Can a Pegasister love a non Brony?

[ShyFlutterguy 1]

So my girlfriend and I were discussing ponies with a friend of ours who is not a Brony and he began saying that we should hook him up with a Pegasister. He began talking about how he would decieve her into thinking that he loved the series and, when they were married or had been together a long time, he would tell her the truth in that he did not care for the show. We immediately began telling him that, not only would we never do this, but the relationship would end horribly.

He, thus far, has not truly experienced the magic of friendship and did not understand the mistakes he made in this statement and does not truly understand the fandom and how much it means to us. While he is hesitant to watch the show, we have gotten him to watch it on a couple of occasions and has told us that Apple Jack is his favorite pony. He is on his way.

He took back his initial statement and went on to say that he would, essentially, love and tolerate her enjoyment of My Little Pony and any of her fellow members of the herd who he might come in contact with. But we could not say for sure if this would be enough to have a relationship with a Pegasister last, when he would not even be willing to wear a jacket with a mane on it to a ponycon with her, (except if it was a stallion, specifically Big Mac) though he did say he would go.

Do you believe a relationship like this could work? Pegasister, would you be with someone with this type of attitude toward ponies? Would you be able to stay with them? How could a relationship like this work for you?

Bump

This is serious business everypony

[John 793]

If he actually cared about her, then he would LEARN to like it.  It's not like the show is abhorrent and impossible to watch.  He just needs to man up and do it.  He's probably not a good guy if he just used it as a way of getting closer to her though.  I don't think he deserves an open-minded pegasister as a girlfriend.

 

Edited November 26, 2013 by John

[ShyFlutterguy 1]

He didn't mean that he would only use it as a way to get closer to her. I guess I should have clarified that better. It was more that he would want someone who he wanted to be with, but if she was also a Pegasister and this, for whatever reason, wasn't immediately clear, but became clear later, could the relationship still have a chance of being a lasting one? Whether he embraced it or not?

Were watching Winter Wrap-up with him right now though, so there could be hope.

[Scootaloo Is Best Filly 578]

People all like different things, love is a really big deal. If my best friends who are as " non brony" as can be, can not think any differently about me being a brony. I think a Pegasister can love a non brony, as long as the non brony learns to at least accept the fact, that she likes the show. And the Pegasister learns to accept the fact that her boyfriend doesn't. If you can both look past that, depending on what the couple is like. If they truly love each other, I think it could work.

[HoopHoof 137]

Well to me, he sounds like a pig considering that he'd just lie and cheat his way through a girls heart rather than actually win her over with his personality. 

 

 

I guess it really depends on how much MLP means to the Pegasister. If the guy is attractive enough for her to look over the fact that he's not a brony then fine!! MLP shouldn't be the sole criteria for someone to finds a BF or GF. I love Star Wars but I wouldn't mind being with someone who doesn't like Star Wars.

 

But hey, if you're going to lie to someone about you interests and about yourself just to be with someone and revealing you've been lying when you're married!!!?? That's just sick, it's like you're trapping her in a corner or something. So it probably won't work.

Edited November 26, 2013 by HoopHoof

[Cygnus 60]

I'm a lot more than my interests and I'd hope any man would understand that, more important to me than liking a cartoon, are having compatible real-world values and worldviews.

 

Tip for men: Run far away fast from a woman whose "must-haves" include "watches My Little Pony."

[Arylett Charnoa 4,919]

Um... well, honestly, as a Pegasister myself... I don't think it matters if a person likes MLP or not to me personally.

 

Although I do think it's silly to deceive somebody like that for a long while about a television program. But at least he changed his mind. Lying's no good, I agree with that.

 

Not everyone has to LOVE My Little Pony though. A beautiful thing about the world is how many differences there are between us all. It makes things interesting. We all have different opinions, likes, and interests. If he doesn't want to wear a jacket, that's his decision and it should be respected. At the very least, he's open-minded enough to go to a convention and give things a shot. And if there's a person who cannot accept that, then he'd simply need to find a fan of the show who is all right with people having different interests and is less intense about it. There are many different types of pony fans out there. With varying levels of intensity.

 

More on my own personal opinion though: I wouldn't want to force anyone to like anything they don't want to like. Although I'd prefer a boyfriend who shares most of my interests, My Little Pony is just one piece of the admittedly large pie. If they don't like that or are neutral about it, but share most of my other interests, then who am I to judge? As long as I'm not insulted for anything I like, but rather, accepted, I'm okay with it. I mean, I wouldn't be happy either if I was forced to go to some Halo-related thing. (I don't care much for FPS.) 

 

 

I'm a lot more than my interests and I'd hope any man would understand that, more important to me than liking a cartoon, are having compatible real-world values and worldviews.

 

Tip for men: Run far away fast from a woman whose "must-haves" include "watches My Little Pony."

And I agree with this for the more succinct version of my post.

[Jokuc 8,173]

Of course, what a silly question. If you love each other, it doesn't matter what your interests are, your partner may dislike one of your interests but keep in mind that they don't love you for your interests hopefully, but for the person you are. The non-brony would accept it with time.

 

About this particular person, he sounds like an ass who just wants to get to the girl with lies. Not okay.

Edited November 26, 2013 by Jokuc

[HoopHoof 137]

Did anyone read the things his friend said?  :okiedokielokie:

[Cygnus 60]

Did anyone read the things his friend said?  :okiedokielokie:

 

Yes... but he already seems to realize what a load of hooey that is, so I focused on a different point.

[LordDiscord 289]

Sorry if this comes off as a bit brash but a brony or pegasister are not and should not be limited to other bronies and pegasisters, just because you meet someone that does not like the show does not mean you should turn a cold eye on them because of that fact. 

[Aisling Ink 195]

Love is not something you build only on one passion like MLP, my boyfriend watched a few episodes and would probably come with me to Bronycon (or anything similar that would happen in Europe) but he surely wouldn't wear a sweater with a mane attached to it for me and, no offense to whoever likes those, I would never ask him to either. There are much more important things to consider when trying to understand if a person truly loves you or not in life.

 

Of course lying just to get someone to like you is never a good thing to do as you surely pay the price later on in a relation but he did take back his initial statement and, I guess, understood his mistake. No one is perfect after all and we all need to learn more than a few lessons in life (most of which are learned by making mistakes sadly).

[Klopp 2,050]

It's ridiculous to even think about such a question. What show you like or dislike should have absolutely no impact on whether you love a person or not.

 

Anyone who is affected by such a tiny thing isn't ready for such a relationship.

 

 

 

Tip for men: Run far away fast from a woman whose "must-haves" include "watches My Little Pony."

 

 

Far more likely for ladies to run into a man with that on their list, the same tactic applies though. Give 'em the good old Slap-N-Run technique. :3

[Sweet Dreams 1,893]

But we could not say for sure if this would be enough to have a relationship with a Pegasister last, when he would not even be willing to wear a jacket with a mane on it to a ponycon with her, (except if it was a stallion, specifically Big Mac) though he did say he would go.

Isn't he going enough? If he isn't into this fandom, I think it's fair enough he doesn't cosplay with you if he doesn't want to. I know it's just a jacket, but he might feel embarrassed wearing that kind of thing.

If he actually cared about her, then he would LEARN to like it.

 

So.... You're saying that this guy should give up on his opinion and try to change his preferences in television to like a show his girlfriend likes?

I mean, not to be rude or anything but... This is a tv show, not a religion.

It seems that you are taking the whole brony thing too seriously. I mean, it's great for the fandom to be a part of your life and all, but I doubt you should be rejecting every partner you have who doesn't like the show.

The last time I checked, there are more important things to be looking for in a partner than a liking for this one tv show. Seriously, guys. If he says he'll love and tolerate her and her brony friends, then what's the problem? As long as he's not a full on hater, I don't see an issue.

[ShyFlutterguy 1]

Huh...

 

I totally understand and agree with what you're all saying,I guess MLP just has a more significant meaning to me and my girlfriend. We both discovered the show together and it really helped us to come to a better place, mentally and emotionally and actually helped us to become closer as a couple. Even if we were to break up, which is not likely, I don't think I could actually be with someone who didn't enjoy the show and couldn't watch it with me. I have several things I like and would be fine with someone not being interested in, obviously, but MLP for me has actually become something very simple, but special that I couldn't imagine not sharing with someone. And its more than just the show itself, its the values and the lessons that the show exemplifies in every episode and its something that I would be more than happy to not only let my children watch, but would enjoy watching with them because it wouldn't just be mindless garbage and it would have things they could actually learn from as well.

 

I guess I forgot to take into account the fact that different people have different experiences with the show as well lol

 

But on another note, he wanted to know if any of the Pegasister who replied to this thread lived in the Eugene area of Oregon lol he's not nearly as bad a guy as I initially made him sound BTW xD

Yes... but he already seems to realize what a load of hooey that is, so I focused on a different point.

Yeah he more said that without realizing how messed up it was when he said it.

[Lagom 204]

I'm not that big of a fan of My Little Pony, but I think it could be similar to my other fandoms such as The Hunger Games, John Green and The Big Four. I would probably be more quiet about my fandoms around him/her, but if s/he started to criticize everything about my fandoms and said that s/he could not accept those kind of people that liked my fandom, I would honestly think about breaking up with them. I want to be together with one person, who accepts me for who I am. Of course I don't expect her/him to like my fandoms and I don't expect myself to like all of her/him interests, but I would expect them to somewhere at least accept and respect my fandoms as I would to them too. 

Edited November 26, 2013 by SweetieBelle456

[Doc. Volt 2,561]

i don't know.. me and my gf are both bronies... but when we engaged to each other 4 years ago we weren't... we have become bronies in a different moment, without ever telling each other... i discovered she was a pegasister when she discovered an Octavia image on my computer... but really both me and her don't care if the other is a brony or not... the only think to remember is the bucking HONESTY! A relationship cannot work on lies!! Damn it why people don't understand this simply proof of concept? it is the essential element!

 

me and her are quite the opposite, i am more closed and an engineer, she is very very (too much) opened to the world and she is a social assistent.. i love science, she hates it, she loves some kind of politic concept i hate them and so on... we have only 3 things in common:

1)age

2)mlp

3) real love... Dante Alighieri in the Inferno of the Divine Commedy while looking at the eternal love of Paolo and Francesca that still keep them togheter even in the eternal damnation said: "If the love is true, if it burns from the heart, it makes you better, stronger, and cannot ever die.. even if the death brings your bodies away"

 

... ok.. sorry... too much italian lecterature for one post..

[John 793]

So.... You're saying that this guy should give up on his opinion and try to change his preferences in television to like a show his girlfriend likes?

I mean, not to be rude or anything but... This is a tv show, not a religion.

It seems that you are taking the whole brony thing too seriously. I mean, it's great for the fandom to be a part of your life and all, but I doubt you should be rejecting every partner you have who doesn't like the show.

The last time I checked, there are more important things to be looking for in a partner than a liking for this one tv show. Seriously, guys. If he says he'll love and tolerate her and her brony friends, then what's the problem? As long as he's not a full on hater, I don't see an issue.

 

No, but it depends on how "into it" his girlfriend is.  Sometimes it's good to make sacrifices for the good of another person  (Especially if it's someone you actually plan on loving.)  Technically he doesn't "have to," but if she actually likes the show to a great extent then what better way is there to show he cares about her opinions?

 

Sure he could brush it off and say "I'm not going to change my opinions for you," but that's a little closed-minded (especially given the context of the scenario).

[Sweet Dreams 1,893]

No, but it depends on how "into it" his girlfriend is.  Sometimes it's good to make sacrifices for the good of another person  (Especially if it's someone you actually plan on loving.)  Technically he doesn't "have to," but if she actually likes the show to a great extent then what better way is there to show he cares about her opinions?

 

Sure he could brush it off and say "I'm not going to change my opinions for you," but that's a little closed-minded (especially given the context of the scenario).

I guess you're right there, but I don't believe she should be 'into it' to a point where it could cause relationship problems... That's borderline unhealthy. d: (oh, btw, only the first sentence was referring to what you said, the rest was to the OP, if my post-setting-out-thing was a little messy and confusing, since I typed a bunch of stuff at different times. xD)

[Retro*Derpy 3,182]

I think Arylett pretty much nailed it. It doesn't matter if he likes the TV show or not. What keeps relationships going is finding out other new interests of your partner and trying them out to see if you like them yourself.

[~Tian_Disharmony~ 48]

It's nice to have someone that  likes EVERYTHING you like, yet it's impossible to find a Brony where I am, so my RPG loving one is perfect

[Scootalove 10,689]

I think the relationship matters more than the show because, if they care about each other then the love will show that they care about each other very much.

[Sugar Cube 4,843]

If I was in that situation, I would be more disgusted by the fact that he lied to me and then decided to dump all of that on me after getting married. I would rather be with a guy who hates ponies but owns up to it rather than be with a guy who lies about it to look good before marriage. Ultimately, if he really cares for her, he should either a.) be honest about his true feelings on the show, or b.) tolerate it and do his best to try and get into it for the sake of his girl. Preferably, he could probably do both - be honest about not liking it, but give it a chance anyway. Love is a give and take. He has to suffer some discomforts in his life with her, but if he's truly committed, it will be worth it.

[Zygen 6,066]

Well, yeah i don't see a direct problem, they just have to be ok with it, they don't have to necessarily love the show, if they do, great, if not its again not a requirement i don't think for someone. Or if its true love it shouldn't.

 

So yes, a Pegasister could love a non brony, and vis versa really.

[GrimCW 658]

 He began talking about how he would decieve her into thinking that he loved the series and, when they were married or had been together a long time, he would tell her the truth in that he did not care for the show. We immediately began telling him that, not only would we never do this, but the relationship would end horribly.

 

 

This is just deplorable no matter what the topic is about... That kind of deception is just sickening. Honesty should be forefront in a relationship IMO.

 

To the rest.. I don't see why it couldn't work. Everyone has their own preferences to what they like/dislike. And generally being with someone that has the exact same enjoyments 100%, will get rather aggravating. Opposites attract and all.

 

But the big thing is to tolerate what your partner likes at least to an agreeable level between you two. Not forcing it on them, or requiring them to enjoy it. Let alone lyeing about enjoying things your don't like at all.