Do You Feel Out-Of-Place?

[Osseous Rex 139]

Sometimes I feel really downcast because I don't feel connected with my fellow adolensce. This fandom has welcomed me to feeling a bit better about who I am, yet I still feel....disconnected with the lot of you all.

I don't know, do some of you feel like you don't measure up to others' coolness? Am I the only one who thinks that I'm really boring and not interesting? Just curious to what all of you have to say.

-_-

[Brock Obama 298]

Same here. I'm not into the stuff other people my age are into. I don't even actively use social media!

[Po-Nonimous 583]

You're not alone. Whether they admit it or not most adolescents feel out of place and find it hard to connect, socially. I know I sure did when I was a tween and teen. Nope, it wasn't easy but eventually I got over it. Best way to do that, though, is build confidence in yourself. How? By doing things that make you feel proud of yourself and give you a sense of accomplishment. The more difficult, the better. The harder the challenge, the greater the sense of accomplishment and self respect.

 

Also, don't compare yourself to others, you'll only end up frustrated and down on yourself if you think you don't measure up. Wanna hear somethig funny? You know who's some of the most insecure kids around? the cool kids! Yep! It's true! Why do you think they work so hard to fit in? Surprised? You shouldn't be. After all, human beings are human beings and I would be surprised if they didn't act like human beings.

[Frostgage 7,972]

A little bit. Sometimes I feel like my interests don't match my personality, which leads to me not fitting in with anyone, like the outcast of the outcasts. -_-

Edited February 3, 2015 by Frostgage

[Prince Doopliss 2,350]

I feel out of place as well. I really don't talk much to others in life or on social media. So you you are not alone.

[Osseous Rex 139]

A little bit. Sometimes I feel like my interests don't match my personality, which leads to me not fitting in with anyone, like the outcast of the outcasts. -_-

 

 

I feel out of place as well. I really don't talk much to others in life or on social media. So you you are not alone.

 

 

So I'm not the only one here.

You're not alone. Whether they admit it or not most adolescents feel out of place and find it hard to connect, socially. I know I sure did when I was a tween and teen. Nope, it wasn't easy but eventually I got over it. Best way to do that, though, is build confidence in yourself. How? By doing things that make you feel proud of yourself and give you a sense of accomplishment. The more difficult, the better. The harder the challenge, the greater the sense of accomplishment and self respect.

 

Also, don't compare yourself to others, you'll only end up frustrated and down on yourself if you think you don't measure up. Wanna hear somethig funny? You know who's some of the most insecure kids around? the cool kids! Yep! It's true! Why do you think they work so hard to fit in? Surprised? You shouldn't be. After all, human beings are human beings and I would be surprised if they didn't act like human beings.

 

 

I see....

Got any advice for a lonely 20-yeare-old like me?

I really feel like I could do more like others can but I can't.

[Soul Flare 403]

YES. I literally just made a vent thread on life advice about it, only I feel a little bit different than you.

I don't think it's because I'm boring or anything. I have no problems talking to people and I don't feel superior nor inferior to anypony. Still, I cannot relate to most people. I feel disconnected and... different.

[Admiral Regulus 2,769]

I used to feel this way, especially during adolescence. However, as I grew older, I started to realize something.

 

Not fitting in is a mental constraint you place on yourself. You tell yourself "I don't belong here, I can't relate to these people," and so on. In order to have fulfilling interactions, you first have to believe that the person or people you're interacting with are your kind of people.

 

Once you realize this, you'll never be the same again.

[Dark Horse 12,799]

Most often, yes. But then, that's just the way I like it. I say nuts to the sheep herd! I wanna be me darnit!

[Osseous Rex 139]

YES. I literally just made a vent thread on life advice about it, only I feel a little bit different than you.

I don't think it's because I'm boring or anything. I have no problems talking to people and I don't feel superior nor inferior to anypony. Still, I cannot relate to most people. I feel disconnected and... different.

 

Yeah, I feel like I'm really useless fdor my age. So many other guys can do some many awesome things and their obly 18!! and im 20....

:C

[Po-Nonimous 583]

So I'm not the only one here.

 

 

I see....

Got any advice for a lonely 20-yeare-old like me?

I really feel like I could do more like others can but I can't.

 

If you believe you can't or you believe you can, you're right!

[Osseous Rex 139]

I used to feel this way, especially during adolescence. However, as I grew older, I started to realize something.

 

Not fitting in is a mental constraint you place on yourself. You tell yourself "I don't belong here, I can't relate to these people," and so on. In order to have fulfilling interactions, you first have to believe that the person or people you're interacting with are your kind of people.

 

Once you realize this, you'll never be the same again.

 

Wait what....? I don't understand what you were talking about.

[Admiral Regulus 2,769]

Wait what....? I don't understand what you were talking about.

 

Believing you don't fit in is a self-fulfilling prophecy.

[Osseous Rex 139]

Most often, yes. But then, that's just the way I like it. I say nuts to the sheep herd! I wanna be me darnit!

I like your pic BTW.

But idk....I feel...so unwelcome.

Believing you don't fit in is a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Oh....so that's what you were saying....

Why am I so young compared to you all? You all can do amazing thing, graduated college, have a life, doing stuff!!

 

I'm just a nopony. I dont have anything but a high school diploma...

I dont have awards or things im proud of.....

[Brock Obama 298]

You're not alone. Whether they admit it or not most adolescents feel out of place and find it hard to connect, socially. I know I sure did when I was a tween and teen. Nope, it wasn't easy but eventually I got over it. Best way to do that, though, is build confidence in yourself. How? By doing things that make you feel proud of yourself and give you a sense of accomplishment. The more difficult, the better. The harder the challenge, the greater the sense of accomplishment and self respect.

 

Also, don't compare yourself to others, you'll only end up frustrated and down on yourself if you think you don't measure up. Wanna hear somethig funny? You know who's some of the most insecure kids around? the cool kids! Yep! It's true! Why do you think they work so hard to fit in? Surprised? You shouldn't be. After all, human beings are human beings and I would be surprised if they didn't act like human beings.

Unfortunately I have no talents at all. I'm a worthless human being and I have to accept that. You just have to deal with the cards that your dealt with. In this case I wasn't given any cards to begin with. And I don't look for friends because the only person you can truly trust is yourself. To me the word friend is just a word. Nothing more, nothing less. Witch I think is kinda ironic since I'm posting on a community about a show that's about friendship.

[Osseous Rex 139]

Oh....my.....

 

IDK how to respond to that.

[CC_Maud_Pie 6,431]

Yes. All the time especially when I'm out. It's hard for me to relate and connect with other peers and my bad conversation skills make it worse. I hope that changes sometime in the near future.

Edited February 3, 2015 by CC_Maud_Pie

[Dark Horse 12,799]

I like your pic BTW.

But idk....I feel...so unwelcome.

 

Thank you. Although it's not something I drew so I can't take any credit.

 

I know what you mean though, I often feel pretty awkward at social outings (I'm part of a musical society so there's quite a few). I just don't really get into "Mainstream" pop culture or topics that everyone else in the room seems to be able to talk at length about. I generally haven't the foggiest idea what they're on about, I just smile and nod. It can be tough finding out where you 'belong' in such niches.

 

The thing is, I still like bringing a sense of uniqueness to the group, giving something occasionally that no one else would really bring in. No one else in the society bar me is a gaming/anime nerd or really shares most of my biggest interests, so whenever something of the sort comes up in the group, rare as it may be, I still feel pretty awesome knowing the most in the room and thinking; "Where would ya have all been without me?" And on some level, I feel they appreciate having an 'out-of-borders specialist' of sorts in the group.

 

At least that's how I see it.

[Po-Nonimous 583]

Here, let's all look at something: take a good, close look at all the characters of the show. First, obviously, the Mane Six each represent each of the Elements of Harmony. That much is obvious. Those are all excellent qualities that we can embrace and take to heart, make a part of ourselves and practice daily.

 

Now, let's take a look at some of the side and background ponies, one in particular, Derpy!

 

Obviously, for various reasons, Derpy's disabled. That doesn't matter to Derpy. No matter what happens, she always tries her best, is always helpful, does her best to be happy and cheerful, generous, kind. In a sense Derpy embodies the best elements of the Mane Six.

 

Seeing it this way then it's clear that Derpy is a good example of what we can all strive to be every day.

 

@Osseus Rex

 

First, there's no such thing as a useless human being. Ever! For any reason! Sure, there's people out there who've made it big by the time they were sixteen but they had a lot of help and even pushing by parents and/or relatives.

 

In other words, no! You're not useless! Absolutely not! I believe that we're all born for a reason, that we all have a purpose in life but, since we don't get born with life instruction manuels (which would be really helpful) then it's up to us to find our purpose in life, what we're really supposed to do, what our destiny is.

 

Yeah, I know... That's the hard part but once you find out exactly what you're meant to do in this life it makes all the difference in the world!

 

As for me, well, I went from being an eight year old - for lack of a better word - cripple in a wheel chair to being an attendant/caretaker's assistant at the Big Cat House at Franklin Park Zoo when I was sixteen. (My first, job, I loved it!) Later in life I became a carpenter and even worked on oil rigs in Wyoming!

 

But from the time I was a little kid I drew. Anything! Everything! Even when working other jobs during breaks I'd draw what I thought were interesting things. It was my great passion.

 

Ultimately, that talent landed me in my dream job: working at Warner Brothers Animation Studios first in the ruffing department and ending up as a finish cell inker and clean-tech.

 

Unfortunately that career ended when I developed glaucoma and started to go blind.

 

Still, I did it and I'll cherish the memory of that time for the rest of my life!

 

Am I bitter and angry that I got glaucoma? I was at first but I got over it. Today life is better for me than it's ever been in spite of my disabilities because I have a wonderful, loving, awesome wife and a wonderful, marvelous daughter so my life is full of sweet love and contentment. What more could a guy ask for?

 

Find your destiny and, no matter what you've gotta do to get where you wanna be, do it! It's your life. Make what you want of it and don't let anyone stop you, especially yourself and never, ever think for even a moment that you're useless because you're not!

[Osseous Rex 139]

Yes. All the time especially when I'm out. It's hard for me to relate and connect with other peers and my bad conversation skills make it worse. I hope that changes sometime in the near future.

 

I'm not....too bad at talking....

But im still shy.

[VulpineTaco 525]

I'm out-of-place in this fandom, so imagine how I feel in real life!
I try to use it to my advantage, though. Most people don't notice me, so I use the quiet time to read.

[Osseous Rex 139]

Thank you. Although it's not something I drew so I can't take any credit.

 

I know what you mean though, I often feel pretty awkward at social outings (I'm part of a musical society so there's quite a few). I just don't really get into "Mainstream" pop culture or topics that everyone else in the room seems to be able to talk at length about. I generally haven't the foggiest idea what they're on about, I just smile and nod. It can be tough finding out where you 'belong' in such niches.

 

The thing is, I still like bringing a sense of uniqueness to the group, giving something occasionally that no one else would really bring in. No one else in the society bar me is a gaming/anime nerd or really shares most of my biggest interests, so whenever something of the sort comes up in the group, rare as it may be, I still feel pretty awesome knowing the most in the room and thinking; "Where would ya have all been without me?" And on some level, I feel they appreciate having an 'out-of-borders specialist' of sorts in the group.

 

At least that's how I see it.

 

That's so awesome!! That's exactly who I wanted to be. A rare find who ponies look up to and respect!!

 

But in truth....I'm the exact opposite.....

I'm not special at all, nd I have no talents that make me stand out from others.....

/)_(\

 

I feel like dirt compared to all of you older stallions.

Here, let's all look at something: take a good, close look at all the characters of the show. First, obviously, the Mane Six each represent each of the Elements of Harmony. That much is obvious. Those are all excellent qualities that we can embrace and take to heart, make a part of ourselves and practice daily.

 

Now, let's take a look at some of the side and background ponies, one in particular, Derpy!

 

Obviously, for various reasons, Derpy's disabled. That doesn't matter to Derpy. No matter what happens, she always tries her best, is always helpful, does her best to be happy and cheerful, generous, kind. In a sense Derpy embodies the best elements of the Mane Six.

 

Seeing it this way then it's clear that Derpy is a good example of what we can all strive to be every day.

 

@Osseus Rex

 

First, there's no such thing as a useless human being. Ever! For any reason! Sure, there's people out there who've made it big by the time they were sixteen but they had a lot of help and even pushing by parents and/or relatives.

 

In other words, no! You're not useless! Absolutely not! I believe that we're all born for a reason, that we all have a purpose in life but, since we don't get born with life instruction manuels (which would be really helpful) then it's up to us to find our purpose in life, what we're really supposed to do, what our destiny is.

 

Yeah, I know... That's the hard part but once you find out exactly what you're meant to do in this life it makes all the difference in the world!

 

As for me, well, I went from being an eight year old - for lack of a better word - cripple in a wheel chair to being an attendant/caretaker's assistant at the Big Cat House at Franklin Park Zoo when I was sixteen. (My first, job, I loved it!) Later in life I became a carpenter and even worked on oil rigs in Wyoming!

 

But from the time I was a little kid I drew. Anything! Everything! Even when working other jobs during breaks I'd draw what I thought were interesting things. It was my great passion.

 

Ultimately, that talent landed me in my dream job: working at Warner Brothers Animation Studios first in the ruffing department and ending up as a finish cell inker and clean-tech.

 

Unfortunately that career ended when I developed glaucoma and started to go blind.

 

Still, I did it and I'll cherish the memory of that time for the rest of my life!

 

Am I bitter and angry that I got glaucoma? I was at first but I got over it. Today life is better for me than it's ever been in spite of my disabilities because I have a wonderful, loving, awesome wife and a wonderful, marvelous daughter so my life is full of sweet love and contentment. What more could a guy ask for?

 

Find your destiny and, no matter what you've gotta do to get where you wanna be, do it! It's your life. Make what you want of it and don't let anyone stop you, especially yourself and never, ever think for even a moment that you're useless because you're not!

 

........................

wow, youu're so awesome dude! I am nothing compared to you at all....

i suck.

I'm out-of-place in this fandom, so imagine how I feel in real life!

I try to use it to my advantage, though. Most people don't notice me, so I use the quiet time to read.

 

Oh....I see......

Um...idk what to say.

[ponylaces 1,869]

I don't know, really..

 

People are nice and welcoming, but I haven't made any close friends ever since I joined the fandom, which bothers me a bit. I feel out of place, probably because I'm so young compared to most of the people in the fandom. I feel like I'm not "smart" enough or something.

[Felix 1,363]

I used to feel this way a lot actually. I sort of one day just became super confidence boosted though. I wish I could give you advice but I honestly don't know how I managed to do what I did. x3 Nowadays I could care less what others think of me and I'm pretty chill now. But yes I did used to feel that way and I hope things get better for you!

[Dark Horse 12,799]

That's so awesome!! That's exactly who I wanted to be. A rare find who ponies look up to and respect!!

 

But in truth....I'm the exact opposite.....

I'm not special at all, nd I have no talents that make me stand out from others.....

/)_(\

 

I feel like dirt compared to all of you older stallions.

 

........................

wow, youu're so awesome dude! I am nothing compared to you at all....

i suck.

 

I'm sure you'll find something you like. Everyone has their talents hidden away somewhere. I was an isolated and pretty doubtful guy who didn't have a clue where I was going with my life when I left school at first, tried computer engineering for a year because some of my friends were and I realized I hated it! I didn't think there was anything I could do with my life in performing until about 2 years ago when a colleague recommended me to an acting course in the city. These things just seem to appear quite suddenly. Maybe it'll be the same for you too? Never know.