Hape (hugging without consent): your thoughts on it?

[Undubbed Wubs 93]

 

Is the term offensive or harmless?  Does it make light of a more serious crime, or am I just overthinking things?

 

Additionally, do you feel hape is an inappropriate action or all in good fun?

 

 

[Fleur De Lis 108]

Fancy AND fast!

 

Anyways, while the term doesn't offend me personally, I do think it might offend others.

 

And it's all in good fun, of course.

Hugs are nice, and even if you dislike them, it's not like it'd hurt or anything. o:

[Feather Grass 312]

I don't find it offensive....

[GenderIsAnIllusion 2,177]

Meh...... There are far worse pokes at rape...... You know...... The government trying to say women cause themselves to be a victim. Yeah... Have is harmless.

[~Sylveon~ 188]

Hape is harmless. And most hugs without consent and surprise hugs, and those are the best!

[SparklingSquirrels 21,341]

I don't mind it on the internet, but receiving hugs from strangers in real life is a bit odd

 

And I don't know why anyone would find it "offensive", per say...

[Scootalove 10,689]

I don't mind if people hug me online or in real life, hugs are free.

[Revy ~ Two Hands 862]

As an Englishman the concept of physical affection in general is unsettling but that is largely due to societal stigma.

I can manage a nod or a semi-facetious shoulder pat for relatives but anything past that is getting into crazy town.

[Shanks 10,816]

I seriously thought that was a typo at first and thought "who is going to defend rape?" I am pretty much indifferent, the term is kind of dumb but I am not going to flip out over something that almost nobody has ever heard of.

[Luxpony 10]

This is a silly term that I have never actually come across before. I don't really see how someone would find it offensive.

 

hape, v. to nonconsentually hug.

"Help! I've just been haped!"

 

I don't know a single person who would be offended by a hug.

[Kyoshi Frost Wolf 41,478]

Not sure why a term like this would be offensive to anyone...Hell, I don't see how the word rape could offend most people. It is just a word and it depends on its usage. If someone is a victim of it, then sure, that makes sense. However this word, what is there to be offended by?

[Courageous Thunder Dash 7,824]

It could be offensive to some since it's so close to...you know what. 

[Espurr 449]

I'm ok with it. But in real life, it's a bit creepy. As if someone's going to pickpocket me. But if a friend I know in real life has done it then I'm ok with it. And believe me, they have.

[BionicBrony 385]

I've been haped so many times by random girls it isn't funny...

[Jennabun 1,579]

I'm someone who never really likes the word "rape" being thrown around in any kind of joking/haphazard way. I have too many friends who were sexually assaulted for me to be able to use that word light-heartedly in the way so many other people can. Especially when talking about "online hugs:" seeing some words on a screen is simply not comparable to someone being sexually violated IRL. Sorry to get all serious, but that's just kind of what goes through my mind when I see the word. I know others are going to think I'm being too touchy, but... eh.

[Mand'alor Dash 2,224]

If y'all get haped, it's yer own damn fault. Look at you, walkin' around dressed like a regular gloomy gus and listenin' to emo music on your iPod. Yer just askin' for some stranger to randomly walk up and hug you, ya little hut.

 

(Okay, I had way too much fun writing that. And I know it's easily the dirtiest joke on this thread. )

 

But seriously, random hugs are great. Not a damn thing wrong with spreading a little unprovoked love and kindness in this strange, sadistic world of ours.  

[The Crimson Cross 7,532]

I'm not particularly keen on it, I have my own personal space, and I suppose it's fine if it is coming from a person I know, otherwise it's just plain weird. Sometimes it's all in good fun, but it really depends on the situation I guess.

[Evil Nightmares 552]

I'm lookin' at ya, yeah girl your kind of tookin' back by the whole haper thing aren't ya?

Probably thinkin' you'll get hugged so dang hard ya won't even be able to stand up straight, aren't ya?

Couple Hape charges, people thing you're a monster.

The police constantly huggin' ya non-stop.

I walk up on ya, "Well hello Tonya"

I think ya got your OnStar butten inside your car stuck.

You out of gas, do you got a flat?

I would hate for you to be stranded at the laundromat.

I got your back

Why don't you put your laundry basket in the back

And sit up front, not askin' it's a hape

 

..... To far?

Sorry, i couldn't resist. Please don't take offence, i'm an idiot and didn't mean anything by it. I just saw an opportunity for an Eminem reference and figured, Why not.

Anyway, Hugs are great, i would think. I don't get very many...... Or any at all....... Now i'm sad.

Edited June 15, 2014 by Evil Nightmares

[KoGy 187]

Online hugging is nice.

IRL I'm glad nobody is hugging me.

[Malinter 3,064]

I wouldn't mind. I've actually been Haped (old lady, helped her find a lamp, totally nice)

 

Pretty sure others would be terrified of me Haping them, mostly because A/ I'm a big scary guy and B/ alot of folks are so thin in comparison i'm likely to break them in half.

[Kay Dreamer 884]

The term is somewhat offensive, I feel it makes light of a very serious crime. It's all very well if you don't know anyone who's been sexually assaulted, or you don't live in fear of the same happening to you. There are much better words which could be used. What the hell happened to just saying 'surprise hugs'?

 

As far as online goes... /hugs is hardly offensive at all. It's meant as a gesture of enthusiasm or comfort. That's fine. I don't find it uncomfortable. I prefer it coming from a friend, but it's not weird coming from strangers either.

 

In real life though... If a stranger hugs me without consent, I'd be livid, and more than a little terrified. I'm a very cuddly person around friends, but I do not like being touched by people I don't know. (The sole exception is little old ladies, because little old ladies get away with everything.)

[Nulln 755]

The word is somewhat offensive, I actually cringed a little when I saw what it meant.

 

I do not like people touching me, I never have.  I've had people force hug me tons of time, especially when I was in school and it was just so awkward and and tense up and hold my breath and look away until they let go of me.  You're just creepy if you touch people without asking.

 

Online hugs are kinda awkward, as in I don't really know how to reply to that, but they really don't compare at all so I don't care.

[DubWolf 17,263]

Heheh, "hape". I think have haped people before online, but I usually ask for permission. In real life it just sort of happens.

 

A stranger hug would be weird indeed .

 

And I don't find hape offensive.... But then again, you can't even mention you know who near you know who.

[TheSupremeLeaderOfChaos 1,206]

Online, I have no problem with 'hape', as you call it. In fact, I've sent messages to people on these forums before with just the text '*hugs*', to brighten up their day!

 

I'd feel slightly confused if someone I didn't know hugged me IRL, but as long as their intentions are good, I have no problem! Hugs are great, and a nice way to comfort people.

[Sir Hugsalot 9,348]

Some people don't like hugs and I see no reason in forcing them to like hugging, at least I am not going to do it. But I personally- You can hug me any time You want, peoples :3 

 

Hugging is after all a bit going into someone else's personal space and some people are not fond of it due to random reasons, others somehow consider it relationship thing only (I disagree, but they have right to have their own opinion), some are also simply too shy for it. I won't even start with guy hugging another guy, people are very overreactive on this matter. 

 

I am personally ok with both strangers and friends hugging me. Both online and in real life. I see hugging as more... comforting gesture and sign of friendship so it is always nice for me to get a hug from someone. I just wish I got more of them in real life :3 I think that it's bad that we are slowly drifting away from each other, becoming more distant. Sight of people hugging or just showing obvious signs of sympathy towards each other is getting more and more rare around here