How Blunt Are You?

[Shiki 5,855]

Bahahaha.

Anyone who knows me even slightly will tell you that I'm unpleasantly blunt. To the point in which people find it scary. 

 

I don't care if you're offended. I don't care if I make you cry.

I'm gonna say what I think, and fack you if you try to tell me to do otherwise.

It doesn't matter who you are. It doesn't matter how long I've known you. I'm going to be more blunt than blunt trauma to the head with a bat. 

Edited January 23, 2013 by Kirino

[Phaeston-e12 173]

A mentor of mine once I've said that a reasonable men would take a straightforward criticism as a compliment if it is done in the private, but an insult if such is made in the public. I choose my method of making a verbal approach carefully based on who it is and what the situation is. It isn't about avoiding making enemies, but because a careless approach to how you communicate with others verbally can destroy any chance of creating a verbal medium where constructive arguments between people can be made.

[The Leafeon Pinkeh 3,603]

I am not very blunt. If someone asks me how I feel about something I will usually say what they want to hear. Like "Is this drawing good?" Me: Yes! It's amazing! Couldn't be better! And "Am I a good singer?" Me: You have lots of talent! 
:/ I really should stop. I can't help but try to make people happy and I really hope I don't end up making someone think they really are good at something they are bad at and make a fool of themselves and hate me.

[SrFrog 927]

Only when it's absolutely necessary to give someone a taste of real life, am I ever be horribly blunt. Hell, I've made people cry just because I've been that honest with them.

 

You need tact though, can't be doing that all the time anymore in this time and age.

[Starshine 16,334]

I'll be honest here, I will have a hard time when i try to be subtle. it's just not in me to go around beating the bush softly until it lost all its leaves.

When the need arise for subtlety, most of the time I will slowly walks away and let others who are more capable than me do the talking.

[I used to be a stranger 7,993]

Truth without love is brutality, love without truth is hypocrisy. - Warren W. Weirsbe.

 

It takes discretion to know when to be gentle and when to be forceful, when telling someone something honest.

[Creamy Arty 6,252]

The only time I hear somebody describe themselves as "blunt" is if they're just being a jerk and they know it, but are trying to excuse themselves by passing it off as candor. It doesn't work.

 

 

Honesty is a good thing, but it should be laced with tact. One can convey misgivings, dissatisfaction, etc. without browbeating people.

[Shanks 10,816]

The only time I hear somebody describe themselves as "blunt" is if they're just being a jerk and they know it, but are trying to excuse themselves by passing it off as candor. It doesn't work.

 

 

Honesty is a good thing, but it should be laced with tact. One can convey misgivings, dissatisfaction, etc. without browbeating people.

For someone who advises tact you sure gave a blunt answer I can't speak for everyone, but for me I don't need an excuse for anything  or need to justify myself to anyone. I wasn't always this way but became this way in large part because I was judged by society as different so I eventually just said "to hell with society I am going to be who I am without apology". I said I was blunt not that I thought that there weren't any situations whatsoever that called for a more delicate approach just that in most cases the direct cut to the chase approach is the best approach. Being blunt is not being a jerk being a jerk is being a jerk.

[Creamy Arty 6,252]

For someone who advises tact you sure gave a blunt answer I can't speak for everyone, but for me I don't need an excuse for anything  or need to justify myself to anyone. I wasn't always this way but became this way in large part because I was judged by society as different so I eventually just said "to hell with society I am going to be who I am without apology". I said I was blunt not that I thought that there weren't any situations whatsoever that called for a more delicate approach just that in most cases the direct cut to the chase approach is the best approach. Being blunt is not being a jerk being a jerk is being a jerk.

 

 

Not really. It was an analysis of my own experiences only, that's why I limited the accusation to people I've heard describe themselves as that rather than everybody who does. "Mileage may vary." Changing that sentence to past tense may have made that more clear, sorry.

 

And I also meant justification to themselves as well as everyone else. For example, Linus Torvalds. To put it simply and somewhat inaccurately for the sake of brevity, he created the Linux kernel. When somebody makes something that he thinks is pretty bad, he'll precede his analysis of it by telling the creator in detail that he and what he was working on are stupid and worthless (to put it mildly and without the profanity). He admits his callousness but tries to redeem himself by offering an invitation with a touch of sarcasm at the end of the diatribe to prove him wrong. Everything he may have said regarding the program or whatever could have been correct, but there was no call for his delivery. According to him, it's "bluntness and honesty," which implies a disparity between the two. Everything he had to say regarding the program could have been said without the "bluntness" part and still have been effectual. Instead he could be discouraging the person from fixing the problem and just calling it quits. He may even dissuade some people from ever trying, a possibility he also admits half in jest.

 

If you think that Linus was just being a jerk rather than "blunt," then people have different ideas as to what that means. The prevailing definition from everyone I've heard use it throughout my life were very much like Linus, including an elementary school teacher I had who walked around our desks while we were doing various assignments, pointing at our papers and shouting "That's wrong!" She said her "bluntness" was only to motivate us to do better when it really just made us want to give up, and she could plainly see that all she accomplished was crushing children.

 

My idea of proper bluntness would be something more like this. There are no insults, no rudeness, just the matter at hand and how it needs to be resolved. That's more the "cutting to the chase" that you mentioned, but I've never called it bluntness because of the negative connotations I now have for that word.

[Flying Whales 311]

I tend to be blunt, personally, I feel like I owe it to people. If something is worth being honest about then freaking tell me about it. I feel as though I should then do the same for others. If you need to hear something, or there is something important you need to know I'm going to tell you and I'm going to tell you exactly how it is becuase to me, it seems like the polite thing to do and I'd hope people would do the same for me.

[MatrixChicken 879]

Occasionally. For the most part, when I see something (like a piece of artwork) that I don't particularly like or I see some things wrong with it (not naming any names...  ), I'll just not say anything; I don't want to lie and say that I can't see anything wrong with it, but I don't want to just outright say "BLAH BLAH BLAH IT'S HORRIBLE I HATE IT BLAH BLAH BLAH!!!" Every once in a while, though, I'll see something I don't like and I'll speak my mind. This is usually towards people who are really good, so I know they can handle it, but  there's just a certain something that I see that I don't like.

 

Also, if someone asks me to critique their work I'll usually go all out.

[Shanks 10,816]

My idea of proper bluntness would be something more like

There are no insults, no rudeness, just the matter at hand and how it needs to be resolved. That's more the "cutting to the chase" that you mentioned, but I've never called it bluntness because of the negative connotations I now have for that word.

Yeah that is pretty much my idea of it too, but as you don't like that word very much how about direct or assertive? I will admit that part of the reason why I used that word is partly for comedic effect, yes I told the truth but did exaggerate just a little. I was kind of bored when I made this topic, but I guess so long as we on the same page you did bring up some good points. Yeah you could argue that teacher was "blunt" but without any elaboration as to what the students were doing wrong I think it completely defeats the purpose of that.

[Veiled Enigma 389]

I usually try to be the least blunt as possible without making it a fault. I'll tell you what I think honestly, but I'll use the kindest words I can think of.

[Gone Airbourne 21,977]

I guess you could say I am a bit in the middle here. It is best to be honest always towards others. However being blunt in (certain) situations can't go ways you may not like. But all in all be honest with others because lying never does anyone good.

[Commander Urdnot 2,680]

I'm pretty blunt. It often gets me into trouble.

 

I don't try to upset people, my heart is in the right place. I offer people criticism because I genuinely care about them, and I want them to be successful. I don't ever, ever insult people. I always tell people what they did wrong, and how to improve it. However, I also tell people what they did right too.

 

I don't sugar-coat anything I say, and I think that is the reason why so many people get upset when I criticize them. I don't do it to offend them though, I do it because I respect the person enough to be honest with them, and straight-up tell them what I think. I'm not going to patronize them by kissing their butt, and enabling their bad ideas. I'm going to tell them how it is. I do it, because I expect the same from them.

 

There is nothing more frustrating to me then when somebody knows that my idea is bad, and just smiles and gives me disingenuous compliments. Later on, after I've compiled my idea, and have gotten input on it, and go through with it, I crash and burn. They KNEW that it was a bad idea, they KNEW that I was going to crash and burn. But they didn't want to hurt my "Feelings," so they let me crash and burn instead of telling me what I did wrong, so I can correct the problem and learn from it.

 

I don't want that to happen to other people, so I'm blunt, and I tell the person what they need to hear. Not to be a jerk, but to help them, because I don't want them to crash and burn, I don't want their idea to fail. I want them to succeed, so I tell them how it is.

 

If that makes me a bad person, then sorry. But that's how I am.

Edited January 24, 2013 by UrdiePie

[Le Kvlt Dawn 2,364]

Oh boy, normally I'm really quiet but in the right mood I can be rather decisive. It's hard for me to lose an argument no mater how small it is. If I'm right and I know it for sure, then I'll be really straight forward.

[Squid 100]

If you are an honest person and speak only the truth, your complements to people will be much more meaningful, since they know you never sugarcoat things.

[sleepyhead. 174]

I never think before I speak or people take offense to everything I say so I'd say I'm rather blunt. Oh well, sorry I talked to you.~

[Lunas Husband 2,777]

oh very blunt, if I like you I'll let you know

 

If I don't ha, well you well know... Sure I'm a nice guy with a heart of gold, but ahh I don't like to beat around the bush... I don't have that kind of time and I'm sure you don't too.

 

Truth be told.. I like it when others are blunt with me too, because like I said I don't have that kind of time and I'm sure you don't too.

[Zygen 6,066]

Idk if i'm exactly super blunt all the time, sometimes i'm not at all, i mean i tend to be honest as much as possible, but even then i normally am not exactly blunt, since i don't like to be mean, so i sugar coat alot sometimes.

[Derpaholic 1,155]

I always say things as they are, no matter who I'm talking to, and no matter how painful the subject matter
It's better to tell the truth, rather than bullshit people. You'll hurt less people in the long run in that way.

[Vinyl Scratch (Filly)™ 936]

If someone is acting extremely stupid I will be blunt with them.

[Nila Bean 133]

I admit, sometimes I do sugarcoat things. It's hard for me to just bluntly say things to people, I'm always afraid of hurting someone's feelings. Sometimes when there's really no way of calming it, I'll tell them straight out, followed by words of comfort or sympathy to soothe hurt feelings.

 

My friends and I are a sensitive bunch, so we're not really blunt to each other.

[aoEAF2FBvC0MIo2Q 3,673]

I tend to be the opposite of blunt. That isn't to say that I lie about things. In fact, I'm not a believer in white lies myself. For one thing, I tend to criticize the action instead of the person or be very specific about what is it I'm talking about to make sure there are no misunderstandings.

[MayorMare 12]

I used to be blunt and not very tactful.  But I saw that damage that words could do to a person, so normally I take my time in a conversation and I think about how the words I say will be received.  

 

However, that being said.. get me upset or angry and the "Jersey girl" comes out.