What Is It About You Makes You Feel Less Connected From Most Forum Members?

[Dreambiscuit 9,691]

I don’t exactly feel un-connected. But if there was anything I’d say maybe the fact that I don’t hang out in the more social circles of Forum Games and often stay off the forums for weeks at a time. I’m also extremely conservative, and it seems that the majority here are not.  

[aoEAF2FBvC0MIo2Q 3,673]

Honestly, I'm not even trying to fit in. I just speak my mind and move on to the next thing.

Also, a very surprising number of bronies are conservative which is just baffling. You'd think that a show with cutesy aesthetics and focused on friendship regardless on one's differences would be a deterrent to conservatives who are all about dominance hierarchies -- whether it is the group projecting dominance towards outsider groups or individuals within the group projecting dominance over who they deem as lesser fellows.

Perhaps conservatism isn't what it used to be. 

[Sherem 4,807]

Maybe because I'm to depressive and I'm afraid to fall into another stupid project of mine that I know will be a waste of time for all involved, like my time I was in RP. I didn't realized I sucked so bad at it before it was too late. I might had a connection before...but then I could still make "art" of MLP. And then I realized I sucked at that as well. I think it's because I can't contribute at all or with anything worthwhile. I still love MLP but I realize that I'm not a creative or a good creator of content, and in this fandom that's kinda of a requisite to feel like you truly belong.

[Clawdeen 12,191]

It’s hard because as far as it goes with things I really like, I’ve seen at least a few others on the forums who likes it as well. Like FNAF for example. Same goes for hobbies as well. There’s nothing that out there that I like or do that I’ve not seen at least a few other people like/do as well on here. I don’t really feel any disconnection in regards to that.

I suppose if anything were to cause a disconnection it would be more related to my personality. Perhaps how overly open I am in regards to myself as well. I’ve not really interacted with many users on here. 

I mean overall If I felt that disconnected to the community here I’d leave, as I’ve done other forums in the past. 

[Tom Gallagher 33,581]

The only time I ever feel a disconnect from anypony is when they talk about something they did on Discord. I don't have or want Discord because I'm busy enough as is, but they mention it quite a lot. 

[Luna the Great of all the Russias 2,984]

Despite having been a member of this site for a long time and posting quite a bit (or perhaps not really considering how long I have been here), I have not really attempted to establish connections here; though there are some members with whom I would expect I would get along relatively well.

[Northern Star 1,024]

Well I'll put it in a way that I'm sure most will go "...what?": image you are a human and you got pulled away from the earth in about 1900 and the were dropped back in in 1946 in the middle of Germany. 

You're kinda there going "what happened? What did I miss? How did we get here? How did we get to this point on this? Why are all these people gone(dead accounts)? Etc"

Basically I'm slowly going through trying to figure out what I missed as I didn't think there would be an online community for this as...well you know.

Also the fact that it appears that you have completely opposite sides(beliefs, religion, politics, etc) being somewhat peaceful, for the most part, somehow. 

So everyone here seems to know a general history and goes "this is normal" and such, and I'm going "...what?"

[Clawdeen 12,191]

I still agree with my former post. I think the majority of my disconnect comes from my personality than my likes. I’ve at least met one other user who’s liked something I like since I’ve joined here.

[Iforgotmybrain 5,618]

Lack of shared interests.

[Sparklefan1234 170,274]

"What Is It About You Makes You Feel Less Connected From Most Forum Members?"

*Looks at my current avatar* I'm a Disney duck on a Hasbro My Little Pony forum. 

Seriously, not sharing a lot of similar interests outside of My Little Pony. 

Edited August 18 by Sparklefan1234

[GodlyWolf Gusty 2,147]

On 2023-09-20 at 12:18 AM, Clawdeen said:

I still agree with my former post. I think the majority of my disconnect comes from my personality than my likes. I’ve at least met one other user who’s liked something I like since I’ve joined here.

Yeah. . . . . 

I'm not about to pretend that we have alot in common, but I still like and get along with you.

14 minutes ago, Iforgotmybrain said:

Lack of shared interests.

Well I don't know what all your interests are but if your ever down to game, I'll be there. id be there for you even if it wasn't for that though.

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I think what separates and makes me feel less connected from most forum members is that maybe I'm too open/ energetic/ extroverted. I think that comes from my desire to never fear anything in life.

It's not me being arrogant or pushy. It's me trying to help in my own way, probably when I shouldn't.

[Jackleberry 1,921]

Hard to even begin connecting with people when I lack any conversational skills, things to talk about and relate to people with, etc.

So I kinda just exist in my own little bubble, wandering around and making random posts here and there. Not the most interesting friendship candidate, I would imagine. ^^

[Tom Gallagher 33,581]

On 2021-06-09 at 9:13 AM, Tom Gallagher said:

The only time I ever feel a disconnect from anypony is when they talk about something they did on Discord. I don't have or want Discord because I'm busy enough as is, but they mention it quite a lot. 

Well, that aged like milk. 

[Longhaul 6,842]

I think for me, it's age, followed by lack of common interests (besides ponies of course), and my tendency to disappear unannounced for months at a time thanks to my depression taking hold.  I've lost a lot of good connections that way, and it's hard to try to reconnect after I return to the site.

[Sparklefan1234 170,274]

On 2023-10-02 at 7:25 AM, Sparklefan1234 said:

"What Is It About You Makes You Feel Less Connected From Most Forum Members?"

*Looks at my current avatar* I'm a Disney duck on a Hasbro My Little Pony forum. 

Seriously, I've tried shows etc. forum members are interested in but I still don't share those same interests for a lot of reasons.

 

Honestly, what makes me feel the most disconnected from my fellow MLPF members is the fact that a lot of the movies and TV shows they recommend

aren't of much interest to me which, gives me one less thing to discuss with them to build our friendships even more. 🙁

[Starlight Serenade 3,111]

42 minutes ago, Sparklefan1234 said:

 

Honestly, what makes me feel the most disconnected from my fellow MLPF members is the fact that a lot of the movies and TV shows they recommend

aren't of much interest to me which, gives me one less thing to discuss with them to build our friendships even more. 🙁

I sometimes feel the same way, but I think it's fantastic that everyone has their own unique interests. It opens the door for me to discover new things I might not have explored otherwise. Even if I don’t end up enjoying something, the process of exploring it and understanding its appeal to others can be really valuable. Embracing this diversity of experiences and finding meaning in the exploration itself is important. It can also help me understand others better, which is something I’m starting to appreciate more.