Am I the only person that hates parties?

[Le Kvlt Dawn 2,364]

I don't see the appeal of them. Even family parties. They're full of crappy music, people dancing (I can't dance for sh*t), my aunt gets mad at me for not talking (WTF!?), some of my cousins look at me like I'm some sort of weirdo and 98% of the time I don't eat cake. Yea, I hate birthday cake, It's very generic tasting. Problem? I'd rather have pumpkin pie or better yet cheese cake. Why don't they at least have cheese cake? Why is it always the same cake that taste like cardboard? Oh and those stupid little horns they give to kids that make noise, I hate those.

 

But, at least that's a party with family members and not strangers. I can't imagine a party full of people I've never met. No wait I can, and I'd rather go to a dentist appointment or get a shot from the doctor then attend a party full of strangers. The fact that my cousin has been stabbed at a party before TWICE (Don't worry he's OK) before scares the sh*t out of me. So I don't just hate parties, I'm kinda scared of them (just the big ones full of strangers). My worst nightmare would be attending a huge part full of strangers only. I know that sounds crazy but, at least I'm not scared of clowns. I do find them creepy, and at parties... *sigh* Even when I was little I didn't like parties. I only ever went in the jumper when there was nobody in it.

 

The worst part is when I forced to go like if there's a wedding. Luckily I have a way of surviving them. I've been to a few weddings receptions and all I was interested was the food. If the food sucked well that ruins it for me. OK, so I eat the food and do nothing else. It's that simple, while everyone else is dancing and doing whatever, I'm sitting at the table waiting to leave and eating something. That way I'll be to busy eating so I won't be forced to dance. (It happened once luckily it was just side stepping.)

 

So do you hate parties? Do you like them? Do you LUVZ them? Is Pinkie Pie mad at me?

    

[Agent505 661]

I'm sure Pinkie Pie is more sad that you don't like parties, rather than being mad at you. 

But she must be sad because of me too, I don't like parties either - I don't even like cake. Not just birthday cake, but I really dislike any cake, cheesecake, chocolate cake, carrot cake, upside-down cake - I just really don't like any of them. 

 

Parties are a social thing, and for me that's a big no. I have trouble socializing with people at the best of times, never mind when i'm forced to watch everyone socialize around me, just to make me feel more awkward. I've never been a party person though, from a young boy I was even reluctant to attend my own parties, but I had to  

 

Even today, when my parents attend/throw parties on the VERY rare occasion they actually do so, i'm always one to steer as far out the way as possible. 

[Floris 287]

This differs per person.

 

But in my experience the most important thing about parties is the people you are going with, even if you go to the crappiest place in the city or the worst place for a family reunion to be held.. If your friends and family really aim to having fun and talk to eachother.. they will. so there is no need to make things extra lively (Hint hint, Apple reunion  )

 

Even if you don't not really like your family.. Which is unfortunate, try to make the best out of it!

 

Even when you don't enjoy it, there might be some who do.. Try not to ruin it for them to the least.

Edited January 21, 2013 by Floris

[Feather Gem 965]

I don't want to read all that.  But...I'll answer your question.

 

No.  You aren't.  I hate parties too.

 

Family parties, no one talks to me.  Friend parties, I never go because no one talks to me.  School parties, no one talks to go.

Parties are for socializing.  And I'd love to socialize.  But no one seems to love socializing with me.

[Floris 287]

But no one seems to love socializing with me.

 

I cannot judge about your situation, have you tried to take the first step? Sometimes it is this little step you gotta take and a world opens to you.. How cheesy that might sound.

 

Or it is something with the family/friends I cannot help you with, which is something within the family.. Then I wish you the best of luck, because sometimes family issues can be a fearful thing.

[Feather Gem 965]

I cannot judge about your situation, have you tried to take the first step? Sometimes it is this little step you gotta take and a world opens to you.. How cheesy that might sound.

 

Or it is something with the family/friends I cannot help you with, which is something within the family.. Then I wish you the best of luck, because sometimes family issues can be a fearful thing.

 

Well, sometimes when I speak to my friends, they answer and then talk to someone else.  Or ignore me.  I don't like them.  xD

And the family thing...that's probably my fault.  Because I usually just sit there and try not to speak to anyone because I'm too shy.  (even with family, yes.  xP)

 

But still, that actually encouraged me a bit.  Thanks for that

[Zacharias 191]

Not into them. I don't even know why I attended the last "christmas party" at school in December. It was pointless. I have no friends and I have nothing in common with my classmates. I just wanted to be left alone.

I'm not into family parties either, I hate seeing random, rarely seen relatives suddenly dropping in and then letting their kid(s) go on a rampage. I'd rather just in front of a computer where I do have "friends"... I hope we figure out how to teleport ourselves soon. The teleportation of signals is already possible to short distances (20-30 miles) so who knows?

[Sky Warden 2,243]

No, you aren't the only one. I hate crowd and I'm a social awkward. I have sensitive ears and I can't stand noises, especially that one comes from the stereo bass. I once vomited (When I was a boy, of course) because of the sound during a wedding. Basically because I'm disappointed by today's generation.

The only things which makes me feel better during a party is my friends. If they were not there to talk with me during the party, I would've have kicked somepony's face, so the security would has a reason to kick me out of the party.

Edited January 21, 2013 by Sky Warden

[~Master~ Button Mash 2,307]

I'm not the biggest fan of parties either. The bigger the party, the worse it is (yet my favorite pony is a party animal...go figure). I was a total wallflower when I went to prom (then again, I also went stag). I just can't get comfortable around so many people. The same goes for big family get-togethers, too, with a lot of distant/semi-distant relatives. A lot of times I'll barely know any of the people there.

 

So no, you're not alone.

 

The most comfortable festive situation for me is when a few friends and I share a few shots and play some videogames. Everyone already knows everyone on a personal level, no awkward facades or fake social interactions required.

Edited January 21, 2013 by AtomicBassCannon

[Scootalove 10,684]

I kind of hate birthday cake too. Most parties that I go to, I just don't usually talk to people.

The shy type.

Anyway, its ok if your not a fan of parties.

[~Lawful Jordo~ 2,064]

I know how you feel. I would much rather hang around with my close friends and have a laugh than go to some sort of club. I hate clubs so much; the music is terrible and loud, it's way too crowded and I generally tend to dislike the types of people attracted to the club scene. No, if I'm going to drink it's going to be at a pub with my close friends, not in a crowded room with people I don't know.

 

I know when I was in high school, I went to some guys party. I hated pretty much everyone there, the choice of music was awful, and everyone acted like total morons. One of the worst experiences of my life. Needless to say, I declined any invitations to high school parties afterwards.

 

As for say, birthday or family parties, I don't mind them. I don't get excited, but I don't hate them either. 

Edited January 21, 2013 by Eljordo

[~Chaotic Parsley~ 240]

Hmm, I see where you all are coming at. However I am on the fence, I neither like or dislike "parties" as you call them. It really depends on the size and everything and who is going. 

 

For example: My grandfather recently died and we had the funeral and then the "party" wake *sigh*, well I went with the flow and continuously walked around until I overheard a conversation I could squeeze into . Also my brother got married month or two ago and again another "party" at reception, a lot of people there, I think I just drank a bit (sorry for the minors who can't) and then let my body overthrow my mind, dancing to stuff I wouldn't normally. That settles my experience with forced "parties".

 

Now the unforced "parties" which I prefer to call gatherings, mainly because hardly any people turn up, unless someone else is the host :3, which can be a bonus. These can be a lot of fun when you invite the correct type of people and also to meet new people that you have never met, in my experience I've used my argumentative personality to have conversations with people, which works most of the time, because I get to know the person quicker. However there are a lot of occasions at these gatherings which I dislike, as you pointed out CAKE....IT IS A LIE!, the icing is just terrible, I prefer Gateau or Sponge cake ^^. 

 

All in all, pick your opportunities wisely, I am a very Fluttershy type of person but when I get into the swing of it and have friends I enjoy to be around I get all lively (just like Fluttershy is at pretty much all the parties she's at (Gummy's, Pinkie's birthday, Twilight's birthday etc))

 

But ye, EXPERIMENT, I'm sure it'll work out in the end ^^ 

[Leafeon 2,701]

' Hate parties. I'm claustrophobic. As well as being that, I also hate talking to people. So a party is like my worst nightmare. 

 

I hate family parties just as much, both of those things come into play, and people who actually should have a decent opinion on me are there, as well as people with other opinions. So meh...

[Winged Anomaly 47]

Disapproving Pinkie disapproves.

But seriously, I'm not too fond of parties either.  I can stomach a small gathering with mostly friends or family, maybe a few strangers, but I could never go to - say, a club or something like that and mingle.  I'm a massive introvert and in the autism spectrum, so any kind of socializing burns through my mental energy like gasoline on a bonfire.  Not to say I don't enjoy getting together with people, chatting, eating food, playing games, that sort of thing, but I find it just plain *exhausting*.

So I wouldn't say I hate parties, but they're certainly not my cup of tea.

[Despair 114]

Nope. you are not alone. I also hate social gatherings of almost any kind. Unless I was forced to go to something like school or work, then I ain't going.

 

I don't see the point in parties (unless they were little kid parties or something). Most of them are idiots getting drunk and dancing to VERY bad music and being stupid. (At least here where I live.)

[StormzInvader 127]

Forgive me Pinkie Pie! (Yes, she is my favorite) I actually dislike parties also. The thing is that if I don't do anything and become like my normal self at home, everyone will get mad at me for not interacting with my family and cousins. I mean... I can barely relate with anyone in my family! Maybe just a little but barely. I am very different than most people ranging from my way of thinking to the way I behave around the different kinds of people around me. Nobody really talks to me about something that would last for a long time. Almost no cousin of mine plays video games (my passion), watches MLP, or does any other thing I do. 

[kingyo 16]

Take comfort. I dislike parties too. 3 main reason...

 

1) Too crowded.

There is just no space at a party. It's just people, people, people clumping everywhere so if they're not in your face, they're bumping you in the butt. And the only comfortable place is a lonely nook or cranny in corner. 

 

2) Too noisy.

I always find parties to have a disproportionate relationship between number of people against noise. House parties are especially loud. Rave parties are especially, especially loud. Never mind that people like to talk but sometimes the party music is unnecessarily loud and in worse cases, bad. 

 

3) Obligation to socialise.

Probably the worse thing about parties. I prefer deep conversations over small talk but at a party, people prefer to dance over a discussion about the meaning of the universe. Plus, its difficult to perkily join a conversation where people are just circling around "Hey, how are you?" and "What are you studying?"

 

And of course, lastly...

 

4) I don't know what to do.

After greeting the host or the guests, I have no freaking idea what I should do besides nibble and continuously fetch myself awkward drinks from the punch table.

 

Agree / disagree? What do you guys think? 

[RippedOffMattress 314]

It always depends for me, but usually I end up getting bored during them anyways. I can't really get into parties unless if the dancing is fun, or if I have a date. I still haven't tried out "grinding" yet, but it looks fun as hell.

 

Also, I would just completely give up on them ever playing good music. I just try to roll with what they give me. Then again, the most "parties" I've ever gone to were school dances, but in High School, they sort of feel like regular parties.

[Sam 30]

I'm not too keen on parties either. I think the problem for me is I find it difficult to hold a conversation with anybody. Loud music doesn't really help matters. If I do find anybody to talk to then you can gurantee I'll have a sore throat by the end trying to shout over the noise.

 

Instead of parties I usually prefer to do more fun things with friends such as gaming nights, or something exciting such as paintballing. Someday I really want to go to an adult play area with some friends just to we can act like children again .

Edited January 21, 2013 by Sam

[/mlp/ 106]

It depends on the type of party I think, If it's one of those "Get LOUD" parties that you can barely hear yourself think then No, I hate them. But if it's a party where everyones having fun and it's enjoyable then yeah. OH and SPACE, I hate tight parties!. I need Room

[The Mane-iac 1,632]

Can't stand parties. I'm uncomfortable enough as it is just going to a restaurant to eat. In a social situation like that my Fluttershy side shows through clear as day. If I want to hang out with friends I would rather do like Sam said and just play video games or something. Be somewhere it is just us so I'm around those I know and trust without any outsiders.

 

I've only ever gone to family "parties", which still doesn't make anything any easier honestly because I'm the odd one out as far as my likes and interests, and could not even imagine going to a rave or something full of strangers. It sounds fun, but I know I'd be extremely uncomfortable and would like to find a corner to back myself into and play with my phone. I don't really drink either so I have no desire to go to new years parties or the likes.

 

I can't stand cake either, everyone thinks I'm weird because I don't ever want cake for my b-day and refuse to eat it at other parties. I prefer pie, but even then I am not big on sweets so I normally only eat a bite or two unless it is banana cream or key lime.

[qqq 217]

I don't mind parties but then again, I have mental friends and family. The bits in parties I don't like is when the host(s) asks everyone every 5 minutes if they are enjoying themselves. And I just say "If I wasn't, I would be telling you." But I do hate dancing. I don't do dancing.

Edited January 22, 2013 by Coffee123

[SCS 7,450]

I don't see the appeal of them. Even family parties. They're full of crappy music, people dancing (I can't dance for sh*t), my aunt gets mad at me for not talking (WTF!?), some of my cousins look at me like I'm some sort of weirdo and 98% of the time I don't eat cake. Yea, I hate birthday cake, It's very generic tasting. Problem? I'd rather have pumpkin pie or better yet cheese cake. Why don't they at least have cheese cake? Why is it always the same cake that taste like cardboard? Oh and those stupid little horns they give to kids that make noise, I hate those.

 

But, at least that's a party with family members and not strangers. I can't imagine a party full of people I've never met. No wait I can, and I'd rather go to a dentist appointment or get a shot from the doctor then attend a party full of strangers. The fact that my cousin has been stabbed at a party before TWICE (Don't worry he's OK) before scares the sh*t out of me. So I don't just hate parties, I'm kinda scared of them (just the big ones full of strangers). My worst nightmare would be attending a huge part full of strangers only. I know that sounds crazy but, at least I'm not scared of clowns. I do find them creepy, and at parties... *sigh* Even when I was little I didn't like parties. I only ever went in the jumper when there was nobody in it.

 

The worst part is when I forced to go like if there's a wedding. Luckily I have a way of surviving them. I've been to a few weddings receptions and all I was interested was the food. If the food sucked well that ruins it for me. OK, so I eat the food and do nothing else. It's that simple, while everyone else is dancing and doing whatever, I'm sitting at the table waiting to leave and eating something. That way I'll be to busy eating so I won't be forced to dance. (It happened once luckily it was just side stepping.)

 

So do you hate parties? Do you like them? Do you LUVZ them? Is Pinkie Pie mad at me?

 

 

I know how you feel. I can't imagine parties with people I don't know either. Personally, I like really small parties with people I know really well. Like, one of my best friend's birthday party was just me, him, and 3 other guys, all of which I feel fairly to mostly comfortable around. So, that was fun. But, the idea of going to a party where there were people I didn't know, even if I brought one or two of my best friends with me, just scares me.

 

Thankfully, my friends aren't the dancing type. We just hang out and play video games, and when we get bored of that we goof around in the backyard. I can't dance at all, I don't think I've even tried. Aside from those DDR games.

Edited January 21, 2013 by SCS

[Envy 6,025]

I don't so much mind family gatherings, but my family is very tame. However, I am not into the party scene at all. Which is starting to make stick out like a sore thumb at university, but that's fine. I don't care. Partying is not for me, and that's not going to change. Drinking is nasty and not a taste worth acquiring, ever.

[Virulence 254]

I like parties, only when there is no alcohol. Usually when I'm at a party I never really talk. I only go if I get invited and try not to be rude. Pinkie is just upset. But you can't please every pony