Bromances/Girlmances

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Do you have any bromances/girlmances? Essentially, what they are is intense bonds with your friend(s) that usually involve nonsexual touching and physical/emotional closeness. Do you think that in these situations, often, the two people involved truly are close friends, or closeted homosexuals? 

 

 

[Doctor XFizzle 8,669]

It's guy love that's what it is. Guy love he's mine I'm his. There's nothing gay about it in our eyesssss.

 

I don't have any bromances but there's nothing wrong with it. Just a close, emotional attachment with someone who just happens to be of the same sex. 

[CloudsdaleCompanion 342]

I am in exactly this position with my best friend. We often share physical contact and get *very* close. Sometimes he just grabs and hugs me really hard, other times he would just rest his head on my shoulder or even cuddle and touch me at certain places. (not those places, it's non-sexual!)

 

I usually blush, which can be embarrassing, especially in school. He says he's straight, and usually acts that way and he doesn't really seem like the homosexual type either. I don't really know what to make of this situation.

 

As for me I'm not even sure what I am though some people here have given me the hint that I may most likely be gay and just don't want to accept it.

Edited December 8, 2012 by CloudsdaleCompanion

[mycarhasaMoustache 449]

Iv got a bromance with my best friend hes a douche bag a lot of the time but he gets me. I converted the shed at my mams house into a den many years ago and most people didnt understand it but he thought it was the most awesome thing he had ever seen. It is definitely a bromance.

[Throwaway19573639385 764]

Well, in my family this is quite normal, since we all feel very connected to eachother, but I guess this is a difference in culture. But outside of family? Nah, not really, well, there's this one person though, but it's not that strong of a bond to call a bromance. I've known him pretty much all my life but we're kinda drifting away from eachother

[Twilight Circuits 603]

HAhahaha

 

This reminds of a story between my best non brony friend (we've know each other since grade 7) and I. We hadn't seen each other for a very long time becuase he worked up north doing mining. Well, he finally moved back into town and we were so excited to get together and have a good time. So yeah, we really did get together and have a great time catching up and remeniscing about all the times we had. So one day I show at his place and his girlfriend (now wife) was there and she goes "So did you guys embrace?" she said almost laughing histerically.
   "Oh there was some bromance going on!" I laughed out loud. "No we hugged and visited, and had a great time catching up."

 

I think a lot of people misconsctrue love between guys because it's stereotyped into this into this catagory that tries to say, no you can't have emotions or that makes you weak. But that's not true, Emotional pain is actually something bronies understand and simply wish to avoid because I think a lot of us have been through what we think is terrible. But there's also some of us that say; no, we can love and tolerate as well because there really isn't any reason to treat people badly. And it hurts when other people try and do it to us. Even me.

   I'll tell yah, that my non brony best friend have a bond that is so deep that he and I feel each other's pain. Because both of us are so loving to the world, that although he doesn't understand love the way i understand it, I can tell he's in great emotional stress when he call me up and says "I was just wondering what you're doing. Haven't talked to you in a while." Just by talking with him I know he was in trouble. So I finally said "I can tell something is bothering you so just come out with it."  So he did. Apparently his ex wife had come into to town to pick someone up and brought their son with her and didn't tell him or let him visit with his son. He felt so betrayed and sad that because of a single choice of one person, he couldn't be with the one thing he loved most in the world. His son. And he fought for son. He saved up thousands to fight it in court and in the end, all her lies got her custody of their son. I know my best friend. I've never seen a more loving father in my entire life dedicated to enriching thier child in ways that i've never seen in a parent before. And when  you can't do anything except let someone pour their heartout becuase you too, are powerless, that is true love between men. I met his wife becuase he asked me one day for a ride to pick up his son... and i gotta tell yah... from everything I saw... she looked like a dark lord of the sith on crack. Now you might think that isn't very loving of you Twilight but there wasn't any love there. One of the first things she did was accuse me of being a person becuase she didn't know whom i was even though my friend told her a million times we had been best friends since grade 7. So I knew, her heart was so hard and dark that she was bringing about her own misery and becuase she didn't know she was, she didn't know her actions were bringing about misery and despair in others. You don't do that if there was love left still in your heart. I just knew that there wasn't any left in hers. And it reflecteed itself in their son. Becuase of the way he was treated, I was able to see how he reacted to certain situtations. And the only way i could see that was because of the way  i was treated when i was a kid and remember how i acted. Because i learned cause and effect in relation to love. That the terrible things that happened to you when you were a kid you didn't know they were terrible but it's what you have to work with.  And when you see one of the most loving fathers in the world lose to the court system I can understand his emotional pain because he feels like there's such a lack of real justice in the world and he can't do anything about it and neither can I cause I don't have any money at all to help him and he knows if i did I'd get give anything he needed to get his son back. And that's sometimes where I feel pain and sadness to because i can't help the world be more loving and it isn't my fault. And becuase it's the truth, I can't get rid of this kind of emotional pain except share it with others so that others at least reach an understanding of how some things are that effect us, you, or me, or all of us, how ever it does.... but that's one of the reason's why i've said we really do need each other... because.. who do you know that you can tell your most deepest emotions with... at times where you really do want just sit down and cry for while. Well, he needed an ear, he knew mine was open, and I listened as he poured out his emotional pain. Because that is true love between two people. Male, female, bi, gay, transgender, lesbian, whatever you feel you may be. And i'm trailing off again so i'm going to stop here. LOL

[khaine21x3 789]

Do you have any bromances/girlmances? Essentially, what they are is intense bonds with your friend(s) that usually involve nonsexual touching and physical/emotional closeness. Do you think that in these situations, often, the two people involved truly are close friends, or closeted homosexuals? 

 

It's actually pretty common between people who are of the same race and culture who spends a lot of time together doing all activities.I think that most are just close friends.

[Discovery Dream 592]

You mean "sisterhoods"? Girlmance sounds weird, I don't use it. And yes I do. Two, actually. One with an old-since-elementary-school BFF, another that's newer but still BFF-tastic. It's great :3

[Zygen 6,066]

I think theres a difference between having emotional connections between two people of the same sex, and having a true love relationship worthy kinda relationship.

 

I honestly wish that more guys where I am would be more loving and emotional, I mean girls are found all the time hugging and they share deep emotional bonds(Yeah theres some who don't, but a good bit of the time they are better at bonds then guys in my opinion)

So why can't guys have the same sorta thing? I think guys can learn from girls anyways for friendships.

 

Maybe I'm just strange, but I'm not gay(Again I have nothing against gays, just stating) Because I love girls before. I just feel like guys should have a deeper bond with each other, because I never see that kinda thing with guys around me ;/.

[NostalgicPony 310]

I personally an open to Bromance/Girlmance relationships or however you would like to call them. I have a few very close friends whom I look at as close allies and understanding. A few of them are guys while some are girls.

 

Like what Zygen said, what is wrong with having guys being more emotional and affectionate? I think it's completely fine to be attached to people on a deep level even if it's non-sexual. Hugging a guy and enjoying the idea of being around him is just as fine as a girl doing the same with another, but that's just me. I personally enjoy the idea of cuddling and hugging someone and being close, but some people reject that but I am very thankful that I know some that are the compete opposite.

[Mephala 2,633]

Nah, since all of my friends are guys besides two girls who I rarely see.

Sometimes I'm all for personal space, and sometimes I'm super huggy; depends on the day and the people.

Of course it's nothing sexual, but I do get called a whore for it.

However, some of them like me, so I have to be careful with them.

With my girl friends, I purposely act like a creep to freak them out. :3

Edited December 9, 2012 by PinkieDaShy

[Lucky Bolt 35,065]

Well, I think it's safe to say there's a definite girlmance going on between me and @Misty Breeze. 

[The Historian 516]

Got a girlmance thingy going on with my best friend. Hell, we've been super close for a good decade now.

[Early Sunsets 2,107]

I wish I was that close to someone. I don't think it necessarily means those people are secretly dating or want to, but it's probably fairly likely.

[Emerald Heart 24,939]

I hold hands with my BFF all the time. Neither of us are lesbian.

It's completely normal.

[Rebel the Wolfgirl 5,605]

2 hours ago, Lucky Bolt said:

Well, I think it's safe to say there's a definite girlmance going on between me and @Misty Breeze. 

Oh, definitely.

[Here No Longer 5,276]

I can't say I've really been in any sort of "romance" of that sort, though I can imagine it's just an extremely close platonic relationship with a friend.

 

I find it hard to get close to people, plus my sexuality might make having such a relationship with someone of the same sex a bit... hard.  

[SparklingSquirrels 21,347]

Nah, I’ve never really had a super close female friend. Apart from my boyfriend I usually just talk to my friends occasionally.

[Dreambiscuit 9,961]

I have a very close friendship with a gal pal of mine at work. She’s the one I call my soul sister and I can’t imagine being much closer to anyone. But it’s still just friendship and I couldn’t imagine anything ‘closeted’ beyond that. We hug and we can be affectionate but it’s not a romantic kind of thing. We’re just knit together in the soul, that’s all. 

[Cash In 22,431]

Can't say that I've had any. I've never been that close to any of my friends, but you do you.

Edited October 16, 2020 by Cash In

[Meson Bolt 2,648]

There's a lot of hugging and affection between bros in the Army. I don't personally care for it, but sometimes I get roped in. As long as it's in good fun, I'm alright with it.