general Do you want children?

[Petrograd Capital 155]

Very smart messages from above. Really. I completely agree but everything happens in life.. If you said me it question 3 years ago, I would say: "absolutle NO! Children is a really big problem in human life!!" I don't know. Children somehow strengthen the family or people. 

[Dreambiscuit 9,676]

Yes, I’d love to have more children. I have one already and we’re thinking of trying for another. I really want a huge family if it's not too late. 

[Celli 4,338]

Not at all. Children are too much of a hassle to handle and I couldn't handle that responsibility. lol

[Jeric 46,851]

Both of my kids are adults now. I’m 45 and thankful for both the experience, and that said experience is over. Kids are hard. 

[The Kaeya Simp 13,988]

I've always wanted children, unfortunately I'm unable to have my own biokids because I'm transgender (MtF) and my partner is a cis guy

I could adopt but I worry my parents and grandparents, or my partner's family might not really see any adopted kids as their family

[They call me Loyalty 1,948]

Back at home. I would have had a bunch of kids with my sister. Since most of the problems in this family have to do with context. The change in our natural environment and costumes.

But because the family interfered. That was not possible. So, we became our own children. And in doing so, we destroyed the family. And it was to be expected, since our natural behaviour had been disrupted.

Still, we are doing fine. It could have been great, because we could have been a real family with mine included. But this was their idea, after all. So, I had to do it. It needed to be done.

In a way. My little bumkin is here with me now. But my unborn kid has taken the shape of this painful emptiness that tears everything apart. And we are not done, yet. Since he is whispering into my ear that there are still some accomplices within my own family. And he is getting hungry again. So, we are gonna feed their lives to him. Little by little.

Edited June 16, 2023 by They call me Loyalty

[DubWolf 17,254]

Welp, the longer I'm stuck where I am (single and broke), the more that answer is transitioning to "no". Not that I don't want to, but I feel like that "ideal" time to have kids is slipping by me. It's not entirely late, but it can be..

Would be an easier decision if I was stable at this point in my life, but it's continuing to look un-promising. The rug is getting pulled underneath me.

Edited June 16, 2023 by DubWolf

[CaliforniaSpeedKing 17]

I want a child but I think I would prefer adopting, the birth process looks to be incredibly painful, even I myself as a man think so and I almost fucking certainly don't want to put my future wife through that. So for a TL;DR answer, yes I want kids but I would prefer adopting or fostering.

[Dreambiscuit 9,676]

I’m working on my second child right now. When people talk to me about how difficult it seems or how messy or noisy it is, I can only say they shouldn’t knock till they’ve tried it. Sure, it’s work, but far more than that it’s the most rewarding thing in life. No one likes to work a job, but they deal with it because they want money. Having children does more than simply fulfill a requirement like paying the rent; it’s a higher calling that expands everything in life. It’s having responsibility for another person who loves you unconditionally and shares a bond with you on a physical, mental, emotional and spiritual level. This is LIFE we’re talking about, not just some hobby that may or not be fun enough to justify the time. It’s worth it, trust me! 

[TheRockARooster 50,864]

Moments ago, Dreambiscuit said:

I’m working on my second child right now. When people talk to me about how difficult it seems or how messy or noisy it is, I can only say they shouldn’t knock till they’ve tried it. Sure, it’s work, but far more than that it’s the most rewarding thing in life. No one likes to work a job, but they deal with it because they want money. Having children does more than simply fulfill a requirement like paying the rent; it’s a higher calling that expands everything in life. It’s having responsibility for another person who loves you unconditionally and shares a bond with you on a physical, mental, emotional and spiritual level. This is LIFE we’re talking about, not just some hobby that may or not be fun enough to justify the time. It’s worth it, trust me! 

I'm so happy for you, Dreamy. 

[Phosphor 11,528]

I had a fairly recent change of heart on this issue. I do want to raise a family someday.

[Envy 6,156]

I'm leaning toward yes now. I've been back and forth on this over the years, but now that I'm in my mid 30s, I think my brain is like "You need to have a child, now!" But truth be told, I won't be having a child, I'd prefer to adopt. No reason to bring a new life into this messed up world when there are so many children already born who are stuck in agencies and need a loving family.

I've told my mom my intentions, but it will be a while still. For sure, I'll be moving first, and I will need to get financially stable before I can even begin to think of this. I also have lots to work on with myself. Also, I'm scared of being a single mother, but I don't think there's another way for me.

[Twilight Sparkle97 402]

Nope. Not on my watch. 

[Cash In 22,243]

No, I don't want to have any. Don't get me wrong, I think children are wonderful and in a perfect world, I would love to have them. The problem is that I have a lot of health issues and those are things that I don't want to risk passing down. They've caused me enough stress and I can't stand the thought of making my child deal with all that.

[Theautisticrebel 304]

4 minutes ago, Cash In said:

No, I don't want to have any. Don't get me wrong, I think children are wonderful and in a perfect world, I would love to have them. The problem is that I have a lot of health issues and those are things that I don't want to risk passing down. They've caused me enough stress and I can't stand the thought of making my child deal with all that.

I'm just wondering but have you ever thought of adoption? That way you can still have children without risk of passing down any health problems to them, and there are plenty of children out there who would love to be in a loving home with you.

[Cash In 22,243]

6 minutes ago, Theautisticrebel said:

I'm just wondering but have you ever thought of adoption? That way you can still have children without risk of passing down any health problems to them, and there are plenty of children out there who would love to be in a loving home with you.

I have thought about it and yeah, that's also a great option.

[ComanderZhabikKlavik 2,907]

No, I adhere to the philosophy of antinatalism.

[Twitchy-Tremor 297]

I was always really bad with kids and will never want any but when my sister started having them I got better with them. It’s still a bit hard sometimes but i love them now. That still never want my own thought. 😆

[Iforgotmybrain 5,552]

I'm mixed on it. I'd honestly much prefer to just have a bunch of animals to take care of or foster instead, but if I were to have a partner who really wanted kids I'd be okay with it.

[Treeglow Flicker 13,619]

Still yes.

I've always wanted a daughter specifically. A little troublemaker who is a carefree idiot throughout their childhood. The sort that would bring home a skunk because she wanted a pet. Or glues their homework to the roof with no explanation as to why or how it happened. Or happily torment boys with giant spiders just because she has a crush on them. Then watch them grow up to see what direction they choose to sail in life and embark on whatever mad adventure that awaits them with all the regrets and glory that would become their beloved memories.

Sadly. That is one of the things I won't likely get to experience. I could always build a robot and teach it to feel I suppose.

[Guest]

I think with current circumstances and climate, I would say a hard no. I have never felt the need or want to have a children and don't really understand why some people romanticize it. I spoke with other family members and previous people that I've dated about this, but there's nothing that makes me want to have a child. Maybe it's me, but I think its irresponsible of people to have a children for no particular reason at all, other than to have them.

[Evil Pink One 13,506]

On 2023-08-29 at 4:13 AM, Twitchy-Tremor said:

I was always really bad with kids and will never want any but when my sister started having them I got better with them. It’s still a bit hard sometimes but i love them now. That still never want my own thought. 😆

 

16 hours ago, Iforgotmybrain said:

I'm mixed on it. I'd honestly much prefer to just have a bunch of animals to take care of or foster instead, but if I were to have a partner who really wanted kids I'd be okay with it.

Weight till you get older when crippling depression crawls in and loneliness hits you. Then probably you'd end up wanting one. But that said make a mistake and that thing crawls out again.

So all in all make wise decisions.

[Iforgotmybrain 5,552]

8 hours ago, StrawberryMilk Simp said:

 

Weight till you get older when crippling depression crawls in and loneliness hits you. Then probably you'd end up wanting one. But that said make a mistake and that thing crawls out again.

So all in all make wise decisions.

Ayyy I already have the diagnosed cripplingly depression. if anything it makes me wanna have one less because odds are the kid would end up mentally ill like me :').

[Ryuuko 148]

it's a life-changing commitment and frankly, with the effects of climate change and the ever-rising cost of living, bringing new life into the world has never been harder. i would assume you'd need a strong support network for the kid to have a halfway decent childhood.

poverty isn't fun. i just can't subject my own kid to such a thing willingly. it's one thing for it to be temporary, but years on end? no thanks.

[TBD 17,254]

I don’t want kids like my own since the marriage and the commitment part are one thing I know I won’t be planning on. However, I do like the idea of adopting a child and raise them as a single father. I can’t seem express or feel love or show affection but when it comes to a child- hits me differently in a way I can’t explain it.  Not sure I will be a good father to  them, but I  have this unexplained deep sense of care and love towards kids- maybe because they’re pure or if they happen to be a troubled one, they’ll remind me of myself. And  I would give them the kind love that is healthy and not the twisted kind I or the child experienced. 
 

Maybe the main reason why I could possibly see myself adopting a child was at least I do it out of love. My expression of being born from my parents was the sake  of ‘fucking’. Yeah I don’t have any other word to say this but for  the child I will adopt will be out of love at the least. I think there will be no relationship or fucking necessary when there’s a child out there to be adopted under my care.