Do looks matter to you?

[ChoroChii 284]

I rate myself a 4.

 

Looks do kind of matter but only to an extent. I want to date somebody I'm actually attracted to and not think is ugly, you know?

[Envy 6,169]

Looks are secondary. The one person I have really loved, I loved by their personality first, and then the physical attraction came later.

 

Looks fade. Love is about personality.

[FatalRain 108]

They matter to a degree

I have to feel an attraction to people in order to date them, however, what I find attractive and what society finds attractive tend to be pretty different

I can also feel more attracted to someone if they have an amazing personality and I click really well with them

And furthermore...I wouldn't want to date someone that's "Gorgeous" because they're more than likely full of themselves and I can't stand that

[Dattebayo 2,850]

I'm blind, so not really... I can't see people's faces.

B..but how do you internet?

[Mightymags 1,053]

Looks only matter to me when I'm first getting to know someone. I'm not that great looking so I don't feel like I have a lot of room to judge people based on their looks. ( I gave myself a 5 because I honestly have no idea)

 

That being said I think it's important to date someone that's about the same level of attractiveness as you, or else one of you will always be viewed at "lesser" and it will be very hard to get past. 

 

Once I've known someone for a while it's hard for me to tell if they're attractive or not though. I don't know if any of my friends are attractive because I've spent so much time with them. After a while the person's personality is more important. If I'm really attracted to someone's personality then I'll look at them and see the most beautiful person I've ever met. 

Edited April 9, 2014 by Mightymags

[RED20 289]

Why no option for 11 on the poll? I really wanted to be honest, but I couldn't.

[PixelJadke 3]

I won't say looks don't affect the way I look at someone at ALL (I am a human being, after all), but I've never met a person whom I would consider to be naturally ugly. Now, there are plenty of ways to mess up your physical appearance (permanent or otherwise), but as far as natural ugliness goes... nope! Never seen it!

[Away 2,077]

I guess they do in one way or another, though personality is WAY more important. You can look as good as you want but those looks will fade. Either that or some horrible accident will happen that completely screws you over. This is sorta why I pity people who place looks first.

 

When I first started having feelings for my crush, it was solely because of her personality. Then after we started dating, I got to see what she looks like and it turns out that she's really friggin' beautiful too, which is definitely a bonus.

[Ribbonfree 2,383]

Looks establish first impression, which to some extent determines if you want to approach a person in the first place. So yes, I feel it's important to me. What I try not to be is hypocritical about it. I understand that I'm not very attractive so I don't set my standards high in the appearance category. I've never felt the need to, I find a lot of looks beautiful outside of the media stereotypes of beauty. But if I don't feel a person is aesthetically at least acceptable, it will be detrimental to a romantic relationship.

[Side Bird 566]

Not really. No. I don't think looks should dominate a relationship or anything like that. As long as you love the person they shouldn't matter much. Personality comes first, good looks are like a bonus.

Though sometimes yes, cause it could determine if you approach someone.

I give myself like a 4.

Edited April 9, 2014 by Twilight Luna~<3

[Swirl 90]

I think looks aren't a "yes" or "no" matter, I'd imagine everyone cares about them to a certain extent. I don't really care about how I look (with the exceptions of my short hair and beaky nose) because I don't care about how others look: if they wear gallons of makeup or have 12 piercings on their face it's not my place to judge: after all, nobody is perfect. Especially not me. At the end of the day what should really matter is someone's personality, not what shows on the outside.

[Sabrinie 392]

I think looks kind of matter in a relationship but they definitely aren't the main reason to stay with someone. The reason you're first attracted to someone is usually based on their looks, so your initial attraction is usually completely superficial. But if you can't keep a spark going through conversation and having things in common, looks aren't going to be enough to keep the relationship strong. 

[DubWolf 17,264]

Here's how I think of it: if the person you loved so much, was suddenly very ugly, would you still love them?

 

Frankly I'm not so sure. I can't predict my emotions for certain events to happen, realistic or not. It's complicated for me, and sometimes you're not sure if you fell for the looks or their personality. If a new person I met is not so attractive, I could try to be friends and see where that takes us.

 

I guess I'll provide an example.

 

Over 2 years ago, I became friends with someone while still in high school, and I thought that was going to be just it: we'd only be friends. I only thought she was cute, but I wasn't thinking about a relationship (which I think is a good thing since I didn't know her very well already). Eventually she enabled me to get to know her more by frequently texting and talking.. (and boy-o, she texted me a lot more than we would talk!...sadly), and well, I had a crush on her. That's sort of when I started to see how beautiful she was. Not just her appearance (although she's probably a 5 or 6 lol), but herself. To me, she is a 10.

 

 

I guess initially, looks shouldn't matter. Ideally, you should look past how someone looks like, but once you have strong feelings for them, you probably become physically attracted to them if you haven't already. Besides, you wouldn't try to jump into dating right away, which I almost wanted doing a few weeks ago with another person.

 

But I do think being physically unattractive is a barrier for a lot of relationships, since I've been single for almost 2 years, despite my ex and others have said I was cute (I rate myself a 5). But, I think your looks might be really attractive to some people, but not so much to others.

Edited April 9, 2014 by Super80 Wolf

[ReverseFaller 2,483]

Looks do matter, even if only a tiny bit.

 

I care much more about personality though.

 

I'll give myself a 5, since I don't want to seem like I hate myself nor do I want to seem like I think too highly of myself. I'm a good 'ol average joe!

[Brony Number 42 10,069]

Looks matter. Anyone who says otherwise is lying. Even if you say looks don't matter, I would bet you would take a hottie over a fatty. If you are lucky enough to be good looking then you have the luxury of being picky. You can shop for personality because you know you will find someone pretty. If you are ugly like me then your options are:

1: settle for an ugly and dumb person

2: win the lottery or somehow become rich

3: Stay single and realize you dodged a bullet and count yourself lucky.

 

The label "ugly" is not an insult, it is a description. Some of us are just ugly. That's the way it is.

 

I'm a 2.

[Unikitty 1,212]

To a degree. I believe people should hold up to a certain level of hygiene and health. People who are complete slobs, or think that living like a rat is perfectly acceptable, are unattractive. I'm don't scrub 18 times a day and bathe in antibacterial liquid, but I do make sure that my clothing is clean, and I don't smell like I've just been emptying rabbit cages.

Biologically, I don't find obesity attractive. I'm sorry, but I just don't buy into all the "big-boned" stuff. Yes, not everybody is tall and lean, or has the metabolism of a horse, but there is a difference between being big, and being overweight to the point of which you find it hard to walk a couple hundred metres. Even a minor watch of diet and fitness can vastly improve one's overall health and appearance.

I know not everybody has a perfect face. There can only be one Johnny Depp. I prefer smoother, petite bodies, and as vain as it sounds, I'm no fan of fuller body-types. That's just my preference. I don't believe non-petite women to be ugly. I just don't find it significantly attractive, and how a lady appears visually contributes to a considerable chunk of preference towards them.

99% of the time, plastic surgery is NOT attractive. It's fake, it's noticeable, and it make you look like you've replaced said body part with a comical prosthetic. It is not pretty, no matter how rounded your chest is. In some instances, operations can assist in fixing an aspect that is damaged, but really, if it ain't broke, don't fix it. Everyone has difference preferences, so what's ugly to one person, could be considered beautiful to another.

[White Lie 67]

Gosh, I wish there was a "somewhat" option.

I wish it didn't have to be this way, but looks do kind of matter to me, if I'm not physically attracted to someone I can't much see myself being romantically attracted.  Now this being said, some of my exes were not drop-dead 10/10 handsome, but they weren't (pardon) "pale dweebs" either.  But what they lacked they made up for in humor, wit, and personality similarity.

I hate to admit it but I have rejected/friendzoned men based on their looks though (the one in mind was extremely overweight) but that doesn't mean he was a bad guy at all and I'm still friends with him to this day.  Did I feel guilty? A little.

[Sir Hugsalot 9,348]

It's kinda complicated in my case. I definitely pay a lot more attention to personality. Looks are second (and not necesarry) aspect. I can easily end up with crush on "average" yet very nice and sweet girl but there is no way I would ever have crush on girl that is "hot" yet has awful personality. And every crush I had in my life was about girl's personality. Good look is only nice and not necesarry addition  

[SparklingSquirrels 21,345]

No, not really. I think personality is much more important - I decide if I like someone based on their personality and not how they look. I actually began to see my boyfriend as more handsome the more I fell in love with his personality, and if he wasn't my boyfriend, I might not think of him as being that handsome. However, I wouldn't want to be with such an ugly person that shows they don't care for their health, I mean, it's unhealthy to have really bad hygiene.

 

I'd rate myself a 6 or 7 on my good-looking days, and a 5 or 6 on my not-so-good-looking days

[Neon Fire 473]

It's honestly hard for me to not care about looks.  I don't mind for friends, but in a relationship, it kind of is important.  And I know, I'm one of the people who thinks looks aren't important, but I just can't drive away from that.

 

I'd rate myself average.  I've never had anyone comment on how I look or anything, but you guys can be the judge of that.  I have pics of my on my DA.  But yeah, I'd rate myself average or below.  That could just be me being self conscious though.

[GottlosMann 221]

As long as I can look at you without cringing, there's no problem. And I've seen some pretty sick shit without flinching, so your looks are probably fine by me.

The only time looks matter to me is in porn. :3

And clean shaven I'd be a 5, but my beard saved me and bumped me up to 8.

Edited April 10, 2014 by GottlosMann

[Its.Yara 10]

As long as I can look at you without cringing, there's no problem. And I've seen some pretty sick shit without flinching, so your looks are probably fine by me.

The only time looks matter to me is in porn. :3

And clean shaven I'd be a 5, but my beard saved me and bumped me up to 8.

Beards always bumps literally everyone to an 8 haha except for woman....unless you a dwarf, then thats a whole other story lol

[~Sugar Sprinkles~ 638]

I guess it depends really. I honestly focus on hygiene. If someone crushes on me and it looks like they have not showered in 1,000 years and they smell horribly, then I hate to say, No. Not trying to sound heartless.

 

My boyfriend isn't exactly someone you would call "Hot". He is more adorable than anything. He is a little pudgy too, which makes it cute in my opinion. I honestly like having a boyfriend who isn't "hot or "sexy" because it pretty much states that no one will interfere with us.

 

But, I pretty much do go for the heart.

[Confetti Nova 58]

It's good to be healthy and properly groom/bathe yourself. It's really about feeling good about yourself no matter what shape, size and etc you are. Looks aren't important to me at all though.

[Felix 1,363]

I'm kind of so and so on it. I like what others are saying in that they should definitely look healthy, that in itself even tells you a bit about the person, but as far as pretty or ugly goes, I don't really apply it much. If someone is noticeably beautiful, yeah I'll latch to it but that wouldn't be the reason I like them. Personality matters most to me. If they don't look all that good...I don't see it as a reason to treat them any different. They still have the personality you fell in love with. If they're beautiful, well, I see it as a bonus then. Like "Hey, I love your personality, and you're even pretty! That's cool!" Just kind of casual. It is nice to have good looks.

 

Now as far as myself goes, I definitely try to get my looks into their best shape. It's a bit hard as a teen because I have a slight acne issue, but I do shower everyday and take care of it, so it's not too bad. I have good hygiene. I'm not gonna rate myself though. I'm under confident of myself in that category, and a lot of people I've met online have called me adorable and such but also a fair amount of people in real life have proceeded to call me ugly so, I don't know. My high school has a ton of judgmental brats so I guess that doesn't help. But, anyway. Yeah.