If being a man means to stand up on your own two feet and suck it up, then I'm fine with it. Self pity and constant complaining doesn't evoke strength or self-control, so telling someone to man-up is often good advice. Powdering everyone't butt and coddling them all the time doesn't help them to grow or strengthen as a human being. So if someone is man enough to tell someone else to be a man, I applaud them. Personally I'm female, but if someone told me to be a man I'd take it in the proper spirit and take it as good advice.