Controlling the State of Mind

[Gone Airbourne 21,977]

Whenever you find yourself feeling really sad/down. Do you keep to yourself? Do you find it better to keep your thoughts and state of being locked away? What things help you to distract yourself if you ever notice that your feeling really sad out of nowhere? Does it really make a difference if you express your thoughts online?

 

Some of these things I have wondered myself for a long time now and for some reason I have been thinking that it may be best to keep cap on your thoughts or to not overly express what is on your mind *too much*. I think sometimes getting away from being online helps somewhat in some ways. But what would you say to the questions above? How do you feel about whenever you feel down or what methods  help you out in those times?

[JonasDarkmane 19,785]

Often when I am down, I look for cheering for the community, if something has happened, I look for advice..... however..... when I am really really depressed, I keep really quiet and just try not to cry. What I do, is I take a long walk during the night, when no one is outside and I have the whole world basically for myself. I am able to think straight and get things together. It helps me. It distracts me. 

[Guest]

Driving at night for a long time helps me out from time to time.

[aoEAF2FBvC0MIo2Q 3,673]

Often when I am down, I look for cheering for the community, if something has happened, I look for advice..... however..... when I am really really depressed, I keep really quiet and just try not to cry. What I do, is I take a long walk during the night, when no one is outside and I have the whole world basically for myself. I am able to think straight and get things together. It helps me. It distracts me. 

lel You're very unlikely to get murdered in Iceland so taking a walk out at night isn't outright suicidal like in many other places.

 

But what I really want to comment on is the part about keeping really quiet and trying not to cry. I think it would be better if you could do the opposite but that's not taking into consideration your home environment. I'm speaking right off the bat when I say try talking to Pucksterv about it. Being in a relationship imply that you trust one another so, at least to me, it's only natural that you trust her with some of your issues. Just bits of it at a time.

 

Anyway...

 

 

 

Does it really make a difference if you express your thoughts online?

It can or it cannot. Talking about it to a trusted friend works far better than turning to a whole community. The reason is simple, being with a trusted individual is far more personal. It has to be a kind of friendship where you don't need to filter yourselves from one another or put up any appearances. The issue is being vulnerable which I know is a scary thing for a lot of people. 

 

It's going to have to be someone you could cry to and not hold back. Someone who is willing to be with you in your pain. Empathy is the key word here. Although by itself, an empathic friendship/relationship won't take you all the way through but it definitely helps. See empathy as like having a boat in a vast swamp; it may increase your mobility but it's up to you to find your sense of direction and come out the other end.

[JonasDarkmane 19,785]

But what I really want to comment on is the part about keeping really quiet and trying not to cry. I think it would be better if you could do the opposite but that's not taking into consideration your home environment. I'm speaking right off the bat when I say try talking to Pucksterv about it. Being in a relationship imply that you trust one another so, at least to me, it's only natural that you trust her with some of your issues. Just bits of it at a time

 

Most of the times I do, however, I just don't want to be disturbing her or have her constantly deal with my issues. I'd rather not worry her.

[aoEAF2FBvC0MIo2Q 3,673]

Most of the times I do, however, I just don't want to be disturbing her or have her constantly deal with my issues.

Like I said, just bits of it at a time. Work within each other's limits.

 

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Learning to control the state of mind... That's really something that's been on my mind a lot more. I can go into full-blown panic and show certain symptoms like loss of physical strength, loss of clear thought, difficulty breathing, needing to muster whatever concentration I can to do the most mundane things...

 

It might be the symptoms of a panic attack. I don't know because I never went to get a diagnosis but this thing can happen if the right triggers show up. Hm. Recently I more or less figured out how it works. What would happen is that scary thoughts would flood my mind and it's all I could think about. Making matters worse, my mind seems to find ever-increasingly terrifying thoughts to pump into my head that I get completely taken over with terror. Amazing how thoughts could physically affect me like that.

 

Nowadays, I have it more or less under control. I become aware when the scary thoughts are starting to trickle and I tell myself to not make it worse. I've also built up some experience to contradict these scary thoughts which further helps to prevent me from being hijacked. 

 

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I've been informally told that I show signs of depression but again, I never went to get diagnosed. "Depression" itself seems like a very broad term but more specifically, it's self-pity that's crippling me. Trying to fix myself has been like peeling an onion; it just doesn't seem to end. There's always another layer waiting behind each one I pull but I'm not giving up. 

 

I've been thinking that a lot of it comes down to the ego. It's that part of us that believes that we are the center of our experience, that we should have as much control over our lives as possible where the lack of control becomes a stressor. It's what makes us feel shame, guilt, envy, jealousy and self-pity among others. These are "self-conscious" emotions, as I understand it.

 

Though something peculiar happened elsewhere some time earlier this year... It was an RP (an NSFW RP to be exact). I won't go into any detail but during the experience, something strange happened. I took a more passive role in that one but the way things played out, it's as though my ego got handed over to her. The way I was being treated would seem very degrading but I couldn't feel self-conscious -- I just couldn't. I couldn't feel embarrassed, I couldn't feel shame, I couldn't feel pity, I cannot recall having a concept of pride... No, this was her experience to which I was only a part of. It's as though I had become an extension of her. It's only when I snapped out of this... trance of sorts... did I start feeling self-conscious again. 

 

Even to this day I look back on it and ask myself: "What on Earth happened to me back there?  "

I didn't seem to be myself but that could really be a crucial puzzle piece. Maybe I'm not truly who I think I am. That's just one possibility.

 

Perhaps if I could give up my ego, a lot of these self-conscious emotions that hold me down would fizzle away or just be far less intrusive. I'm not sure where this is going to take me but I've really had enough with my current state of being to want things to stay the same. Let's hope the grass is much greener on wherever that takes me.

Edited May 31, 2015 by SunBurn

[ChikaChan 7,323]

I often keep it to myself I just don't want anyone to waste their precious time helping me,when there are so many other things that they like to do instead.

[LittleMac 3,085]

I usually NEVER admit to feeling down like that. I always think that I shouldn't bother people with my issues cuz they aren't as bad as the problems they have on their plate

I know that's a dumb way to think but that's usually how I feel...

[MLG4Ever 876]

Whenever you find yourself feeling really sad/down. Do you keep to yourself? Do you find it better to keep your thoughts and state of being locked away? What things help you to distract yourself if you ever notice that your feeling really sad out of nowhere? Does it really make a difference if you express your thoughts online?

 

Some of these things I have wondered myself for a long time now and for some reason I have been thinking that it may be best to keep cap on your thoughts or to not overly express what is on your mind *too much*. I think sometimes getting away from being online helps somewhat in some ways. But what would you say to the questions above? How do you feel about whenever you feel down or what methods help you out in those times?

If my family make me sad about something I would just Bottle it all up and then it would end up deep thinking about something that's related

If not, I would express my feelings in my blog (which I need some entrees in) and it does help me

[Guest]

It can or it cannot. Talking about it to a trusted friend works far better than turning to a whole community. The reason is simple, being with a trusted individual is far more personal. It has to be a kind of friendship where you don't need to filter yourselves from one another or put up any appearances. The issue is being vulnerable which I know is a scary thing for a lot of people. 

 

It's going to have to be someone you could cry to and not hold back. Someone who is willing to be with you in your pain. Empathy is the key word here. Although by itself, an empathic friendship/relationship won't take you all the way through but it definitely helps. See empathy as like having a boat in a vast swamp; it may increase your mobility but it's up to you to find your sense of direction and come out the other end.

I agree with this wholeheartedly. However those times when you don't have someone to talk to hmm.. those are the times you have to take hold of yourself and keep firm of your faith. I've seen that keeping your goals and holding onto those things can be used for motivation to keep pushing you day to day. So at least if you have moments when your mental state is not stable you can refocus your thoughts when you need to. I sometimes have to get away from being online or just take some time to let my mind ponder on things.

 

If my family make me sad about something I would just Bottle it all up and then it would end up deep thinking about something that's related

If not, I would express my feelings in my blog (which I need some entrees in) and it does help me

Bottling things in is not the best thing because it will eventually eat away at you and make you feel worse in the end. Being able to talk to someone you trust is the best thing if you can do so.

[Ruddboy Olaf 10,628]

When I feel down,I usually keep it to myself. But,there's times when I do try to let my family know without directly telling them.

 

Most of my depression stems from boredom,so it's not too severe. Although,boredom depression can turn worse when I start thinking negatively.

 

I try to cheer myself up with music,but when that doesn't work,I get in bed and just watch tv for the rest of the day.

[Guest]

 

 

Most of my depression stems from boredom

 

Boredom & loneliness and to be honest with you when that feeling hits really hard you will know it and it can keep you do for a long time if you are not careful.

[Misty Rose 3,216]

I used to have someone I could always confide in to help me out when I was feeling sad, but now I find it best to just keep everything to myself It bothers less people and I'm less of a burden -_-

[Ruddboy Olaf 10,628]

Boredom & loneliness and to be honest with you when that feeling hits really hard you will know it and it can keep you do for a long time if you are not careful.

Yeah,I know. It leads to bad thoughts.

[Jaxsie (Inactive) 1,343]

I've tried in the not too distant pass to keep my feelings on the inside, but in reality, that only made me feel worse. I like to write poems and journal entries to get all my thoughts out on paper. Sometimes, I like to write short stories or read a good fiction to take myself to another world. This may sound weird, but I also find planning for the future makes me less sad. For example, planning what I want to do with my life. Instead of sitting on my hands and feeling hopeless, I try to do things to do something productive that pushes me towards my desires and dreams. When I'm really in a bad funk, though, I'll even dance in my room by myself! It gets the blood pumping and makes me feel whimsical and silly. Plus, when you dance, it makes it harder to worry. And last but not least, I cry. If I have a lot of pent up emotions I will cry like a baby by myself and just let all the emotions go. Afterward, I usually feel better.

Edited June 5, 2015 by RainbowJaxs16

[Invincible 2,091]

I'm a very positive person at most time, despite my share of troubles over the years.

 

The way I like to think of myself as a meaty computer, an organic machine. It's easy for me to break down my mental state into a series of thoughts and adjustments my mind makes, even though the "mind", "me", in the whole thing is an illusionary state my brain deludes itself with to give itself an identity.

 

In order to reserve the space to fill my mind with wondrous dreams, boundless imagination and great memories, i need to protect it from things that prevent me from noticing these things. What i do is really just a combination of the following:

 

+If you're feeling positive, productive, and generally "up", try stimulating this feeling further, hang on to it and ride it along as if you're a leaf riding a gust of wind. No point in blocking good feelings.

 

-Distract yourself from what troubles you in the present with hard work. Because whatever keeps you down, whenever you're blue, and tired, it'll all be old news eventually. I drown out the problems until they're insignificant, and do something productive in the meanwhile.

 

-If you end up overthinking about stress, cut the thought at the root, because only thinking about stressful things never solves them. Can't fix something? Forget about it for now. You'll have time to deal with that later, when you're not as mentally taxed.

 

-If i'm really down, and nothing else helps - i let it all out. Better to expel these inner demons than to keep the ones i can't beat inside me.

 

-Lean a little on your friends. I don't know about you, but those i consider my true friends are the ones who would definitely help me off the floor when i can't help myself up. Don't worry about bothering your friends - if they're true friends, they won't be bothered at all.

[Film Reel 75]

Don't know if this answers the original post question but I compartmentalise everything and try to keep that stuff to my self and seperate from other things.