web Social anxiety on Facebook

[LucianZ 76]

Or is it only for beautiful popular socially perfect folks ? Serious question.

I ain't that pretty, no bronies in this damn country (that i know of) and I try to meet new people to talk to on Skype, meet up maybe etc etc. Social anxiety sucks and i'm pretty scared of going on FB too. What do you guys think ?

Edited April 4, 2015 by Spoon
Changed topic for clarity.

[Snow Frostflame 3,568]

my Facebook account has been inactive for over half a decade... I never really liked social networking, ironic how I'm here talking about that....

 

I know how you feel about social anxiety... usually when I meet new people over the internet I keep my mic off until I feel confident enough to chat...

Edited April 4, 2015 by Snowflake Frostflame

[Skeleton Kin 385]

It's not only for "butiful" people, you can join it if you want. If you want to contact people outside of messaging or phone calls than use FaceBook, it's free.

[LucianZ 76]

Thank you kindly for the suggestions.

 

@Snowflake That's totally how i am in these situations.

@Lag Yeah, the second option is the best, but I'll have to drag my scared ass off the house and force myself to meet new people. *sigh*

Edited April 4, 2015 by LucianZ

[SFyr 1,982]

Personally I just use mine to get a vague idea of what family/friends/school people have been up to. It kinda just gives me a general picture of what's going on outside of my room in the lives of people I haven't seen in a long time. It's nice, even for someone who didn't socialize a ton, but it's not really necessary/important, so if you stay off FB there's no harm done at all. Might even be a positive. 

 

But no. The vast majority of people on FB that I know do not fit the socially perfect or aesthetically top-tier description. Many are a good bit awkward, nerdy, strange, hobby-focused, white-trash-ish, gamer-minded, etc.

Edited April 4, 2015 by SFyr

[Steve Piranha 29,451]

Meh, I don't really like social networks, it's feels pretty invasive. Heck, I don't even check pony actor's tweets 

[Bird Mom 900]

I usually just have a Facebook to hide behind while I chat with other bronies on there, join groups, so on and so forth. But my actual profile is worth about -$1.00. No lie. I am so nervous about getting up and talking to people on my fake account, where I don't show my face, and it's even harder to do so in a more open account. But let's face that Instagram is 'in' and move on with life. I never go on any social network, unless deviantART and MLPForums count.

[Yellow Diamond 7,575]

@LucianZ, I moved your topic to Media Discussion and changed the title. Hope you don't mind! If you have any further questions, feel free to send me a PM.

 

Carry on!

[Karma Lightwing 245]

facebook was a big reason for my initial depression and anxiety, it worked as a way for me to feel even more alone than I really was. Everytime I was on I was forced to look at other people having fun, being social or doing other kind os stuff. It took me a long while to come to some sort of peace with facebook. now I just use it to chat with a few friends and doing research on Puzzle and dragons or Pokemon. I don't even use my real name on Facebook anymore because I have no real reason to do that, the people that matters call me by the name Karma anyway

My tip is just think of facebook as a big masquerade and play "whos the socially repressed one" instead, there is a high chance at least 1 or 2 on your list has the same problem as you.

[LucianZ 76]

Thank all of you for the replies. This week felt so depressing with the few 3 friends i have backstabbing me. Y'all are awesome, thank you especially Karma for the eye openner. I just gotta search harder to find accepting good friends irl.

[Steve Piranha 29,451]

facebook was a big reason for my initial depression and anxiety, it worked as a way for me to feel even more alone than I really was. Everytime I was on I was forced to look at other people having fun, being social or doing other kind os stuff. It took me a long while to come to some sort of peace with facebook. now I just use it to chat with a few friends and doing research on Puzzle and dragons or Pokemon. I don't even use my real name on Facebook anymore because I have no real reason to do that, the people that matters call me by the name Karma anyway

 

My tip is just think of facebook as a big masquerade and play "whos the socially repressed one" instead, there is a high chance at least 1 or 2 on your list has the same problem as you.

Heh, everytime I was forced to see other people having fun made me drepressed, and when I made myself a FB account when it was the boom, I quickly realized my problem was going to be worse, so, I stopped using it, and I don't regret it 

Edited April 4, 2015 by Steve Piranha

[Karma Lightwing 245]

Thank all of you for the replies. This week felt so depressing with the few 3 friends i have backstabbing me. Y'all are awesome, thank you especially Karma for the eye openner. I just gotta search harder to find accepting good friends irl.

Well After I hit rock bottom, I had a big eye opener about friends and backstabbing. Several of the people I considered "friends" I realised were more of a "number" on my facebook profile, they didnt mean anything for me and they didn't really care whether I live lived or died. I even had people I considered friends that turned their back on me when I struggled the most.

 

To put it like this, life will always find a way to make you trouble for you, so better make the best out of it... in other words when life give you lemons, make lemonade.

 

 

 

Heh, everytime I was forced to see other ponies having fun made me repressed, and when I made myself a FB account when it was the boom, I quickly realized my problem was going to be worse, so, I stopped using it, and I don't regret it 

 

 

I agree, Facebook is more of a slow toxic/poison for people suspectible to depression or anxiety. It more than often people who try to show of how happy and how great of a family they have.

Edited April 4, 2015 by Karma Lightwing

[Haruhi-chan 486]

Facebook, in my opinion, should be for everyone. It shouldn't matter what you have or what is going in your life. It's a place that free for anyone who feels they want to connect with other people. I mean, it's just like saying whether the internet alone is for people with social anxiety. To me, I think anything internet-related would be more beneficial than hurtful. The reason is because for me, I'm not looking or talking to someone directly as if they were standing beside me. I find comfort in the whole computer to computer communications than with normal social interaction. However, this is coming from an autistic standpoint. I do have somewhat poor social skills though.

 

If people are giving you a hard time though, then... I know the feeling. I have had a fake J-rockers stab me in the back before including a few other friends on Facebook. Yet, I'm still there and going strong. The good thing is that you can always block them. The bad thing is how easy it is for them to make new accounts to keep bothering you. I do agree that Facebook can neglect bullying and such. I've actually tried reporting an offensive autistic page once before, and they've come back and told me they couldn't find anything offensive about it... like seriously?

 

The hard part is finding friends though. I only have about nine, and a lot of them don't really care about me much either. So, it can be hard to make a lot of friends. I could post my Facebook here in this post, and I doubt a single person would consider adding me.

Edited April 4, 2015 by Takeshi Miyamoto

[Ziggy + Angel + Rain 11,303]

I'm not beautiful, I've never been popular, and I've experienced plenty of social anxiety.

 

BUUUUUUT!

 

I do have a Facebook lol.

Though I use it mostly to interact with / keep up with family.

 

Facebook is still preferable to picking up a phone (which I don't do anyhow), and it's slower-paced than Skype (slower-paced is good for people you aren't that comfortable with as of yet, in my experience).

[LucianZ 76]

The backstabbers in my case are people i've known and helped since highschool. One guy, after i made my facebook and told him "Hi" asked me "You ? With Facebook ?" , and I deleted it afterwards. Other sob found a group of normal social apt folks and told me to "F. Off, go get ur medication".   Funny thing is that made me step out of my house and search him to kick his ass, so me 1-0 social anxiety.

Anyway, we all have problems but most ppl on Fb are like wanting to compare in likes,photos,numbers, as you guys said. This community is beautiful, understanding, a lot more than Fb for me.   And sorry for the rant, don't want to burden anyone with my problems, i thought the backstabbing situation was pretty funny to share.

[Raritas 6,820]

I dislike Facebook, there's way too much judgement. It feels like a popularity contest half the time. I don't think I've made meaningful post on it for like a year now lol. I'm always a bit worried about what people will think when I post something, so I suppose you could say I have bit of anxiety when it comes to that terrible website.

Edited April 5, 2015 by Raritas m8

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I use it for my everyday life, so I wouldn't really see a reason to let it go.

[Screw Loose 156]

I never post statutes or 'like' anything, I only have a fb for contacting people since I don't have a phone.

[Hovershy 3,815]

I hate facebook. I go on the internet to get away from people I know in real life (No offence to them), it's just the way I am.

 

But facebook isn't just for "pretty" people. Don't be afraid to join facebook if you want to! If someone is being rude to you, you can just block them!

[The Pink One 595]

Don't worry your social anxiety can't be that bad. At the very least you have Facebook right? I'll let everyone here in on a secret, my social anxiety is BAD, so bad I don't even like leaving the room I'm in right now. I have too much social anxiety to create a Facebook (secretly I'm afraid of it) so well done for getting far enough to create a Facebook . (Don't feel bad for me, by the way. I'm fine on forums, as I don't need a real name, and everyone here is really nice. ). I hope that this helps you feel better about your social anxiety, if you want to talk, feel free to send me a PM (I probably can't help much) but I can relate to your friends backstabbing you. (sorry for the rant, I'm not looking for attention or anything, so please don't question me? and ... I know the Pinkie themed account is ironic.)

[CC_Maud_Pie 6,431]

I use FB to try to reconnect with and contact old friends and Like pages but at the same time for some reason, I don't really enjoy seeing each others personal lives unless they went somewhere interesting. Another thing is that sometimes I have family members who tag me in photos without my permission. The thing is, some people like to share their personal lives on FB while others prefer to keep it secret.