Anyone here on the forum a parent?

[Rinkitty 589]

I'm not and I never will be. Kids are a freaking hassle and I can't find any reason to want them. I've always been this way, even when I was a lot younger. I'm never having kids. I've firmly decided.

Wow. That's kind of a bitter way to look at it, don'cha think? Yes, children can be rather difficult, (I've babysat many a time) but they can also be a joy to have. They can easily make your day much better, or much worse, depending on how they were raised.

 

I mean, not wanting kids is fine. I'm just saying that outlook on the situation is kinda sad to me.

[Clover Heart 978]

Wow. That's kind of a bitter way to look at it, don'cha think? Yes, children can be rather difficult, (I've babysat many a time) but they can also be a joy to have. They can easily make your day much better, or much worse, depending on how they were raised.

 

I mean, not wanting kids is fine. I'm just saying that outlook on the situation is kinda sad to me.

 

I don't think I'm bitter? I just, personally, don't get much joy out of being around children. I feel that the times I've been annoyed with/at children greatly outweigh the number of times I've felt joyous being around them. That's just how I am and I've always been that way.

[Rinkitty 589]

I don't think I'm bitter? I just, personally, don't get much joy out of being around children. I feel that the times I've been annoyed with/at children greatly outweigh the number of times I've felt joyous being around them. That's just how I am and I've always been that way.

Oh, n-no. I didn't mean that you were bitter. I don't have the right to make such an assumption. I was just saying that outlook on this particular situation seemed bitter to me.

 

I'm sorry if you offended by my words. It wasn't my intent ._.

[Clover Heart 978]

Oh, n-no. I didn't mean that you were bitter. I don't have the right to make such an assumption. I was just saying that outlook on this particular situation seemed bitter to me.

 

I'm sorry if you offended by my words. It wasn't my intent ._.

 

No, no, I wasn't offended. I just wanted to clarify. I guess I don't mind kids so much, but knowing all that raising children entails, even from an outsider perspective, seems quite daunting to me, and has always seemed like more work than reward. Especially knowing it's 24/7 for the rest of your life. Even when you get a break, you never really get a break. I think some people probably get more joy and reward out of raising/being around children. But knowing that I'm not that kind of person, I've decided I don't want kids. I don't mean to say that kids suck or anything, but being that I'm short-tempered, stress easily, anxious and a bit selfish, I feel like the experience of raising children would be incredibly emotionally trying for me with little benefit. I suppose that's more where I was coming from when I said kids are a hassle.

[Malinter 3,064]

Don't plan on being a parent ever. I am an uncle tho so theres no escaping the responsablitly entirely xD.

 

That said, just seeing him do things that look dangerous makes me anxious and hes not even mine, who knows what i would be if it were.

Edited October 4, 2013 by Greenfield

[Zygen 6,066]

No, no, I wasn't offended. I just wanted to clarify. I guess I don't mind kids so much, but knowing all that raising children entails, even from an outsider perspective, seems quite daunting to me, and has always seemed like more work than reward. Especially knowing it's 24/7 for the rest of your life. Even when you get a break, you never really get a break. I think some people probably get more joy and reward out of raising/being around children. But knowing that I'm not that kind of person, I've decided I don't want kids. I don't mean to say that kids suck or anything, but being that I'm short-tempered, stress easily, anxious and a bit selfish, I feel like the experience of raising children would be incredibly emotionally trying for me with little benefit. I suppose that's more where I was coming from when I said kids are a hassle.

Yeah your free to have your own opinion on it, and I'd you don't personally want kids as I've said multiple times in this thread, it's cool it's up to you.

 

Obviously the entire population isn't going to want kids, just because everyone can technically have them, doesn't mean they will.

 

And that's fine.

 

It's quite a stressful job, and some would just rather not deal with it, others enjoy it in a weird way, and If you feel you don't enjoy it firmly, then that's cool, it's a personal choice.

 

I'm glad y'all came to a peaceful resolution and didn't turn this Into any big arguement regardless

Don't plan on being a parent ever. I am an uncle tho so theres no escaping the responsablitly entirely xD.

 

That said, just seeing him do things that look dangerous makes me anxious and hes not even mine, who knows what i would be if it were.

Yeah that's a more obligated thing, of course it doesn't require nearly the amount of commitment.

 

And yeah, I'm sure if you had your own child the whole parent thing would make you care for them and worried alot more.

 

I guess that just means you love them though which is good, but I can understand you not wanting kids still.

[Mr Underhill 219]

Hi Zygen, I"m a parent of 2 boys. 

Alex 22, would have loved this place...I believe he was a brony at heart. I miss him...a lot.

Justin 20, accepts me as a brony, even though he doesn't really care for MLP.

 

The hardest part of being a parent? 

Losing a child...there is no greater pain. 

I'm sorry, it still hurts...Wish it would stop...

[Zygen 6,066]

Hi Zygen, I"m a parent of 2 boys.

Alex 22, would have loved this place...I believe he was a brony at heart. I miss him...a lot.

Justin 20, accepts me as a brony, even though he doesn't really care for MLP.

 

The hardest part of being a parent?

Losing a child...there is no greater pain.

I'm sorry, it still hurts...Wish it would stop...

Hey there, judging by your username is pretty cool to hear your a parent .

 

Hm one of your children even might've been a brony, pretty cool

 

I guess as long as they both accepted you regardless is what matters.

 

And it must be hard to have them leave, I'm sure it's even hard for them to.

 

I think y

Hi Zygen, I"m a parent of 2 boys.

Alex 22, would have loved this place...I believe he was a brony at heart. I miss him...a lot.

Justin 20, accepts me as a brony, even though he doesn't really care for MLP.

 

The hardest part of being a parent?

Losing a child...there is no greater pain.

I'm sorry, it still hurts...Wish it would stop...

Hey there, judging by your username is pretty cool to hear your a parent .

 

Hm one of your children even might've been a brony, pretty cool

 

I guess as long as they both accepted you regardless is what matters.

 

And it must be hard to have them leave, I'm sure it's even hard for them to.

 

I think you may be right that having them go away is the hardest part in a way.

 

But it does happen.

 

And it's ok, don't feel bad, Atleast it means you loved them. Which is good I think.

 

I wish I could help, but I dunno what I can do only being 16 and not nearly old enough for an experience like that.

 

But if theres something I can do I'd be glad to talk if you want, long as I'm on.

 

Good luck. And thanks for sharing your thoughts on parenthood as a parent yourself.

[Mr Underhill 219]

No, no, I wasn't offended. I just wanted to clarify. I guess I don't mind kids so much, but knowing all that raising children entails, even from an outsider perspective, seems quite daunting to me, and has always seemed like more work than reward. Especially knowing it's 24/7 for the rest of your life. Even when you get a break, you never really get a break. I think some people probably get more joy and reward out of raising/being around children. But knowing that I'm not that kind of person, I've decided I don't want kids. I don't mean to say that kids suck or anything, but being that I'm short-tempered, stress easily, anxious and a bit selfish, I feel like the experience of raising children would be incredibly emotionally trying for me with little benefit. I suppose that's more where I was coming from when I said kids are a hassle.

Hi Clover, When I became a father at 24, I had no idea just how out of my depth I really was...I was short-tempered, selfish,stressed out WAY to easily. When I met Stormy I knew that She was my strength, I learned so much from her and became a better parent for it. Together we raised 4 kids, and I have never been happier! sure they will drive you crazy, but I can't substitute the Joy they have selflessly given me.  I hope that someday you will be as happy. 

Huggs and best wishes!

[Zygen 6,066]

Hi Clover, When I became a father at 24, I had no idea just how out of my depth I really was...I was short-tempered, selfish,stressed out WAY to easily. When I met Stormy I knew that She was my strength, I learned so much from her and became a better parent for it. Together we raised 4 kids, and I have never been happier! sure they will drive you crazy, but I can't substitute the Joy they have selflessly given me.  I hope that someday you will be as happy. 

Huggs and best wishes!

I'm a bit short tempered and stressed as a person overall, i mean i'm only 16 and won't be having kids for a bit, atleast until i'm out of college probably, but still.

 

Hopefully I'll aquire the skills and patience and self control, along with all the other skills that I don't have, like diaper changing, and discipline, and calming kids down, and feeding them, and burping them, and dealing with their problems, potty training them, and whatever comes in the teenage years, rebellion, and other drama ;p. I'll admit to being a bit rebellious even myself as a teen.

 

And its great to hear that you had help and ended up overall enjoying the experience from having children. I'm sure despite all the annoyances, and trouble, and gross, aswell as awkward situations they put you in, you still learn alot from them and have joyful moments to.

 

Nice to hear from another parent here btw.

[Glaci 119]

I'm not a parent, I'm only 15. I plan to get a job in college and save up to travel a lot, but once I settle down with a job and find a mate I'd love to adopt a kid. Reason I say adopt is because I'm gay. 

 

I'd be one of those "different" parents, as some call them. The really open-minded, fun kind I guess. That's just sorta who I am. Sure, the first 3 or so years of having a kid can be super rough, but it would be worth it just to see them grow up and hopefully become something like me and whoever my mate is. Personality wise, I mean. They can all take their own paths, I want that for them, to say the least. I just want them to be able to interact with others well and have fun. 

 

The other thing that I really look forward to as a parent is that what is more fun than having a little ball of energy running around your house all the time! You can play with them, and sometimes they can just play by themselves and you get to watch and giggle at them. And when they're older you can induce them in some of your own silly humor that wouldn't be suitable for little kids, hehe. 

 

Final thing is all the tocuhing moments you can have with a kid that just make your heart melt. Just to have someone who loves you like your own son or daughter would is enough to do that. Also some other things, like the sweet life events that happen. Like the first time they talk, walk, say your name or even other things. Like when they get older, their first boy/girlfriend. It's just amazing to think about being there to watch someone go through the same things as you did.

 

So I would indeed love having a kid, and I would enjoy every bit of raising them I'm sure.