Why people can't tolerate....

[FayeHame 31]

Hi everybody ! 

 

In all my fucking life, ive been the "fag" in every single group of friends that i get. 

And you are going to laugh, Im not gay ! And whatever nothing is wrong about being gay, but its soo frustrating to be called something that you are not.

I don't even look like what people think gay looks like..... I want to found someday some friends that don't judge, that don't say bullshit, that are "real" friend :'(.

 

When a heard about the brony community, i become so obscece about cuz this is a community of people that just do all they want without thinking of what other fucking people think.

 

Idk why i tell you all that shit, its only a complain about people in general. I hope someday my friends are going to be bronies, or tolerants like bronies.

Just give me hope people, the kindness people that i met was bronies man <3 love you all <3

 

Add me if you want to be my friend ! Im french btw

[Blitz101 56]

I think your friends are joking around if they are calling you gay or fag and your not that could mean your pals are just dicking around man

[FayeHame 31]

I think your friends are joking around if they are calling you gay or fag and your not that could mean your pals are just dicking around man

I know they are just dicks, but for me "friendship" is not only joke and simple insult, i think that is not always fun...

[SilyGeny 369]

UN AUTRE BRONY FRANCAIS YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY... euh Ouais.. *tousse* 

*english mode on so people will understand*

 

I think that the problem is not that people can't tolerate, or are mean it's just that people use words that they think are funny to others but not to the person that it's targeted to (hoping it makes sense)

And to me the biggest problem is that making fun of other people is fun (to them) but not when you're that person they're making fun of. If you find that what they're saying is a bit too much just tell them or try to clapback with a really mean response just to show them how mean they are. Or just get new friends, I turned all people that were like this to me or others, cause kindness is really important to me. Now I may not have a lot of friends but they surely are the bestest I ever wanted to have ! 

Edited October 25, 2015 by SilyGeny

[Catpone Cerberus 23,588]

I know what you mean. My friends are just that, always joking insulting jokes and they judge me but that isn't really the thing that bothers me.

Thing that really bothers me is moments like when we found out that one of my friends is brony and Clopper (he don't know that we know) and those two ''friends'' has been after that talking so much trash about him after that.

[SugarfootWillie 383]

I don't know what I can really say but maybe my own experiences can help.

 

I've literally gotten into a fist fight because I made too many MLP puns in one day. We laid down some ground rules, fought, and then went back to doing whatever. The important part of this is that none the fighting parties were actually offended or angry.

 

Another time was when I was in between classes at school: my friends started joking and making what could be perceived as negative comments towards me because I like MLP. Instead of being offended I turned the comments into jokes about my character, and insulted them back. As a result, we all had like a 5 minute laughing fit.

 

So really what I derive from these stories to part to you is this:

 

First, Check yourself man, the origin of fault may not lie in your friends. You may be the reason these things you are complaining about are occuring.

 

Second, Turn the offense into humor. Return the insults of your friends with your own, but make sure you say it in a way that convey's light-heartedness.

 

Third, find new friends. But definitely look at "First" before you do this.

 

Fourth, I don't recommend fighting it out, but this method worked for me.

[Kyoshi Frost Wolf 41,311]

Here are some insults I have been called, as an example:

 

 

Horse f*cker

 

Fag

 

Autistic man-child (I took that one as a compliment because it is fairly accurate really)

 

 

Those are the top 3 I have heard, pretty bad stuff. Honestly, at this point, I don't care at all when people say these things. Much of this hatred derives from two things for a lot of people: Gender roles in society which are bombarded into their brain and group mentality or the hatred of said thing. "Hey, look, a large group of people that go against something that is firmly implanted into my brain, I must hate it and them for liking it!!!" That being that we are guys that love My Little Pony. This hatred is extremely irrational. 

 

Is this fandom perfect? Far from it. Does it do some stupid things at times that might give others a bad impression? Yes, at times, but most of the hatred I have seen seems to stem from stereotypes, generalizing and whatever else. It has gotten less and less frequent, but this kind of hatred won't die off, it is ingrained into out society. 

 

My advice? Ignore it. I know that sounds cliche but at this point, what do those insults do? Nothing. 

[MLPFanatic34 3,234]

I'm sorry to hear that your friends have been saying those things to you, I wish everyone could tolerate and simply get along.

[Kenshiro 13,493]

Keep your hair on ! Some of your friends could think that way but it doesnt mean the other ones thinks the same way, capisce ? Maybe wrong place, wrong time...Give yourself sometime. I am sure you ll find real friends that care for you after a certain time =) '''

[Tinkh_ 239]

I doubt they know that it bothers you that much. They're joking, but if people think something slightly bothers you, they'll keep doing it. Not because they really think that, but because they find it innocently humorous. As somebody else said; return the insults to them.

 

Just let them know casually that you hate when they say it, don't make a big deal about it just bring it up quietly.

[Invincible 2,091]

Don't put bronies on the pedestal, or you'll be disappointed.

 

 

Just because some in this community have taken the idea of tolerance (and by this i mean it the way your context meant it, i guess) towards others as a virtue and wish to uphold doesn't mean every brony is automatically an angel. 

 

That being said, you should pick the groups you hang out at with prudence. While i honestly feel for you and can even relate to you somewhat, the fault lies with your friends as well as with you.

 

I can tolerate friends' quirks, and even if they go too far, it's something communication can usually solve. What i can't, and will not tolerate, is alienation. If i'm singled-out in a group to be bullied on, then it's my fault i allowed myself to be included in that group in the first place.

[swordsman 192]

I have never had ANY of my friends call me any name like that. One time someone drop the  N bomb  and I told him that not cool and I am not your N word. They said but black people say it all the time and I said well this black person  does not say that word.  REAL friend's know what is cool and not to say and if they don't then I would tell them.

 

But that is me. my old friends we were like the kids from Highschool Of The Dead, we had each other backs no matter what.

[Tee Kay 29]

I doubt they know that it bothers you that much. They're joking, but if people think something slightly bothers you, they'll keep doing it. Not because they really think that, but because they find it innocently humorous. As somebody else said; return the insults to them.

 

Just let them know casually that you hate when they say it, don't make a big deal about it just bring it up quietly.

 

This.

 

They probably think the insults are a mark of close friendship (not sure about French norms but it's generally the case for Australians)

 

But if there's a name you don't like being called then you should tell them you don't like it and if they are really good friends then they'll respect that.

[Rainblow H. Ash 5,091]

To avoid criticism, say nothing, do nothing, be nothing.

 

If someone is calling you something you don't like being called, either hit them back, laugh it off, tell them to stop, or if it's bad enough just stop hanging with them.

 

That's just advice though. I've been called all kind of crazy shit in the past and it doesn't bother me in the least. I've probably been called an asshole more than anything else but I just wear that as a badge of honor.