Why girls dress like that if they don't want to be seen by others.

[Motion Spark 7,807]

do you think that I was about to say why you girls dress as sluts right? well no...

this is not the case, not at all...

 

I have a classmate at my university, who is constantly covering her boobs with her jacket, sometimes this annoys me, because it cut off my concentration when we are talking. She usually wears soft fabric pants (from work) and blouses with mild cleveage and an unzipped jacket (fuk logic), I admit that I've stared every now and then but I doubt that she caught me at any time.

Anyways, I bet that she do that because she feels like someone is staring at her boobs, I can tell by the ninja glaring she throws that lasts for a couple of millisecons just to get back to the conversation (yes, I am THAT observer)... I mean if you don't want to be seen cover yourself woman! but for good! this is just an example of what I am talking about.

 

why do girls get mad at people who stare at their ... "things" if they keep dressing with provocative (not slutty) clothes. For example, if you (girl) are at bar with a bunch of drunk guys, why on earth would you go with a minimal top and a mini skirt (to put some example) if you would always try to cover everything up and just screw the night of your friends with your bad mood because everyone is staring at you.

 

if she thinks that all the guys that are "staring" at her boobs are embarassing and pathetic, I'd say that she is more embarassing, for dressing up like that in the first place, and then for implicitly craving for attention, because probably that guy would be staring at the girl next to her, which was hoter XD

 

I mean, I don't understand this logic.

 

PD: if you girl, feel identified with this thread it's just a mere coincidence

Edited October 10, 2012 by Motion Spark

[Starshine 16,333]

I partially believe it's the same logic why some men loves to take his expensive cars and stuff around with him, for bragging rights

 

The girls never want to show their assets to males, they subconsciously want to show to other females that "lol mine are bigger"

 

CMIIW

[Fox 5,330]

Logic of zee average woman.

Some people feel like they need to hide things, because they feel more comfortable around others. Not all women are comfortable with people constantly staring at them if they want to talk about something. Where the value your personality versus your possible sexual interests.

[Motion Spark 7,807]

I partially believe it's the same logic why some men loves to take his expensive cars and stuff around with him, for bragging rights

 

The girls never want to show their assets to males, they subconsciously want to show to other females that "lol mine are bigger"

 

CMIIW

 

can you afford a lot of expensive cars?

 

ahaha I think your logic is pretty flawed but damn it was funny lol "mine are bigger" WTF!! XD

[Starshine 16,333]

ahaha I think your logic is pretty flawed but damn it was funny lol "mine are bigger" WTF!! XD

I'm not a woman, can only do some wild-ass guessing :x

 

But still, some guys do love showing of their assets (muscles and other shit), so maybe the same thing also applies to girls

[Motion Spark 7,807]

I'm not a woman, can only do some wild-ass guessing :x

 

But still, some guys do love showing of their assets (muscles and other shit), so maybe the same thing also applies to girls

 

Hmmm with guys it's WAYYYYYYYY too different .... I mean, you are all pumped up with big muscles and stuff I don't think that you would cover them up with huge jackets and cry in a corner when someone compliment your muscles.

guys brags muscles, that's a fact.

 

Logic of zee average woman.

Some people feel like they need to hide things, because they feel more comfortable around others. Not all women are comfortable with people constantly staring at them if they want to talk about something. Where the value your personality versus your possible sexual interests.

 

I get you, but I'm not talking about these girls, I'm talking about the girls who dress to show up but deep inside they are annoyed at people looking at them.

[sleepyhead. 174]

I admit, I like having attention lavished on me, the proper attention though. I dress sensibly however. I never saw the appeal in revealing my body for everyone to ogle me. Something like that should be more mysterious...you know?

[Fox 5,330]

I get you, but I'm not talking about these girls, I'm talking about the girls who dress to show up but deep inside they are annoyed at people looking at them.

 

 

 

Motion Spark, she's just playing hard to get!

 

I kid. I kid. In a situation like that I'd assume she's either secretly craving attention on purpose, and just denies the attention. Or maybe I'm silly and it's something else.

[Motion Spark 7,807]

I admit, I like having attention lavished on me, the proper attention though. I dress sensibly however. I never saw the appeal in revealing my body for everyone to ogle me. Something like that should be more mysterious...you know?

 

but do you have the feeling that someone is looking at you and get paranoid? and if indeed that happens to you how would you react?

 

Motion Spark, she's just playing hard to get!

 

I kid. I kid. In a situation like that I'd assume she's either secretly craving attention on purpose, and just denies the attention. Or maybe I'm silly and it's something else.

 

that can be the case.

But girls are way to complicated sometimes XD have you heard of that saying that girls comes from venus and guys from mars? XD

Edited October 10, 2012 by Motion Spark

[sleepyhead. 174]

but do you have the feeling that someone is looking at you and get paranoid? and if indeed that happens to you how would you react?

 

I get paranoid if someone glances at me, it's just some weird quirk. Even if I'm all covered up. I mean, if I knew their intent was basically to stare at me as a sex object, honestly I walk away and ignore it or I would start a verbal confrontation.

[AegisReflector 886]

Because women want to express themselves in their own way, and they don't want to view the male race as a bunch of hormone-ridden fools who think nothing about sexsexsex every 15 seconds. They only dress like that to match their own personality, and they don't think about males looking at them and having pipe dreams in the back of the classroom.

 

Funny thing is that I'm more of a "face" person rather than "body", so when I view someone, I ALWAYS look at them at forehead level which sometimes can lead to "What? Is there something on my face?" Kind of awkward.

 

honestly I walk away and ignore it or I would start a verbal confrontation

Confronting them is a bad idea lol. Some might get actually turned on MORE by that. Just sayin' as a guy.

Edited October 10, 2012 by AegisReflector

[sleepyhead. 174]

Confronting them is a bad idea lol. Some might get actually turned on MORE by that. Just sayin' as a guy.

 

I admit, I like picking fights heh. I'm so feisty that I don't mind cussing a perv out. IF IT'S NECESSARY. I usually just ignore any rude comments I receive, and when an individual notices I am not paying them any attention, they give up.

[Motion Spark 7,807]

I get paranoid if someone glances at me, it's just some weird quirk. Even if I'm all covered up. I mean, if I knew their intent was basically to stare at me as a sex object, honestly I walk away and ignore it or I would start a verbal confrontation.

 

what do you usually wear, do you use tops with cleveage, I mean, how do you know that someone is staring, yeah I know that some guys are just plain dumb and just get caught easily but some aren't even looking and you can confuse that with them glancing at your attributes

 

@@AegisReflector, that's a damn good response but if they want to match their personality with a really deep cleavage, and then they are all angry when the guys are staring at her almost out boobs (XD). I mean, that's the part that I don't understand XD

[AegisReflector 886]

I admit, I like picking fights heh. I'm so feisty that I don't mind cussing a perv out. IF IT'S NECESSARY. I usually just ignore any rude comments I receive, and when an individual notices I am not paying them any attention, they give up.

 

I personally believe that if you just ignore them, they'll eventually just move on to another girl to oogle on, mainly because men lose interest quickly over women relatively quickly when they are of that teenage hormonal age (unless you're on of those people who's the "needy" type and wants that SPECIFIC someone). Just confronting them and calling them out might make them more obliged to look or even stalk at you even more just because it's a weird sort of negative attraction. Kind of odd to describe.

[sleepyhead. 174]

what do you usually wear, do you use tops with cleveage, I mean, how do you know that someone is staring, yeah I know that some guys are just plain dumb and just get caught easily but some aren't even looking and you can confuse that with them glancing at your attributes

 

 

Sometimes I show off some cleavage, sure. If I have it, I feel as though I have some right to show it off. Of course the key word being some. I do not think it is very classy to have my breasts hanging out so everyone can see everything, but being kind of sexy and mysterious is another thing. That's usually in the summer. I prefer t-shirts and baggy sweaters with a nice pair of jeans most of the time. I admit I can never tell if someone is staring at me with bad intent but...I judge. Certain experiences years ago, you know?

 

 

I personally believe that if you just ignore them, they'll eventually just move on to another girl to oogle on, mainly because men lose interest quickly over women relatively quickly when they are of that teenage hormonal age (unless you're on of those people who's the "needy" type and wants that SPECIFIC someone). Just confronting them and calling them out might make them more obliged to look or even stalk at you even more just because it's a weird sort of negative attraction. Kind of odd to describe.

 

Haha, I suppose you're right about that. I am not the one who is well known for thinking before speaking though...but ignoring works a good 8/10 times.

[Motion Spark 7,807]

Sometimes I show off some cleavage, sure. If I have it, I feel as though I have some right to show it off. Of course the key word being some. I do not think it is very classy to have my breasts hanging out so everyone can see everything, but being kind of sexy and mysterious is another thing. That's usually in the summer. I prefer t-shirts and baggy sweaters with a nice pair of jeans most of the time. I admit I can never tell if someone is staring at me with bad intent but...I judge. Certain experiences years ago, you know?

if you really can't tell if someone is looking or not, it's kind of tricky because when you wear certain clothes you could be just paranoid and defensive because you feel like someone is glancing there and whatnot.

Actually you're the kind of girl that I'm talking about, and it's always good to know your point of view

 

the lines in bold LOL XD

Edited October 10, 2012 by Motion Spark

[Sugarcube 213]

A lot of it has to do with some of them want attention but only from certain people, that this is also how society tells you to dress if you want to be feminine and accepted as a female, and some of them probably just don't realize what they are doing.

 

I love to dress up, but more often than not I cover almost everything, because of my own insecurities with my body, how every clevage shows, and a lot of it has to do with how women's clothes fit me and the fact I'm busty. I also will show small amounts of cleveage when out with the boyfriend, not because I am trying to attract anyone else's attention, but to draw my boyfriend's attention to me and so he sees me as sexy and attractive and feminine.

 

Women are constantly bombarded to dress this way, look this way, show some skin it's sexy, and go to a women's clothing aisle and you will be hard pressed to not find a top that doesn't reveal some clevage or skin of some sort, (hence why I always buy tshirts in the men's section) To be feminine and a female according to the media, which we do learn to imitate as a way to construct gender identity, is to show skin, dress slightly provactive, but not too much or your a slut and will be rejected, don't cover too much or your a prude and will also be rejected.

 

I think that is why you see so many women who show a little skin and then feel self concious about it, because they don't know how else to express themselves, they don't know how to construct this idea of feminine in any other way

Edited October 10, 2012 by Sugarcube

[NeverAgain653289he32 285]

I kid, I kid but anyways I think some woman do it to brag to other woman, but also some woman are big hypocrites because they stare at guys all the time but if a guy stares at them they get creeped out (Understand I don't think all woman are like this just some.). Also there are some woman who don't dress revealing and still get started at by guys by being pretty or having a stunning line of clothing.

[Motion Spark 7,807]

@@Sugarcube, I love, love, love your response, the fact that you want to dress up for your boyfriend makes another context up to discussion, because you just want to show up for him and that can bring unwanted attention from other males. I don't know how irritating that can be for you.

Some girls are cool about it, and some just get paranoid and freak out.

 

@, girls look too, the difference is that they can hide it better than the guys! XD ...I'm sorry but your post was kind of confusing, but I get the main idea

Edited October 10, 2012 by Motion Spark

[Sugarcube 213]

@Motion Spark

 

lol I'm actually quite awful at noticing when men or women are paying attention to me. Boyfriend will point it out for me, because I"m clueless and once I realize it sometimes it makes me super self conscious, not because of how I am dressed but because of my self esteem issues also do to some trauma in my background I can sometimes be scared of men so when I realize unwanted attention it isn't because I am frowning at them because I chose to dress a certain way but because I have learned to fear men I don't know and be weary of them.

 

I realize when I am showing a bit of cleavage and I realize the reactions that go with it, the only reaction that matters to me is my boyfriend's, and even though I know he loves me in my geeky tshirts, hair thrown back, blue jeans and boots, I want to be able to be soft, clean, put together and feminine at times by wearing skirts with tights, blazers and slightly low cut undershirts. It makes me feel good about me and keeps things fresh for us both.

 

I think women are also largely taught that reaction, that oh gosh you are leering at me so you must be objectifying me as a sex object. As a woman who is also attracted to other women I never see myself when checking out another girl, as objectifying her but appreciating her beauty and my attraction to her. I'm not gwaking or looking because all I see is her cleavage but because I find her beautiful or cute, or attractive in some manner and that first bit of skin gets included in that attention.

Edited October 10, 2012 by Sugarcube

[Crispy 5,563]

It's probably gotten to the point where I seem very terse with girls, because when you purposely don't look their way, they might think you just want to avoid them altogether. ._.

[Bronium 512]

But still, some guys do love showing of their assets (muscles and other shit), so maybe the same thing also applies to girls

The thing is, they don't complain when girls (or guys) stare at them. Well, maybe the homophobic ones and the ones trying to be...different?

 

Either way, a quick looksie doesn't mean I want to have sex with you. It's just a look. I mean, I look at hands sometimes, and even focus on the nose, but on one really brings that up. I mean, it's kind of insulting to me, thinking that I want to have sex with you, just because of a look.

[hana 217]

first of all, todays generation's girls doesnt get mad if you stare at their "things", some of them get amberessed, but some find it funny

of course theres those idiots that can go with miniskrits and ripped shirts that has a text on them saying "my boobs are huge" and still get mad if someone look at them or something

and about the reason girls goes hulf naked, well, first reason is fuship, people find it pretty and attractive, if you wanna be pretty and attractive, you have to wear this small piece of fabric.

second reason is, and you must agree, if much more fun to walk with much less clothes (thats why people like fridays and sundays)

[Motion Spark 7,807]

I think women are also largely taught that reaction, that oh gosh you are leering at me so you must be objectifying me as a sex object. As a woman who is also attracted to other women I never see myself when checking out another girl, as objectifying her but appreciating her beauty and my attraction to her. I'm not gwaking or looking because all I see is her cleavage but because I find her beautiful or cute, or attractive in some manner and that first bit of skin gets included in that attention.

I know what you're saying here, why do you think that I want to think of you as a sex object? I mean, we are talking and we are kinda close, and you're wearing a shirt that shows a bit of cleavage, why would you get mad if look at it really quick? I mean, it draws attention XD I'm appreciating your beauty! XD ...you couldn't have explained that any better

 

Either way, a quick looksie doesn't mean I want to have sex with you. It's just a look. I mean, I look at hands sometimes, and even focus on the nose, but on one really brings that up. I mean, it's kind of insulting to me, thinking that I want to have sex with you, just because of a look.

hahaha!! very true, but how would you feel if a shameless girl would stare at your package? lol the reaction from men would be much more different XD

[Dimitri Hammer 3,645]

Well Motion Spark, my best friend in the world, I have only this to say.

 

I have no idea how women work. I will probably never understand even if I am to become a woman. I got really lucky once with my late wife but after that I have a hard time making romantic relationships. Friendly relationships are also difficult. I am apparently terrifying looking but they seem to like my accent. One woman told me to shave my beard off if I wanted to be in a relationship with her. I obviously ditched that chick. Just a month ago I was slapped by a woman who thought I was staring at her breasts. It wasn't my fault, they were rather large and she was wearing a tube top....in Alaska. I usually don't let appearances bother me. I don't care how big your breasts or butt is. I only care about personality. As I said, I got lucky with my late wife. She was gorgeous...now I'm going to smoke my pipe and think about my past.