Have you ever had that feeling?

[Soldier Surplus 232]

When you think something mean to say, but you don't say it because that would be rude. Then it bothers you that you thought of that?

[Digit 321]

Nope if i thot of it but had the good sense not to say it than no harm no faul.

[Danimal 21]

I have terrible thoughts and dreams about things, and it does suck. But take solace in the fact they are not acted upon.

[Sceethe 704]

no,not exactly.

if i think of mean things to say, then i just forget that i ever thought about it

[boiteporte 591]

Well, sometimes, when I'm really annoyed. I think of mean things to say. But, I never say them, because I am a nice and polite person

And then, in the end, I always think that maybe, I should have said what I was really thinking...

Edited August 8, 2014 by boiteporte

[Invincible 2,091]

I can reign in my words easily - i let my imagination run wild.

[Snow Frostflame 3,568]

yes plenty of times it sounds like the right response but then staying silent seems better once I actually said something because I was very pissed off at what some guy did to me and I burned him very badly then we became friends a few weeks later

[TenorSounds 832]

As long as I don't act on the mean impulse, I don't feel bad about it. Part of being human is controlling your base urges, and even the nicest person in the world is going to think of something mean-spirited every once in awhile.

 

Just like how meaningful bravery comes from overcoming fear, not necessarily being entirely fearless, niceness comes from fighting the urge to do harm; finding fulfillment in that is what makes you "good". That's what I think, anyway.

 

Note, this is referring to having mean thoughts every once in awhile and not acting on them, not constant mean thoughts and only acting nice to save face. If you are constantly having those sorts of thoughts about someone that usually means there's an underlying problem in your relationship with that person that you might want to look into.

Edited August 8, 2014 by TenorSounds

[Guest]

There's nothing wrong with having selfish thoughts. It's human nature, as long as you keep offensive comments to yourself.

[yeet 2,027]

If someone is a prick to me at school, let them have it. If it's really bad I won't say it, but I'm not gonna just let them hurt my feelings without doing something back.

[Haven Celestii 9,385]

Not really, no.

 

If I think of something mean to say, then Ill more than likely just say it. I usually won't hold my tongue. And even less will I care that I said it or thought about it.

[ScaleWrangler 122]

Nah, aslong as it didnt come outta my head then its all good

Noone got hurt

 

My head goes haywire sometimes 

[Shadowed Watcher 183]

Oh jeeze yeah, I always FEEL like that, but I don't voice it, or at least i try not to its just mean. 

[iceestarz 5,765]

I'm the type of person that will sit in the corner and say nothing out loud but have all these demonic thoughts and scenarios playing out in my head if somebody is gettin on my nerves.

 

If someone is being a donkey, I'll literally just imagine horrid things happening to them. I won't say anything, I won't act rude to them, but hay yeah I'll imagine them getting stabbed in the face with a fork.

 

I won't really feel bad about it. I keep things to myself, especially the negative. I don't like hurting anyone's feelings. I'd rather say nothing at all than something horrible.

[LunaKaiba 30]

Ohh I do that all the time. Other then the "feel bad about it" part.

Usually if i think of something mean to say it's something someone would REALLY deserve me saying to them.

Of course i don't say it to be nice lolz!

[The Crimson Cross 7,532]

It happens occasionally.

There are times when I think of particularly funny puns or something mean to that extent, but then I need to backtrack a little bit to make sure I wouldn't offend anyone by saying it.

Also sometimes I'm just in a judgemental mood or I'm overly critical so I need to be especially careful then.

 

Though in all honesty, the majority of times the thought just flies right past me, it only happens if I'm having a bad day!

[SCS 7,537]

Yes, I have had this feeling before. There have been times when I have wanted to say something mean, but thankfully, the vast majority of the time I am able to overcome my worst impulses and not do so. 

 

In regard to online communication, one way I do this is to type out what I actually want to say to someone at the time, just to get it out of my system, without actually sending it to them. Then I either rewrite it or write an entirely new version that is actually respectful and reasonable. 

 

In regard to communication in person, I usually just keep my mouth shut when I want to say something hurtful, or I just say something harmless whilst keeping my true thoughts to myself.

 

This is because I genuinely do not want to hurt people. I get angry sometimes, but I exercise self-control and refrain from allowing that to affect my choices. 

 

I'm not perfect by any means, so I don't always succeed at this. But I do my best to treat people with kindness and respect.

[lelouch. 625]

I usually hold back retorts at the last second, and later feel good because it pays off. Its better to calm a situation than to escalate it, although its difficult remaining in control sometimes.

[Callisto 1,877]

Many times, I've thought of mean things to say to people, but, and this gonna sound terrible, I can't really say that I've ever felt bad for those thoughts. If I acted and said those cruel things, then yeah, I'd feel pretty bad, but I just can't feel bad for thoughts I had.

[ShadowPirateX 600]

Heh... For certain people, I think far worse than insults. Not like I'm actually ever gonna do what I think.

And I don't even feel bad. They're just toughts.

[SparklingSquirrels 21,354]

Yup, that's happened to me before. Sometimes I'll accidentally say it though, but I try not to. However, most of the time I just end up forgetting the negative thoughts.

Edited August 9, 2014 by SparklingSwirls

[Midnight Solace 5,132]

I've felt like that all the time. That's why I always prefer to keep quiet. I'm always afraid if I might say the wrong things.

[Partialgeek514 5,011]

I'm sometimes amazed at how dirty or inappropriate some of the jokes that pop into my head can be. I would never say them, but it almost scares me that I thought of them in the first place.

[Dreambiscuit 10,094]

It seems I go to war with every thought that goes through my head sometimes. I'm always thinking inappropriate things (probably because I try too hard not to) and I hate myself for doing it. Sometimes, because I have a sarcastic sense of humor, I think of very dark jokes and have to hold them in. I don't always hold them in though; it just depends on who I'm with and whether or not they'd be okay with it. 

[Here No Longer 5,276]

Yes, I have that moment all of the time. A small part of why I remain the most introverted person I know.