Am I weird?

[Feather Scribbles 194]

Well, to start things off, I am 18 years old. Now, you normally wouldn't expect someone (outside of England/Europe?) to be wearing a top hat, a fancy coat, and other luxurious clothing out in public, and yet I do. Having lived in Canada for the vast majority of my life (coming from England), I tend to find that virtually all of my fellow Canadians that I have encountered so far only wear casual clothing, and those who don't "get the look" from strangers on the street. Therefore, being the second only person I know who loves to wear a top hat, a watch, dress shoes, dress pants, and a fancy cloak - and everyone else is wearing jeans and T-shirts - am I too different?

In addition, I am a sucker for medieval fantasy, and often my dialogue IRL reflects my interest - no, passion - for that particular genre. I am an avid reader and writer, and my dream is to one day live in a residence that is directly inspired by the Middle Ages.

I have no friends IRL, but that's mostly because of my barely developed social skills. Therefore, would wearing this type of attire and having the personality I have - witty/funny, kind, and interesting... in an almost fantasy-inspired/mysterious sense - decrease my chances of making friends?

I know that everyone should be their own person, and I am comfortable with my current style, but... I have been considering assimilating into the culture that surrounds me. Should I?

If not... Any idea if people like me are a "rare breed", or are people like me more common than I think?

[Will Guide 21,325]

I think you're great like that with the attire you described. Let no one take that away from you if you really love dressing like that.

Plus, I think it's cool you'd want to live in a Middle Ages inspired residence!

Edited October 29, 2017 by WiiGuy2014

[Jade Fire 7,036]

my life quote

                                    

Edited October 29, 2017 by Jade Fire

[ShadOBabe 18,984]

As someone on the autism spectrum, I’ve learned the importance of knowing when to “blend in”. It’s not what I always want to do, but it can get you ahead. It’s easier to interact with people when they aren’t thrown off by your eccentricities.

HOWEVER this is only really an issue in situations in which you need to be “professional” or “respectful”. You shouldn’t go to a job interview or a funeral dressed up in Victorian era clothing. But just going out to do your own thing, like to the store or the park? I don’t see anything wrong with it.

Personally, if I had someone walk into my store dressed like that, I’d be thrilled. It breaks up the monotony of a boring day. Just be prepared to answer people’s questions as to why you’re dressed like that.

Edited October 29, 2017 by ShadOBabe

[ZethaPonderer 2,196]

Eh we're all weird in our own way.

Human beings are fickle-minded creatures.

[Jeric 46,835]

1 hour ago, ShadOBabe said:

As someone on the autism spectrum, I’ve learned the importance of knowing when to “blend in”. It’s not what I always want to do, but it can get you ahead. It’s easier to interact with people when they aren’t thrown off by your eccentricities.

HOWEVER this is only really an issue in situations in which you need to be “professional” or “respectful”. You shouldn’t go to a job interview or a funeral dressed up in Victorian era clothing. But just going out to do your own thing, like to the store or the park? I don’t see anything wrong with it.

Personally, if I had someone walk into my store dressed like that, I’d be thrilled. It breaks up the monotony of a boring day. Just be prepared to answer people’s questions as to why you’re dressed like that.

Seconded and move to make this best answer on this thread. 

OP, be who you are, but understand there are times you need to find a way to conform to some expectations. Interactions may be difficult, but constants like attire should be within your ability to adapt when warranted (interviews and job). 

And one person's weird is another person's eccentric. 

 

[Techno Universal 2,575]

Well to be honest I'm actually possibly one of the most unique and strangest people on the planet are my ponysona Techno is who I am! Like I've got a real quirk with loving massive capes!

[Dreambiscuit 8,024]

When it comes to personal style, there is no such thing as weird. Individual, yes, but not weird. 'Normal' is a relative term and one that shouldn't be synonymous with ordinary or boring. If everyone dressed and acted the same there would be no style at all, just uniforms. If you love what you wear, own it and don't change just to be the same as everyone else. You don't see everyone else changing to be the same as you and that's also good because everyone is their own person. There are situations where there is little choice if you want something from someone else like a job with a paycheck, bank loan or whatever. That's just playing the game and it's temporary. When it's time to let your individuality shine, let it SHINE!  

Edited October 29, 2017 by Dreambiscuit

[Randimaxis 8,633]

Yes.

You are TOTALLY weird.

Completely and utterly, due to your affinity for fancy clothing.

A real weirdo.

CHERISH THAT.

[Messy Mane 9,006]

everyone is weird in some way :3

you could be like others or...you can go your own way

your choice 

[d^_^b 27]

Personally, I want to wear an awesome-looking mask in public without getting weird looks or people wanting to take selfies with me (that happened one night at BronyCAN 2016, and not with other bronies). I don't want people thinking I'm going to commit a crime such as a burglary. I do want to wear clothes that are not out of the ordinary but also unique, like an "assassin's" jacket (no, seriously, look it up).

I live in Canada, too. Even in the small city/town where I live in, I sometimes see people dress up in attire outside of the norm, and that brightens my day. 

[Nsxile 25,684]

Well... We're all weird 

[Here No Longer 5,270]

Normality is a manmade concept anyways to seem like somebody fits in with everyone else!

 

The truth is that everyone is weird in their own ways. Though some people more than others. Considering that a lot of my mannerisms point to me being on the autism spectrum, my neutral gender identity, and the fact I just totally don't blend in where I live whatsoever, I know plenty about being weird. Certainly that's weirder than just having an affinity for certain types of clothing. Though I've got that covered too. I've been aching to go out on the street one day in a mini-skirt and fancy slippers and flip the bird on everyone who gives me weird looks!

 

Edited June 2, 2019 by DusksuD

[Lucky Bolt 34,915]

We're all a little weird.  But us weird ones are the cool ones. 

[ZiggWheelsManning 7,371]

Not weird.  

Thanks for the life quote @Starfire fan  

Edited October 2, 2023 by ZiggWheelsManning

[thousandghosts 9]

Normal is subjective.

[Clawdeen 12,110]

On 2017-10-28 at 11:13 PM, Starfire fan said:

my life quote

                                    

Morticia my queen 🖤

[Iforgotmybrain 3,514]

Weird people tend to be the most fun to be around. Don’t ever worry about conforming to the norm.

[GodlyWolf 1,678]

You're damn right I'm weird lol. Would be anywhere near as  fun if I wasn't 

[ZiggWheelsManning 7,371]

I have a unique way to walk.  Is that weird?  

[Starlight Serenade 559]

3 minutes ago, ZiggWheelsManning said:

I have a unique way to walk.  Is that weird?  

Nope! We all have our own way of walking! I often was told that I had a strut and jive

[Mirage 24,142]

I'm often called weird so I guess I am.

While @ShadOBabe put it nicely, it's rather complicated question for me. I really don't understand conformity, however, I do practice and appreciate behavior appropriate for the situation.

Our social life is extremely important to our inner life. It's a puzzle we work on everyday I think, with lots of pieces still unmatched.

[Gun Metal Zebra 1,818]

Some would call that weird, but I am weird too, and proud of it. I often wear casual clothing, but it is zebra related (zebra T-shirts, zebra cosplay tail), and I love being weird in this way.