Overbearing parents

[Olly 1,015]

Do you have difficultly with an overbearing parent? how is your relationship with them affected? 

[SparklingSwirls 21,578]

Nah, I have quite the opposite actually. My mother has some health issues (and my father passed away awhile back), so she pretty much leaves me to take care of myself. It's a lot of responsibility at times, and sometimes I just wish I had that parent who could cook dinner for me or drive me places when I'm not in the mood to drive, but I do like my freedom. I can do (almost) whatever I wish!  

[Hierok 11,833]

Not really. They want me to take the best of everything, but in the end it is my own life. 

[The Recherche 29,982]

I'll admit; my parents can get on my nerves sometimes... I don''t have any real issues with them at all! 

Sorry if it seems like I'm spitting on those who have rough relationships with their parents, though.  I didn't mean to offend you if it did.

[Olly 1,015]

1 minute ago, Recherche said:

I'll admit; my parents can get on my nerves sometimes... I don''t have any real issues with them at all! 

Sorry if it seems like I'm spitting on those who have rough relationships with their parents, though.  I didn't mean to offend you if it did.

It's not offensive to have a better relationship with your parents than some other people. Some people have a worse relationship with one or both of their parents than I do. 

I'm an adult but my mother doesn't treat me like one. She gets mad when I'm up late, tells me to "shut up", throws water at me. I think it just helps to find people who are in a similar boat 

[King of Canterlot 9,606]

I don't think I have an overbearing parent, my mom usually just tries to get me to do things that she thinks will help me out in the long run. She wouldn't ask me to do anything she knows I can't do. There isn't really any "rules" that she has in place at my house, it's more just don't do anything stupid (When she's not home it's a different story ) She's also is pretty bad at enforcing the few rules she does have mostly because she just forgets about them, or is too busy with her own stuff to be bothered to ensure we're doing all that we need to do (ex: Getting school work done on time, driving my brother to the gym, etc.) So I mean overall, I'd say that she's a pretty relaxed parent    

[Thuja 3,665]

I don't really talk to my mom anymore, she'd say that "My daughter is on her own now, she doesn't need me!" I'd say "my mom doesn't respect the fact that I'm trans and her prejudice against trans people prevents her from being there for her child"...  I had a good relationship with my mom, so long as I did what she told me to.  Sometimes I miss her but she doesn't want to speak to me.  My dad has never really been in my life either, since they divorced when I was too young to remember him.  I have his phone number from an aunt on his side of the family but I never really bother with it, I don't know him at all.

[Olly 1,015]

4 minutes ago, Thuja said:

 I had a good relationship with my mom, so long as I did what she told me to. 

That's what I call "conditional love" 

how can a healthy relationship be based on the obedience of one and superiority of another?  "we'd get along if only you did as I say"  seems fishy. A parent isn't a monarch 

[Sovereign Leader Rarity 12,025]

Occasionally my mother attempts to control my ideals and personal beliefs in an attempt to make them match her own. Whenever that happens, I make a point of confronting her. My mindset is that I am in complete control of my own life. My parents may be older, and more experienced than I am, but they are not the bosses of me, and they never will be.

In truth, my mother and I have a plethora of issues with each other, though being overbearing is mercifully one of the smaller ones.

[Thuja 3,665]

1 minute ago, Olly said:

That's what I call "conditional love" 

how can a healthy relationship be based on the obedience of one and superiority of another?  "we'd get along if only you did as I say"  seems fishy. A parent isn't a monarch 

I definitely learned a lot of what not to do as a parent from her, that much I'll say...

[Olly 1,015]

10 minutes ago, Rarity the Supreme said:

Occasionally my mother attempts to control my ideals and personal beliefs in an attempt to make them match her own. Whenever that happens, I make a point of confronting her. My mindset is that I am in complete control of my own life. My parents may be older, and more experienced than I am, but they are not the bosses of me, and they never will be.

I wish mine would come to terms with that. But it's blasphemy to her. She becomes enraged when I assert myself, like it's a personal attack on her. We can't talk because she doesn't see me as an equal (an adult with my own rights), she doesn't like it when I voice my opinion. She wants her children, regardless of age, to sit and listen and accept her verdict 

Edited May 7, 2018 by Olly

[Sovereign Leader Rarity 12,025]

2 minutes ago, Olly said:

I wish mine would come to terms with that. But it's blasphemy to her. She becomes enraged when I assert myself, like it's a personal attack on her. We can't talk because she doesn't see me as an equal (an adult with my own rights), she doesn't like it when I voice my opinion. She wants her children, regardless of age, to sit and listen and accept her verdict 

Well, my mother hasn't exactly come to terms with that fact, and she used to try and ship me off to juvenile detention centers all the time. But it never worked, and now I tell her to simply keep her mouth shut if she isn't going to allow me to make my own decisions. She resents me for it, but that's too bad. As far as I'm concerned, this is MY life, and her opinion ultimately means very little to me.

 

[Sondash Studios 4,866]

Honestly, for me, sometimes my parents can get annoying, but that's how teenagers always think. 

Our parents just want the best for us and to help us succeed in life. 

[TBD 17,272]

Without my "overbearing" parent i would probably end up  in nowhere instead of elsewhere. 

Edited May 8, 2018 by TBD

[碇 シンジン 27,439]

i dont think so they are really gentle

[Midnight Solace 5,134]

My parents are absolute assholes.

[SkyPie 264]

My mother is one of the sweetest people I know, so I would say she's the opposite of overbearing.

My sister, who is being the parent while our mother is sick, can be a little bit overbearing. But she cooks, drives, takes care of the money and our mother, so that makes up for it, I guess.

[Kevin Tang 2,431]

My mom might be overbearing, but she does that for my own good. And I should have listened to her this whole time.

And my dad, he isn't that as overbearing as my mom. (Might be the reason why I sometimes ignore him. Wow, I'm such an asshole!)

[Lucky Bolt 35,236]

Even though my parents get on my nerves sometimes, I wouldn't say they're overbearing. My mom can be overprotective and strict about particular things, but she's still a good mother and I say my relationship with her is good. You know, just the typical mother-daughter relationship. 

My relationship with my dad is pretty normal too, I'd say. He's far less strict than my mom is, and is the "sure do whatever you want" kind of laidback parent. One thing he is strict about though, is me with boys. 

[Sunset Rose 254]

My mother isn't overbearing, she's just very impulsive and free-spirited and that actually really gets on my nerves sometimes. She does things last minute pretty much every time things are to be done. She never has a plan, she never keeps a schedule, she doesn't ever slow down. The polar opposite of me. She's almost 70 and still acts this way. My husband's mother is very religious and that colours everything she says and does with you, and while I am also religious it can be somewhat annoying when absolutely everything we do must be in God's light but that's just mama. I never met my father and my husband's father passed on some years ago. He never really had a filter and kind of just openly spoke his mind instead of being polite which could be hurtful sometimes, but he never meant to harm anybody. Every time he said something hurtful you could tell he regretted it and he was always around when he was needed which I don't think enough people appreciated so... I don't think he was overbearing.

 

[TBD 17,272]

Damn I already reply this. 

Edited April 25, 2019 by TBD
Double posting

[Frostgage 7,981]

Add another to the list. I understand that they just want the best for me, but overbearing inevitably leads to suboptimal outcomes. If there's one thing I hate it's being dependent on another person not of my will

[Here No Longer 5,286]

My dad is the kind of parent that seems to just not care enough. My grandma on the other hand... was a little bit of an overbearing guardian and what I hear from my dad, she was worse about it as a parent. She was a wee bit too controlling over what I did with my time and it occasionally got annoying.

Edited April 26, 2019 by Dusklicious

[The Historian 518]

My parents used to be that way a little bit but not anymore. Kinda difficult to be overbearing to someone in their 30s. xD