Why is it when 2 people about as young as 18 years old start start dating, that they will most likely break up sometime in the future?

[AlicornSpell 146]

Nearly all of my friends who dating someone (when they were as young as 18 years old) ended up breaking up with that person later on in the future. So when almost all of my friends dating someone at 18 years old, they never stayed with them long enough to get married with them or to have kids with them or both.


So why is it whenever someone (about as young as 18 years old) start dating someone, that they will most likely break up with them sometime in the future?

Edited July 29, 2018 by AlicornSpell

[Lord Valtasar 12,690]

because "the future" is just a longer period of time when you're 18

[Dan. 1,825]

@Jeric this sounds like something you can answer.

[Pr0m4NV14 839]

Hey, a lot of relationships don’t work out for a very long time. Take it from someone with experience.

[碇 シンジン 27,431]

Short answer is that at so young age people can go through some big changes before they "stabilize" and as such if you meet some 18 year old after 5 or so years they might be like totally different person.

Another is that usually young people don't have enough commitment for a long term relationship and as people only usually start to open themselves up in longer term you might find that the one wasn't really THE one after all

[Dashy 4 Ever 4,835]

Young people are much more likely to break up. They're not that mature then. It also depends on their personalities, attitudes, feelings,, etc.

[Rawzy 1,302]

Because young people think with their hormones instead of logic.

[Steve Piranha 29,425]

Because of dumb social pressure as a mandatory step in life . For real, I had enough angst without dating at that age, why in the hell I would voluntarily seek more ? 

[The Recherche 29,968]

Honestly? It's due to the fact that teenagers are... simply teenagers. The biggest reason that High School & teenage relationships/friendships fade so often is due to the fact that many individuals their age are busy trying to find their place in the world. Even though 18+ year olds are legally adults, they're still growing and maturing. These years of your life are incredibly uncertain, and as much as some things seem permanent... very few things during this stage of life are set in stone.

Basically, it all comes down to the fact that 18 year olds are still maturing, even though they're technically adults who are responsible for their own lives.

[SparklingSquirrels 21,345]

People at that age are still trying to figure out life. A lot of 18/19/20 year olds don't even know what they want in their own life, let alone how to share it with another person.  Pressure from peers doesn't help much either.

[They call me Loyalty 1,948]

Sometimes it may be due external causes such as family issues, education and career, differing belief systems, social status, etc.

Different personal interests may also present themselves as this couple gets to know each other, grow up and change. I was counselor for some friends, and the reasons can be many. It may even go further down into complexes and psychological issues related with family dysfunctions. Which can involve preconceptions and false expectations of what a mature relationship entails.

[FizzyWind 64]

It is because most teenagers are losers who can’t get a gf cause they lack protein and excercise in their fiber diet and play too many games in there mom’s basement to get a life. I’m 16 and this is very much the case.

Edited July 25, 2018 by The Whiteraven

[Jedishy 3,548]

At such a young age you are still growing and figuring out your path. What you want in life, from a partner, from yourself. So as you change and grow you either grow apart or most people do not grow with each other and instead expect the other person to change for them. So arguments happen and people just cant work it out. I am not the same person I was 4 years ago never mind who I was at 18. 

[Twiggy 2,966]

Usually at that age, relationships are driven primarily by hormones. People will start dating because they are attracted to one another, even though they do not share the same values. This is fine in and of itself, but if you're looking for something long term, you'll need to make sure your values sync up or else they will wind up clashing and eventually the couple will part ways.

An easily verifiable example of this would be to look at all the break ups that have taken place over politics recently. Most people I know can relay an example of this.

 

[TBD 17,254]

 Most people are just in it for "the  golden moment."

[AlicornSpell 146]

6 hours ago, Harper said:

Because people have multiple relationships during they life and sometimes they just don't work out? Alot of middle aged people break up / divorce their partners and go with someone else, it's not related to age just part of life. But younger people have more non serious relationships I guess.  

Well the thing is that breaks up seem to happen a lot more to younger adults (who are about 18 years old) than it does to adults who are like 25 years old or older. 

[Dreambiscuit 9,818]

With age comes maturity. And with maturity comes a greater appreciation for stability over easy gratification.  

[Literatel 144]

Many possible outcomes would force two people apart. Even though 18 year olds are legally adults, they are still maturing mentally, and sometimes even physically. Most people don't properly mature until they are in their 30's. Between 18 and 30, a lot can and does happen. You might move to a college campus or a place near college, you might move again to settle down, only to move somewhere else sooner rather than later. You might move to find work, or to get closer to work. Most do not know what kind of job they want yet! Many are going through enough stress as it is, and they don't want to seek a romantic relationship. And we make friends in school (not all, but most) because we're all "forced" together. But as you mature, your interests begin to show themselves even more, and thus you may only hang around those that are like you in many ways; maybe their former crush just doesn't "interest them" anymore. Plus, most relationships don't last too too long. Cheating happens, flings occur, falling out of love happens, etc. In conclusion, if someone has a partner much later in life that was a childhood sweetheart, they are in the minority.