Well, whether we like it or not there will always be bully's and whether you stand up to them or not its up to you.
I have some bad history whit bullying myself which i was gonna post but seeing it would be a story of 7k+ words i prefer to save it for a blog im working.
But long story short, there are a few lessons in life I have learn concerning bullying.
Lesson #1: While a lot of us prefer solitude some of the time, there is none who can withstand it for all the time, try to make friends and cared for something.
Lesson #2: Expect things to get worse if you don't stop it. This is the fact for everything, Just like building a house or crafting an Instrument, if you dont stop at the moment were the problem begins then the whole projects while be faulty and will create even worse problems later down the road.
When bullying begins you have to act right away and defend yourself against it otherwise it will only get worse from then on.
Lesson #3: Know your bully:
In my experience they exist 3 types of bullies
1: The classic Bully.
2: The Mental Bully. (AKA Disturb/molested/bad parenting/Previously Bullied/Personal traumas etc etc)
3: The Personal Bully.
A bully can be anything, from school to work to even your own house, henceforth if the first attemp to stop the bullying fails search why the bullying is against you, is it really you or the bully himself that's the problem. and let me explain:
What i mean by you is, Is it really out for you and you alone or is he a bully to anyone, they are school bully and personal bully's the ladder one are the problematic ones, cause this are the ones who will do anything because they just want to, while School bully's are those classic ones that pick on the nerds for being nerds because there sport joks etc etc, which these are easy to dealt whit, most of the time you just have to stand up to them and once they feel they cant do anything against you they'll leave you alone, in this case its all about self confidence, its still wrong to have to do this way, since you shouldn't have to prove your worth to begin whit, but that's the fastest and easiest way to deal whit such persons.
The next type of bully is the one who's being a bully because of personal reasons, such as them being bullied at a previous school or has issues at home, or as trauma from previous experiences, most of these can be identified by they way the speak, such as do they make reference as, "Well, you have a nicer backpack then me, so ill beat you up" or "ill beat you up because you think your better than me" etc etc etc, Most of these are the ones that either have a crappy household were there is no parents to pay them attention or there is a lot of a abuse in the house, again there can be help but you have to find their weakness and show them kindness, cause even tho you feel like you must hate them they are are still children that can be help, however dont take it on your hands, whenever you deal whit this type of bully is better to seek a help from an adult, this way they'll be able to help you out and give you a better advise on how to overcame this.
However if its a personal bully then that's different and as such you must act different, cause most of the times their goal is to make your life miserable and they don't care about the consequences this are the ones that in the end lead to suicides and depression.
This type of bully's are dangerous because they will go to extreme measures to humiliate you and make you feel like the worse scum of the world, this are the ones that you most definitely cannot ignored nor can you try to stand up to them, cause its a personal vendetta they have against you and if you stand up to them alone they will beat you down and it will make things worse, you can stand up to them but you have to do it whit help, that way they know that if they do something to you there will be consequences to pay, but again you have to be smart about it and seek help.
Lesson #4: Never give up and Fight.
If all else fails, giving up is not the answer and is not even in the last moment of your life should you think about giving up, the world can be very dark and cruel trust me, I'm a victim of not only bullying but of molestation and tortured, so i know how evil humanity can be, however if you fight to live on you will find that life its quite beautiful once you find a reason to live for, but you need to search for it and never give up, you don't need a deity or fate to tell you who you are, you make your own path to happiness, and the last thing that should ever cross to anyone's mind its to kill themselves, specially because of someone who doesn't even matter in the end.
Bully's in the end are for the most part attention whores and they do it because it gives them attention for the most part, but its up to you in the end to stop and the only way you can do it its by seeking help, and having the courage to stop, will it be easy? no but its the only way you can protect yourself and those around you.