What Behaviors do You Label as Immature?

[Night Sky 1,421]

I certainly consider my own behavior to be sometimes immature and not age appropriate. 

As for what a reasonable person might consider immature behavior?

- Demanding respect while making it clear you don't know how or choose not to show it to others.

- Raising the volume because you're not getting what you want.

- Crying because you're not getting what you want.

- Telling lies for any reason. 

- Acting like a non-conformist only because you are failing to be the more conventional person you'd even prefer to be.

- Any self appointed Gatekeeping when you're not a mod. 

- Preaching about causes you make no efforts to further. 

- Refusing to admit that something you thought you wanted isn't actually what you thought it would be. 

I won't say that I myself have been guilty of all of these, but I will say that I've been guilty of most of them. And speaking from plenty of experience, I can tell you, they're getting you nowhere fast. You may win 50 arguments in a row with these behaviors. One day, you might find that you need money fast and you don't have it. When that happens, try each and every one of these above listed behaviors and watch them do nothing to improve your circumstances. 

Whereas, if you cultivate your relationships with non-toxic behaviors, people might do all kinds of things to help you, beyond what you'd expect they would.

[Mlaatr fan2 241]

Before I rant, I want to respect anyone here. I refuse to answer this question. We have all made mistakes in our lives and some people view the world in different ways. It is hypocritical to call someone out when we have all made the same mistakes. I will not just call any attitude "immature" because I do not know the person's background. Everybody was raised, treated, and grew up in different ways. That's why friends are so important, sometimes they are our family. MLP says enough about friendship and what it truly is, so I will spare your time. This is already longer than it should be.

[Dawnshine Wonder 4,357]

Risk taking, even when you know the risk is not necessary to take. I can understand why people would enjoy a challenge, however if it goes against common sense and could hurt somebody else, that to me, is immature behaviour.

[EquestrianSnares 209]

I'm on a pony forum, so I don't get to call people immature for their age lol

What I will say shows immaturity is any form of bigotry 

[OverTheStars 339]

I don't think immaturity always has to be inherently bad (a lot of people would consider watching cartoons immature, after all), but some negative immature traits are

- Spreading lies/gossip about unimportant things. Who cares if someone buys their clothes from Walmart or if they aren't following someone on social media? A lot of times it's just needlessly malicious about things that don't hurt anyone.

- Being rude to someone about their style. I genuinely don't understand why people would ever judge someone over being goth/preppy/scene/"basic". I have styles that I like and dislike, but I'm never going to be mean to someone based solely on their aesthetic or call them ugly because of it.

- Taking out anger on undeserving people. I understand feeling upset and having little patience because of it, but it's extremely important to be able to say "Hey, I'm feeling overwhelmed/angry right now, is it okay if I have some alone time?". A lot of people just don't do that and as a result blow up at people who didn't do anything wrong. It's definitely a sign of emotional immaturity and a lack of emotional regulation. It's okay to struggle with these things, but it's not okay to hurt others because of it.

[Meisterburger 1,597]

On 2023-03-21 at 6:59 PM, TBD said:

I will say it again. Being rude and acting like a douche bag because either you just want to make trouble for others or just like dragging others with your personal shit. Look, I can be mean and asshole too…but only if I have to deal with the likes of these people. I don’t want any trouble-I drop that long ago, because damn it’s a headache to deal with. So please, don’t start with me. Treat people like crap because you think your misery would love a company? Please, 

“Yeah, I get it, you're an outcast
Always under attack
Always comin' in last
Bringin' up the past
No one owes you anything
I think you need a shotgun blast
A kick in the ass
So paranoid
Watch your back!

Oh my, here we go
Another loose cannon gone bipolar
Slipped down, couldn't get much lower
Quicksand's got no sense of humor
I'm still laughin' like hell

You think that by cryin' to me
Lookin' so sorry, that I'm gonna believe
You've been affected by a social disease?
Well then, take your medicine

I created the sound of madness
Wrote the book on pain
Somehow, I'm still here to explain
That the darkest hour never comes in the night
You can sleep with a gun
But when you gonna wake up and fight
For yourself?”

I second that. I don’t do drama.

 

[Clawdeen 25,735]

Good people don't have to convince you they're good people. It's shown through their actions and behaviors. The people who constantly say how nice they are, how good they are, how friendly they are, how great of a leader they are, etc. Aren't. People who are these things aren't spending the time talking about how they are. They're just doing it. They're being friendly to everyone, they're doing good deeds, they aren't bragging about themselves, they're being active listeners, they're caring without having to be told to, giving compliments, saying hello and genuinely wanting to know how you are, etc. These are genuinely good people and it is shown through their actions and behaviors. There is truly no greater red flag than a person who has to convince you they're a good person. I know from experience the people in the room talking the most about how nice they are end up being the biggest snakes in the room. This is why I'm a person who is big on actions over words. Especially in the ai day and age where it can write your words for you. Oh so you've "changed"? Great. SHOW ME. Don't sit there telling me how you've changed. Show me how you've changed. Don't sit there telling me how you're a good person. Show me. I find the all words not actions sort of behaviors like this to be very immature.

Arrogance. There's a big difference between being confident and arrogant. Arrogance can get so annoying and it's such eye roll behavior like. Ok sis. 

Snake like behavior in general. People who have to hide behind side accounts (especially on sites where that's against the rules), fake personalities, constant attention seeking behaviors, pity farmers, people who have an excuse for everything like oh my gosh and ai generated responses (talk to me for real). I've watched a lot of grown office working men embarrass themselves greatly in professional meetings by getting loud and using curse words because they aren't getting their way. Like sir. It's a professional environment. Don't forget your red clown nose the next time you decide to show up and behave like this. Absolute clown like behavior.

Micro managers. Careful your trust issues are showing. That's not a good look.