Fluttershutter 2,954 February 12, 2020 Share February 12, 2020 (edited) Never done it but I'd probably get pepper sprayed. [note this is a joking response to the thread "Is it okay for girls to ask guys out". Serious responses are not encouraged.] Edited June 21, 2020 by Fluttershutter 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Latecomer 441 February 12, 2020 Share February 12, 2020 1 hour ago, Fluttershutter said: Never done it but I'd probably get pepper sprayed. Obviously there are times it is and times it isn't - we need a bit more context. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mirage 24,777 February 12, 2020 Share February 12, 2020 Yes. If girls can do whatever they want, then so can guys. Do whatever you want to. 1 “Remember that when you leave this earth, you can take with you nothing you have received--only what you have given.” Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sunny Fox 5,961 February 12, 2020 Share February 12, 2020 It's not only OK, it's generally expected. This is, of course, stupid and sexist, but it has been a feature of the western world for a while now. Personally, I find a woman making the first move is super attractive. I hope to see more of it as time goes by. 4 Happy minion of The Fabulous One! Signature by Midnightive Check out my blog! https://mlpforums.com/blog/1083-sunny-side-den/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fluttershutter 2,954 February 12, 2020 Author Share February 12, 2020 1 hour ago, Latecomer said: Obviously there are times it is and times it isn't - we need a bit more context. Just made an opposite thread for fun. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SharpWit 2,867 February 12, 2020 Share February 12, 2020 Maybe I'm applying a double standard but I think there might be more pressure put on guys when it comes to this sort of thing? Potentially more to lose if things go wrong but I have no experience with this and also understand that a girl's self esteem can just as easilly be crushed by getting turned down,,, Is that why they call it a crush, out of the fear of things going wrong? Anyways, that expectation for men to ask feels like a burden if you ask me, and unfortunately this modern era has seen a shift in what is and isn't appropriate. If you don't have a group of people you regularly mingle with that has options or includes mutual friends often that could be optional, then I don't know how you're supposed to go about dating. I've only had the one girlfriend and we knew each other for 2 years before going out on a few dates and then making things official. That relationship is still going on very strong. Maybe we would've dated sooner, but she was my manager prior and we hadn't gone out till after she left that job. She took the initial step of asking me if I wanted to go somewhere together, and when it was absolutely clear we were into each other via a natural cuddle session, I asked her to be my girlfriend. Had she not taken the first step though, I don't know where either of us would be right now. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mirage 24,777 February 12, 2020 Share February 12, 2020 10 minutes ago, SharpWit said: Maybe I'm applying a double standard but I think there might be more pressure put on guys when it comes to this sort of thing? Potentially more to lose if things go wrong but I have no experience with this and also understand that a girl's self esteem can just as easilly be crushed by getting turned down,,, Is that why they call it a crush, out of the fear of things going wrong? Anyways, that expectation for men to ask feels like a burden if you ask me, and unfortunately this modern era has seen a shift in what is and isn't appropriate. If you don't have a group of people you regularly mingle with that has options or includes mutual friends often that could be optional, then I don't know how you're supposed to go about dating. Well, there's a reason why it became an expectation, and it has nothing to do with 'male patriarchy'. It's a very clear, and not so simple, biological fact that a woman, in the reproductive act, stand to lose far more than a man. Women bare children, and this is an extremely important consideration for a woman. Since women have been baring children for eons, and we all see everyday the absolute importance of child raising and giving birth and everything that a woman needs to accomplish it successfully, that they tend to be choosy about their mate. The first step is to be approached by a man that is at least brave enough to talk to her and take some risk for her. I mean think about it - if a man doesn't have the balls to risk talking to her, how will he behave if she gets pregnant? Will he be brave enough to support her and care for her when she is at her most vulnerable? Will he be brave enough to work hard and succeed? Will he protect her and their home? Sure, maybe it isn't at the top of a girl's mind when she's looking for a partner, but it is indeed in the back of her mind. It doesn't matter what social pressures certain schools of though force into society - it doesn't change the reality of sex and children - a woman's life can be totally destroyed by a punk ass guy, especially those who conceal their total lack of responsibility and utility. So you can believe what you want, but there are deeply intrinsic natural forces at work as well, and they shouldn't just be ignored. “Remember that when you leave this earth, you can take with you nothing you have received--only what you have given.” Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twiggy 2,967 February 12, 2020 Share February 12, 2020 Yes. Generally women like it when a man takes initiative. Don’t be creepy about it and be aware of social cues. 99% of the time you can tell if someone is interested in you romantically. My Ask Thread Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EpicEnergy 23,247 February 12, 2020 Share February 12, 2020 I don't see a reason why it's not ok, so I think it is fine. *totally not up to any shenanigans* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Splashee 28,599 February 12, 2020 Share February 12, 2020 (edited) It's okay, but I don't know if it works. I don't have a working solution. I read it wrong. Of course it is okay for guys to ask girls out. I was thinking the other way around. Edited February 17, 2020 by Splashee 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SharpWit 2,867 February 13, 2020 Share February 13, 2020 @Mirage They're a minority thankfully, but I feel like a punk ass guy will approach more women than any other. Ultimately, I think an effort for initiation should be made by both partners in some fashion, but my girlfriend and I are also rather cautious individuals so maybe we're not an ideal example. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Early Sunsets 2,111 February 13, 2020 Share February 13, 2020 Who ever wants to do it can do it. The only that somewhat determines who can and can't ask someone else out is bravery, and even then a super cowardly person can still work up the courage. Rainbow Dash Fanatic "You stroll down memories of younger, brighter times 'cause you never realize what you've got till you leave it all behind." ~ dBPony "So we’re here at the end, did we teach you well, my friend? Don’t look so sad to see us go, after the rain comes rainbows." ~ Princewhateverer "Darlin' you'll be okay." ~ Vic Fuentes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muffinnz 3,225 February 13, 2020 Share February 13, 2020 (edited) Lol, this is the opposite of that other thread It's what is expected by society, society wants men to ask women because men are supposed to be strong, confident, and not fear anything. This is untrue. I personally think each gender should be treated and the same. I hate it when some one says guys cant do something or when girls cant do something. Edited February 13, 2020 by Muffinnz 1 Signature made by me! @Muffinnz Ask me anything Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mirage 24,777 February 13, 2020 Share February 13, 2020 Well, I'm waiting for a bunch of girls to ask me out. Girls? Ask me out. Go ahead and just do it. Come on, don't be shy. It's time to step up and take what you want. I know how to bake, cook, build a house, write novels, run a business, draw, stand up comedy and I can make cool paper airplanes. 1 “Remember that when you leave this earth, you can take with you nothing you have received--only what you have given.” Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lucky Bolt 35,246 February 16, 2020 Share February 16, 2020 Yeah I think it’s more than ok.....I’ve never been one to ask a guy out I’d rather HIM ask ME out. I’m too shy. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dreambiscuit 11,336 February 17, 2020 Share February 17, 2020 Of course it's okay! I mean, someone's gotta make the first move and, let's face it, most girls won't do it. If I had to make the first move I'd probably chicken out and lament my cowardice for years to come. But if a guy asked me, well, that would be so much easier. If everyone plays fair and gives the person they're dealing with the proper notes of encouragement or discouragement before anyone commits to making a move, it would save both sides a lot of pain and emotional discomfort. Just keep the communication open and honest. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lord Valtasar 12,708 February 17, 2020 Share February 17, 2020 context is always key, but generally yes My Shop My Gallery Ask Zecora Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Envy 6,405 February 17, 2020 Share February 17, 2020 If the way you'd go about it would get you pepper sprayed, then you need to have a long sit down and think about the way you're going about it. We won't pepper spray someone just for asking us out. However, if you're being a stalker, not taking no for an answer, touching us without our consent, etc. then you might get less passive negative reactions, and those are only natural responses since those are threatening behaviors. Everything needs more woodwind! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fluttershutter 2,954 February 17, 2020 Author Share February 17, 2020 (edited) 3 hours ago, Envy said: If the way you'd go about it would get you pepper sprayed, then you need to have a long sit down and think about the way you're going about it. We won't pepper spray someone just for asking us out. However, if you're being a stalker, not taking no for an answer, touching us without our consent, etc. then you might get less passive negative reactions, and those are only natural responses since those are threatening behaviors. Isn't this the correct way to ask someone out? Edited February 17, 2020 by Fluttershutter Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SparklingSwirls 21,601 February 17, 2020 Share February 17, 2020 (edited) Of course it's okay; anyone can ask out anyone. As long as you're respectful of the other person there really shouldn't be a problem either way. Edited February 17, 2020 by SparklingSwirls ֍֎֍֎ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Never Returning 28,615 February 17, 2020 Share February 17, 2020 Of course it is. I'm pretty sure that's the way it normally goes. But either way is perfectly fine, there's no reason for double standards. 1 Signature by @Mellow Mane Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emerald Heart 25,174 February 17, 2020 Share February 17, 2020 It's definently more socially acceptable to the public, while girls are still ridiculed for asking a guy out. There's nothing wrong with either of course Big thanks to @The Wife of Hawks, @Trix or Treatand @Splasheefor these images! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Subscriber Denim&Venöm 20,472 February 17, 2020 Subscriber Share February 17, 2020 Well yeah? Last I checked, most women expect the guy to make the first move. It's a confidence booster for them, that they stand out enough for a guy to court them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Here No Longer 5,286 February 17, 2020 Share February 17, 2020 (edited) What is this thread here for? Just to take the same question somebody else asked and flip it on its head to suggest there are people who don't think people who follow standard, traditional gender roles as is should be allowed to do as they please? To answer the thread of course it is okay and saying otherwise would be sexist. Edited February 17, 2020 by Angel_Dust Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KatonRyu 1,036 February 18, 2020 Share February 18, 2020 Of course it is. Anyone can ask anyone out, the thing is to accept it if the answer is no and not get creepy or pushy about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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