Rave Crocker 49 July 24, 2013 Share July 24, 2013 (edited) Alright So 2 years ago i got into mlp and my parents quickly accepted it and didnt care, I had my car painted in ponies, and as soon as i turned 18 my parents started yelling at me because i didnt have a job (not that it should matter to them its not like they pay for the stuff i buy) and because all my friends are online (which they believe everyone i meet is a clopper), they don't look at the good sides of people only analyze the bad things in them, and now they are pressuring me about so many things i dont understand what i did wrong, its like they don't want to show their love for me anymore as soon as i became an adult, have you guys had any experiances like this? what happened when you turned 18? Edited July 24, 2013 by ravecrocker Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Retro*Derpy 3,195 July 24, 2013 Share July 24, 2013 Actually, mine were quite the same. Threats to kick me out were frequent, despite having school, and a part time job to pay bills. I never dared tell them I watched MLP, though they know I go online a lot. Eventually if you just keep going with "Alright" and "Ok" as responses, they'll usually just quit, just hang in there until it drops, that is at least what I had to do. Also, they may act like assholes, but they still love you, it is just a phrase. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
John 793 July 24, 2013 Share July 24, 2013 My parents act nearly the same and I'm turning 19 My mom is even sometimes afraid to let me drive places even though I have years of experience. The only difference is that now I'm usually far away in college Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dark Horn 430 July 24, 2013 Share July 24, 2013 Er, even though they certainly shouldn't be judgemental, they're right about something. If you have no job, you shouldn't be on the forums. They have no right to tell you what to do after you turn 18, but unless you want to live a poor, sad life, you need to get a job... Just some earnest, honest advice from a fellow brony and friend. "The most horrible kind of ignorance is to have an opinion on an experience that you have never experienced.""Get off your high horse and give her a hug." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fender 1,283 July 24, 2013 Share July 24, 2013 Meh, 18 only legally makes you an adult. You're pretty much still a kid, but they seem like they're trying to push responsibility on you because you hold the title of adult. That's as bluntly as I can put it. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thuja 3,659 July 24, 2013 Share July 24, 2013 I was still in high school when I was 18... I guess the only thing I did when I legally became an "adult" was register to vote... So yeah... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
♞RedLotus♞ 360 July 24, 2013 Share July 24, 2013 Alright So 2 years ago i got into mlp and my parents quickly accepted it and didnt care, I had my car painted in ponies, and as soon as i turned 18 my parents started yelling at me because i didnt have a job (not that it should matter to them its not like they pay for the stuff i buy) and because all my friends are online (which they believe everyone i meet is a clopper), they don't look at the good sides of people only analyze the bad things in them, and now they are pressuring me about so many things i dont understand what i did wrong, its like they don't want to show their love for me anymore as soon as i became an adult, have you guys had any experiances like this? what happened when you turned 18? I'm only 14 but I can tell you this, my parents will never be proud of me, if I were to turn into an adult tomorrow, and still be unemployed. They want you to man up, get your butt off the computer, and go do something for your future. They will love you no matter how old you are, but they want the best for you. I suggest that you start studying or working, and make some money. Unless you don't live under their roof, they have the right to pressure you. Check out my OC Ocelot at: http://mlpforums.com/page/roleplay-characters/_/ocelot-r3834 ~Im always looking talented artists across the forums~ *Sig by Kyoshi* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xanatos 162 July 24, 2013 Share July 24, 2013 I turned 18 and then...I was 18. Nothing changed. 22 this year and still living in the same place with no problem. Though I stay mostly for financial reasons: Father has control of my SSI and without a job myself, I can't qualify to take control away from him. Soon as I've found one, though... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arretez 225 July 24, 2013 Share July 24, 2013 I haven't turned eighteen yet, but I've watched my two older siblings do it, and they went through the same trouble you're having right now. It's not that your parents don't love you, they just want you to get your act together. Basically, they don't want you living in their basement when you're twenty-something. My parents wanted my siblings to get jobs so that they could help out with the expenses they generate, such as student loan debt and car insurance. As long as you let your parents know that you're making an effort towards your future, they should get off your back. I hope that this helped. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lost 1,410 July 24, 2013 Share July 24, 2013 (edited) My parents became harsher on me when i turned 18, mainly they wanted to really know what i was going to do with my life, like if i had career plans. I'm at University and didn't take a "gap year" so they're off my back because of that, they make me pay rent but that's fine because my university loan covers it. As i get older they seem to be applying more and more "Get a job" pressure but so-long as i can keep up the whole "I need to focus on studying so i can get a well paid job after uni" thing, they seem to not be too bothered. I'll be 20 in September. Er, even though they certainly shouldn't be judgemental, they're right about something. If you have no job, you shouldn't be on the forums. They have no right to tell you what to do after you turn 18, but unless you want to live a poor, sad life, you need to get a job... Just some earnest, honest advice from a fellow brony and friend. I don't have a job, should i leave the forums? Employment shouldn't be a criteria for having a life and pass-times, we only live life once, there is more to life than working. I for one see my education years as time for me to be stupid, to not have a job and do whatever the hell i want in my free time, because i know that the day i leave university i'm going to have to grow up, i'll have to get a job and drop most of my hobbies, i'll grow up and become boring and dead inside. Live life while you can. - Just noting that i don't mean that in offence to those that have "Grown up", it's just what i personally see MYSELF becoming. Edited July 24, 2013 by Lost 2 Your friendly neighborhood alcoholic motorcyclist Life is too short to worry what others think of you, be creative, be weird, live life. Check out my YouTube here Check out my Fiora Jungle Guide here Check out my Motovlogging Trailer Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rave Crocker 49 July 24, 2013 Author Share July 24, 2013 sorry everyone When I wrote the post I was mostly stressed and had the feeling they don't show me love, I am trying to get a job, and I know they love me allot. thanks for you're support you guys are amazing Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wonderbolt_Spitfire 235 July 24, 2013 Share July 24, 2013 Well when I was 18 I was into some pretty bad s***. Drugs & Alcohol all during my senior year of High School and it negatively affected my grades (3.8 GPA to a 3.0GPA). My dad was on me a lot too, I got kicked out of the house a couple of times and had to couch hop (its not fun). W I was able to tone down the Drug use enough to make it look like I was back to normal and I went off to College where at 19 I decided to screw that up too. I had to withdraw from a Top Engineering School because of my poor grades. When my dad found out he was livid. He had every rite to be, seeing as he was the one paying for everything. Now that I'm 20 and honestly I can say "I'm back to normal' and "I'm the happiest I can be". It took a long time to sort the things out between me and my father, but everything fixed itself over time. Looking back at myself then I can honestly say I was a dumb*** for throwing away what I had. What I'm trying to get across is that at 18-21 you are most vulnerable to get into some pretty bad things. And don't be sitting there saying "I would never do that stuff, it's stupid" because I was the EXACT same way and I still got into it by making the wrong 'friends'. To every story there are three sides, Your side, Their Side, and What Actually Happened. Since its tough to know the last one its difficult to really judge the situation, but I'm gonna go with they are just trying to look out for you in the long run. What specifically are they pressuring you about? If they are pressuring you about liking the show or anything 'healthy' hobby wise. Then they are out of line and being ignorant. But if they are pressuring you about real life stuff then take a moment and try to put yourself in their shoes. It may start to make sense for you then. Sig made by me. Surprisingly it came out somewhat decent. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
notdog1996 315 July 24, 2013 Share July 24, 2013 I'm not 18 yet but my siblings are way past that. My mom pressured them both a lot to get a job (which they did only recently) because she was paying for everything herself. She did say that she'd kick my brother out if he didn't get a job but I doubt she would have done it. I won't even be 18 when I'll leave the house so I won't really experience it (I will be moving out for college about two months before I turn 18). 1 INTJ Introvert(56%) iNtuitive(12%) Thinking(75%) Judging(1%) You have moderate preference of Introversion over Extraversion (56%) You have slight preference of Intuition over Sensing (12%) You have distinctive preference of Thinking over Feeling (75%) You have marginal or no preference of Judging over Perceiving (1%) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dark Moon 965 July 24, 2013 Share July 24, 2013 Turning 18 wasn't anything special. All you gain is the ability to smoke and to be tried as an adult, yeah...... I don't smoke nor do I plan to so whatever. My relationship with my parents has kind of changed a little. They don't worry that much about me, I'm a "good" kid I guess. Their grip slackened a little initially and I gain more and more independence each day. They were really over protective before I turned 18. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JeanHover 326 July 24, 2013 Share July 24, 2013 Well. Dang. I can't say I've ever turned 18 before, so I don't exactly know what it feels like for you, but I am still a sensible human being who can give you some advice. 1. Whatever educational system you are taking part in at the moment, focus on it. Put in as much effort as you can. Getting good grades and all that will really matter for you to get into a good line of work, make money, all of that blabidy bla bla. 2. For now, just get a job. Doesn't really matter what, you're only 18. If you can work at McDonalds, do it. Always good to be making money. I hope this was somewhat helpful, despite it coming from someone with no experience in this. OC's: Whirl Wake and Noon - Profile Picture Credit - Signature by Me twilight sniper kill blue all tf2 wow map you see firend rianbow dsah,pinkie pie,applejack,rarity,fluttershy wow team red kill blue red win huh robox bad new Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zygen 6,066 July 24, 2013 Share July 24, 2013 Idk, i've yet to become of age. But I suppose some parents just get tired after 18 years of care, idk. still thats a harsh reaction, I surely hope my parents aren't that forceful. Thanks to Gone Airbourne for the awesome sig! My Oc's, Ponysona, Bella Vocal Covers Blog, MLP Covers Thread Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lunas Husband 2,777 October 29, 2013 Share October 29, 2013 Well I'm sorry to hear about that.. Well when I turned 18.. noting happened.. I was living on my won since I was 17 so... yeah noting changed about it, other then I could have sex with anyone and no one gets in trouble... well I could if they are younger then 18.. "Does not matter what they say, my sweet love! I love you! and always will." ~Princess Luna Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lucky Bolt 35,085 April 4, 2019 Share April 4, 2019 (edited) I've only just turned 18 and so far it's been great...I got a truck, a new phone, and am graduating high school in a few weeks and will be starting up work this summer. On top of that I have tons of new freedoms, compared to just this time last year. My mom tends to be a bit overprotective sometimes (she still doesn't allow me to be out late and drive long distances by myself alone, and other things) but I get where she's coming from and I know the older I get, the more freedoms she'll give me, she just needs time to realize her kid (firstborn kid at that) is growing up and she won't always be around me 24/7, and I just need to prove to her that I'm perfectly capable of handling things. We're getting there, it just takes time. I will say, the only downside of having all these fun "adult" things is I have tons of new very important responsibilities now, like bills to pay and what not. So, I'm getting used to this whole me being an adult thing too. Edited April 4, 2019 by Lucky Bolt 2 ☆ My socials ☆ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cyclone 1066 3,621 April 4, 2019 Share April 4, 2019 16 minutes ago, Lucky Bolt said: I've only just turned 18 and so far it's been great...I got a truck, a new phone, and am graduating high school in a few weeks and will be starting up work this summer. On top of that I have tons of new freedoms, compared to just this time last year. My mom tends to be a bit overprotective sometimes (she still doesn't allow me to be out late and drive long distances by myself alone, and other things) but I get where she's coming from and I know the older I get, the more freedoms she'll give me, she just needs time to realize her kid (firstborn kid at that) is growing up and she won't always be around me 24/7, and I just need to prove to her that I'm perfectly capable of handling things. We're getting there, it just takes time. I will say, the only downside of having all these fun "adult" things is I have tons of new very important responsibilities now, like bills to pay and what not. So, I'm getting used to this whole me being an adult thing too. We have an..... interesting relationship you know? You say that I'm like a big brother to you and I would say you are becoming more and more like a little sister figure to me. Watching you make the transition in the last year from restricted teenager to adult and watching you take on all these new responsibilities you have makes me so proud of you. I know that's something you'd usually hear from a grandparent, parent, or even a sibling but just, it makes me proud to see where you are going in life. I love you 1 1 The Tractor Pulling Brony "2 years long, and still pulling strong" Thank you to everyone! This has been the happiest 2 years of my life and I owe 90% of it to you guys. Stay Awesome MLP Forums!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mirage 24,771 April 4, 2019 Share April 4, 2019 22 minutes ago, Lucky Bolt said: I've only just turned 18 and so far it's been great... Congrats! Just remember it's much easier to get into real trouble now. You're going places Lauren - have fun! “Remember that when you leave this earth, you can take with you nothing you have received--only what you have given.” Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TBD 17,256 April 4, 2019 Share April 4, 2019 I'm still the same as I was 10 yrs ago, except more older and dead. 1 ♪ "I practice every day to find some clever lines to say, to make the meaning come through"♪ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kyoshi Frost Wolf 41,732 April 4, 2019 Share April 4, 2019 I am 26 now. I am just as much of a failure as I was when I was 18. Nothing major happened when I turned 18. I was the same person as before. It was nothing special. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EpicEnergy 23,224 January 15, 2020 Share January 15, 2020 After I turned 18, I went to college a few months afterwards. 1 *totally not up to any shenanigans* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lucky Bolt 35,085 January 15, 2020 Share January 15, 2020 I turned 18 and got f****d in the booty by reality and responsibilities damn hard. ☆ My socials ☆ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Meson Bolt 2,648 January 15, 2020 Share January 15, 2020 Here's the reality of it -- while you might see yourself as still you, society sees you as an adult, and they're going to want to force adult responsibilities onto you. For me, I got a job the week after I turned 18, but as soon as I quit that job my parents were dogging me about getting another one or getting the f out. (So I joined the Army on impulse -- bad choice, btw) 18 is still pretty young in my mind, and while you're probably old enough to make decisions that affect you in the short-term, it's quite hard to look out into the long-term, and it's quite easy to mess yourself up at 18. I could give tips on what to do once you get a job, but honestly I'm probably not the best life advisor out here. Still can give tips if you want tho. Your family is who you make it out to be. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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