not my absolute one hundred percent ideal person because we argue and conflict on things. I typically win the arguments against him, but he's probably the greatest and most best friend I've ever had in my life.

 

It's a funny chance that we even met. We are polar opposites, he is a really popular guy at the school and I'm not that popular but I don't mind. We don't talk at school but we talk all the time outside of school. I like it that way, maybe the reason why we have retained a friendship for so long is because no-one else has gotten in our way. Not sure.

[Radost 76]

Making friends has always been easy for me, but for every good friend i have, their is at least 20 that are not my close friends and that i wont talk to in 10 years. I do allot of different activities, and i am at both ends of the spectrum of friends. I am tight with the really cool kids, and i chill with them allot, but some of my better friends are my gamer friends, i don't really have any friends that are like me witch is good and bad. Ill party with my friends til 3 in the morning, go home, and watch MLP, i don't know anyone else who does that. I have two really good friends and my brother as the people that i will care for my entire life. I guess i am just a really likable person, everyone i go around seem to like me and invite me back. I don't hide that i am a brony, but i also don't have any brony friends so i never really talk about it, but it does come up from time to time but i don't really think people care that much. One thing i would like is to have more close brony friends, i know most of the brony's in my town that are chill, maybe i will try getting closer to them.

[PercyThePony 15]

One of my best friends I've known since kindergarten, though I started being friends with her in 3rd grade. I was the shyest kid around so I was thrilled when I actually made a friend. In 4th grade I met my best friend that is a boy. He was only my friend then, but the next year I realized that we were great friends from the start. Lastly is Anna. I met her in 5th grade and we were best friends from the start. Up until this day I still love them all to death and they are the best friends I could ever imagine.

[Lunas Husband 2,777]

Sadly I cant really say I have had "Good friends" all my friends have,

stolen from me

Had sex with the man I was dating

Throw me under the buss to save their own ass

Never stood up for me

and one of them even beat the ever living shit out of me.. I was puking up blood... because of him...

 

 

The only good friend I have had is, my sister and mom. But my mom is gone... and my sister wants noting to do with me anymore.. because of who I am..