As a Pinewood Derby survivor, I can tell you, this episode is a salutary which should be required viewing for all children and parents. Schools large and small, public and private invariably find ways, gross and subtle, to put parents into competition with each other. It almost always results in an unsatisfactory experience for the young ones. They're not competing with each other, its one parents investment against all others. Usually, engineers, or doctors or lawyers are the parents of the winners of these races...go figure.
And even if they're not. Events like these strongly favor some temperaments over others, some skill sets over others.
I got past the first meet of the pine wood derby and thought I was gonna kill it at the next event. I was trailing the pack by almost an entire foot.
My Dad had worked his ass off, I didn't do anything.
So why was I even embarrassed and bummed out when I did not win Le Mans?
No one, not my Dad who had competed before me, nor my Scout Mistress! Ooo, yes those were a thing and I had one, nor any of my buddies even faintly suggested that I might lose.
My Dad couldn't be with me at the second event.
His best friend took me and took a picture...right after the race...I don't think he realized he was taking a photo of a kid who had just had his ego SMASHED!!!
You know what, life was going to do that to me in a more poignant, more meaningful, less flippant manner sooner or later.
Therefore, if I had it to do over again, I am not sure I would participate again.
Maybe I would, but only if I could have somehow told my father to keep his hands off.
If it had been my car, then the loss would have been mine and the car would be too.
After the race my father took the car and kept it in some drawer, and it is years gone now.
What did it really mean to him?
Why was he so worried that I'd just ruin it?
And if he really was, why did he let it get lost, as it certainly now is?
These questions have no answers, but if it weren't for events like these, I wouldn't be asking the questions to begin with.